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9 days late but neg tests.....

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babylove123 · 10/12/2006 22:35

Hi,

Im 9 days late and with no cramps. usually my periods are spot on so im confused with this one. Thing is my pregnancy tests have all been Neg. I had a nasty water infection for which i got "pregnancy friendly" anti-biotics for and finished them almost a week ago.

Could this be the reason i am so late?

Does it look hopeful i may be pregnant?

I have been told to go and get a blood test @ the docs but how long does it take for the results?

Many thanks for any advice,

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whatisit · 28/12/2006 13:44

yes when i was 2 weeks late -she wasnt the slighest bit bothered but did arrange the blood tests for me. My initial concerns were that if one of the clips had come off i had a very high risk of ectopic so wanted it diagnosed straight away. I think given the -ve pregnancy tests its highly unlikely im pregnant ( and usually by 8 weeks id be throwing every morning & im not)but as much as i hate the time of the month every month it is reassuring to know everything is working as it should!!

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babylove123 · 30/12/2006 14:11

Hey Guys,

Soz whatisit to hear you're still up in the air so to speak. Well i've still not started, record now of 28 days late, woo! Not sure what the hell my body is playing at! Have made docs apt for 8th Jan coz that means i'd be 6 days late after next due bleed if i dont come on and then they must take me seriously! Taking DP too. Guess i just gotta wait till then

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3Ddonut · 31/12/2006 11:14

Hi Babylove! How was the IL's? Glad to be home I bet! I'm keeping an eye on you for news! Won't be around so much, I'm going back to work on Mon for three nights a week and the rest of the time I'll probably be sleeping!

paulaplumpbottom · 31/12/2006 12:09

Keep us posted Babylove. The suspense is killing me.

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babylove123 · 31/12/2006 19:37

Hey 3D, IL's went ok actually, glad to leave tho! Had my moments on the 1st night and not being able to log onto here was very hard!!!!

Thanks for everyones thoughts, i'll keep you posted as soon as i know!!!

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babylove123 · 01/01/2007 14:56

What a **ing way to start the new year! AF arrived this morning. Absolutely gutted.......a whole 30 days of thinking i was pg and its over

We bd'd this month too so i obv didnt manage to get pg this month either! Stupid bloody body!

Anyone else feel useless like this?

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beansprout · 01/01/2007 15:00

So sorry to hear this babylove. I know what it's like to be a few days late, but 30 must be awful. See you on the January thread when you are ready. The hut of gloom thread is also there if you need us

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babylove123 · 01/01/2007 15:03

Hey, thanks for that i'm on the Jan thread already, jumped on there before AF came, maybe i jinxed it!!! lol.

Am doing ok @ mo, prob take a while to sink in. Trying to be positive altho telling ppl has been hard. My sis said she was gutted bless her.

Im trying to see it as by new yrs day next yr, i shld be holding my baby (fingers crossed!)

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beansprout · 01/01/2007 15:06

I've been telling myself the same thing! Fingers crossed for us both.....

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babylove123 · 01/01/2007 15:11

Indeed

If you need anyone to talk 2, lemme know. Made a couple of friends off here and talk to them on msn now, its great

Good luck!

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paulaplumpbottom · 01/01/2007 15:12

I'm so sorry sweetie, I am gutted for you. Better luck next time. Chin up.

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babylove123 · 01/01/2007 15:15

Thanks Paula, i appreciate everyones help.

I feel slightly relieved as i know theres nothing "wrong" with me. Think i've been taking the whole ttc thing too drastically so im not going to use my obv sticks and just stick to BD'ing every 3 days (unless anything happens )Maybe this was a wake up call to stop stressing out....?

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whatisit · 01/01/2007 16:09

aw babylove i was really rooting for you. But as you say- some wake up call-it had that affect on me too- and also as you say at least you know nothing is "wrong" (unlike me who has to wait for my gyno appt on the 9th).Dont be too hard on yourself tho- i was surfing the net the other day and read an article that said it was normal for a women to miss 2 periods a year ( dont know a women thats normal for personally but thats what the doc who wrote it said!). Take care

luckymummybigfattummy · 01/01/2007 20:02

sorry to hear that babylove. I know exactly how you feel. I have posted before on this thread, I experinced what you have just experienced about 4 times while we were TTC. It's so hard, but I think you are right, it might be a wake up call to try (and believe me, I know how hard this is!) to be more relaxed about TTC. Think of the positive things, you are 20 yrs old so your fertilty rate is FANTASTIC, I was 30/31 when we were TTC which I know isn't old these days, but when it wasn't happening, I couldn't help thinking of biological clocks ticking, esp as we would like more than one child. You def have age on your side. Be positive. My AF came today aswell, we're not TTC but it has made me very grouchy for poor DH today!! Who'd be a woman eh??!!!

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babylove123 · 01/01/2007 21:13

hi Whatisit, awww bet you're on the countdown for the gyno appointment, keep us posted on how it goes, thinking of you

Hi luckymummy, thank you for your comments. In response to both of yours, i have indeed taken it as a wake up call and decided to "relax", well as much as you can. I think coz i was so naive to think being 20, having un-protected sex = pregnancy and 6 months later, we're still not pg!! I just keep saying that on New Yrs Day 2008, hopefully i'll either be holding my baby or be about to burst (fingers crossed!)

thanks for everything during the last few weeks, dont know wot i'd have done without this place xx

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3Ddonut · 02/01/2007 08:44

Baby......

Was really expecting that you were expecting.

I guess Mother Nature was just playing tricks on you at a time when you could most do without it! Sorry.

If it's any consolation, I have heard from friends and rels that the time they took their minds off ttc it happened. Maybe as you say, this is what it's took to help you relax a little more about it all - let's hope you never have a wait like that again!

Really, really sorry to hear your news.

StrawberrySnowflakes · 02/01/2007 08:57

sorry to hear its not going to plan at minute..myself and dp tried for a year with no luck, testing every month, crying when neg..really crazy..decided was stressed living where we were, and wed move and look into it later..moved to new houe in june, fell pg with dd in july..other things to think about, doc told me to try and remain un stressed as your body tenses and you need to be ralaxed for mothernature to work her wonders in your body..good luck

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babylove123 · 02/01/2007 11:27

Hi 3D, thanks for your comments. Well i was half surprised, half expecting it. Dont know why mother nature was so cruel to give me the symptoms as well as the late af! Evil! I hope she will be a bit kinder to me in 2007!

DP and i were discussing it last night and i think its right for us to tell family we're ttc. I know it'll cause massive rifts but i asked him how he'd feel if they told us it wld be a mistake etc and he said he wouldnt listen as he knows its right for us.......surely that means it doesnt matter if they have neg opinions then?

Think i wanna get it out in the open, fresh start and all. He proposed to me before xmas (both sets of rents v happy). I said no for now as i feel we're both wrapped up in 2 much including this baby @ the mo and he understood, if not felt the same actually.

Hi strawberry. Yeh i agree with wot u say, easier said then done tho eh?! My doc said if u stress about ovulating etc, your body doesnt ov properly and so therefore u dont stand a chance of getting pg anyway! Gonna take it slow and see wot happens....fingers crossed!

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3Ddonut · 02/01/2007 21:30

Hi Babylove, besides the neg issues with your families (not sure what they are, but just going to leave it at that) if you do tell your families, won't it put extra stress on you? they'll always be asking and commenting.....just a thought!

How nice that he proposed to you, maybe wedding preparations would take your mind of babies for a couple of months (therefore allowing mother nature do to the rest!)

Good luck, keep in touch.

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babylove123 · 02/01/2007 22:48

Does it sound weird that i dont feel ready for engagement but i do for a baby?! Not just a baby, a baby with dp?

(sigh), i dunno, i just fancy getting it out in the open! Guess if they didnt approve i'd have to distance myself for a while.....

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whatisit · 09/01/2007 17:39

babylove it does seem weird the biggest committment you can make is to have a baby with someone cos then you're tied to them for the next 18 years plus.
i went to the drs today- she was sure despite missing 2 periods it was just stress but she would do an internal to put my mind at rest but she was sure she wasnt going to find anything ...but then whats that?- actually your womb is a bit bulky. I'm going to arrange for a scan for you and pls can you do another pregnancy test for me too. I did remind her i had been sterlised but she still thought i should do the tests. What do you all make of that! Apart from pregnancy anyone any ideas

PinkTulips · 12/01/2007 16:01

so sorry babylove.... lost this thread as it disappeared from my threads i'm on so didn't see you news.....

why can't you get engaged without having to have the wedding right away? plenty of people are engaged for years before they marry..... it does seem a bit wierd to want the baby with him but no want to be married to him....

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