Another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

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The new thread for mummy-to-be madness, mushiness and mayhem!

amicablemoomin I have never seen limbs. My consultant told me that the baby will change the way they move as they get less space.

liesal79 I am sorry. It sucks. I think one of the problems I had when pregnant with DS is that the diabetic nurse could not always answer my questions in a way that I was satisfied and understood why. I felt like I was guilt tripped rather than spoken to.
You can only do your best. But even then some of it is part of the progression of the pregancy. My medication slowly increased as the pregancy went on, irrespective of maintaining diet and exercise. So just do your best.
I left that hospital and have done things differently now. I see a consultant privately and he explains his reasoning and why he does things the way he does. I prefer it and I know it makes me very lucky. Medical pregnancies suck IMO.

Hi everyone, I think I can graduate to here now although I'm scared to. I had my mc in August and I had another positive test last week, so I'm not quite 5 weeks along. I'm very happy, but absolutely terrified that it's going to go wrong again.

I have bad kidney infection today which is a problem I'm prone to since my first pregnancy (DS almost 2) so today I'm incredibly anxious, I've had to start taking very strong antibiotics and although I told my dr about being pregnant I'm not sure how much they take it into consideration at such an early stage when it is serious (led to sepsis very quickly last time so they're trying to prevent that again).

I'm going to try and read the thread so I can catch up and get to know you all :), I know some of you from the ttc after mc thread already so it's nice to see things progressing well for you all :).

Gosh cuppa definitely time to evict them!

amicable I never saw limbs with DD.

Hurrah blink congratulations and welcome!

Cuppa - Get them out! I would be tearing my hair out!!! My mum has very kindly offered to come and stay with us when baby is born, as she lives in London, I live in Bristol. As I was due on 23rd, we decided she would be here for Christmas. Now as I may be induced, she says she may go home at Christmas. Now Christmas at my mums is my step dad and his brother, drinking to excess, and shouting at the tv before going to sleep - This is no fun. She suggested today we should all go up there. I told her no!!

I said I thought she would want to spend Christmas with her Grandchild! I can't help but feel a little bit put out and annoyed!

I also can't help but think a lot of this is Hormones!!! :)

Welcome Blink!

12 week scan tomorrow=dread.

UTI- have started antibiotics. so many worrying things. I feel like pregnancy and miscarriage has unleashed a version of me I don't recognise. 90% of my brain is taken over with niggling, uNfounded worries. I forgot to take my folic acid tablet the other day and was consumed with agony- that this might be the ONE DAY my baby really needs folic acid. Gah! Where is cool, level hades sarcastic Psmith???? Where is she?????

Can I join the thread please. I found it I was pregnant a few days ago. This will be my fourth pregnancy in 2 years. First pregnancy ended in mc at 6 weeks, 2nd mmc at 8 week scan and my last pregnancy ended at 12 weeks. I have a beautiful 3 year old DD and want more than anything in the world for her to have a little brother or sister. I've just turned 38. Sending my love and support to everyone on this thread.

Welcome lowra congrats on pregnancy! and best wishes for a smooth one. Sorry to hear of past losses x

liesal Xmas plans a nightmare aren't they? My edd by 12 week scan is jan 2nd, but by every scan (4) at EPU, including only 5d before 12 wk scan was between 23-26 dec. my LMP puts it at 10th dec, so anything could happen... However the point was, I have a houseful over Xmas (we alternate all docs and no dcs) reluctant to cancel as we love it, but would appreciate some concrete plans from all concerned so I can get organised (ish), so feeling your pain...
Just hoping that if baby arrives before Xmas, dis parents don't decide to stay too? Does that make me a bad person? They smoke like troopers and refuse to travel without their large, ill mannered dog...

Feeling achy today, but managed a bit of sleep last night for the first time in a while. Guests have agreed to go, so maybe it was relief.
Is anyone else overheating?
DH swears in 9 deg in the house, but I am sweating buckets, and refusing yo allow the heating on... DS hasn't complained, but he tends to overheat anyway, and plays rugby in the snow and ice for fun... Will continue to hold out for the time being...

Sorry to hear about all the antibiotics worries from blink and Psmith, it is horrid but the lesser of two evils.
Psmith, you only really need extra folic acid for the first 12 weeks, so you're fine. You won't use up your internal reserves in a day or two either. Deep breaths.
liesal, let her go and have a quiet time yourselves if that is what she wants - her loss. Tell her no chance you want to go off from home with a tiny newborn - you may not feel like travelling, esp if stitches or CS (not that I am saying either is going to happen), and the baby shouldn't be in a car seat for longer than a couple of hours at a time, so it just isn't worth the misery.
cuppa you must have the patience of a saint; any visitors for longer than a long weekend get on my tits (I admit I am not a very tolerant host - I can't relax properly with guests unless they are very close friends).
Welcome to lowra and other new bfp arrivals. Best wishes for very boring pregnancies.

corpore I'm the same. However usually more tolerant than ATM, for obvious reasons!

Missed the frolic acid post, sorry psmith. I stopped raking it weeks ago, I was told was fine to stop after 14 w, esp if one is eating a balanced diet. Is this not right? I have a (probably irrational) objection to supplements and pills unless strictly necessary, so stopped ASAP and throw spinach or kale into every meal. But panicky now that this us not tight, but MW has never seemed bothered?

I keep forgetting to take my pregnacare. and he seems to be growing just fine! Its funny, I am soo paranoid about everything, yet that I am lax on!

No cuppa, you're right, and I've been googling neural tube closure, it takes place by about 6 weeks, so I think it is partly the vitamin companies wanting to sell us stuff. I am still taking prenatal vitamins daily, but they are ones that I bought from CVS back in May when I was in the US - so they have rather different levels of stuff than ours (they were 100 for about $6). But now down to my last 10 days' worth - just over 3 weeks to EDD. Partly still taking them as my diet was a bit rubbish in my first tri (too many carbs, too few vegetables), but I doubt they are having a significant effect.

Welcome newbies!

cuppa i am glad you visitors are going. i saw your other thread on them....

My midwife recommended folic acid up to 12 weeks then b12 daily after that. She said ditch pregnacare as they are expensive and just buy b12. I am still taking pregnacare (when i remember) as I bought on 3for2 but won't replace. I reckon a healthy duet provides sufficient b12 as it is fou d I meat, cheese, eggs, milk and some cereals are fortified with it.

20 week scam tomorrow. Torn between the dread and looking forward to seeing baby

If you have gestational diabetes then they recommend you keep taking folic acid all the way through.

I have gestational diabetes and no one has told me to keep taking folic acid. I was told by my midwife today I should have been taking asprin all the way through - bit late at 29 weeks, but I will start asap!

Saying that , I am taking pregnacare when I remember! and checking my blood 6 times a day and eating a lot of fruit and veg!!¬ :)

Thanks for the reassurance about neural tubes and folic acid Cuppa and Corp! Good plan about kale, I love it- keep getting worried I haven't washed all the silt off the spinach though. I want the mad monitoring OFF
So many things to google. Hope the visitors have left now Cuppa?

Am a nervous wreck here.
Visitors turned out to be frickin mentalists who broke back in once I had asked them to go, the sat there bold as brass. Won't go into detail! as holly said I gave a whole exhausting other thread whining about that... But basically, Unfortunately (or fortunately) I didn't realise it was them, utterly freaked and called the police. They were removed, as we're the additional keys they had had cut and kept, and I have spent the afternoon in hospital with a sustained tachycardia following a severe panic attack.
Heart rate now normal (ish) or within normal limits anyway, and baby is fine. Very active they said, then showed off his dancing feet to a bunch of med students! So have changed locks, triple and dead locked every door in the house, and am stuffing myself with pizza, in between jumping at every sound from outside.
I have grabbed what remains of the lavender bush to throw in a bath in minute, but think I might be a little beyond that. Feel like the ultimate nut case :/

Sorry about the meeeeeeeeeee post.
Hope all's well for everyone else.
liesal pregnacare contains enough folic for any stage :)

psmith I think the level headed, sarcastic, unflappable me must be down the pub sharing a bottle of wine with you.

This paranoid, insecure, panicky person who seems to have taken over my body certainly isn't someone I recognise or welcome

Cuppa that sounds dreadful. Glad they are out now and really glad you and the baby are okay x

Stop - totally get what you mean. My inner paranoid worry wart seems to have grabbed the reigns. I've nearly convinced myself I'm having an ectopic pregnancy several times over the past few days for the most tenuous of reasons. I'd like my head back.

Ladies over on the June AN thread (where I also post) have nicknamed it "the asylum" - feels very apt!

Good luck dialing down the crazy

So sorry you have had to go through that cuppa. I hope you are managing to relax. Glad to hear the little un is ok. Take care of yourself x

cuppa sorry completely missed your post earlier. That does sound horrendous, how do you know these people if that's not a rude question, are they so called friends?

phryn I suspect all going to plan I will be joining you on the June bus, just not sure on my dates yet especially with scan putting me back a week. I'm going to be on the May/June border again I think if this bean sticks - DD was due June 4th and came May 25th. DP's birthday is also in May, it's an expensive month!

phryn what's set off the ectopic crazy thoughts for you?

I've just become psycho jealous girlfriend and convinced myself DP is cheating on me. We've been together 8.5 years and never ever given it a thought. Pre hormonal madness I trusted him implicitly so no idea where it's come from. He's fully aware and taken it pretty well. Definitely going to mention the crazy at my booking appointment as I struggled hugely after having DD with low self esteem and confidence being through the floor and I truly regret not asking for help.

Hi Sunbathing Cat - I have had 4 miscarriages only one of them was missed. I know its hard, and I hated those first few months, but think positively!! :)