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Do scans have the fathers name on?

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shellmont · 11/07/2014 22:22

Hi, hope someone can help, my sons x girlfriend has turned up with a scan of 9 week twins and printed on the scan in the left hand corner just under sex unknown it says fathers name and has his name on.
I do not think its real and wondered if there is anyone out there who has had a scan at The University Hospital north staffs and if they can tell me if the hospital put the fathers name on scans.

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ThistleDoMeNicely · 26/07/2014 18:25

She may not be signed off work. She could have been suspended, or she may have self certified. I've tried to read all of your updates but may have missed a couple. Has your son made a formal written complaint with her work? I know the police were speaking to them and he has spoken to them but of it was verbal I would strongly recommend putting it in writing.

She doesn't sound very stable at all and tbh for her own safety, not to mention her patients safety I really don't think a hospital where she has access to controlled drugs is a good environment for her to be in.

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shellmont · 26/07/2014 20:11

Hi all, son and his girlfriend went away for a little break this morning and will not be back until teatime tomorrow, he has left his phone at home. There has been about 8 missed calls from her so far today.
He will call the policewomen dealing with it tomorrow, she said that if it carried on she would need to log each missed call and text message the stalker sent and it could take hours.
He has photos of the times she covered his car in food and drinks, and lots of witnesses at work as well as the notes she leaves on his car and the 2 page letter she pushed through his new girlfriends letter box.
He complained to the hospital by phone, but the police said they would follow it up he gave the police copies of the fake scan and e mail.
I'm hoping my son and his girl have a bit of peace and this all gets sorted when he gets back.
Thanks for the support.
Will update when he's spoken to the police tomorrow.

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ThistleDoMeNicely · 26/07/2014 20:23

Fingers crossed it all gets sorted out. Would be interesting to know what happened last time. How long the harassment lasted etc.

Switch the phone off and have a break from it all too. Any messages/voicemails will all be there when it is switched back on. Have some Wine Smile

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 26/07/2014 20:31

Can he not get a restraining order? Are the police actually going to do something? They haven't put her off so far.

giraffescantboogie · 26/07/2014 23:02

:(

Bangonthedoor · 28/07/2014 20:02

Hope all is quiet OP?

Bunbaker · 02/08/2014 08:29

Any news?

ohdearitshappeningtome · 02/08/2014 09:02

ShockIs all I can say!

Hope your ok op

littlecloud · 02/08/2014 09:12

OP your poor son, she is relentless. I hope he has managed to have a nice break with his new gf.

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shellmont · 02/08/2014 12:19

Hi all,
It's still going on will update later

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Bangonthedoor · 02/08/2014 22:37

Oh no that's really not good. Please update when you can. Sending you hugs OP

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shellmont · 02/08/2014 23:52

Hi all, while son was away last weekend she sent 3 voice mail messages saying how much she loves him ,how he would be better off with her messages that make no sense really,
Son phoned the policewomen back on Monday he has her work mobile but she did not get back to him.
On Monday night his girlfriend stayed at ours when they went out for work Tuesday there was hair gel all over the passenger side door handle of the car and chips on the window, when he got in from work he phoned the policewomen again with no reply.
Wednesdays he was working out of the area
Thursday he had a few missed calls and a voice message from her
Friday morning he saw her running away from his car at 7 in the morning as he went out for work
When he got to work he phoned the police at the station and gave his incident number he told them she was still bothering him and asked for the policewomen involved to phone him back,
He then got a voice mail which was really strange from the stalker the message made it clear that she had seen into his girlfriends living room and that a plaque on the wall above the fire place with a word on (for example home sweet home but not that) the thing is she lives with her parents in a really rural area with a long drive and the living room is at the back of the house!
He was really worried about this so phoned the police and arranged to go to the station at 9.30 last night.
He arrived at the station on time rang the bell and there was no one there he got pissed off and came home
At 9.45 he had a message on his phone from a patronizing police women saying he had not turned up for his appointment and that anyone could look in a window and see a plaque when they walk past a house! And that she had phoned the stalker and told her to stay away.
Son was so annoyed he phoned 101 and explained that the plaque could not be seen from the street and that it was not good enough to just phone her as he was told if she continued stalking him the police would get a restraining order from the court not just phone her up.
They offered him a new appointment on Saturday night at 10 o'clock which he said no to
He is going tomorrow Sunday at 2 o'clock and wants a restraining order to keep her away from him and his girl and his car, he has also the voice mail from the policewomen and I've heard it she had a terrible patronizing tone and he is going to complain about her (not the same one he spoke to originally but then he has been trying to get in touch with the original one all week with no luck)
Today Saturday he has had another voice mail from the stalker saying she could make him so happy etc. So the phone call from the police last night did sod all.
He is not going to leave the station tomorrow without seeing someone who will take him seriously he is so plssed off with it all now his girlfriend is going with him. Anyone listening to the voice mails would know she is stalking him lets hope the police take some notice and get there finger out.
Sorry its so long will post tomorrow after he has been to the station.

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maddyw1988 · 03/08/2014 00:04

what a horrible time this must be for you and your family! the police should take this as seriously as they would if it was your daughter not son x

Greenoes · 03/08/2014 00:05

Sending much love - sounds horrendous for you.

lunar1 · 03/08/2014 00:10

I hope they get something sorted tomorrow, it sounds like a nightmare.

giraffescantboogie · 03/08/2014 00:15

I am so angry that they are not taking this seriously enough!. Do keep going with the logging and reporting - even if for no other reason than to build a good defense for him in case she claims some made up shit.

He is doing well to keep cool and not engage with her.

I was telling a friend about this thread today over lunch funnily enough! As we were talking about an quittance who could easily go the same was as your ds ex!

FrontForward · 03/08/2014 00:21

Have the hospital come back to you yet?

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 03/08/2014 07:39

Oh my gosh OP, I can't believe the police aren't taking this seriously.

Ememem84 · 03/08/2014 08:23

It's ridiculous that they aren't taking it seriously. As I'm sure someone's already said, if it was your dd complaining about her ex fb the police would be all over it.

I hope your ds manages to get things sorted this time.

LinaDee · 03/08/2014 09:01

This is disgraceful.
Once your son has sorted his priority of keeping this girl away from him, the police handling of his complaints must be called in to question!
The police are there to protect the community and there is no excuse for they way they have responded as it sounds like your son has plenty of concerns and an abundance of evidence to show it is happening!
While your son is going through this, he deserves better and i realise it's not his primary concern at the moment but so far, it sounds like they are failing him.
If the roles were reversed and it was a man stalking a woman, he'd probably be banged up by now!

I hope this girl gets help soon so that your son can get on with his life in peace.

storytopper · 03/08/2014 11:49

Sorry to read that this is still going on Shellmont and that the police are not being very effective or taking it seriously enough. I hope your son gets better results from his next visit to the police station. The fact that she is now apparently stalking his new girlfriend is very worrying.

What about the ultrasound scan forgery? Is he able to take that any further with the hospital?

FrontForward · 03/08/2014 16:42

I think the hospital need to act on this. It's a safeguarding issue because of trusting her with hospital records and vulnerable patients

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shellmont · 03/08/2014 19:40

Hi all, son has been to the police again and they are going to contact her again this will be the 3rd time and tell her to stay away from him and his girl.
My son was not very happy with the response he had from the police today and felt they were not taking him seriously so I went to the police station this afternoon(after a bit of good advice from a private message ) and went through it all with the Duty Sargent I explained I was worried about there safety he reassured me that it was all been looked into. So we will wait and see.
I also asked him if they had reported the fake scan and email to the hospital he said they had not so I have just wrote a letter of complaint including the scan and email and posted it to them as they never contacted my son after he complained by phone, l am sure they can not ignore a written complaint.
Oh what a day!

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 03/08/2014 19:48

Wouldn't the letter be better coming from your son rather than you?

goldvelvet · 03/08/2014 20:13

I thought the same if it was a man harassing a woman it would have been delt with more swiftly/taken more seriously. This must be hellish for your son and so stressful for you. I hope he can move on with his life and this girl gets the help she needs.