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Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

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LynseyH5 · 13/07/2016 22:23

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

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LynseyH5 · 28/07/2016 11:37

Why is it, we spend weeks moaning about feeling so poorly and as soon as we feel better, we then panic something bad is happening???

I've been feeling rough since the second I hit wk 5. I'm now a few days short of 12 weeks and apart from feeling tired, feel much better. I've not taken cyclizine for 4 days now and I seem to be able to eat and drink better than I have in all that time. I should feel relieved I feel better but now all I can think is, has something gone wrong? My ms has lasted til at least 12-14 weeks I'm my previous healthy pregnancies so isn't this too early? Scan is on Tuesday so not long but the anxiety is really creeping in again Sad
I wish I knew NOW what's going on. Really not feeling connected to this pregnancy at all and was hoping I'd stay calm until we hopefully get the good news all is well at 12 wks but I'm starting to waver.

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purpleviolet1 · 28/07/2016 12:12

Lol Lynsey, totally know what you mean. Part of me wants to feel better so I can put the pregnancy out of my mind and the other part wants symptoms so I can feel reassured!

Macauley · 28/07/2016 12:23

lynsey my sickness has been on the decline to only once a day to today nothing. The fact your tired is still a symptom. I don't want to say too much in case I trigger anxiety for anyone but my mc and loss of symptoms wasn't like that (hope that makes sense!). Not long till Tuesday

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LynseyH5 · 28/07/2016 12:53

Thanks ladies.

I wish I still had the naivety of pregnancy I had before the mc's. Back then I was just happy to feel 'normal' again and get on with it. Now all I keep thinking about is going in that room for the scan and saying "please tell me straight away if there is a heartbeat or not". I am dreading the silence and feel more nervous about this 12 wk scan than I did for the 8 wks one I had.
I think maybe I'm still experiencing symptoms that I've kinda overlooked tho...like trying to do the kids some lunch and having to sit down cos it felt too much!
Can you tell by my silly rambling that I can't make my mind up what's going on?! This is a small insight into how much I argue with myself lol.
Anyway I'll go now cos I'm driving myself mad! Sorry Blush

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purpleviolet1 · 28/07/2016 12:58

Totally understandable Lynsey. You've done really well getting this far Smile

Macauley · 28/07/2016 13:07

It's just the scanxiety sends you crazy! I told the sonographer as soon as we went in about my previous history and she told me instantly when she saw heartbeat, so there was no nervous waiting. Also drank far too much water which made me concentrate harder on not peeing myself took my mind off everything else!

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LynseyH5 · 28/07/2016 14:14

Haha yes I drank far too much for my last scan too. Everytime she pressed on and moved it around, I was holding my breath hoping I wouldn't pee myself!!
Thank you again, I do appreciate you putting up with me!
I feel positive that if all is ok in Tuesday I will relax more, I just need to get there first.
I nearly rang the midwife earlier to beg her to use the doppler on me but decided to fight my way through this as there's a chance she might not find it this early and then I'd be freaking out anyway. Roll on Tuesday.

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MissClarke86 · 28/07/2016 15:11

I've got scanxiety setting in too.

Mines on Monday when I should be 8 weeks. Does anyone know if it's likely to need to be internal? I've only ever had internals because my last didn't develop beyond 6 weeks. I'm trying to work out if I need to panic if the sonographer can't see anything from the outside. I'm overweight too so that might not help.

The waiting is awful, I'm sure they stay quiet for ages on purpose!!

Macauley · 28/07/2016 15:14

My 9 week scan was abdominal.

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LynseyH5 · 28/07/2016 15:17

My first scan was 8 weeks and literally straight away I saw baby there. I wouldn't have thought you'd need the internal one...but they do sometimes do that one to have a better look so it's not necessarily something to worry over. I don't know if weight makes any difference, sorry.

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karryk · 28/07/2016 15:34

Just popping in to say good luck to all and goodbye (for now). Sadly had a miscarriage confirmed today. Thought I was 8w3d and doc said little bean passed away around 8w, so very recently.

Wishing you all well x

Naschkatze · 28/07/2016 15:48

Karry So very sorry to hear this. Flowers

purpleviolet1 · 28/07/2016 15:48

Karry I'm so sorry to hear that Sad take it easy and be kind to yourself xx

Naschkatze · 28/07/2016 15:59

Lynsey I know what you mean about wishing for the naivety of a pregnancy pre-losses. I didn't worry an ounce last time, now I'm hyper aware of everything that could go wrong at each stage. So, I'm having nightmares about being told that the pregnancy couldn't continue due to baby having health problems or going into labour prematurely. I feel so silly. Got myself very upset yesterday after my booking appt because everyone (ie. Midwife and DH) was talking about birth choices and breastfeeding. I had to ask them to stop because I'm no where near ready to think about that. Similar to what you were saying I think Whatser, self preservation.

Scanxiety is building again as I think about scan next week. I haven't been back to the hospital since receiving the news about the molar pregnancy after ERPC and I'm dreading being back in that building.

Lynsey Hang on in there for Tuesday. Not much longer!

Whatsername17 · 28/07/2016 17:01

I'm so sorry Karry. I hope you are durrounded with love and support x

doleritedinosaur · 28/07/2016 17:48

So sorry Karry, really hope you've got support and be kind to yourself.

I had abdominal with DS at 8 weeks MissClarke and had a bit of a belly then and had no issues. They did press down quite hard though.

I'm feeling the same Lynsey, symptoms keep changing or disappearing for a few hours and it doesn't help.

Absolutely exhausted today, even had a 1 hour nap. I've forgotten the exhaustion.

HopefulKate1980 · 28/07/2016 21:47

karry I'm so so sorry for your loss. It's v tough. Hope you are ok xx

Macauley · 28/07/2016 22:11

Hugs karry Flowers

mikesh909 · 28/07/2016 23:29

So sorry to hear that, Karry. I hope you're ok.

sundayraspberry · 29/07/2016 02:19

Flowers karry I'm sorry too. Wish you well for now and for the future x

It's silly o'clock in the morning and I'm catching up on mumsnet which must mean I've had a baby Grin

Congratulations too keys! You just pipped us to the post as I had a little boy on Monday! I also had a less than straight forward delivery which i won't bore you with details here. He is as yet unnamed but very lovely and just amazing. Worth it all.

Am pleased to have left the legacy of the word 'scanxiety' to the thread and am keeping an eye out for the next thread birth which I think should be Sophia very soon. Love to all x

Whatsername17 · 29/07/2016 08:19

Congratulations, Sunday! Wonderful news xxx Enjoy every snuggly moment!

How is everyone today?

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LynseyH5 · 29/07/2016 08:43

Yay sunday congratulations!!!!
Wonderful news Flowers

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HopefulKate1980 · 29/07/2016 08:53

Congrats sunday!!!!!! Xx

Macauley · 29/07/2016 08:57

Great news congrats sunday Grin

purpleviolet1 · 29/07/2016 09:58

Congratulations Sunday!! Really nice news Smile

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