Pregnancy after infertility

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Thought I’d start this thread as I find myself feeling quite out of place on the ‘normal’ antenatal club threads - find it difficult to relate to being upduffed after 'just' having some sex, and thinking ahead to buying maternity clothes, how much maternity leave to take, where I’d like to give birth etc

I realise it’s entirely my own issues and that infertility world has clouded my views, but I want to scream ‘DON’T YOU KNOW EVERYTHING THAT COULD GO WRONG!!’.

There’s a thread for pregnancy after previous loss, but thought there might be some kindred spirits who are navigating the world of pregnancy after infertility

for all thoes struggling.

I'm now at 14 weeks and weaning myself off the progesterone - terrified it will cause a spontaneous abortion (even though my frantic googling says it's ok to with draw progrsterone). I'm still very tired with this pregnancy which adds to the anxiety.

Rach your words stuck a cord with me. Thanks for posting that and lots of levels be to you and you son. I dream of the day my own son will run round the garden here.

**Lots of love to you and your son

Morning all.
Kate I wish today goes well and you get some good news,everything is crossed for you.

Secondsunrise Sorry to hear that. This bleeding really is bloody awful not fair at all. Get yourself checked and hopefully all will fine today .

Boris How are you feeling ? I know it's so very hard but just believe that one day you will have your child running around the garden,it's going to a very anxious road but you will get there
Thinking off you all today ladies.

I rang clinic yesterday just for some more reassuring. She explained that the meds I'm on could be the reason for the bleeding and so on. No scan not till 7 weeks . 9days to go........

Good luck for today Kate xx

Morning girls.

Sunrise I am so sorry. Please let us know what happens. I'll be thinking of you. As a few others have said on here, it can mean absolutely nothing from what I know, as can symptoms disappearing.

Rach I am glad you got some reassurance. Did it reassure you? Sending you thoughts.

Thanks so so much for all your good luck thoughts. This morning not surprisingly I am petrified. I am dreading the slight delay when the nurse puts the scanner on my belly and then she says what she can see... I have been here twice before and it has never ended well.

I am still very confused at what it can be. I seem to be getting more tired every day and bloated, so surely that is a good sign? Also last night I got my progesterone levels back from the hospital and they are an encouraging 82 (when I had the test I had only taken one pessary the night before), and this morning I got a 2-3 on a CB which means my levels have gone up again.

BUT the slow rising HCG remains the problem. It is the slow start which is the problem apparently. AND even with a high progesterone level and increasing HCG it can still mean the bean is caught in my tubes.

What is going to be heartbreaking is I feel more pregnant everyday and have become quite attached to my tummy so if it is ectopic then I will have to say goodbye to it all, and it is alive and trying it's best. It is just caught in the wrong place. I know it would never be viable but I'd just love them to scoop it up and put it in the right place and give it a shot at life if it is ectopic. If only that could happen.

I'll let you know what they say. ARGH. Please light a candle or say a prayer (to whoever gives you strength) for us.

xxxx

Kate and sunrise offering up prayers for you both. Hope the scan goes well today Kate. Xxx

Bless you, thanks boris. xxx

Good luck Kate. X

It did reassure a little late ( not really). We shall see.
I really hope it isn't eptopic for you,I can relate so much with what you say about it
Lots off luck x

Sending you lots of prayers and wishes that everything works out for you this morning Kate

Hi Kate, how did it go? Thinking of you today. Xxx

Hi everyone

We've just got back. I feel like I have lost a stone from all the worry... It was inconclusive. It is too early to see much, but they couldn't see anything in my tubes at this stage - that is not to say there isn't anything there. They could see a few black dots in my uterus which could be the start of a sac but it also could be nothing.

They did some more bloods to measure my HCG and seeing my constant tomorrow so hopefully he'll be able to translate the scan report.

How are you Rach? And everyone else? I have been meaning to say I really don't mean to dominate this thread with anxiety when many of you are in the bloom of pregnancy. I am so thankful for your support but don't want to bring the mood down!! I wish you all so much luck and love.
xx

Hi Kate, I'm sorry that you didn't have more positive news but there was always the chance that the scan would be inconclusive. Hope the consultant is helpful tomorrow.

We all have anxious times and I for one like to share on here without fear of being judged, so don't worry about bringing down the mood. Let's continue to share good news stories too, as that really keeps me going!

Don't worry Kate, that's what this thread is here for, to share anxieties, fears and hopes. We're all here to support you.

On the positive side, what a lovely day. I've been gardening this morning. I must have more energy now but I'll probably end up having a nap later on too! Baby HP is doing acrobatics today and my bump is jumping around all over the place. Really looking forward to the bank holiday weekend. I do have to work on Sunday but sat is a friend's wedding and then I'm having a Bbq on Monday and my wedding anniversary on Wednesday. Exciting!

Hey!kate sorry your news wasnt more conclusive, hopefully consultant will have more information tomorrow for you!
I second blueroses and HP comments! It's great to have the support when each of us need it.
I wished I had come across this a lot earlier.
Feeling ok today Kate. Had family round so that's kept me busy . A plus To being off work -you get to catch up with family!
I must say though am extremely tired and feel worn out. Early night for sure! X

Late I'm sorry you are still in limbo but at least you have some more info on your status.

The early days are so slow going and stressful, especially after infertility, we can all share the anxiety with you more so than thoes who haven't battled to get here - hence we need our own thread. Keep posting.

Thanks for all your messages of support and hope. I really appreciate it.

I am going to plan myself some little goals and treats over the next 10 days to try and keep myself occupied. I have just had my hair done and tomorrow I'll book myself in for yoga and a manicure.

Next weekend we have Bruce Springsteen (childhood hero) and a weekend away for my birthday. So little pleasures hopefully will see us through.

xx

Hi Kate sorry you didn't get the answers you were hoping for today. I will continue to cross fingers for you. Your plan for the next 10 days sounds sensible.

My scan today at 7+1 was good news - one little heartbeat hammering away and baby is measuring spot on. The second sac is now compressed against the uterine wall and nurse today said she didn't think there was ever a baby in there. I did feel a little bit sad - couldn't help but Google twins pay week! But one is wonderful and all we aimed for. I feel reassured and hopeful, and I expect that to last until at least tomorrow morning!

How is everyone else today?

Great news Hello xx

Hello all, I haven't been around for a week or so as I've been off on a 'last grown up holiday' trip. It was lovely. I'm 26 weeks now and it was a good time to go - not too big and not too easily tired. I did end up sleeping on the sofa one night though due to my pregnancy snoring driving my husband crazy (anyone else getting this?!)

I just wanted to say that I really feel for all those of you in the early days wondering if this will work out. Time drags so much in the first few weeks. It's great to have the support of other women going through similar especially when they too have the added anxiety / loopiness that experience of infertility brings.

I don't have experience of bleeding early on but have read enough to know that it does not automatically mean the end. And if it's at all reassuring to anyone, I never had much in the way of early pregnancy symptoms - no sickness, no sore boobs, not even tiredness. And this little one is growing well and doing fine and really starting to thump about in there. I feel pretty chilled out about the baby these days and it is such a relief to be more relaxed. I am cheering you all onwards and hoping you get to this point (and beyond!)

That's great news Hello. Put a little smile on my face.
Really lovely to hear some good news! Well done ! X

That's lovely hellotree, great news.

Thanks for the encouraging words tabby, time is passing really slowly!

HP sounds like a great day, particularly with an acrobatic baby! I'm looking forward to feeling my baby move, can't wait!

Kate good plan to keep busy.

I'm going to a hen party in a couple weeks and just getting my costume ready. The theme is Harry Potter and I decided that I would go as Tonks. I figured that there wasn't any teen pregnancy at Hogwarts, and anyway school uniform and baby bump would not be a good look...so I'm going as the only character in the series to have a baby 😊

What gorgeous news hellotree. How magical.

Tabby - what sweet words. It's good to know the first few weeks is anxiety inducing for most of us. I hope I get through this more than I can actually describe!!

And what a great image HP. Bless its little soul!

Blue costume sounds great!! Where is the hen party?? How far gone will you be by that point? Will you have a glass of champagne to toast the hen?

xx

My friends have started to call my bump "Teddy"! I'll be almost 16wks at that time. I haven't had any alcohol or tea/coffee since about a month before IVF so although a glass of fizz might be tempting, i think I'll be good. I'll get to be creative in "potions" class (aka cocktail making) but will most likely gift my concoctions to the hen! 🍸 The other activity planned is a trip to the thermal baths, so I've had to decline that as the water is too hot to be safe in pregnancy. The spa does do pregnancy massage but you can only book a treatment if you pay for entry into the thermal baths, that doesn't make sense to me, and it'll end up being too expensive. Oh well! I'm sure it'll be fun anyway.

Great news from Hello, Tabby, Bluerose and HP. It really does help focus that despite it all there is hope and babies can actually happen at the end of this!
Kate - sorry it wasn't more conclusive yesterday. How many weeks are you? I hope the consultant can give you a good plan of action.
Scan today at 12. Scans are not joyous they are dreaded here too.