Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Good luck for your scan tomorrow.

I have been booked into one for wednesday morning. Nervous. Will be 7+5.

Keys I hope it all goes well with your scan - please remember that even heavy bleeding isn't the end and anything can cause problems. I'm so sorry you've got to this point and had this happen.

Thank you Lucinda and Northern. I know you probably don't want to hear it from me yet but I've got no symptoms at all and only had mildly sore boobs at the very beginning. I did see heartbeat a few wks ago...Hopefully will again tomorrow!
Thinking of you keys. I hope all is ok, so sorry your having to go through such worry.
Life really is cruel the way it plays with heads, emotions and hearts.
Lucinda what time is your scan tomorrow? Mine is half 1, we can hopefully support each other through the day!
Beth what is it that worries you most? I'm glad you have a scan sorted, hopefully it will help to ease your concerns x

Best of luck keys keeping everything crossed for you, sorry to hear you're having a rough time xxx
lilliana you too, I'm sure everything will be fine xxx
dobby massive congratulations!!! what a birth weight! enjoy your newborn snuggles xxx

Again guys, sorry I've not been around, not long been let out of hospital after testing 'positive high risk' for going into preterm labour within the next two weeks...they used the fetal fibronectin test which I think is fairly new? Had steroid injections which hurt like a mofo so if he does make an early appearance his lungs should be ok...having to have extra scans to monitor his growth, as he's weighing around 5 pounds atm when he should be around 3.5! So again, if he does come early at least he'll have some weight on him! However if he goes to full term and keeps gaining the way he is, I may end up being induced ir CS ... Which would blow my lovely water birth out the window! Pretty sure he's going to surprise us before 37 weeks, but again that'll mean no water birth...tbh, as long as he's healthy I don't mind when/how he comes...but I would feel very cheated if I didn't get to 'give birth' to him naturally!
Got alot of mucusy discharge that can be quite heavy, and mild period type pains, pressure from his head, and strong BH...he is very low down, but I don't think engaged, wouldn't surprise me if he was in the process of engaging though, I can feel his head turning from side to side by my pubic bone. Time will tell I guess xxx

My 4d scan (that I snuk out of hospital for)
I know its upside-down, my stupid phone won't let me turn it round!

Oh...its not upside-down

Cried like a baby when I first saw his face...would highly recommended having a 4d scan...we were lucky he was in the right position!
Feel like I 'know' him now...x

Wow sounds like you've really had a rough ride recently. Your scan pictures are amazing, how gorgeous!
I hope little one stays put a few more wks for you, I can't imagine how scary it must be. Take it easy and let others look after you, if now isn't the time to be pampered, don't know when is!!

Lynsey sorry you’re feeling low but thankfully, your midwife sounds lovely. I passed bright red blood, some big goopy clots etc. week five and everything was fine at my next scan. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow.

obsessedlex migraines – how awful How are they now? Huge congrats on seeing the heartbeat on the scan – it’s amazing isn’t it?!

northernlight22 how unnerving. A clot was spotted week 4 (they feared an ectopic so was scanned early) – many resolve themselves before 12 weeks.

positivity123 isn’t it just wonderful seeing the heartbeat?

goulashsoupand cocklesandmussels and beth2511 welcome and congratulations on your BFPs. It’s a terrifying time this first trimester but there are some lovely supportive ladies on here who will help you along the way.

goulash I love the story of your DS’s arrival!

Lucinda so annoying about your midwife appointment – you get yourself all geared up, don’t you? Good luck tomorrow.

dobby Edward is jut scrummy! Look at all that hair. Huge congratulations!

keys you poor thing – I’m so sorry. Any update?

allmychildrenhavepaws LOVE the scan! Keeping everything crossed that bab stays put for now.

Thank you for your kind words. Finally went to the doctor last week and have tonsillitis… no wonder I’ve been feeling so rubbish! Also had to do a stool sample as I’ve had the runs on and off all through my pregnancy – oh, the joys!

Boss agreed for me to work from home when I’m feeling my worst – thank GOD.

Had my booking in appointment on Saturday. My 16 week appointment will be with a consultant rather than a midwife to discuss a C Section as I have chronic herpes (2-3 outbreaks a month) and it can be fatal to babies. Terrified!

We also discussed depression – I have a history and both my Mum and sister had post-natal depression.

Lastly, my weight. So I was weighed with my boots and clothes on but have apparently gained a whopping stone since Christmas! It puts my BMI at 29 and the midwife started talking to me about gestational diabetes. I’m 5 ft 5 and a size 12, just very heavy as I used to do a lot of sport (or so I tell myself!). Felt so crap afterwards to be honest. Really hoping the weight gain levels off in my second trimester when I’m feeling less nauseous and can eat the sort of food I normally eat.

I think I might be at the end of the line. Started to have bright red blood actually on my pad now and got mild cramping. Guessing it's only going to get worse. I so wanted to walk into the scan tomorrow and come out feeling silly for over thinking it all. Now I feel sure it'll be bad news.

Stay positive Lynsey, it's not over yet! Xxx

keys you poor thing! If it's not one thing, it's another. Thinking of you and wishing you well.

paws lovely to hear from you! So sorry you're being kept in and there is a potential imminent arrival! Sounds like you're being well looked after though, even though you are imprisoned! That scan is just AWESOME!!

turi At booking, I had a BMI of just 30 and I have now been started on the weight management care pathway. I have gained 2lbs (less than 1kg) since falling pregnant (am 15 weeks) and will be monitored carefully. I have to have the GD test anyway as I have PCOS but it's not horrendous, so don't worry about that. Yes there are risks to being overweight in pregnancy, but my mw was very helpful in putting my mind at ease, and I'm now in a group (like weight watchers for pregnant women!!!) where we are supported and guided on our weight and weight gain. My recommended weight gain is 4.5-9kg, based on my booking BMI. I would imagine yours will be more than that as your BMI is lower. Their greatest push seems to be on exercise though, or more accurately, keeping moving. Is that achievable for you? I gained almost 5 stone with DC1 and really used pregnancy as an excuse to eat everything in sight and do very little. I contained it to 2.5-3 stone with DC2 (I swelled up, water retention, towards the end so refused to weigh myself!) but honestly felt so much better without those extra couple of stone. I'm starting at a higher weight this time, which worries me, but I am hoping, like you, that I can make good choices now I'm not chucking up every day! Gosh that was long!!

paws and turi Just wanted to offer support re. c-sections. I had an emergency c-section after a 12 hour labour with DC1 and (due to complications following this) I had an elective which was actually 'urgent' as I went into labour!! with DC2. I had always planned a VBAC for any further children and had done all my research I needed (including looking at a nice big age gap), but my dodgy body (namely my weakened uterus) and extensive scarring mean this won't happen, ever. Assuming I get that far, this baby will be delivered by c-section at around 37/8 weeks as I'm now "not allowed" to go into labour. I have finally made peace with never having the delivery of my dreams although I know it can be hard to accept it. I figure I'll be a pro at c-sections instead I can honestly say that the "planned" section was a wonderful experience and I am focusing on this and delivering a healthy baby rather than fretting about being unable to do what (I feel) my body should be able to do. It's tough to make that peace, and it's taken me years, but if it's safer for you and baby, that's the important part.

AFM, the dreaded PGP/SPD has returned and I've had a little freak out about my NT/blood results too... (Risk 1:220 for Down's) but today is another day and I'm trying to be more positive...

Hugs to all

lynsey I am so sorry. I hope ur not alone and have someone with you? I am desperately hoping things will work out ok, so many times I have heard stories on here of heavy bleeds and things working out fine. I hope the scan tomorrow gives you answers so you are not in this limbo. huge hug

paws good to hear from you. Sorry your still in hospital but at least they're looking after you and baby. Hope he stays put for a week or so more. Love the pics.

Thinking of you tomorrow Lyndsey.

Scan was good. Baby was very wiggly and about a week ahead of my dates so it's brought my EDD to 16th September.

Lucinda your like my little guardian angel, always there with some lovely words of support :-)
Partner here but typically has no idea how to help (don't suppose there is much he can do) and kids here too but they are tired and will be in bed soon. Midwife said today that A&E will only refer me to same clinic I'm going to tomorrow so I'm just going to have to hold on til then. Keep feeling like I'm leaking all over the place when I'm not. Very strange sensation.

Lilliana that's lovely. Congrats on the scan x

Oh Lynsey, I missed your post when I was posting. I'm so sorry to read that things seem to be escalating. I also hope with all my heart that it's not what you fear. Thinking of you

Lovely news Lilliana. Really pleased for you.

paws the scan looks amazing and so so lovely to hear from you. I've had steroid injections before with my first but I was so high on gas and air and perfidine (not sure how to spell it sorry) I can't really remember the pain but can remember one of them being stuck in bum lol was bloody painful that think that was the pain relieve they gave me. The things we put ourselves through ay. I second chandilier re c sections paws turi I've had two c sections not by choice but by them being so prem and its ok honestly I won't lie it does hurt after the pain killers have worn off for a few days but it's not as bad as you think and your awake and feel no pain just a bit of pulling and have the added bonus of not being to tired from pushing. Are you still in hospital Hun?

turi so nice to hear an understanding boss story for a change. I hope your feeling tons better. So pleased you have somebody to talk to as well abut your depression I admire people that can talk honestly and openly about it. I think I suffered after my first but didn't recognise it this time I'm keeping a close eye on how I'm feeling and writing it down in a diary and sharing it with my mum so she can assess it as well because sometimes to you it's normal but to others it may start ringing alarm bells. Mine I think was down to separation anxiety where the girls got taken to special care but i suppose you never know when it could hit or who it will hit. As for the weight issue I'm 5ft4 and a size 12 trying to keep the pounds at bay but when your feeling so sick you eat and your body tells you what to eat as well its really hard.

chandilier so lovely to hear from you so pleased to hear your doing well except from PGP\SPD returning. I've been so lucky I've never suffered with back problems before sounds awful. Really hope it don't get to bad for you big hugs Hun.

liliana so pleased for you Hun. What has that put you at now week wise? 13? Not to far behind me my due date is 21st August. Lovely news.

lucinca good luck for scan tomorrow huni hand holding with you.

lynsey Hun I feel so so sad for you right en I read your posts it brings tears to my eyes. Please try to stay strong Hun I know it's so easy to say. I like you have bleed all through this pregnancy and measured behind on my dates. I'm so praying this is a positive outcome for you I really am.
Hand holding with you and sending big hugs.! Hope you have somebody with you. Xxx

I'm ok guys got checked out today by midwife very sore and suffering infections inside and out by the stitch and the cut and to top it off I have thrush but to my reliefe baby's heartbeat was picked up and strong. One hurdle down as have to wait for heart scan on Thursday. Thanks for lovely well wishes guys.

Hugs to all lovely to have a nice catch up with you all and lynsey I am thinking of you xxx

Thank you keys. Your words made me teary then. This thread is the only solid support I have so I keep coming back to reread things. Pain is no worse but bleeding seems to be getting redder. Already feel devastated as for me, I don't know if there can be a positive outcome now. No cause for bleeding was found at last scan, that surely means there must be only one reason i am now? I've put kids to bed and sent partner home. I'm not good to be around when upset xx

Lynsey I am so sorry you are going through this torment. I have everything crossed for you tomorrow.

Hello everyone, I still haven't sat down and caught up with everyone's stories yet, but glad to be in a place where you all understand. It is really encouraging to see those of you at the end of your pregnancies.

Really hoping it's just that pesky cyst dislodging itself Lynsey. will be holding you and little one in my thoughts tonight and tomorrow x

Lynsey, here holding your hand and hoping for the best with you.

I'll likely be offline for a few days but I'll try to keep up with what's happening and catch up at the weekend

keys I am so happy your appointment went well and you heard the heartbeat - must have been such a relief! Sounds like your still suffering pretty bad tho, I wish u a speedy recovery!

lilliana congrats on your scan too

lynsey I'm so sorry you are going thru this. Can't help but feel perhaps you shouldn't be alone, despite feeling you want to be. Keep your partner on stand by in case you need him to come back. We are all thinking of you and sending support.

I'm so sorry i know I have missed people - so much going on and I haven't had a chance to catch up on the thread. I hope everyone ok and keeping calm ahead of scans etc. So flipping hard getting thru this.

Thank you for all the well wishes for my scan tomorrow. Thankfully it's before 9am so I don't have to wait all day! Have felt like a nervous wreck for most of the last week - eerily calm this eve.

Whoever was talking about BMI (turi?) I am BMI 30 and have been quite scared about all the risks etc. Asked a question about it in another thread on here a few weeks ago and general consensus of replies was that it wasn't too much of a problem at all and not to worry too much as long as you are eating as best you can and don't over do the weight gain. I'm on slimming world which is good. Have been on and off it for a few years with good success - lost 1.5 stone a year ago to get BMI down to a healthy level start TTC. Then got pregnant - had the appetite of a beast and put on half a stone in 2 months! Then miscarried and sunk myself in wine wnd chocolate and put on another stone. Tried to lose it but miscarried again and just cldnt focus on weight loss. Was a bloody nightmare!! But I've been going to slimming world just to keep myself in check and really trying to follow the plan now I'm pregnant. it is a super plan for pregnant ladies, so far managed to maintain my weight and have been eating a really good diet. Helps me feel in control! (Where I feel so out of control with the rest of the pregnancy!) X

keys great news about the heartbeat but the rest sucks!! Hope you get over all the infections soon and heal properly.

Good luck tomorrow lucinda and lynsey I have everything crossed for you both.

Thanks for all the congratulations. Such a relief x

Lynsey I really hope you are ok. I was really scared when I had a miscarriage so if you think you are then I recommend the thread on mumsnet where people detail their experience so you know what to expect as i rememer you saying you had a medical last time. Sending you huge hugs and I hope it is all ok xx

So I'm gonna go ahead and give you the details for any feedback... I think (from when I'm wiping) the blood is coming from something the tissue is touching, like something is sore or cut just inside? It doesn't seem to be coming from abit higher up like a period...does that make any sense? I noticed I feel dry and uncomfortable when I wipe but obviously I'm not cos I've had a wee and there is the blood aswel... I'm sorry if this is the wrong thread to ask about this on and sorry for the more graphic detail I'm trying to explain.