Due June 2004 - new thread 'cos we're rubbish

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June people! we are hopeless! Even the April lot manage to post now & again... (though they are probably on mat. leave by now) Do you realise no one has posted on the old thread for nearly a week?!

Can I join the skint club please? I shouldn't be buying anything new but I can't help myself. We've also put a lot of money into updating our flat as we want to sell soon (well I do anyway - it's a shoebox and in the worse possible nursery/school catchment area but only 15 minutes walk from dh's work) but it's still crap!

Skara - are you living in the Home Counties then? If so how did you choose your area? Are you glad you left London? (BTW there must be a fruit portion in HD ice-cream - or is that just wishful thinking )

I've been ordered to bed early today as dh is running in the Marathon tomorrow and has to be up at 6am. Makes me feel even worse as I'm now working up a sweat walking to the fridge. My friend kindly informed me that my bump had really grown over the past week. Is everyone else shooting rapidly outwards as well?

MG, yes we're in Bucks, moving to the chilly reaches of North Bucks just as soon as our chain sorts itself out. We ended up here by accident really, having come from Scotland via various other bits of England but never London! It is gorgeous here but sooo expensive, hence the move out to get more room and so dh can have an office and work some of the time from home.

Have just eaten the whole tub of ice cream in order to make sure I got my whole portion of strawberries for the day Don't know about shooting rapidly outwards, it's sideways for me - I look like the back end of a bus...

Good luck for your dh Will he be wearing a Mumsnet t-shirt?

Skara (and secur, you must be experienced!?): what do you do to prepare many older children for the new baby? With DS, I said "A baby is coming to live with us" and "This is your baby sister" -- I really tried to make her his baby, too, and emphasise that she was nobody else's baby sister. And I think it worked because they get along so well and he is very protective of her. But we think DD will be very jealous of the baby, and how can I say "This is your baby brother", to both DD and DS? DD will be 2.5yo when baby comes, but in many ways she's still just a baby herself.

I am a bit jealous of you ladies planning holidays... I think we'll just stay home this summer with a few weekends away, maybe.

Actually, we are trying to save up to buy a house so I am resisting (hard!) the urge to buy any more baby stuff or new maternity bras, will spend the money buying prezzies for the older children for when the baby arrives.

I dug into the wardrobe to fish out baby stuff, at last! And even washed all the items with yellow marks (WHERE do they come from? I'm sure the clothes were clean when I packed them away). Yesterday I am so pleased with myself because I found a Baby Bjorn front carrier in a charity shop for only £3.50! It's in mint condition and it's the very same pattern I was thinking to buy on Ebay. I got so excited I bought DS & DD some prezzies in the shop, too. Still feel guilty I paid so little for the BB, though. . Anyway, hospital bag is mostly sorted, just need to throw some clothes for me in there -- oh, and a big box of sanitary towels.

I am doing lots of walking, thank goodness I have the energy for it, although my feet ache at the end of the day -- do you ladies really sweat that much? As big as my bump is, I feel ok. I've been wearing shorts and even a sleeveless top the last 2 days, though, which is wonderful and maybe keeps me cool!?

Ooh! Baby has hiccups this morning. AT least it lets me know where his head is.

Skara - Bucks is where I was born and bred before I went off to university! It's on our list to look at cos there are some really lovely bits and some very good schools but yes it's so bloody expensive. I also have panic pangs about leaving London occasionally cos the town I was born in was full of small-minded people but I change my mind every day.

Yes should have got DH to wear a big mumsnet sticker or something but I don't think he appreciates it as much as me! I'll let him off though cos he's running for cystic fibrosis (our friends' little girl has it sadly) or should that be walking hee hee.

Cavy which part of the country do you live in then? I've got a Bjorn carrier but paid about £42 for it new three years ago for dd1 - ah those days when I was relatively cash rich and could buy lots of stuff new seem a long long time ago now...

And yes I do not exaggerate when I say that I am a real sweaty betty. My body has never agreed with warmer weather for some reason and now of course it's even worse with having an internal boiler being stoked by the babe. You would think with my Mediterranean roots I would love the heat and have great olive skin but somewhere along the line I woz robbed! Oh well, pale is interesting eh.

Cavy, I am resigned to the fact that whatever I do or don't do to prepare no1 and 2 for the arrival of no3, it will work out or won't We did everything by the book with no1 before no2 arrived and yet couldn't leave her alone with him for more than a millisecond and even now (4 and 2) they fight more than any other siblings I know. I think this time no1 is really looking forward to the baby, and she'll be starting preschool full time in September so won't be around as much (sob). No2 really has no idea there's a baby coming, doesn't seem to have awareness of my tummy being bigger than normal, but is more into babies than our first was so I'm hoping it'll all work out ok. Eek, when I think about it I panic.

MG I know just what you mean about small town minds...I am having major frets daily about moving to the even stickier sticks than we're in already! Keep reminding myself that at least there'll be a variety of people out there, whereas our current village (town really but they like to call it a village) is just crammed full of nice middle class SAHMs who channel all their ambition into their offspring and if you haven't enrolled them into every class going you're failing - but that's a rant for another day Hope your dh does ok in this rain, mine was going to run but had to pull out a while ago due to lack of fitness/time to train...

I've reached the stage where I sleep really badly as I wake up every time I turn over. Combine that with ds up with the lark & I am shattered. (Went to bed at 8.30 last night) SO-O-O-O it REALLY ANNOYS me when people say "Oh, you look well, absolutely blooming!" 'cause it then means they don't believe you when you say how terrible you feel...

At least you've been told you are blooming

But I know how you feel, I'm completely shattered most of the time now. I must read that thread on SPD cos I'm wondering if I have a small case of it. My butt hurts and I also have some pain at the top of my legs at the front and slightly in my groin. But I can still open my legs (not for what you're thinking I can assure you!) and some days are worse than others.

Oh well, felt inspired today to buy some maternity sanitary towels and newborn nappies and the new cot is being delivered tomorrow. I'm definitely not getting anymore clothes unless I double in size over the next few weeks, I'll just have to wear my horrible black baggy pants and tops. Oh and stock up on more bloody Gaviscon - yum!

Egads! I've outgrown one of my pairs of maternity jeans. That's not supposed to happen is it??

Cavy love me too! Combats that I was convinced were HUGE 3 months ago and I would never fill had to be removed this afternoon after causing flesh wounds.........

well, I'm sitting here in my second pair of maternity jeans having grown out of the first pair - and this is the second pregnancy that it has happened . I wasn't going to buy anything else new, but I bought a lovely long black linen gypsyish skirt from Next maternity the other day, thinking it'd do for the last few weeks and first few lardy weeks as it'll hopefully be hot and sunny. I bet that means it'll rain all summer now!

... and my belly button is firmly an outie, it never reached this point in my other pregnancies.

Mine's still an innie which I'm quite disappointed about.

Some days the baby seems to do nothing but move and others are relatively quiet - does anyone know if this is normal?

DD is finally going back to nursery after a 4.5 week break. I've so be looking forward to this I'm afraid but I'm thinking the few hours she goes over the next few weeks will be my last spent alone for the next few years probably.

Must try not to spend all of the time on MN...

Hi all glad to hear everyone seems well!!. my bellybuton is still an inny. I have been experiencing pain in my minnie, over the last few days, I am at the hospital tommorrow so i will mention it then maybe it is a foot!! Oh joy. DH is coming home on leave in 3 weeks can't wait to see him again.

Life at the moment is horrible my mam has just informed me last week that her and her partner are splitting up (after 15 years), I feel like crap about it and as DD and I are living with them at the moment it means that we are in th emiddle of it all. I told mams ex that when they go there seperate ways I want to stay in contact and he was gratefull for that then he started to cry so I did too. My dad is also splitting up from his girlfriend of four years. I feel like a little girl again at the moment but i am trying to be strong for all parties invovlved including DD who doesn't quite understand why she has moved intomy mams room with her for the time being. i just wish I could wave a magic wand and everything be OK but hey such is life.

Sorry all I seem to do is moan what a whinging b**ch I am. I am trying to cocentrate on the baby coming hoping that omce he has arrived I will be to busy concentrating on him and DD to let anything else affect me.

Well all take care I will let you all know how I get on at the hospital, I thinkg babs is still breech has been for last 10wks!! Doesn't seem to turn at all!!!

Take care all

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Hello Again,

Nice to know that I am not the only lardy around who is popping out of their trousers. Bought some trackies from H & M yesterday but have made a fatal flaw - they are 3/4 length and of course my ankles are looking sooo attractive! Well that is not strictly true, I have no ankles my legs are the same width from the knees down. If only they were the same width from the knee up too but my thighs and butt are huge and there is currently no need to press the skin to get that nice orange peel effect. I doubt if I will ever be able to convince DH to come back from the spare bed.

DD back at Nursery yesterday which was a bonus (only 2.5 week break thou not 4.5 which must have been a killer). Waiting on my mum visiting today and then Uni tonight.

DH due back from London later tonight too. I have really missed him the last few days and it made me thnk of you Karen and how hard it must be. Sorry that you now have more stress to deal with too - have you tried reflexolog or any alternative therapies to help you relax a bit?

Right I am off for a wee rest. Take care all.

Hi all,

Karen you poor thing, sounds awful. I know there's not much you can do really but hopefully it's not really stressing you out too much as you have enough on your plate. It's a small consolation but maybe when the baby's born it will help bring everyone together for a while and bring some happiness. Good luck at the hospital today - keep us updated.

Secur, how was your holiday?? I want to do something this year because we haven't really had a holiday for years apart from a few days here and there, and after dd1 was born I was a bit of a vegetable for several months as it was such a shock to my system. But don't worry I'm sure we won't go too far and it will certainly be cheap!

Gomez - I haven't got much to boast about but have got to say my ankles haven't swelled yet (just everything else). Still a bit of air to yours might help! I can tell you I fairly skipped from that nursery yesterday but I wasn't the only mum doing that - if I wasn't pregnant I would have been tempted to have a few drinks to celebrate! But that sounds awful, I do adore dd and she has been so sweet today. She told me she didn't want to be happy she wanted me to be happy instead.

So, I'd better go cook her lunch now and then take her to nursery. I'll be no doubt lurking this afternoon instead of doing the million and one things I should be doing. Ok will stop babbling now.

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Hi all thanks for your messages. Scan went really well today. baby is head down (yeah) heres hoping he stays that way. his estimated weight is 1.716kg just under 4lb. So very pleased the final decision on type of delivery will be made at my 36wk scan. I am going to start doing a birth plan soon though to cover both types of deliveries so I get what I want!!!! Hopefully.

I am trying not to get to stressed and take everything in my stride. Had more bad news today as my dad collapsed at work on Tuesday (second collapse in 3 days)( he is a PC) and spent 24hrs in the ICU Coranory Care unit wired up, they have ruled out heart problems but he needs to have an MMR soon on his brain to see why he keeps collapsing. I think I have just gone into auto pilot inorder not to get too stressed or upset about anything.

3wks till DH comes home and can't wait to have big hugs etc!!!

Hopefully I will start to post more positivley soon. Again I am sorry to go on but it is easier to type out than talk to people to get it off my chest, Speaking of which if my boobs carry on growing I will be able to float to cyprus with both DD and DB sitting on me.
Take care all

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Thanks secur, your words mean alot to me.

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Karen (((hugs))) what a rubbish time you're having, but thank god your dad is ok! Also feeling v humble now as I have been here alone with dh on the other side of the world for the last 6 nights (back tomorrow morning) and looking after no1 and 2 alone and feeling v sorry for myself - and there's you going through all that with your dh still in Cyprus Have given myself a stern talking to and will be supermummy till tomorrow when he returns!

My ankles are tragic - the long skirt I bought hides them reasonably well (she said, realising she is deluded and they look awful) but I know that my feet will start swelling too and then I'll look really hideous. I have a scan next week to confirm the placenta has moved (mw says she can hear it has ) so am hoping for size estimate - huge, no doubt - and confirmation of sex cos I just can't think of a name!

God I'm so sorry Karen about your dad - I'll keep all my fingers and toes crossed for him and you. And stop bloody apologising for letting some steam off here - for a start that's what it's for and which of us is innocent of that anyway said the moany old pregnant, hormonal, hot, sweaty, fat self-pitying git typing here!

But great news about the babe - keep that back straight now (said she slumping back into a squidgy sofa)

xx

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