Do scans have the fathers name on?

[shellmont]

Hi, hope someone can help, my sons x girlfriend has turned up with a scan of 9 week twins and printed on the scan in the left hand corner just under sex unknown it says fathers name and has his name on.
I do not think its real and wondered if there is anyone out there who has had a scan at The University Hospital north staffs and if they can tell me if the hospital put the fathers name on scans.

[MostWicked]

Oh my word, how incredibly stressful this must be for you all!
I cannot believe that the Police are not taking this more seriously. A letter of complaint to the hospital is definitely needed, I don't know that it matters if it comes from you or your son, the complaint is still valid.
I hope you get some progress soon.

[GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt]

In my experience that the police can be like this, we had death threats and persistent harassment from someone we met in a pub once. The police gave them several "harassment warnings" and they'd be sending threatening messages as soon as the door was closed! This was a man harassing a woman and it wasn't taken seriously at all.

They shouldn't be giving her 3 warnings, the procedure is supposed to be one warning, then an arrest if a violation is made. Your son needs to speak to the police again and point this out.

[ForTheLoveOfSocks]

I've had both my DD's at the North Staffs and loads of scans. Not one scan had my DH's name, only mine.

I do think you need to keep pushing this. Make sure you take full details of everyone you speak to, even call centre staff have unique 'collar' numbers just as officers do.

[AlpacaYourThings]

Oh this is just awful, OP. Your poor DS, it must be horrible for him.

I can't believe how complacent the police are being.

This girl clearly needs help.

[Excitedforxmas]

Just awful. I've heard a similar story where the fake pregnancy became a fake baby.

[FrontForward]

OP. The hospital need a written complaint and it needs to be objective and detailed listing dates and actions rather than any assumptions.

The fact that she is a nurse accessing medical records and patient details let alone actual patients is a serious concern. Make sure you mention police involvement.

Regarding the police inaction I would also probably start keeping a record of all your contact with police. This might all seem time consuming but unless you do both ex and police will deny any of this and you won't have any evidence. Just saying 'there were lots' is not the same as detailing times, dates, names if who you spoke to etc.

Again a written record is always useful sent to an appropriate person. Seeing it written down focuses the person reading it to think how would my response to this look in court/disciplinary proceeding etc

This thread is some thing of a record but not with enough detail nor appropriate but exists at least as evidence. I'd screen shot it if there is any risk of it being deleted

[FrontForward]

Follow their procedure to the letter

[FrontForward]

It's quite possible she is suspended pending their investigation. The hospital won't be able to discuss much with you because she is also technically their patient. They should confirm they are investigating and say some bland and ambiguous statement confirming they do not put fathers names on scans and nor do they email appointments. Any response would be something though.

This must be incredibly stressful and time consuming for you. Good luck with ending it

[shellmont]

Hi frontforward, my letter posted to the hospital last night only mentioned the fake scan and e mail it gave the girls name and address and the ward she works on and said I thought it was unprofessional, I included copies of the e mail which came from her email address and fake scan with her name and the hospital address on it. I asked the hospital to contact me to discuss further.
This morning at 6.30 when I opened the curtains I saw her car drive off from the front of my house, son was not home he spent the night at his girls, when I took the dog out at 7 there was a bag of rotten sausage own some mouldy sandwiches where he normally parks his car.
The problem now is son is so fed up he said he is not going to do anything else about it, said he will not give a statement to the police or phone them again. We have a record of when he contacted the police and all the voice mails she sent.

[FrontForward]

You are also a victim of harassment because the offences are occurring at your property. Make your own complaint if he won't.

[Bunbaker]

I hope you took photos of this unpleasant surprise. Can you hire CCTV to get evidence of these "gifts" being left?

[giraffescantboogie]

That is disgusting! Report the bag of minging stuff for sure...ask them if they want it for evidence?! Infact maybe taking it down to the station might create a stink?!

Have heard stories of fake preg becoming a fake baby...although this was from Jeremy Kyle show! I do know of a girl who I could see doing this - she has major issues!

[Fluffycloudland77]

You could make an official complaint to the nursing and midwifery council, it's the governing body in the uk.

It's unprofessional behaviour.

Does she have friends in the police? It's very odd behaviour from them.

[shellmont]

I think she is giving the police untrue information, and is saying they are still in a relationship, she is a very convincing with her stories, I believed her when she told me she was pregnant, she is an excellent liar and I'm sure the police believe everything she says.

[Whereisegg]

Can you afford a cheap cctv set up?

[ohdearitshappeningtome]

I think you need escalate this further in the police seeing they aren't very helpful towards you and your son

[storytopper]

Even if she is a convincing and accomplished liar, it is evidence that counts. Your son should be keeping evidence of everything - all her texts, notes, etc. recordings of messages, photographs of what she has done to his property. If you can manage it, some photos or video of her sitting outside your house. CCTV would be good as others have suggested.

Your son shouldn't give up on the police - he should keep bombarding them with evidence as long as she harasses him - even more so if she is telling lies to the police.

If she is claiming they are still in a relationship, she will be unable to produce any recent evidence apart from texts from your son telling her to leave him alone just after they broke up.

[Bunbaker]

storytopper is right. You need hard evidence. Getting CCTV footage wil be irrefutable.

[shellmont]

Hi all, last night my son stayed at his girls house and at 11.30 her car was seen by her sister in there drive, as I have said before it is a long drive leading to a detached house in a rural area about 15 miles from where the stalker lives. Then at about 12.30 when everyone was in bed the security lights came on. His girls parents know all about what has been going on and were not happy about her sneaking around the back of the house and looking in the living room windows last week(she sent a voice mail describing a plaque on the wall to son)
So anyway this afternoon they have phoned the police which is the best thing that could have happened because they live in a vicarage and one of her parents is a vicar, they are also going to get cctv.
Do you think the police will believe them!
I do not know all the details yet but it can only help my son.
Will keep you posted, thanks for reading and all the support.

[BitchTits]

After reading through all of this thread Shellmont I hope this all ends soon. Your sons ex girlfriend sounds totally weird. The police should be doing more as should the hospital. This woman was/is a nurse? That means she works with vulnerable people and she sounds dangerous....

[Bessiebigpants]

I had early scans for twins no dads name just mine.There is no sensible reason for dads name to be on scan.It is I suspect something she added herself or downloaded from the internet. I don t think both babies were on the same scan either now I think of it just twin1 seperated for twin 2.

[KillashandraRee]

She'll mint I've just read the thread and am utterly that your DS still hasn't been able to get practical help from the police. I think complain, complain and complain is the only way to go, each time she contacts/ visits etc. the police need to be contacted too.

I understand your DS is at the end of his tether but he really needs to keep on at the police as she is clearly not going to go away, and who knows what she might end up doing.

Keep us posted, fingers crossed you get some resolution soon.

[KillashandraRee]

Shellmont! Damn autocorrect

[s88]

horrific ! hope it ends soon

[custardismyhamster]

I can't believe this story (well I can, not saying OP is lying!) I mean I can't believe the police aren't dealing with this