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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

SOooooooooo nervous, please cross your fingers for me at 11.30

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 20/12/2006 10:38

Im having a scan to see if we can see a heartbeat or if there has been no growth

I have about a 50/50 chance I SO hope that its good news.

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popsycal · 30/12/2006 12:31

still trying to get through to her
the number i have is correct but it ewont let me get through argh

popsycal · 30/12/2006 17:20

still cant get through. soooo frustrating

PeckaRolloverAgain · 30/12/2006 18:21

im home

popsy, i got a call from the operator of the patient line service sying you were trying to get through and testing the line so not sure why it didnt work

feel like ive been hit by a bus but glad to be back, im not very happy with my treatment tbh

thanks so much for all of your thoughts xxx

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lulumama · 30/12/2006 18:22

pecka (( hug)) glad you are ok.....xxxx

cyrilsquirrel · 30/12/2006 18:23

omg, how come you are home? What did they say?

PeckaRolloverAgain · 30/12/2006 18:31

well, i had my operation at 9am yesterday morning. i was going in for a laparoscopy to remove suspected ectopic pregnancy.

when i came round in recovery i can vaguely remember the doctor over my bed telling me that they couldnt find it in my tubes so had gone ahead and done a D+C as well only that didnt reveal much either. "minimal evidence of products of conception" or something and basically said they hadnt found evidence of the prgnancy that was causing the levels to rise and that i would be coming back in for further blood tests to check nothing was still growing.

i was out of it most of the day yesterday and had a couple of wobbly moments when my pulse was really high and wasnt allowed out of bed as i was really light headed. my wound also came open and bled quite a bit.

Anyway, today all day I lay there waiting for a doctor to see what was happening and if i could go home. about 4pm the nurse came up and asked if i felt up to going home. i said well yes but im still waiting for someone to talk to me about what happened.

she said well you have an appointment next week, i said well nobody told me - she just shrugged it off and looked at my notes and reiterated about the laparoscopy etc and said hopefully whatever it was they took away in the d and c was the pregnancy even though it wasnt recognisable.

she said if the levels had still gone up it could be that the ectopic was too small to see or that it was growing elsewhere but that this was very very unlikely.

so....hopefully, wahtever it was has gone.

now im left feeling really bruised, shellshocked and badly treated throughout what has been a horrific experience.

they just dont seem to grasp that amongst all the medical crap i have lost a much wanted pregnancy.

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popsycal · 30/12/2006 18:33

I AM SO GLAD YOYU ARE HOME
BU6T THIS IS APPALLING TREATMENT

the hospital you were at always get better comments than where i was but i really could not fault them at all
you know where i am
free all next week xxx

cyrilsquirrel · 30/12/2006 18:33

what an appalling experience.

They sound dreadful. When this is over I think you should consider making a formal complaint about the way you have been treated.

Are they going to test your HCG levels again, before next week?

popsycal · 30/12/2006 18:35

when you feel up to it i think yoy wuld be perfectly reasonable in writing as letter of complaint

i reallu feel for you xx

PeckaRolloverAgain · 30/12/2006 18:39

i had to go up to the desk on the way out to requst my canula was removed, they gave me no painkillers as the pharmacy was shut and didnt give any advice on my dressings being changed etc.

no, there have been no tests suggested until next friday.

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cyrilsquirrel · 30/12/2006 18:41

that is appalling pecka. I am so sorry you are going through this.

I think you need to insist they test your HCG levels again before then. Is there anyone you could phone - a consultant?

lulumama · 30/12/2006 18:47

just so terrible..what a nasty expereince..as you say, not even an acknowledgement you have lost a pregnancy.......

definitely a letter of complaint,when you feel up to it.x

popsycal · 30/12/2006 18:55

pecka
i would also go to your gp
not to complain as such bt to raise the fact that you are very worried as the meducal situtauon has not been made regarding your wound, pain relief, your pregnanncy
and are extremely worried that, as they said may be possible, that your baby is growing elsewhere
also i think you are going to need sone emotional support from professionals at some point
xxxx

Troutpout · 30/12/2006 19:11

Aww Pecka..what a tough time

Thinking of you

SHHHHsantahasbeen · 30/12/2006 19:30

sorry to hear the story pecka and I hope things turn around for you in 2007. Must admit sometimes I am sure that some of the the doctors and nurses etc dealing with sensitive issues such as mc's etc are not always as sensitive as they should be imo anyway.Maybe they cut themselves off from such mentally torturing issues..???

With our 1st mc things weren't explained enough as to what would happen and aftre nothing happening at the hospital I went home to experience the loss iykwim. Shocking imo. Noone had prepared me at all.
The 2nd time it was a sunday when I started with the loss and all the epu could say was : wait till tomorrow as we can't do anything now..!!! The treatment and assistance I experienced from then on was horiffic. I just felt like a number .

So when we fell pregnant with dd we went private as we were so put off by the NHS and our consultant continued to see us on the NHS, tbh she restored our faith in the NHS and due to her help and guidance and support we really couldn't fault our care within the NHS. I had so much faith in our consultant. I saw her every 2 weeks from 6-22 weeks and she even visited me while in labour and after dd was born. I saw her as god although she reminded me on many occasions that it was me doing all the hard work..!!

Like others have said, I would express your concerns and issues following this treatment BUT don't let it put you off. Take time to heal physically and mentally and move on from there. Hopefully if you need to use the NHS services again then you should get the treatment you deserve.

As I said before conselling is a good route to take imo. Nooone needs to know BUT ime it helped me get answers and to restore what little faith I had.

xx

PeckaRolloverAgain · 30/12/2006 19:33

how would i access counselling? no one spoke to me never mind offered counselling

i lay there trying to be no trouble and do as i was supposed to but FGS its my body and pregnancy and i have a right to be treated accordingly

i cant wait to heal so i can get fighting fit in 2007 and put this all behind me

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popsycal · 30/12/2006 19:34

pecka
give me a ring if you want/can
you have my home number

your gp can put you intouch with counselling services
am also going to google for you too

lulumama · 30/12/2006 19:35

try these people. it is a birth trauma organisation, but it is free and they might be able to point you in the right direction if can;t help themselves

BTA

PeckaRolloverAgain · 30/12/2006 19:36

im probably being pathetic because i feel so fragile to be honest

im sure in a day or two ill be ok

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popsycal · 30/12/2006 19:37

pecka i know it is not the same, but bubble99 might be a good person to speak to about trauma in hospital
she may know of organisations who can help

popsycal · 30/12/2006 19:39

YOU ARE NOT BEING PATHETIC
ffs pecka you have been through an horrifc experience which still isnt sorted out
even without the neglectful treatment of the hospiotal, you would still have every right to feel helpless and shit

you need to talk to your gp and get blood tests before another week
i cant beleive they are leaving it this long
i am racking my brain to try to think whether i know anyone who could give advice
i know a few gps and a surgeon (though he is a surgeon of arses - and an arse himself - so not much help )

mrsdarcy · 30/12/2006 19:41

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your hospital may offer counselling. My local hospital has a Family Support service, through which counselling is offered by a qualified counsellor, and by trained volunteers. When you have your appointment next week the doctor may know.

popsycal · 30/12/2006 19:46

i am googling away and cant find anything
will keep trying
i would honestly make an urgent appt with you go for tues though hun

PeckaRolloverAgain · 30/12/2006 19:49

i feel like im making a bigger fuss than necessary iyswim

ill see what i feel like tomorrow

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popsycal · 30/12/2006 19:49

The Miscarriage Association's helpline on 01924 200799

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