Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

Thanks Whatser, I feel almost disassociated from being pregnant if that makes sense. OH can see that I need it to deal with the MC & feel more confident.
We can't afford a private one at the moment.

I will definitely open up on Friday & hopefully they can arrange one. Otherwise I think my GP would refer me to EPU anyway as she wanted me to have a scan ASAP.

I wish I had DS's energy at the moment. Flagging badly!

I don't know if this is the same everywhere, but my EPU offer an early reassurance scan for ladies that have had miscarriages.

Mines on Monday...I'm feeling positive but still petrified.

Hi guys. Just wanted to say on Sunday I had my beautiful baby boy Arnie at 36 weeks. He was emergency sectioned as went in with only period cramps to find my stitch to hold him in was hanging out and I was dilating very quickly 8cms didn't even know I weren't even going to go to the hospital went to MAU next thing I knew I was rushed down to theatre and he was born within the hour. 4lb14 he is doing so well so am I apart from being very sore we got discharged from hospital about an hour ago he is now laying on me sound asleep as I write to you all.
I hope my news can offer some kind of reassurance to you all as I bleed constantly throughout my first trimester had 3 previous miscarriages nearly lost him again at 18 weeks then they stopped him coming at 26 weeks then 34 finally made it after so so many scares. Now my sleepless nights can be for all the right reasons.
sunday I have been scrolling back but can't see if you've had baby yet or not? Seems like only yesterday we was so worried about EPU scans.
Keep positive everyone miricles do happen mines just happened for the third time xxx

Wow and yay!!!!! A huge CONGRATULATIONS to you keys!! After such a tough pregnancy, you definitely deserve your happy ending. Little Arnie must be absolutely tiny! I was terrified when my youngest was 6lb 13oz. Totally thrilled for you

Massive congratulations Keys. Such a happy update, so glad you got the ending you deserve to your story.

Massive congratulations keys

Huge congratulations keys - I'm so happy for you and little Arnie :-)

Congratulations, Keys! Wonderful news xxx

Congratulations keys! Absolutely brilliant news.

Before I knew I was MC'ing last time the midwife could only refer me to EPU if I had bleeding even though there was no idea of dates due to two chemicals in a row. Will see how it goes. I know my GP would speak to a consultant though do see how it goes.

Many congratulations keys.

Please help. I'm absolutely terrified. After two miscarriages this year (12 weeks mmc, medically managed and 6 weeks natural) I am really anxious. Got a BFP on Sunday so I'm only 4+3 yet. I don't know how I'm going to get through each day. I tried really hard to keep away from posting because it makes it all the more real - but my DH just said to me 'I'm not confident. I wouldn't be too down hearted about this one'. Then he saw the look on my face and said 'sorry I know it's not that easy'. He doesn't really get it, does he? Hence I'm having to post here. I know what will be will be but it doesn't make the getting through each day any easier. My DH isn't confident because I have been really poorly with what they think was invasive strep A since last Tuesday. Got the BFP just after starting antibiotics on Saturday. When I had the mmc I has urinary sepsis and the urologist felt it contributed to the miscarriage. So DH is naturally worried that we are hardly having the best start to this one.

I don't know how I'm going to get through this. Don't have any symptoms. Just tiredness and off my food but that could be due to the infection/ antibiotics. Difficult to say.

Purple! Congratulations, I know it doesn't feel like that yet, sorry I recognised you from the thread.
How are you doing? & your MIL?

Symptoms can take a few weeks to hit, I was over 5 weeks & they are still coming & going at nearly 8.

I guess your DH is trying to be realistic for his sake but it doesn't help you obviously. Hope the antibiotics help. Have you spoken to a doctor or anyone who can advise you?

I know exactly what you mean about posting, I pushed myself to post here. I can't post in the March thread though.

I hope this is the one for you. I know it doesn't help but I have felt the same when I saw the second line I didn't have the relief I thought I would. Just trying to take it a day at a time & see what happens.

Hugs purple . Horrible year. Keep venting as needed (my DH calls this whining but then he's an idiot).

I got my bloods back today. It took me from 1:11000 downs risk to 1:650.
DH is saying go for the invasive tests but id be very reluctant. Will call mw tomorrow for advice. The doctor from the scan (private) offered harmony test but that's a hell of a lot of money. I've been scrawling through the antenatal tests pages. I know I'm still 'low' risk - just not as low as I was yesterday

Thanks.. A day at a time it is. Not sure what I was expecting by posting on here.. I wish someone could wave a wand for me and make it all better!

Mum is just the same really. Thanks for asking. Another stressful situation to add to the mix. Saw my GP who took bloods on 4+1 and HCG levels came back 127 which he said was encouraging.

Omg congratulations keys!!! that's amazing news I'm so happy for you and your little one doing well. Yours is definitely an encouraging story. I hope all is smooth sailing for you now

purple congrats on the BFP. the first couple of weeks after a BFP is such a confusing time and it took DH and I a while to be happy and positive about it. Me sooner than him.

Just had to somehow make it through the uncertainly of the early weeks. I had some spotting at 8w which scared us. My first pregnancy was found to be a mmc at our first scan at 11w and so we didn't really start to feel positive until the 12w scan and we saw our wiggly little mini baby. Just hang in there it will be tough just be there for each other

Thank you xx

purple!!!!!!! Yeah!!! Congrats!! You are here. I know it's frightening. I'm frightened every single day but you have hope in your belly now, literally, and long may it continue!! So pleased for you. How is everything else at home?

And congrats keys. What a gorgeous post. Hope you have a wonderful time with your boy wonder. Keep us updated.

Xx

I echo what the others have said, purple; one day at a time. Every day I told myself 'okay, I'm 4+3 today (or whatever I was) and I'm going to get on with my day now'. I obsessively knicker checked and cried and googled and panicked but my objective stayed the same; get through the day. My midwife saw me early after I sobbed down the phone to her and booked a reassurance scan. Then it was 'get to the scan'. I didn't even look to see what my due date was. I didn't do any fun stuff like the Chinese gender predictor. I just focused on not losing the plot. I told people I could trust too. I told my parents and inlaws. I think my words were 'I've had a positive pregnancy test but I do not want to talk about it or have people get excited for me because I can't cope.' A few times I stopped mil when she started talking about the baby and just said 'don't, because I can't hear this right now'. It sounds harsh but I needed to protect myself. I even planned what I was going to say at the hospital if the scans showed bad news. I was refused intervention last time because it was Christmas so I'd prepared a speech. It was my way of protecting myself and I know I've been really lucky so far. I really hope that everything goes well for you but, what ever you do, it will be right xxx

Thank you for the comforting words. You are right. Objective is just getting through the day..

So 4+3 is nearly over

Hopeful - glad things so far look good for you and the others on this thread. Things still the same with mum in Hosp. No real change. Some days eating and talking; other days not even opening her eyes.

Xx

Congratulations Keys, I was on the thread in Jan/Feb with a slightly different name (different ending), and you were so kind to me when I was going though my 3rd MC. I remember you having a really tough time but still being there for everyone else on the thread. I'm so pleased to hear that Arnie has arrived safe and well. Also being in labour for so long just sounds exhausting, you must be superwoman!

Congrats purple as everyone says all you can really do is go one day at a time and break it down that way.

So happy for the first time in weeks I haven't been sick today I also caved and took some time off as just feel so exhausted, so got my feet up.

Has anyone who had nuchal tests last week had the results yet? Not heard anything yet, unsure if this is a no news is good news situation.

Here's my scan pic from yesterday, still can't believe I'm going to be in the 2nd trimester tomorrow.

Wow what a lovely pic! Congratulations.

Yes McCauley, no magic wand is there.

No sadly there isn't! but just day at a time and you get through it I had really bad morning sickness which took my mind off the anxiousness, so mixed blessing in a way! Do you have an early scan lined up? That can be a good thing to focus on getting to and break chunks of time down.

I'm having weekly bloods Mccauley and the EPU did offer me an early scan next time.. I'll phone them if I get to 6 weeks ...and try and see them around 7 weeks.

My next bloods will be next Tuesday so that's the next small goal.