Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

lynsey I've had spots of blood when wiping front to back which I later realised was a bleeding pile, could it be this for you? Piles are v common in pregnancy and can bleed a lot. Hope it settles down soon so you can get some rest x

No definately not piles as this is only when I wipe the front. Thank you for your suggestion tho! I'm not in any pain now at all, blood has gone more watery than before too. I really have no clue what's going on, roll on 1.30 tomorrow xx

lynsey would your period be due? Sometimes women bleed in their first trimester when periods are due? I'm sure if it was a mc your be bleeding pretty heavy by now especially since you started the bleed. Just hang in there Hun I think your going to be ok it's sounds very strange tbh and I can't work out what's happening all I know is or I personally thought was when a mc starts once bleeding starts it don't get lighter it gets heavier after every wipe. Not long now you will know either way and we all be here for you I know peeps will be checking in this afternoon to check on you. It's such an supportive this. Big hugs Hun try and keep busy and I agree you need support around you don't be on your own xxx

lucinda good luck for this morning Hun I love early scans because you prob haven't slept very well and you haven't got time to worry. Big hugs to you as well.

Here's hoping to a positive day for everyone. Weather is meant to be getting warmer after today hopefully the uggs can go away soon and the heavy coats. I can't for spring to finally be here.

Thanks keys I had a restless night and lots of strange dreams! So glad it's an early scan and we can get this over with. Feeling so nervous and worried. Every time I read anything about the stage of pregnancy I'm at, all I get is 'you are most certainly feeling the effects by now' or 'if you are having trouble with morning sickness do this' or 'your clothes are probably starting to feel snug' etc etc. None of which is true for me! I'm trying not to read all these things and just stick my head in the sand but can't help it sometimes. Absolutely no symptoms anymore and very worrying. Fingers crossed all ok and I'm just one of the lucky ones not to feel unwell!

lynsey I think I agree with keys I would have thought a miscarriage would have got heavier, not lighter. It did for me any way. Hopefully this is a good sign and I'm really hoping your scan goes well this arvo.

Love to everyone else - forgotten who is having scans etc but good luck and hugs to you all - we will get thru this one way or other!

Good luck Lucinda. Hope it goes well

lucinda every woman is so different the fact your having vivid dreams is a sign of pregnancy. Your prob find on your 20 week scan your having a boy they behave throughout the first trimester normally where sickness and bloating is concerned. Your be fine lovely. Once you get the all clear your prob find your tummy starts swelling suddenly haha. I read up on my development stages and some facts i wear my feeling either so I honestly wouldn't worry. Not long now :) am thinking of you xxx

lynsey and lucinda good luck for today. Hello to everyone else.
I'm veering madly between wild optimism and complete negativity. Mood changes every hour or so!

Thanks so much everyone

cockles I can totally relate!! Massive highs and lows and fierce battles in my head between being totally fine and optimistic, then convinced it's all over. it's exhausting! How far along are u? Any scans coming up? X

Thinking of you today guys and keeping everything crossed for good news.

Wait and hope xxx

Everything crossed for those with scans today, very much hoping lots of wriggly beans and heartbeats are seen.
I'm having a bit of a pessimistic phase at the moment, I know logically it's a good sign to have seen heartbeat at 10+5 but dating scan tomorrow and back to preparing myself to grieve again. Just cannot shake the notion I cannot do this
Those of you further along - is there a point it gets easier?

Thank you for all the well wishes. Still bleeding but no worse than before. Currently sat in A&E for a totally different issue, my little one has split his head open this morning. That's 2 of my kids in a wk! One did it at school, this one at home. Not the way I wanted to pass by the time til my scan!
Thinking of you this morning too lucinda.
Hope everyone else is going on ok? Stay positive bowser. I know how you feel and it really sucks but keep smiling xx

Thinking of you all ladies and sending positiv vibes! I promise it does get easier when you feel the little one wriggling around! Xxx

Hello ladies. Not good news I'm afraid. Looks like I got my dates wrong (I can say with certainty I didn't) or it stopped developing at 5 weeks (I shd be 8 weeks today). No fetal pole, no heartbeat. Just a gestational sac - which was misshapen and nurse said wld make them concerned about miscarriage anyway. I have to go back in 2 weeks for another scan and if no change they will confirm missed miscarriage then. But gave me leaflets and telephone numbers etc etc in case I bleed before then. I know there are miracle stories and I cld hope it will be ok. But the way they were all talking to me felt pretty hopeless. Sounded very much like they were preparing us for a miscarriage.

Swinging from devastated and blubbering in tears, to being eerily calm and accepting of it. And looking on the bright side, now I've had 3 so they will hopefully offer me tests to find out why.

Nursing a sugary cup of tea at the mo, contemplating a glass of wine...:

Oh Lucinda I'm so sorry. A glass (or a few bottles!) of wine seem very much in order. I hope you have someone to share that drink with and cry on someone's shoulder. I know things seem very bleak right now but it does get better. Lots of love and hugs xxx

lucinda so sorry this has happened. It is such a horrid thing and my heart goes out to you . Take it easy and rest up, maybe put on some films. How is your DP taking it?
Sending hugs

Oh lucinda I'm so sorry, life is so cruel, there's nothing that anyone can say will make it any easier, but I'm just sending you my thoughts and love. Take care and def crack open a bottle, I found 'numb' was good with my MMC xxxx

Thinking of you lyndsey xxxx

Thank you all. I'm so glad to be on this thread you've all been wonderful. I'm ok - I am still on the sugary tea but wine is winking at me. My DP has been wonderful, he is working from home today so at the computer but popping in for a hug and tea refreshment every 10 mins. He is devastated but worried for me. He is said I have to go it again whereas I am sad I have put HIM thru it again. I know logically it's not my fault - but I feel like such a failure. I can't make a baby or keep it. Feel I've let him down.

Gah. All these horrible horrible thoughts whirling round my head. I know they will go. It's just processing it all at the moment.

Anyway. I hope my bad news hasn't brought anyone else down - there has been a lot of positive scans and births on here recently. Let's keep that going! This is a minor blip.

And lynsey I'm rooting for u today! Good luck and keeping everything crossed. Hope ur kiddie is doing ok. X

Oh Lucinda i'm sending you a huge cuddle and wine.

I'm sorry to hear your bad news Lucinda and even sadder to hear you blame yourself. You've not let your other half down, he sounds lovely and supportive and I'm glad he's there to comfort you today. The wait between scans is the worst limbo

Really hope your day improves lynsey x

So sorry lucinda I'm in tears for you. You haven't let anyone down its not your fault at all don't be silly. These things happen hun it's nothing you've done. Have a glass of wine and some pate indulge and then try again when your ready we will be keeping your seat warm. So so sorry I really am xxx

Lucinda massive hugs, I am so sorry. Please don't blame yourself, you didn't choose this. You have done all you can, you have just been given shit luck. At least if this is confirmed you should get more help. Numb and practical was my response too, but I think the emotions need processing so good the tears are there too. I am so sorry

Lynsey thinking of you this afternoon. Hope the A&E trip has helped distract your mind a bit.

I'm so sorry Lucinda. I'm glad you have your lovely DP there with you. Make sure you take care of yourself and take as long as you need to recover, and please don't worry about posting on here. Everyone on here knows that miscarriage can be a normal part of the TTC and pregnancy journey, so you're not going to freak anyone out or bring us down. We're all here to support you xxx

Lynsey I wonder if it could be thrush? When I've had it in the past I've had lots of little 'paper cuts' which can bleed when wiped. Best of luck at the hospital today.

So sorry this horrible thing has happened to you again lucinda. You're posts have always been so lovely and supportive to others and I hope you will stay on here with us and that we can support you. Sending love and hugs to you and your partner