Do scans have the fathers name on?

[shellmont]

Hi, hope someone can help, my sons x girlfriend has turned up with a scan of 9 week twins and printed on the scan in the left hand corner just under sex unknown it says fathers name and has his name on.
I do not think its real and wondered if there is anyone out there who has had a scan at The University Hospital north staffs and if they can tell me if the hospital put the fathers name on scans.

Observer - this is outwith the bounds of normal behavior, surely you can see that? No matter what happened in the relationship the stalking, deviousness and clearly planned manipulation would be cause for concern whether from a male or female partner.

We know she is a HCP in a position of trust with vulnerable people, subject to confidentiality laws etc. If you look up factitious illness, munchausens you will see that very often people with tendencies to seek medical treatment/fake illnesses are attracted to and train as HCPs for access to info and situations. I am not lacking in sympathy for sufferers of these conditions - I have met a few (!), often they have deep seated reasons, are mentally ill and acting from compulsion. But I would not want someone known to be currently undergoing such a crisis responsible for patients - her judgement and ethics are quite clearly far from acceptable and there are horrendous cases where these issues have affected patients. Even if this is something temporary - a lapse of judgement/stress related then she needs assistance and openness, not protecting from the consequences of her actions

Its not the OP or her sons position to sort her out or take responsibility for her behaviour - she needs help and they should put it in the hands of independant assessors who can make a judgement on what to do next- the police and potentially the hospital. I agree that the son should contact the police and make a factual statement, not as an emergency but to get her pattern of behaviour on record, and protect himself against other forms of manipulation eg assault accusations

Hi OP. just wanted to say my DH and I has an early reassurance scan (private) that had both our first names on.
But I do agree with everyone else that in this case it does sound fake.

I hope you get it all sorted soon

VintageLace it doesn't just sound fake, it is actually fake- the exact same 'scan' was on the fake scan website mentioned upthread.

Sorry, didn't see that part

Sorry but I think too many posters are being unduly lenient on this yourng woman who is stalking, lying and causing OPS's son misery. If it were switched and a man was stalking a woman and trying to get her back using any means possible, there would be fewer cries for tea and sympathy and excuses of mental health issues.

I think the OP has the right idea in informing the parent, and next step would be the police. It should not be up to OP to help OP's son's psycho ex!

I hope she stayed away this weekend.

Until the baby is born, you are just 'the patient' (even the little person inside you at 30+ weeks is clinically part of you, 'the patient' until they come out) so the father's name wouldn't usually be on there.

Observer incidents of depression and suicide are very high in some of the countries you have mentioned as bastions of sound mental health.
Issues like relationship abuse etc' are worldwide.

A close friend recently showed me her scan picture too, and it had both her and her partners name on - they were both at the scan and are married.

Hi all,
My son has been staying at a friends since Sunday morning, he has not seen or heard from her but she is blocked on his phone and his friends.

There has been another development that we are not to sure about yet'
My lad went on his internet banking and a payment he did not make was there, it was for £88 and was paid to stoke on Trent city council, he lives at home and l pay the council tax, he phoned his bank straight away and they refunded the money stopped his card and are going to send a new one out.
His x girlfriend is renting a house and she would pay council tax.
The fraud department are going to look into it and it should be easy to trace the account it was paid to.
He did not mention his x to the fraud department but they have said they will keep him informed.
May be we are getting paranoid and its nothing to do with her but who else would pay a council tax bill with someone's card, its all very strange.
He never gave her his card details or let her use it for anything but like he said he did sleep at her house and she could have been in his wallet when he was asleep.

Even the more reason for him to call the police OP. Whether it's her or not who has made the payment, you're suspicion is enough.

It's true what other posters have said, she could easily turn around and accuse him of something then it would be pretty hard for him to get back from that. He needs to protect himself

I'm truly shocked she would do this. It's not unheard of but totally immoral. Will the council be able to say who's account it was? Data protection and all that. Has he reported any of this to police yet?

I was born at north staffs

The council will not tell my son where the payment went but they will tell the banks fraud team and they might prosecute.
Because he has not heard or seen her for 2 days we are hoping that my talk to her mum has worked, he might be prepared to let the matter drop but the bank will not they take card fraud very seriously. If it was her she could be in a lot of trouble.
The last couple of weeks have been very stressful for us all.

It would be odd if it was a council tax payment, as where I am you can't actually make one-off payments from a new card. They won't accept it unless you've spoken to them first. I changed banks a few years back and was able to automatically move over almost all the payments, except the council tax - I had to speak to them directly to make new payment arrangements for that. However, it could be something else like a parking fine maybe? Or maybe it is actually unconnected and your DS has just been unlucky.

Hi I have just caught up with your news after a few days, and while i agree that this girl probably needs help and support and I think you are being very kind to her under the circumstances, I also think there is a need to consider the patients she will be caring for who may be vulnerable.

Fraud and deceipt are not acceptable in a registered nurse, however tough her circumstances. Can I recommend that you refer her to the director of nursing at north staffs? I have just googled her and there is a page on the trust website listing all the Directors.

I hope your Son is OK

If she has gone quiet and the fraud turns out not to be her then I would just let I go. Obviously if she is seen again then call police and report to NMC immediately.

I really think the police need a record of all of this. Not only for your own case, but against her name if she does it again. She sounds like she's got a form for stalking and that feels very dangerous.

She is at again, she was at his work yesterday morning and last night when he went to visit a female friend who lives 15 miles away she must have followed him there and covered his car in egg.
Now I'm getting annoyed with my son as he thinks its best to ignore her.
I think its time to call the police and I'm not sure how far she will go before he makes a complaint.
I am going to try to have a word with him tonight without nagging, he is an adult he is 24 and works long hours in a management job, we have always been close and he has always told me his problems and come to me for advice and I don't want him to stop telling me what is going on.
I had to think long and hard and convince him that I should have a word with her mum. I don't know how it will all end but it doesn't look good dose it?
Thank you all for your advice and comments.

Oh no, I hope he goes to the police.

Shell, has he told her he knows the pregnancy is fake?

He really needs to tell the police and it definitely needs to come from him. This will end badly for you and your son if she is not stopped now.

I would also be reporting her to the NMC, she doesn't sound as if she is of the right mimd to be looking after sick patients, I certainly wouldn't be happy if I found out a doctor or nurse who was supposed to be looking after me was clearly not of sound mind, who knows what she is capable of.

He has not mentioned the pregnancy, she has phoned him from another phone he told her where to go and put the phone down. He came home from work told me about last night got showered and changed and has gone on a date.
I'm worried because that could make her really mad if she is following him tonight.
He knows not to be alone with her and said if she approaches him he will walk off, he will not speak to her or get into conversation other than telling her where to go if she phones using someone else's phone.
She should know he knows about the pregnancy as l told her mum we found the scan pics on fake a baby web site.