Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

Glad all is good mrsg :)

squiz I love ikea think the only problem is my bank balance never enjoys a trip there is a bit like toys r us for me I can't go in with out spending way more than I should lol :) enjoy your trip :)

Hooray mrs G! So glad you went in! Glad you're feeling alright, and glad you were welcomed by the nurse. You must be so relieved.

Lol Squiz. IKEA is a consumer hell trauma not being heavily pregnant- do tell us how it goes when you're back.

No updates here, just going around in circles. Like last two pregnancies have very few symptoms (Squiz, I remember what you said last time about maybe being a lucky one and hcg for molars being much higher and maybe my body doesn't respond to preg hormones) so have to hold my breath and wait for the 8 week scan I've been promised. I've got a back ache, sore boobs and general weirdness feeling.:)

Thank for the messages :-)

squizita is do ikea online now, each time me and DH go there we have arguments so bad it could lead to divorce lol x

mrsg so glad to hear it's all ok with you. And the midwife you had sounded lovely.

squizita I actually really like ikea! Their nursery stuff is brilliant and oh so cheap. We have their Stuva wardrobes, the trofast toy boxes. Later we have the ikea toy kitchen, the cutlery, bowls and plates for weaning. And ofc the famous antilop high chair. I also have got my new fitted sheets for the cot there this time round. I bought them from mothercare last time because I don't know any better! Our local ikea isn't very busy even on Sundays. Only problem is going with DD since she loves the model rooms so much. She wanted to sit on very chair, lie on every chair. She thinks it's a giant playground.

mrsg, we argue everytime an ikea visit looms too!!! May have to brave it though, stuff sounds good one

psmith the early weeks are the pits. sounds like you have some symptoms brewing though which is always reassuring. Hope the time flies till 8 weeks.

squiz I went to ikea a few days ago for the same reason, I love ikea but it did get tiresome being so big in there! DP hates it so much even now he wouldn't come in with me haha! I have to leave him in the car with a coffee and a book and he jus loads my purchases into the car for me, saves the arguments I guess!

Yeah got loads of stuff! Glad I went 10 am Sunday- hardly a wait at the checkout. One of the items even has an hilarious ikea rude name: sone kid's storage boxes called "Pisslinger" lol!
They have some really good storage also some bargainsort like baths for £6, play blankets with animals for tummy time etc.

Ooh don tikes, I go in for nothing and come out £100 lighter! Last time it was a curtain pole we went in for, I'm sure it's just the fact we get to wander around for a blissful hour while the boys are in the play bit why more is spent , I bought a plate set last time we don't even need them FFs!

Glad all is ok with everyone, nothing going on here just me sobbing watching Noah pretending not to be, and lots of lovely sore boob pains they've grown two ft I swear!

Morning all, how is everyone today?

I couldn't agree more about ikea - love their stuff but it's been the scene of some of my worst arguments with dh! Does something to people's brains I think!

So 18 wks today here and this is week 3 of no fresh bleeds, so you'd think I'd be feeling alot more positive but no I'm still managing to be totally stressed about the thought of my 20 wk scan in a couple of weeks. Fish slaps please!

Sounds like what we need in the UK is manland. There's a ikea in Sydney with it

newsfeed.time.com/2011/09/22/australian-ikea-store-introduces-manland-a-daycare-for-husbands/

It's temporary and a gimmick but I think it's a brilliant idea!

YY to Ikea being a source of trouble - but sadly I need DH for lifting duties, plus sharing of DD marshalling (she likes to try and get into all the display beds in the children's ikea bit). Last time we went on a sunny day in the hope that others would be out enjoying the sunshine, whilst we took advantage of the aircon.
Another sh*t weekend here - I managed to reverse the car into another one on Friday in a rainy, super-busy car park. Virtually no damage to our barge, but enough to the littler, double-parked, older car I hit to be an economic write-off. Me in tears, huge argument with DH etc. So a very expensive mistake. We both calmed down pretty fast, but it was horrible for DD to see DH so angry. So upset with myself for doing something so stupid.
Also had to work yesterday so am no good to anyone this morning, and have done nothing re baby prep over weekend, so all in all feeling a bit under par. That said, have been feeling lots of movement at top of bump, and there is a hard bit down by my pelvic bone, so am almost wondering if baby has managed to get itself heads-down (although am not going to get any hopes up about this as in some respects a nice calm ELCS really appeals vs. the chaos potential of VBAC).
Hope all are feeling well, and that all the babies are behaving themselves.

cake great news on the lack of bleeds, il send small fish slaps but after the time uv had with worrying your bound to still be stressed, don't be too hard on yourself!

corpore I also damaged my car last week, luckily on a big concrete pillar ( well 2 actually, in 2 seperate incidents, in the same half an hour) and not someone else's car but I was soooo stressed about it! Has anyone else found that their driving ability decreases with advancing pregnancy? I only passed my driving test at about 32 weeks but iv found recently due to my baby brain I can't concentrate driving and my driving ability has got terrible! DP doesn't want me driving anymore unless absolutely necessary until after the baby's born now, I'm just hoping it is actually baby brain and I'm not just gona be a terrible driver forever!

Alb I have found reversing etc hard as I cannot twist/turn with ease. Luckily my car is old enough that scuffing the alloys or bumping a post when parking lightly aren't end of the world. Not had a prang touch wood but am now v choosy re parking spaces!

It must be pregnancy brain and driving. I scratched the back left passenger car door really badly when turning out of a carpark. I bumped into the banister next to the car. It made me feel really really bad because 1) the car was parked backed in, ie I was driving forward out of the carpark 2) I was the one who backed into the carpark in the first place. At least you were reversing and it was rainy corpore. I felt so so embarrassed about mine. It was back in April and I was about 4 months.

alb if you passed the test at 32 weeks then you must be a very new driver? I have a license for 20 years and have barely ever scratched my car. This was actually my first insurance claim. It is the pregnancy so don't worry you won't be a terrible driver forever.

Been driving for about 2 years with my partner but driving alone since recently passing the test has been very different I have to say! Iv also found this last 2 weeks the road rage has been insane, been mouthing off to myself about other drivers left right and center and then afterwards thinking what is my problem?? Needless to say I'm taking DPs advice and avoiding driving were possible

oh god, with DS1 i was banned from driving by xh at 6 months and hubs has already stated my spacial awareness is shocking so he's now reluctant to let me drive with teh children in the car. (was the same with DS2 however as he was sailing around the med at the time I didn't have anuy choice lol) roll on december when I start maternity leave; nice and early at 30+ weeks, 6 weeks holidays and then actual maternity from feb 1st for a whole year or at least until january 3rd 2016. lovely. that's if I actually return still ahvingt eh dilema, three children one lot of child care though but do i really want to have the stress will be a director within three to four years though lgood beenfits then plus stability but this is the last one. only tiny for a short time. hmm. we could afford for me not to work. dilemas.

alb, the worst bit was that I had mouthed off at someone else not 5mins before it happened because they drove over the pavement and then straight at me. So felt like such a fool to almost immediately demonstrate that I, too, was not fit to be in charge of a motorised vehicle. Was definitely a more haste less speed incident.
I feel slightly better that I am not the only one - as squiz said, I think it was twisting from side to side to keep an eye on both wing mirrors that was not what it should have been. Considering that I keep misjudging even walking through gaps it is no surprise that my spatial awareness/ risk perception is a bit crap.
Could have been so much worse - DD was in the car, luckily she was completely nonplussed by the whole thing. And because the other car was worth less than the loss to us (excess and imminent policy renewal with full no claims), I've just thrown money at the other party vs. going through the insurer (luckily I had a savings account which could take the brunt) so the major issue is my ego. I passed my test aeons ago but until moving to our current home had lived in cities and not had a car, so had been lazy about driving. Had really only really been behind the wheel properly for the last few months. But drove out into the countryside with DD, DH, MIL and SIL in the car on Sat (no pressure there), so think the worst bit (getting back behind the wheel) is over.

I just injured myself on my car. My PARKED bloody car. Barked my shin cause there was too little room to squeeze my fat self in when parked in a car park with narrow bays. Swore and terrified a handsome young man, who obviously thought I was a dangerous loony.

So glad to hear that it is not just me that has some serious spaced out driving going on!!!

I don't drive but I shut my hand in the boot when packing the car after shopping. So it's not only drivers who are having incidents with cars ;-)

squiz, I am scared of car parks with columns and/or narrow bays, particularly given that I can no longer judge spaces in my own house (I keep knocking the bump on door handles because I've misjudged how wide the door needs to be open for me to get through). Hope it isn't too sore.

Oh no! You're all freaking me out with these driving stories :) I only passed in march so not the most confident driver at the best of times, good job my cars an old heap (though I do love it)

mrsg glad all's well with the baby :) and I'm glad the midwives and nurses were nice to you
cake my bleeding seemed to finally stop at 17-18 weeks but I too felt shit scared in the lead up to the 20 week scan, you will get there, all will be well and I hope your fear/doom lifts enough to enjoy the last 20 weeks x

I'm forcing myself to think positive and got a couple of little things on the weekend for the baby, I'm feeling excited for real now, just hope it continues.
Out of interest, anybody had/having spd problems? Thought I'd pulled something in my left butt cheek but now I'm worried it's going to turn into spd, need some reassurance, seems I need something to obsess/panic over

Thanks alb and tea x

A for driving, yep I know exactly what you mean - but I also think I may have been even worse after I had dd! A combo of tiredness and anxiety about tiny bundle in the car made me into some sort of old lady driver!