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Do scans have the fathers name on?

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shellmont · 11/07/2014 22:22

Hi, hope someone can help, my sons x girlfriend has turned up with a scan of 9 week twins and printed on the scan in the left hand corner just under sex unknown it says fathers name and has his name on.
I do not think its real and wondered if there is anyone out there who has had a scan at The University Hospital north staffs and if they can tell me if the hospital put the fathers name on scans.

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DrewsWife · 12/07/2014 09:05

I had a scan three weeks ago. I'm now 17 weeks. I also had a scan at 7 weeks due to pains. The only time a midwife asked for hubbies details was for the front page of my mat notes with his contact number. Incase they needed to contact him. (I assume if I am taken in with him still at work).

My scan has my hospital number along the top and my name. But not my title. And also my age. There are measurements down the side but in mm not inches. At no point does it give a weight or an estimation on either scan photo.

Your son now needs to report to the police. If it is as bad as he says it is and she is clearly escalating they must be informed.

Iquitelikeapples · 12/07/2014 09:10

In terms of her career, I have no knowledge of the GNMC but am involved in conduct cases in my own area. If she needs help/support we would support her in that rather than just end her career.
I'm concerned that if she thinks this is acceptable behaviour what else is she up to?

iklboo · 12/07/2014 09:16

You may need to contact the NMC. They take health concerns seriously, especially if you can back up your complaint and will offer her support & assistance at this stage. It'd only be if she did something really serious or harmful that they'd be likely to take action on her registration.

Trazzletoes · 12/07/2014 09:19

Tbh it isn't (and shouldn't be) your family's concern about any potential impact on her career. She is behaving in this way. It's unacceptable to the point of being criminal.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 12/07/2014 09:21

I think what is most horrible is the distress she is planning on causing your ds.

The plan has to go "get him back because he thinks I'm pregnant, but I'm not, so follow it up with fake miscarriage".

The hurt and pain that would cause if your ds believed it could be awful. How could anyone plan to do that to someone they profess to care for.

WandaDoff · 12/07/2014 09:24

Call 101 & explain about the scan.
Definitely better to get all this on record I think.
Who knows what she'll escalate to next.

MrsMaturin · 12/07/2014 09:33

This is shocking. I hope you do contact the police OP.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 12/07/2014 09:36

Scans dont have the sex of the baby on either so.wouldnt have sex: unknown on. He doesnt have to ask if she had her scan just explain that he has been presented with a scan from a patient and is undr the impression it is bogus as it has his name on - is this standard?

headlesslambrini · 12/07/2014 09:37

I agree, log it with the Police and contact her mum. I dont think i would contact her work unless something else happened.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 12/07/2014 09:40

I do think you need to phone 101. I'm a nurse and her behaviour is worrying.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 12/07/2014 09:41

Oops I should have RTFT!

She sounds unhinged. Please call 101 today and have an officer come out so you can report her.

Anotheronesoon · 12/07/2014 09:49

Agree - contact police!
Off topic pobblewhohadnotoes- great name- love the poem!

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/07/2014 09:55

You do need to contact the police, and her place of work.

If she's unstable enough to fake medical documents, the hospital is a very dangerous place for her to be working. Access to medications, documents, other people's pregnancy notes, and that's just off the top of my head.

Your poor son.

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/07/2014 09:56

I work in healthcare, and I would want to know about a member of staff faking medical scans. It is a disciplinary matter at the very least.

ZenNudist · 12/07/2014 10:03

I can't see the police taking this seriously.

Watch & wait?

Deverethemuzzler · 12/07/2014 10:05

I think the OP's son, rather than the OP, needs to contact the police.

mumatron · 12/07/2014 10:16

I have a friend going through similar with her son. His ex faked a pg and subsequent miscarriage. He felt so much guilt he went back to her. After another argument she has now falsely accused him of hitting her. He has spent time in a police cell and now faces a court case.

This situation will only escalate. You need to do something to stop it now.

Trazzletoes · 12/07/2014 10:40

Zen but she's also harassing him constantly and waiting around outside his house. Why wouldn't they take it seriously? At the bare minimum by having a quiet word with her.

Optimist1 · 12/07/2014 11:07

Women have been faking pregnancies to win back their men since time immemorial, but the way that technology has enabled this sort of duplicity is horrendous. I don't live a sheltered life, but I'm really shocked that such a website should exist. Thanks to Soon for enlightening me - I'm sure OP is so relieved to find her suspicions are justified.

SoonToBeSix · 12/07/2014 11:59

Thanks scotch , sorry I was just tired and worried my wording of "take a look" implied I was somehow advertising the site. I agree it is disgusting.

SoonToBeSix · 12/07/2014 12:04

Shellmot you are a lovely person to suggest she needs help , I think I would just be fuming myself. You are right she needs help, very worrying that she is a nurse herself.

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Bangonthedoor · 12/07/2014 18:35

Just caught up with all the posts and im completely shocked OP. Poor you and poor DS.

She must not get away with any of this, the harassment, faking a pregnancy and possibly taking advantage of her professional position.

If this was left, do you think she'd learn? I don't. OP, your DS needs to call the police and let them do the rest. You need to have all of this down on police records. Thats what the police are there for. Good luck xx

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shellmont · 12/07/2014 18:46

Thank you all for your help and advice. I phoned the girls mum this afternoon and she was not surprised apparently she did the same thing about 12 months ago to another lad. She said she would speak to her daughter but she did not sound convinced that she would stop stalking him.
I told her if she continued my son would go to the police. I told her he did not want to inform the hospital but he would if she does not back off.
The mother sounded depressed she was calm I got the impression she was thinking oh no not again!
I said maybe her daughter needed help and suggested she talked to someone at work or went to the doctor and she agreed with me.
I don't think the poor girl will get much support or help from her mum and I don't know if my phone call will make it worse,only time will tell.

I feel sorry for her and don't want her to lose her job or get into trouble but that is all up to her now.
Thanks again I will keep the post updated.

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Bangonthedoor · 12/07/2014 18:51

Good to see an update OP. Even more shocking that this woman has done this before. I understand you don't want her getting into trouble and want her to get the help that she needs. But at the same time, she's not silly, she's planned this AND she's done it before. Plus she's got a credible job which she would have had to train hard for. She's an adult with a brain and needs to be stopped before the next poor bloke gets the same treatment.

Big hugs to you and your DS Thanks I really hope she backs off