Do scans have the fathers name on?

[shellmont]

Hi, hope someone can help, my sons x girlfriend has turned up with a scan of 9 week twins and printed on the scan in the left hand corner just under sex unknown it says fathers name and has his name on.
I do not think its real and wondered if there is anyone out there who has had a scan at The University Hospital north staffs and if they can tell me if the hospital put the fathers name on scans.

[MrsGrumpyPants]

Well done OP.

As others have said though, the fact that she's done this at least once before is a huge red flag. I would be seriously concerned that her judgement is also impaired in other aspects of her life ie her job, where presumably she has vulnerable patients under her care. I would hope that in the first instance she would get support and help rather than necessarily automatically losing her job.

You sound like a lovely lady. I hope that when the time is right, you become a real grandmother under happier circumstances.

[MrsPixieMoo]

I've had loads and loads of early scans ( due to recurrent miscarriages) in the UK, NHS, private and abroad. None of my scans have ever had the fathers name. How would they know who the father is without a paternity test? It would have no bearing on the pregnancy at all. This sounds like a hoax to me.

[DeputyPecksBentBeak]

I would advise your son to go to the police at this point, even if he only reports what has been happening to have it on file just in case. I would also start logging her visits, time, date, duration, that sort of thing. You never know, she might move on eventually, but it's not sounding good.

[storytopper]

I would also recommend that your son goes to the police to have it recorded and that he mentions that her mother said she had done it before to someone else.

Whilst it is nice to be sympathetic and concerned for this woman, I really think you need to put your son first. His exGF is not thinking rationally and it could escalate to even worse allegations from her as others have mentioned.

[Bangonthedoor]

I'd say get to the police before she does

[Edenviolet]

I don't think going to the police is a good idea. I think it would be better to report this to the local mental health team/girls gp if possible as she clearly needs help.

[Deverethemuzzler]

The woman is not the OP's or the OP's son's responsibility.
Its not appropriate for the OP to 'report' to a medical service.
They wouldn't be able to act on information given by a stranger. They need a referral and for the woman to agree to be seen.

At this point it is important for the OP's son to log the harassment from this woman in case she escalates. No one should have to put up with this level of harassment.

[Edenviolet]

I just wonder if police involvement might be too much for somebody who clearly needs help from a mh professional.
I can understand that the harassment and false pregnancy must be very, very hard to deal with and unfair on op and ops son but I just wondered if there was another way to address the issues, maybe the girls mother will seek help for her which could avoid police involvement.

[WandaFuca]

I also think going to the police is appropriate. You and your son can't help this young woman, nor should you try to. Your son's safety and wellbeing has to be the priority, and he needs to protect himself against any possibility that the young woman's behaviour might escalate.

[DinoSnores]

Firstly, 'fetus' is the correct spelling in both the UK and US.

(Foetus is 'hyper-correction' that started from a misunderstanding of the Latin.)

Secondly, I really would get the police involved. You would if a man was harassing your daughter in the same way (although he might be less likely to claim to be pregnant!) They will be able to access medical help as appropriate. I would also question whether she is currently safe to be working as a nurse.

[Observer78]

What I don't understand is why these weird things don't happen in countries where people are a bit more sociable? There are weirdos and freaks everywhere, but it seems they're mushrooming in countries like the UK, etc., yet Northern / Eastern Europeans seem to "get out more" and not encounter soap operas. Strange.
The way people deal with each other is freakishly uncomfortable.

[Deverethemuzzler]

I don't understand what you mean

[Observer78]

As an afterthought - maybe that's because here people sit in chat rooms, Internet forums and social media, rather than living the actual life in real world.

Skips off into the sunset

[Deverethemuzzler]

Nope
Still don't get it

[Observer78]

@Deverethemuzzler - I mean that instead of going straight to the girl and dealing with the issue, people feel the need to go on internet to discuss someone, whip a frenzy of "she's not stable", "call the police", "go to doctor", etc.
Nobody knows what the guy /-a have done to that girl, maybe some juvenile behaviour is her way of coping with rejection. Maybe the man in question should've called her bluff, spoken to her like an adult, asked her to back off and that's the end of. But no, people are no longer capable of handling things as adults. Or without involving some form of public domain for approval / slandering etc.

[DinoSnores]

So if only he had spoken to her as an adult, she wouldn't now be faking a pregnancy?!

"she turns up at his work twice a day, drives past the house several times a day, phones his friends and now the pregnancy.I feel sorry for her but they only went out together for 10 weeks, he was getting up to 50 texts a day until he blocked her, she has also threatened to kill herself"

Hmm, yes, sounds like she is otherwise completely rational and a wee chat would have sorted everything out.

[Bangonthedoor]

Faking a pregnancy and threatening to kill yourself is not normal behaviour due to rejection. The thoughts that even got her to where she is now are not normal.

OP has come to MN not to share the experience so we can all gossip and snigger, she has come for anonymous advice and so she should to. This is a serious issue and should not be overlooked.

God forbid if I ever get mugged I'll be sure to ask them kindly for my bag back instead of going to the police..that's much more adult in my eyes this situation is just as criminal as the example I just gave

[scotchtikidoll]

The authorities can decide the best course of action for her.

[Bangonthedoor]

This situation is criminal not school playground banter

[VerityWaves]

How awful all round !

[fuzzpig]

Awful :(

[Trazzletoes]

Thanks Dino I was clutching at straws! and I can't spell!

[Deverethemuzzler]

Observer people come to the internet for advice This is a fairly unusual situation and the OP has probably not encountered it before.
It is not unreasonable of her to turn to others for advice.
If she started asking people in RL it would be far more likely to end in 'slandering'. This way she gets a wide range of experiences and opinions and remains anonymous.


To be honest, your posts don't really make much sense. I understand why you have written them but they don't come across the way you think they do i.e. The Voice of Reason.

You just sound a bit silly. Sorry

When dealing with someone like the woman described in the OP its best just to let the appropriate agencies take care of things.
Otherwise the situation drags on and on and is likely to escalate to unmanageable proportions.

If the OP's son has 'done something' to the woman (re your concerns) that can be sorted out at the same time.

Though what 'something' would justify an adult, professional woman pretending she was pregnant and obtaining fraudulent 'proof', I can't imagine.

[LittlePeaPod]

I had scans all the way through my pregnany (private and NHS - 6/10/12/18/20/24/28/32 weeks). All private scans were sent to my GP with my consent. None of the private or NHS scans ever had DHs name on them and he attended all the baby scans.

[IDontDoIroning]

I would suggest her son contacts the police just to log it if he doesn't feel comfortable making a complaint at the moment.
Her behaviour could escalate and she could make accusations of assault or worse. If he then said all this they wouldn't know if it's true or just an attempt to deflect / defend himself.
At the very least if this is logged they will have a record.