Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

amicable the thing is that as soon as they hand you your baby it all goes away :) I actually say there after DS and asked what the woman in the next room
Was making so much fuss about lol admittedly I had been a huge wuss but still managed on gas and air no epidural main coz of not having enough time.

I didnt write a birth plan with DS either I spent along time talking to my mum about it and decided that I wouldnt bother I'd just go with the flow and take it as it comes it worked for me :) if you don't over think it your less likely to worry just see what happens and try and enjoy it :)

baby edd is 3rd March on dates. 8 week scan had me at 8+1 when I was 8+2 by date so suspect it'll move. Spookily DDs edd was 4th March (not that she paid any attention to that!!!)

amicable you have the right attitude. To me labour(and i regard in this) is a means to an end. It has to happen and it is worth it in the end. I was in labour for 14 hours being violently sick for most of this time. I pushed for 2 hours ended up with epistomy and ventouse. It was far from the most fun I have ever had but completely worth it. I completely understand fear of the unknown though. I do feel more prepared this time (if I get there)

Wow hollyben my edd from epu scans is March 4th lol :)

I must be the strangest person ever because for me labour is the best bit of pregnancy because it means it's almost over lol I was induced at 38 weeks with DS because my waters broke and DS decided he was comfy where he was the only horrid bit I really remember was them putting a head clip on DS and I could have sworn she used 2 hands although my mum and DH assure me it A: didn't take as long as I thought it did and B: she didn't use 2 hands. As long as you go into it with the right attitude and are happy to somewhat go with the flow it'll be fine :) my mum went through 53 hours of labour with me and still had 3 more kids so it can't be to awful :)

think you are totally right ladies, I'm not planning on bothering with a birth plan, I just don't know what the pain will be like and I want what is best for the baby and what is best for me and I'm very comfortable with the medical care I have received to date so I am just going to go with the flow and see what happens! All my friends who are mums agree with you that you block out a lot of it -and like you say, it is a means to an end and a sign that your baby is here. My DH is brilliant and I am also hoping to have my mum with me (4 babies!) so I have a lot of personal support as well. I've waited long enough to meet him/her, this pregnancy can't go fast enough.

Can't believe that Squiz, Alb and MrsG are gearing up for meeting their babies now, august and September seemed a long time away when I joined this thread, and now we are all creeping up the stats list.

good luck holly, I rememebr mine last week I was scared stiff for 2 days before hand assumed the worst but it was fab, took extra longer as bumblebee wouldn't stop moving about (I didn't complain at all at the extra time seeing him) my dates from the 7 weeks early scan at epu made me 12+2 at my 12 week scan but the sizes put me at 12+6 which not being funny I know are impossible but hey ho, due date is 20.2.15 which I think (from memory) puts me right to my dates. DS1's birthday however is 23rd Feb as he was 10 days early so hoping this one is more like ds2 and goes 5 days or so over.

MrsG, get sitting on that ball rotating your hips it helps, especially doing a jigsaw!

amicable - you could always do a rough one, DS1 I was determined and didn't get anything I wanted at all, likewise it wasn't fully explained epidural = bed ridden = not for me with Ds2. DS2 I was determined to have a voice so when the midwife came closer to try and move me I was a little emotional with her. ended up squatting on the floor (v dignified) scratching hub's arm to buggery. but honestly you do soon forget. (until the second time and you have the dull ache and if floods back along with the newborn smell which is so lovely.) again with DS2 I was up and about within an hour to have a shower bit jelly legs from adrenalin but on the whole shuffling about, even jokes with the doctors about him asking for my number (long story) so it's really not that bad; yes there's horror storys, but for every one awful there's one good, just depends on your own body really. Just remember to listen to what your body's telling you to do and go with the flow. I know it's scarey but honestly doing that second time was so much more positive than the fear and anxiousness from ds1.

baby I can't believe you actually say labour is the best bit of pregnancy! I didn't like my labour as it was very long (3 days). But I think like many I have forgotten a lot of it. I'm hoping for a much quicker labour this time. But you can't control what you'll get, can you?

Actually prengnacy is shite too isn't it? I'm getting so uncomfortable and I'm only 35 weeks. I don't think my due date can come fast enough and have baby in arms.

mrsg I guess you are bouncing on your gym ball, having hot curries and drinking raspberry leaf tea? There's sex too if you actually feel up for it.

one it honestly was for me with DS I had an awful pregnancy spent most of it either drugged up on painkillers at home or drugged up on painkillers in hospital constantly worried that they were going to hurt DS thankfully they didn't but pregnancy for me is awful so being in labour was the best bit for me because it was almost over and I could get better myself :) I did say I was odd lol. I don't like pregnancy what keeps me going is the end result :) it's different for everyone though and maybe this pregnancy will change my mind lol

I have been bouncing on that damn birth ball since 36 weeks and still no signs for me, my hope is that as soon as my body is ready bouncing on it will just encourage things along, rather than my body takin an extra day or two because I'm relaxing on the sofa. Iv also tried many curries (I don't even like curry) lots of walking and raspberry leaf tea discusting as it is but he's just not ready to come yet! Want to try dtd but as the babies engaged I need a wee 100% of the time so the idea of it makes me nervous incase of accidents or somethin (sorry TMI, I havnt had any accidents, I just feel so big and clumsy!)

I'm not remotely afraid for the labour, I was nervous incase of complications so iv opted to give birth on labour ward instead of the birth center (I assume this is rare by the midwifes reaction) and since that got confirmed I havnt been nervous at all, which is wierd cos pre pregnancy it terrified me! I realise the fear will proly kick in as soon as I get a proper contraction, but currently I'm holding onto my lack of fear, my birth plan just states I don't want pethadine (my mum was allergic when in labour with me so I just don't want to risk it as it caused us some problems) and that everything else il just decide at the time. I'm generally a massive wimp with pain but currently every time I get a slightly stronger pain I get excited maybe this pregnancy has actually made me crazy

one toddler I've got my gym ball blown up ready to bounce on from tomorrow, and am going for a Mexican before Lee Evans tonight so there's the spice :-) DH won't have sex when pregnant so may have to get him really drunk lol x

haha, good luck mrsg, enjoy your evening!

Anyone else on mobile notice the design just changed

Any way mrsg enjoy yourself tonight

Yes, baby, think this will take some getting used to . Why mess with it?

Urg, I hate the new look website! :( I'm so stuck in my ways

How's everyone doing today? Just to add my opinion into the mix, my dd birth was an induction and was v painful, opted for an epidural in the end but overall I'd say it was okay but I too would go through a million times worse/longer labour to get a baby. It really really is worth it and when you're in labour you just deal with it because you have no choice :) like most things the idea is always far worse than the doing so try not to panic. I view it as a few days max out of your life but you get the best gift at the end of it xxx

Can't scroll back as on my phone but thank you to whoever said my butt pain might be sciatica, it's been fine today so I'm hoping it's nothing :) right I'm going to go eat my dinner and collapse into bed, how the hell is it not Friday today!? X

Yea not sure about the new look but I guess we are stuck with it lol

I get the new look on my phone. But not on the PC or ipad yet. The phone version is very buggy.

Its a bit of a pain in the ass

Loading up on water in preparation for scan at 910. Keep telling myself we have only got this far once before with DD. It's not really helping. How I envy anyone who hasn't been through this and goes for scans excited

Good luck holly I know exactly the scan dread feeling but I'm sending you lots of positive thoughts x already dreading 20 wk scan in just over a week so the madness continues.

Anyone else got awful hip pain? I had it with dd but much much later on, after 30 wks, am only 18+3 now and having a really bad time trying to sleep as they're so painful. I've tried all the usual remedies like warm bath, all sorts of pillow arrangements etc but nothing much helping. Any magic tips? Sooooo tired and dd is bouncing off the walls so I'll have to drag myself out the house somehow.

Hello everyone, I've been away for a while as DD has taken a rather large step back in the sleeping in her own bed, not being very nice in the day department since she found out about the baby. The refrain 'Mummy, will you play with me' is following me around the house. Only to be topped by the night time one of 'I think I need a snuggle' at 2.30am and thereafter!

Will read back now. Hope all is well x

Good luck holly :) I'm sure everything will be okay :)
g&t sorry you're having a bit if trouble with your dd hopefully she'll adjust soon and you get some good nights sleep :)
cake no advise for pain management I'm afraid but if you've had it before I'd get on the phone to your midwife so they can get a physio referral sorted for you in case there are long waiting times in your area x

Hello all!

Can I join you please? I've been lurking for absolutely ages but have been too chicken to post until today!

I'm 12 weeks today and it couldn't come soon enough! I've known since I was 4 weeks and these last 8 weeks have dragged horribly! I have my scan tomorrow and am getting really nervous.

My background - DD 6yo, MMC February 2012 at 13 weeks, MMC February 2013 at 15 weeks and MC July 2013.

Apologies in advance for my mushy brain too...someone said up thread that they envy those ladies that have pre-scan excitement. Me too. I was thinking back to when I had my DD and how I had none of the fears and panics I have now and how lovely my pregnancy was (after the sickness and yukkiness had passed).

My midwife has already told me that they'll probably consider me high risk due to my history and my age (39yo). I'm hoping for good news tomorrow!

Hopefully I'll still be able to part of this group after tomorrow's scan!

Can I join... Mmc at 16 weeks last year, over a year to get pregnant
Only got my positive Friday and I've been spotting already.
Epu were scanning me at 6 weeks anyway because of last time so that's next week.
I'm terrified I daren't even think about a happy ending. I figured if I don't get my hopes up hopefully if its bad news it won't absolutely kill me like it did last time !
Someone slap me please

Welcome newbies! You are in the right place here. Everyone is lovely and supportive. Feel free to rant or air your concerns. There will be at least one of us who have already been there, said/done that.

Back from 12 week scan and happy to report all is well Little bubba measuring 12+3 who was stretching and moving and had a lovely strongheartbeat. Also nuchal fold measurement was 1.3 which is great. I am still a bit worried due to me being ancient but far better after today. Due date is now 2nd March. I will try and dig out the laptop tonight and add myself to the stats

Hi everyone,

back from a week in the hot stuff, and already fed up of gearing DH has icicles in his beard! FFS, get a grip if that's your greatest concern (dead sympathetic, me ;-) )
I have just spent an hour catching up on everyones news.

Good luck mrsg as you head into the drop zone x

silverine, I know I'm about a week too late, but sending hugs. I had similar decisions at 18w (bloods at 16w as no NT done in Wales unless one pays to go private), and its truly horrible. I seriously cannot believe that they decided not to do the bloods, as even if this makes you high risk, it gives you numbers to work with; to me, there is a world of difference between a 1 in 4 and a 1 in 150 (both regarded as high enough to offer CVS/amnio). I declined amnio, and decided that the 2 week wait to potentially have the same decision was too much this late on. Best wishes and hugs whichever you decide, and good luck with the harmony if that is what you go for xx

reading the 'scary birth stories' discussion, feel lucky to have missed this thread! With my last birth, whilst problematic and potentially the cause for all the MCs since, I felt that ultimately the job of the doctors that day was to deliver a live healthy baby, which they did. End of story as far as I was concerned, no matter what the issues afterwards. I would never consider swapping a poorly DS for an easier birth...

On this subject, I wondered what anyone out there thinks about doulas, hypnobirthing etc. I am very keen to be able to put my voice across this time, and while I think that thinking about it now may jinx things, I am aware that many things need booking up and organising. Helpful hint please, ladies. I am very keen for a minimal intervention VBAC, and don't want to be ignored again.

Tomorrow, I am back to foetal medicine for another detailed scan, the purpose of which is to check up on the inter hemispheric cyst, and to check again for any DS soft markers. I will be again offered an amnio, but am firmly on the no camp. I don't think that baby cup could be relied upon to keep still or out of the way of the needle anyway! LOL. I the brain cyst is still present, I will be referred for a foetal MRI to better assess if it is likely to cause a problem. Excited at another look at LO, but beginning to panic all over again at the same time...

Sorry for the mega post, and hugs to all x