Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

Congratulations sunday! Brilliant news :-) Happy to take the baton!

I'm still here....7+3. Feeling awful but I know symptoms mean nothing. Been umming and ahhing about having a private scan but it's £100 we don't really have and I found out about my mc at a private scan and I found paying afterwards just added insult to injury.

I work as a health care assistant in a hospital on the staff bank. I usually work on the older persons medical wards but a shift came up on gynae, the ward where I had my mc. I decided to give it a go and it was really hard, especially as I spent some time holding the hand of a lady having medical management. But I felt like I could have empathy, helping someone go through something I have been through, but I was welling up. I will work on the ward again but not if I am visibly pregnant as I think that would be a bit cruel

Could you not travel to somewhere cheaper for a scan? Mine was £40. I paid in advance to avoid having to deal with it after x

I live in Suffolk. The nearest place is Norwich and only 1 place does viability scans which are £100. To get somewhere else I would have to travel to Cambridge or Ipswich....

I keep telling myself that if I had an indication of a problem, that I would be referred to the EPAU and at the moment, I have no indication of a problem. So I just need to wait

Going for my first acupuncture session this afternoon..

Hello all,
just letting you all know I've changed my username.
Sounds silly but mumsnet has been in the news a lot recently, yesterday a thread I had commented on went crazy (i want involved lol) and I could think was, ahhh I don't want my very obvious name being out there. So I'm afraid I've not got a very unimaginative name now!
Silly but safe! It was Lynsey before x

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Grrr sorry for typos.

Congratulations Sunday!

Had midwife this morning but have to go back next week to finish my history but she got me a scan on Monday morning. Children aren't allowed in and my friends who would have DS have work, so trying to decide if OH should come with me or not.

Hope everyone has a good Friday.

Tiredness is completely back, absolutely struggling again. May have to up my iron.

Congratulations Sunday! Lovely news.

Happy, that sounds hard, but good for you for facing it. I imagine the fact that you have an understanding of what that woman was going through meant you were able to help her in a way that not everyone benefits from.

How was the acupuncture, Purple? I've never tried it, but my yoga teacher keeps recommending a local practitioner...

It was quite strange. I had it at napiers with a Chinese lady and she didn't explain much or really 'sell' it to me. She has been practicing for like 20 years so I'm Sure she knows what she is doing etc but I didn't really 'click' with her. She just said that she will insert the needles into the points which will strengthen immune system and help the body hold the pregnancy.

I didn't feel it was worth £50 a week.

I've found someone who does it for £30 though and have booked in with her next Saturday. Also Chinese. Let's see how it goes...

A few years ago before we were even thinking of starting a family, I had shiatsu and the lady had said because I don't have my spleen, my body would struggle to hold pregnancy. She said I could have accupuncture to help strengthen the spleen chi even though I didn't have a spleen. That is the reason for having it done! After two miscarriages I felt it was worth a shot.

Happy 4+6 purple! Anything is worth a shot I think.
It is my dd's 5th birthday on Sunday and she and dh have been throwing up all day. DH had d&v I think. Dd is more v than d. I've put them both to bed with ice water to sip on and now I'm selfishly crossing my fingers and hoping I don't get it. Im scared that it could hurt the baby. My sil is currently living with us after having a really shit time with a house move. She moved out of her home to keep the sale thinking that her completion was a few weeks away and then it all fell through. It now looks like the third house she has had an offer accepted on is going to fall through as well. I feel so sorry for her.

Bless you whatser! I think I'm only 4+5 though hehe

Agree that everything is worth a shot. I'll do what I can in my power to support my body in the best way possible.

That's so sad re the houses falling through. It must be so disappointing and frustrating for her.

Sorry- happy 4+5!
Its awful for sil, and it's hard with having so many extra people in the house as she has two children, a husband and a dog. They are lovely so no issues there, it's just the difference in routines that has taken some getting used too. My dd being poorly has really upset my niece too.

Oh I see, can understand the disruption to your household (mean to say that in the nicest way possible).

The acupuncture lady recommended no sex until 12 weeks! Can I ask if anyone of you have followed that rule? In my previous two pregnancies (which ended at 12 and 6 weeks) I didn't feel like it anyway so it wasn't exactly difficult.

Hi everyone.

Wow lots to catch up on.

It's so lovely to have you here purple. I am glad the acupuncture is going well. Got everything crossed for you. Happy 4+5!!!

Dinosaur I'm with you on the tiredness front. I start to need to go bed around about now every night at the moment.

The sickness is always lingering too but I am v pleased I managed to get through a pretty horrid deadline today without feeling too terrible.

How is everyone else?

I've got my scan on Monday night, the day before our holiday. I am already petrified. I am already worrying about the airport scanners too. They are safe though right? And what about using P20 (the suncream) is that ok? What about mossie spray, I hear you should avoid certain brands when pregnant. ARGH!!! Constant fear and anxiety.

9 weeks is when my longest pregnancy started to fail, not that we knew that back then, we found out at 10.5 weeks, but she or he was already falling behind around this time. So please say a pray for me that our little one will not only be alive and kicking on Monday but also measuring right for the dates.

Sending you all lots of Friday night love!

xxx

a prayer not pray.. tired fingers

Wow I feel like I've missed loads - I'm struggling with toothache, which I'm trying to manage with salt and hot water and antiseptic mouthwash and ice packs and to avoid painkillers which has reduced my mumsnet time.

Purple between 4 weeks and 8 weeks I was scared to have sex in case it triggered spotting, knowing that would freak me out after my MCs starting that way. DH picked up on that without me saying anything and didn't make any moves. We got back into a normal-for-us amount after that though, I missed the closeness and after 8 weeks when I'd had my booking in appointment I slowly started to believe this baby might stick (and not mind occasional sex too much).

I think a couple of people asked how long blood results after 12 week scans took - mine took exactly a week after the scan to arrive in the post, and it was to say I have a low risk of chromosome problems so in my area I'm guessing they get the results out fairly quickly even when good news. I think the person who took my bloods said it could take a couple of weeks though. I'm also guessing that like everything else pregnancy-care it's probably a bit of an annoying post-code lottery how long you wait.

Sunday I'm very happy to read your news, hope you enjoy choosing a name now.

Karry I'm also sorry to read yours, we've all been there or somewhere like it. Like the others have said, I hope you have people around you who can love and support you through this time. If you choose to try again when you're ready I also hope we might have you back with us at that time

Kate I'll have everything crossed for you on Monday. The scanners are OK, I fretted about them too. The X-ray kind use a small amount of radiation but it's small enough to be considered low risk for us. We're actively encouraged to wear sunscreen as pregnant ladies as our skin is more susceptible to burning, don't know about the specific brand but can't see it being an issue. It's also a good idea for us to use mossie spray as the risk of mossie bites and diseases is more of a risk to us than the spray - "Two types of mosquito sprays have been registered with the EPA and are considered safe for pregnant and breastfeeding women to use: DEET: The most effective kind of insect repellent contains DEET. Picaridin: This is an alternative form of insect repellent that is safe to use during pregnancy".
Mosquito Repellent During Pregnancy | What To Expect
www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-health/mosquito-bites-and-repellent- I used non deet stuff on my holiday recently, went through scanners and wore sunscreen and still got to see a healthy bean on my 12 week scan - that can be you too soon! xx

Bless you hopeful! You are always so sweet! Will be praying hard for you for Monday's scan. How far along are you?

Sorry no advice re holiday but lucky has nailed it all anyway!!

Thanks lucky.

I've got bad hayfever it's driving me nuts.

Can I suggest we put week+day at the end of each post ? I find it difficult to keep track of where everyone is

whatser I had d and v during pregnancy, just incase you get it rest assured I was told the baby will take what energy it needs from your body first leaving you with whatever is left. Hydration is the key and it only lasts 48hours usually. Fx you don't pick it up tho.

so sorry to hear karryk - please look after yourself

congrats sunday! so lovely to hear the baby announcements!

Thanks lucky I got results yesterday and I'm in the low risk group. Bit of an anti-climax as I thought I'd get given the figures and it would mention the T13 and T18 risk but it didn't.

hopeful ive been on holiday so been through scanners and put on sun cream, all is good! I think there are some insect repellant you can't use but it would say on the bottle.

I went to talk to the pharmacist and was told none of them are recommended for use in pregnancy and that the only advice was not to travel. I did my own research and decided to buy the lower deet version of Jungle Formula. I didn't end up using it as we didn't really go out after dark in the end and if we did we stayed inside.

Airport scanner's are fine Hopeful, I had a chest x ray when I was 7 months with DS, with the lead apron and they said then that airports are nothing.
I forgot how exhausting the tiredness is, I was in bed for 10 and only woke up for 10 minutes to eat then didn't wake up until DS did at 7am.

I am not doing so well today, I knew I wouldn't when they gave me a date for the scan. Still tired, still got heartburn. Everyone is so hopeful and I'm not. Sorry to sound so down, trying to keep busy which is helping a bit.