We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

[CommanderShepard]

Last thread ended with a series of Really Good News, so let's hope this one keeps up the trend!

Fantastic news charlie!! So pleased for you

small, I sometimes have cramping before a poo - seems to be another odd pg thing! Glad you're feeling ok now x

Sending hugs treacle. It's such a horrid time, the wait between a positive test then the booking in appt then eventually 12 week scan, but have faith in your body and try to be positive. Today you are pregnant xxxx

Thank you broody, i wish I could be naive and excited in a way.

worried I got my DH to confiscate & hide mine! Painters found them when they were painting the spare room last week!

Honestly treacle I cramped pretty much all the time until about 7 or 8w. Then I started again a couple of weeks ago and there's a healthy baby wriggling round in there. Your uterus doubles in size within a couple of months, not so shocking that it cramps really, please try to relax a little bit (isn't that the most annoying thing ever, people telling you to relax?!?!)
Can you do something for yourself? Some kind of me-time, even just a couple of hours with a fave tv show or a good book or something? Or get DH to give you a gentle massage?

Congratulations Charlie, lovely news!

Treacle I had cramps for weeks too, something that didn't happen with my mc. You could take it as a good sign.

Hang on in there Treacle. We're at the scariest time and it's completely understandable that you're having posifrickintivity wobbles. I brought a comforter for my wee one a few days ago in a moment of normal pregnant lady positivity, but I'm finding myself clutching it like some kind of... well comforter is the best word for it. But we are stronger than we think. Just one day at a time. Xx

Know what you mean treacle. It's the aftermath of mc that we will carry with us forever - we lost a baby, but gained emotional scars. I feel really bitter about it, even now. I envy those who sail through in blissful ignorance (which was me, when I was pg with dd).

cava - do you know exactly when you ovulated? Maybe you're measuring a bit behind because you ovulated later than average or bean took a little longer than most to implant. Thinking of you

Brilliant news charlie

Hi gang
charlie congrats on the great scan news, lovely to hear!
cava just to say that I had an early scan at around 6 weeks (can't remember precisely) and they could see nothing but the sac - i thought 'there we go, that's it..'. Then had another scan literally 2 days later (different doctor) and they found a heartbeat! I really couldn't believe it. So hand in there, things literally change by the hour.
And treacle I really feel for you - I had lots of cramping and was so worried, but all turned out ok. Most likely implantation, stretching, bowels, etc. Even if you were bleeding, it wouldn't necessarily be MC, so keep up the faith! x

Hugs Treacle. It's really really hard and I think it's horrible that I've spent so long assuming the worst case scenario and thinking about how I'll feel / what I'll do when the doom scenario presents itself. My people in rl (apart from dp), even though they know I've had an mmc can't understand why I'm so negative- I think it'll be hard to fully relax until bean is a baby in our arms. But hopefully we can all hang in there and it'll be worth it in the end. xx

That's brilliant, charlie!

Weird pain still here; sort of comes and goes. Not that painful and not like a cramp and I think it's too far over to my hipbone to be an ovary. Plus it's an 'outside' pain, if you see what I mean, so could be a ligament, I guess,

Thank you ladies. Your support means so much.
We're currently at dh's parents and his mom is so excited. She makes me feel positive but I also think "what will happen if I miscarry, she will be so disappointed".
She had 7 miscarriages herself so she understands.

Trying to keep positive. It's just the test worrying me. Symptoms and cramps I can give a reason for but that stupid test. No idea why I did it.

treacle, you know you're being silly about the test, don't you! the line gets darker as it sits, so you can't compare a fresh test to old ones

I do know that, but also that test is still not darker.
I'm just in a silly mood. My hormones are all over the shop!

Which is a good sign!

are they the same brand?

Definitely twilight!
Yeah they are silverine.

Oh treacle, I do feel for you, I was the same, but try not to freak out over it. Even if the same brand, the colour intensity won't necessarily be the same and the one from today may darken overnight. Please try not to read too much into it (and stop looking at them!) As twilight said, hormones all over teh place a good sign. x

Mine didn't get any darker at all treacle & it made me very negative too, I was convinced that along with the lack of sore boobs, or any other symptoms, that this pregnancy was doomed. After about 3 weeks of daily (well more than that) tests, that even though faint, were still coming up pregnant, that I began to trust the tests. Then I turned my worrying to something else.......

commander trying to diagnose what every pain is/could be is tiring isn't it? We could become experts on stomach / leg pain by the time we give birth......

Sorry to hear about your anxieties, Treacle. It is completely understandable and I feel really anxious too if let myself. Am trying really hard to not worry but also not get excited, so basically just not thinking about it much at all. Which in itself is a bad sad as I remember feeling it was all so magical during my first trimester in my first pg, pre-miscarriage.

Hurrah Charlie great news. Treacle I can only echo the other wise words and advise that you step away from the tests - they can't tell you much more and will only cause worry. I've not much room to talk though - I feel as though a good scan
Only buys me approx one week of grace before I'm looking at private clinics again for reassurance!

Is anyone else having problems with their boobs? Mine are so big and heavy now they're hurting my back. I got them measured at 8 weeks as they'd already grown so much and I'd gone up a cup size. I'm now 16 weeks and they are HUGE! How may times am I going to need a new bra size? Who does the best maternity bra kitting device. Did M&S last time, but thinking about trying Mothercare.

Also just one more thing on tests, the concentration of hcg in your urine could have been less today for any number of reasons including you had drunk more. Doesn't mean anything.
Poor DHs mum, 7 must have been awful.

Bra fitting advice, not kitting advice