Another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

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The new thread for mummy-to-be madness, mushiness and mayhem!

Sending big hugs and to sunbathing. I don't know the stats I'm afraid. Maybe the miscarriage association might know if you called their helpline. It's so hard not knowing for certain that all will be fine... and stats whilst they can be reassuring (or terrifying) we still don't know for certain what group we're in. Either way there is definitely a greater probability of this pregnancy ending in a baby than not - no matter what the demon thoughts that insomnia whispers in the middle of the night. xx

Stop I've had intermittent shoulder pain since Wednesday. Strictly it's my shoulder blade rather than my shoulder which from Dr Google sounds like it's something muscular not an ectopic. I've not had any spotting, and only the odd pulling sensation that's barely a cramp. Managed to get a GP appt this morning and would be happy for them to say I'm worrying about nothing.

PS Stop - sorry to hear about the hormonal paranoia. Glad your DP is being understanding. Hope the midwives might be able to point you in the direction of some help at your booking in appt. Maybe till then just try as much as you can to go on what you know in your gut and your heart to be true, rather than what the paranoia is trying to persuade you of.

sunbathing I'm not sure on stats either but to echo others I'm just trying to remain as positive as I can and take each day at a time. Not all that successfully, but still :)

phryn hope docs have been able to put your mind at rest. I had a wobble over ectopic with DD and gp was more than happy to check me over so I hope you're getting the reassurance you need.

tori I know it goes without saying but try and be kind to yourself, if you can't face work they will cope if you need some time away. I have everything crossed for you for Monday.

Insomnia well and truly occurring here too, think I managed 4 hours sleep Wednesday night. I do not cope well with not enough sleep! Sending relaxing thoughts to all that need them.

cuppa OH MY GOD! That sound awful!!! I hope they are long gone now!!!

huge hugs to all those having a wobble today.
first trimester is the pits for this, and sunbathing mmc is the absolute worst for all the reasons that you said. I don't know the stats either; most pubmed articles treat mc and mmc as one and the same, which would suggest stats are similar - v slight increased risk only. I hope you get the reassurance you need soon.

phryn is it just the shoulder pain that concerns you about an ectopic? In which case, this is far more likely to just be muscular/ligamanet. Maybe even a good sign; good old pregnancy relaxin kicking in and exacerbating any muscular niggles. My EP involved severe pelvic pain if this helps to put your mind at rest.

I am starting to feel more settled here. DS has school inset day, so we are off to the cinema in a minute. Might even have a giant milkshake on the way :)
I have spent the morning scrubbing all traces of unwanted guests out of my house, and can now get back to getting well, and getting the house organised for December (if I make it that far!).
After the last couple of weeks, Dh has now joined the panic ranks. However, he is dealing with it by making sure everything absolutely ready for potential preemie baby - so much better than my twitchy, hysterical doom and gloom tack. He has booked me in for a haircut and pedicure tomorrow. So thoughtful, even if it is just a way of making me sit still and stop stressing for a couple of hours!

Sending positive sticky vibes to everyone, and wishing you all a lovely weekend xxx

Hello again everyone, I've not posted much as I think I've been paranoid that this pregnancy won't last, but I'm currently 6+1 so holding in there.

I'm having some issues though - yesterday I went to the loo a lot and halfway through started to feel as if there was something not right (tmi - as if I had a tampon in not quite far enough). That feeling has come and gone - I've been out today and not noticed it, but now I'm back and lying on the sofa I can feel it again.

I called the EPU who have booked me in for a scan on Monday, but of course I'm now going to worry about it over the weekend

Can anyone give me reassurance/words of wisdom?

It's curtains- I think I know exactly what that sensation feels like- I've been getting all sorts of weird sensations 'down there'. Everything from cramps to weird twinges. Hope it's just pregnancy weirdness for you, and good luck with your scan. Fingers x you'll be able to see a HB!

Stop- lol. I like thinking that that part of my personality is in the pub with yours, rather than PERMANENTLY GONE FOREVER. She can stay in the pub and then come back home in 6 months when I no longer have to wonder why the duck is happening in my uterus. Won't it be great to actually SEE them? It'll be like watching a reassurance scan ALL THE TIME.

Cuppa- that sounds hellish. Your DP sounds lovely though

Oh and forgot to say!! Saw 12 week old baby today! Lovely fast heart beat, ok nuchal and is on record as findings: 'alive fetus' HUGE sigh of relief. Feel like I can actually celebrate my bfp. Going to tell sister tonight and have a few lovely sips of prosecco to celebrate!

Bloody hell cuppa, I had a look at your other thread as it came up in active - you have had an awful time. I do hope that you can put all this crap behind you and attempt to enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy.
curtains, needing to go to the loo a lot is a symptom in early pg from my memory, but you could have a UTI or something, which could cause discomfort. For now you have a scan booked at the earliest opportunity, try and relax, drink plenty of water and distract yourself as much as possible with non-pregnancy-related things - can you go see a film or something like that?

Hello ladies. Sorry it's been ages since I last posted but I've been trying to keep myself distracted. Well time has finally passed and I had my nuchal scan yesterday and I can't bloody believe it but there is a healthy, wriggly baby in here!! They've put me forward a couple of days so I'm nearly 14 weeks, well into the 2nd trimester! The nt was 1.4 which I was really pleased as I am old bird at 38. Think I'm ready to join the stats list now eek!

Welcome all newbies, this is a great place, no question too weird!

Baby and Cuppa hope you're both feeling better now. X

Hi all, hoping you're having a lovely weekend.

Good news re scan, suzy and psmith :)

baby I hope you're getting listened to and getting some proper pain relief now

Just a quick question to anyone in 3rd trimester, or DCs already. At which point does one start feeling uncomfortable down below. I feel like something us there, and sometimes feel as though I can feel bulging or pressure, especially if I sit to one side. DS was such a long time ago ( and so vastly different) that I can't remember. I know everything must be in place, the number of times I gave been checked, but I guess that's why I'm paranoid.
Quite nice to gave a pg related question, rather than one stressing about nutters adding to this already pretty vile pregnancy :))

Hi Ladies,

Baby Eleanor arrived safely 2 days early on Mon 6th Oct and I am so happy she's here!! Physical mess and mind melted but baby is well and I am getting there. Arrival date was days off anniversary of miscarriage I had in Oct 2013. I know I am blessed. Hope everyone here can take something good from this and wish you all super sticky pregnancies. Take care of each other :) x

Huge congrats jen on safe arrival of eleanor
Enjoy your cuddles x

Congratulations london!

cuppa saw your other thread earlier and was shocked! Glad it's over for you, hope your ok

baby hope your feeling better

Congrats london :)

I'm getting there in tramadol and string cocodamol for the pain I have a consultants appointment for my kidney in the 21st when hopefully something will get sorted as obviously strong pain relief isn't great for baby in the long term be glad when its sorted though managing much better now though so hopefully back to normal soon :)
Hope everyone else is ok :)

Congratulations Jen! What a lovely name x

It's been an eventful 24 hours for me. Got stuck behind a crash on way to 20 week scan and through we were going to miss it. Made it just in time. All well with baby. We had the same sonographer who did DDs 20 scan 4 years ago. He was lovely and so excited - ooh look an ear, look at that little hand/foot etc. I shed a tear when we saw the heart beating. Went downhill after we got home as I developed a sickness bug and spent the rest of the day and most of this morning in bed. Feeling almost normal now and off on holiday tomorrow.

Jen fantastic news, congratulations!

Cuppa I've just read your other thread, and my god you've been through it! So pleased you have your house back, and I hope you won't have any more stress before the baby arrives.

Baby just glad you have some pain management for now, and really hope the situation improves.

I have been having terrible nightmares about dead babies, and feel exhausted. My 20 week scan is on Tuesday and I'm dreading it. I want to believe everything is OK, but even kicks don't reassure me much at the moment. Daft ha'peth!

ooooh London, congratulations! How lovely! enjoy every minute you deserve it!!

Big fed up I have to wait till Friday for my 20 week scan had it at 19
Weeks with DS this time I'll
Be 20+4. Really really hoping we can find out what flavour our little pip is :) DS wants a baby brother where I am maybe a little bit hoping for a little girl but as long as we have a healthy baby I will be happy :)

tanny I've been having awful nightmares to think it's probably hormones not that it makes them
Any less scary :(

Hi all,

Can I hop on here? I think I may have said hello a while ago but the thread has fallen off my active/watched threads.

to all the names I recognise from the ttc after cm thread

MMC in June and was lucky enough to fall pregnant again 5/6 weeks later so here I am at 12+1. 12 week scan at 8am tomorrow and am terrified. Last time we were at the clinic I was 10 weeks and received the bad news, then went back for the ERPC. I've had two private scans (8 and 10 weeks) and all looked good but I was reassured for about half a day! No reason to think anything is wrong but I had all the right symptoms last time so not all that reassuring.

When does the worry end?! I think I already know the answer ...

Welcome One day! Congratulations, and remember that statistically your chances of mc are less than 2% after HB is seen at 8w. Good luck tomorrow. You're right. The worrying is insane, I'm wondering if it gets better too. I do feel more connected with the pregnancy now tha I've had the 12 w scan. Still just as worried about silly little things, but at least it feels real.

I read your thread too Cuppa- I hope the pedicure and treatment that you were booked has helped you take your mind off it all. It sounded stressful.

Great news about the scan Holly! I imagine it was horrible being stuck in traffic- adds to an already stressful situation!!!!!

Congrats on you LO London! So lovely to her news of thread babies.

I just vomited twice. Bleh. Am 12+2 and this is the first time I've felt real nausea and been sick. I wonder if it's a delayed response now that I know for sure everything is ok after 12 w scan on Friday. The mind is strange.