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SOooooooooo nervous, please cross your fingers for me at 11.30

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 20/12/2006 10:38

Im having a scan to see if we can see a heartbeat or if there has been no growth

I have about a 50/50 chance I SO hope that its good news.

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BrandyTutter · 22/12/2006 16:24

if you go in an mention the shoulder pain they will prob do a laparoscopy - which will be the only sure way of diagnosing an ectopic

sorry, i hope i'm not scarung you, and please, don't let this stop you frok going in. if you have any pain, esp shoulder pain, you must treat it as an emergency. it could mean the difference between saving and losing a fallopian tube

whilst a lap isn't particularly pleasant it's nothing compared to the trauma of full ectopic surgery, ime

i'm so sorry this is happening to you x

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 22/12/2006 16:24

Cancel the friends. Drop everything and have a nice long soak in the bath. Then open a bottle of wine.

If no-one is going to look after you then you have to look after yourself. You can do zithout insensitive friends, you will not be in a sociable mood. Be selfish pecka - you have to be!

LadyTophamHatt · 22/12/2006 16:27

Oh Becca, I'm so sorry.

You don't have to have friends over tonight. Call them and say you can't do it.
It's tough if they don't like it...you're more important.

And ring DH and tell to get home NOW.

Thinking of you
xxx

BrandyTutter · 22/12/2006 16:29

def cancel the friends

if dh isn't drunk i would tell him he needs to come home and be with the kids - you may have to go to hospital at a moment's notice

if he fails to grasp the severity of the problem, explain to him how serious an ep is. i was in surgery for 4 hours, lost a lot of blood and my left fallopian tube. dh was devastated

he needs to get a grip - sorry

Harry2007 · 22/12/2006 16:33

I agree, dh needs to realise the seriousness of the situation. You need to ring him and tell him to come home. And definitely cancel the friends - you need time to yourself.

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 22/12/2006 16:36

my head is going to blow off at any moment

just need to shelve it all for a few days longer....

thanks for all being here

xxx

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treacletart · 22/12/2006 16:39

Pecca, I'm so sorry (we were both due in August). This is just hideous and all the worse when it's not straightforward and you have to have the stress prolonged. Please cancel your friends and I hope you get the support you deserve soon.

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 22/12/2006 16:41

its ridiculous because i pretty much knew it was bleak early on but im knocked for six that it is definitely over - even this morning the nurse was saying it could still just be very early pregnancy and asking if i felt more pregnant.

then this afternoon suddenly im in a room with a total dick head doctor matter of factly telling me i will miscarry in next few days.

its shit

going to go and clean - channel my energy

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pooka · 22/12/2006 16:45

Oh Pecka.
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you.
Under no circumstances contemplate entertaining tonight. Particularly not if they're insensitive. You need to be cossetted.

merrylissiemas · 22/12/2006 16:54

pecka, i am so very sorry. we were all really hoping for a positive outcome. ring dh and tell him to get home NOW. i can't believe he is letting you go thru this alone. cancel your friends. have a bath and glass of wine in the meantime if you need to talk email me [email protected] and ill give you my phone no. where do you live? is there someone who can come over to you tonight just in case?

popsycal · 22/12/2006 17:00

pecka
i have lost my phone with all your numbers in
ring me tonight if you want
will email you my numbers again...

xxxxxx

LoveMyGirls · 22/12/2006 17:11

so sorry..........((((((((((((pecka)))))))))))))

please don't feel alone, i agree with cancelling friends and telling dp to get home now (though i guess hes dealing with this in his own way? and not reasliing you need support!) have some wine and chocolate.

ItalianJob · 22/12/2006 17:13

very sorry to hear this pecca

greedyformincepies · 22/12/2006 17:23

pecka, is your shoulder pain worse when lying down, and is it shoulder tip pain or top of shoulder pain?
shoulder tip pain that is worse on lying down is a symptom of ectopics, dont mean to scare you, but dont assume cos its in your shoulder it isnt significant.
hopefully it is just the way you were holding the phone.

missnatalie · 22/12/2006 17:26

oh pecka i am so sorry {{{HUG}}}

i agree with everyone. take our advise. cancel your evening with friends and pamper yourself.

have a long hot bubble bath and lots of choccies.

call your DH ans tell him to get his ass home pronto!! he needs to be with you. especially if you start with more pain.

i am so sorry that you are going through this. my heart goes out to you. i went through the same just over 3 weeks ago and i know exactly how your feeling.

remember you are not alone you have all of us on MN. as i said ealier visit the EPT website. they are a fab bunch on there and there all going/have been through an ectopic pregnancy.

EPT has been my lifeline since loosing my pregnancy xxx

Gingeme · 22/12/2006 17:31

Im so sorry xxxxx for you.

hertsnessex · 22/12/2006 17:34

Thinking of you. the false hope is the worst. my dh wasnt as supportive as id hoped either. i hope you manage to have a good christmas pecka.

Cxxx [hug]

LetitShnowLetitShnowLetitShnow · 22/12/2006 17:37

Oh pecka, I'm so sorry. If it has got to the point where it's too late to cancel with friends, then play it by ear. If it gets too much, say you have a migraine, apologise and go straight to bed.

I assume DH must be coming home soon if you're having friends over.

Again, I'm so sorry. Any pain, no matter how slight, get yourself back to hospital.

BrandyTutter · 22/12/2006 17:39
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PeckaRolloverAgain · 22/12/2006 17:52

thanks everyone

feeling a bit better for having a cry earlier, i have let a bit out, put the lid back on and now feeling a little more able to deal with tonight. am halfway through cleaning and feeling a bit better for that too.

think i will have a drink tonight, have been avoiding it just in case it was a viable pregnancy but no point now may as well try and numb everything!

i dont think dh will be home tonight

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FoghornLeghorn · 22/12/2006 17:59

Sorry to hear you're going through such a crap time atm Pecka Thinking of you

pooka · 22/12/2006 18:19

wanker
(your dh that is. Don't normally feel cross with people have never met - but honestly.)

popsycal · 22/12/2006 19:22

ring him up and bloody well get hom home
bloody men
you know wgere i am

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 22/12/2006 19:26

i dont want him home

fck him, if he cant be here when i need him he can fck off

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merrylissiemas · 22/12/2006 19:29

what a tosser, sorry but if i were you i'd lock the fucking door on him. how are you doing? any pain?