Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

klou - that is great news. Do make sure you continue to look after yourself - just the stress of the last few days will have taken it out of you.

Thanks for the link baking.

oh klou what fantastic news! And so reassuring to be given an idea of why the bleeding is happening. I am so glad for you. Definitely do what you feel is best for you next week.

Thrilled to hear your news klou, a resilient little one you have there. Agree with chimp's advice to take it easy for now - you've been through a lot.
cuppa, hope your EPU session went well and that you are OK. Thinking of you.
I have had a busy 24 hrs. Met with colleagues yesterday who needed to be told about the pregnancy, MW appointment (FHR 150, normal bp, won't see her again until 28w). Today was consultant, gave me leaflets on ELCS and VBAC, told to think about it, will be seen again at 36w. Had been unable to think past these appointments, feel a bit lost without them to look forward to. Am also now moving firmly into mat clothes - although my bump is not discernible from just being tubbier than normal, normal clothes are not looking right on me so I have surrendered. Will need to decide what else I need if I'm to be in Mat clothing for up to 6 months. 2 pairs of jeans, one smart and one casual each of trousers and skirts, a couple of vests and a small clutch of dresses won't hack it if I'm not to get brutally bored with it all (I remember binning my mat leggings when the fell down post-natally, sigh).

Klou that is great news. My friend had exactly the same thing at 8 weeks. She now has a gorgeous baby boy who is 13 weeks old.

Cuppa - I hope you managed to see someone re vomiting. I have bad nausea and bought some travel bands today for sickness. Work a treat.

I saw my mw today and have asked for an early scan because of my mmc back in jan. the epu phoned me an hour ago and given me an appointment for Sunday. Which is perfect. I will be 8 weeks and 2 days and worried sick that I might be too early for a hb and say they did a week later I might be ok. I don't want to worry unnecessary for a week. I did a clear blue test on 15/4 and it said I conceived 2/3 weeks ago and my last period was 21/3. Just worried if I ovulated later will my dates be out??

I am glad kluolou you know what is going on now. Good luck.

Jays I had a scan at just under weeks and saw a very clear heartbeat so defo not to early!

Thanks for all the support everyone.
Just to let you know that the bleeding settled to just spotting overnight, and went for a scan this morning where they saw baby and strong HB, dating a week further than last week :))
However the bleed is very close to the sac. I have been advised to stop cycling and running etc., and have 2 weeks off work. I cannot take aspirin due to a severe allergy, however to continue with the progesterone, and repeat scan in 2 weeks.
The vomiting is marginally improved today, but still quite profound. I have an appointment tomorrow with my GP for this. Consultant I saw today has advised me to get this treated, to avoid stress and running about(she knows I have an 11 year old son, right...), and to get myself signed off work for at least 1 week, preferably 2.

klou, drfunk and gw that's fantastic news for all of you, hope things continue x
corpore, saw HB today at 6+4, so you should easily be far enough. I though I was further but have now had 2 scans which both agreed so my dates must have been wrong, but from your tests, tour dates cannot be that far out. Good luck x
kitkat, hope you feel better soon
any everyone else, thanks one again, not sure how I would have coped with everything without MN and this thread x

cuppa that is wonderful news! I had a SCH with this pregnancy and it all resorbed by 12 weeks. Take it easy!

Cuppa YIPPEEEEEEE. :) :) :) Rest up.

baking, since you have experience with this, can I ask how important is the prescribed rest. Quick google seems to suggest that if anything it is more important than the doc made out.

Fantastic news cuppa. Very glad to read this!

I don't know - I was told to take it easy, no exercise more strenuous than a stroll, no lifting. I carried on working part-time. Since you are feeling crappy with the sickness I'd take a few weeks off. You don't need to be bed- bound, just take it easy.
Bit different for me this time as I didn't have a bleed so it was an incidental finding at 8 week scan. I had one with ds2 and bled intermittently between 8-14 weeks, which was nerve wracking but he was fine.

the thing is, if god forbid it went wrong, you don't want to be torturing yourself with 'what if?'

That's FANTASTIC news cuppa yay!!! I say take that as doctors orders and do rest up. I think you need to really. Just take some of the stresses out of life for a bit and take things more gently / catch up on some good tv!

So much positive news on this tread today! Lovely to read I'm glad you're all doing well :)

Asfm, my friend who thought she was 12weeks had her scan today and it seems lost her baby at 8 weeks. I feel so so awful for her, she's the loveliest lady, a brilliant mum and I feel so awful for being so panicky about her and another friend announcing pregnancies, I'm such a bitch :( I didn't want if to happen to me again but it never occurred to me that she might suffer the same :( I'm so sorry for the downer but I'm just so upset for her/angry with myself

Fab news cuppa and klou! What great positive stories to show that scary experiences can have a happy ending.

tea so sorry to hear about your friend but don't beat yourself up. Your reaction is only natural after what you have been through. Just be there for her, you can give her great support having been there yourself.

teaplease don't be angry at yourself, your original worries were totally normal. like penguinia says you can be a great support for her and a shoulder to cry on. I didn't know anyone in RL that had been through it and I think it would make a difference having someone who can just be with you.

AFM, not much going on. Playing the waiting game until my scan next week which will be at 9+ weeks. I'm keeping busy with my distraction plan which is helping although I've been plagued with MMC thoughts the last few days. Trying to ignore it all and just get through the days. What will be will be etc.

It is great news day on this thread isn't it? cuppa listen to the doctor and rest up. Can you forgive yourself if thiga went wrong and you are too busy running off your feet? It might not be the cause of it and it's the what ifs like baking says.

tea so sorry for your friends lost. You wouldn't have predicted would you?

Agree about being a shoulder to cry on too. I found it so hard when everyone I know seems to just pop out babies. You can be there for each other through this awful time. We all know even if she gets another bfp, she will still need support to get over the doubts and wobbles.

klou I missed a page in my catch up - so pleased to hear all is ok and there is an explanation for the bleeding. I hope it sorts itself out soon tho.
And gw great news on the scan too.

jays I too saw a HB at 5 plus 6 (that's pretty early tho) so by 8 weeks 2 will be just fine I think.

tea I think we have probably all felt a bit like that with other peoples pregnancy news. Of course we don't wish mc on anyone. or anything we see or think can make a mc it happen. When I was ttc after mcs I found it very difficult to stomach others 'easy' pregnancy news. Really difficult. But it didn't mean I wanted them to lose it / go through what I had. I'm sure it's similar in your case. I was upset it wasn't me too announcing my pregnancy but nothing personal on them.

cuppa great news about the scan, hope you manage to take it easy for a few weeks (although I no that's proly easier said than done with an 11 year old!)

tea as others have said don't beat yourself up, I think most of us have that reaction to other peoples pregnancy news after mc, it's natural, and sad as it is atleast u can help her deal with her loss now

Havnt seen starsinthenightsky around too much recently, hope your ok!

Don't beat yourself up Tea. Your reaction to pregnancy announcements was/ is perfectly rational considering and it's not like you wanted it to happen to her. Now she knows that terrible pain your friend will no doubt feel the same about pregnancy announcements in future. Every time I hear a "I'm pregnant" I feel a shot of anger, not at the person but at myself for not being able to do this pregnancy thing as easily as others seem to. The parting shot of my oldest friend before having her baby of "well it's what we're made for isn't it?" summed it up for me. I feel a failure for not being able to do what is supposed to be the most natural thing in the world. We are allowed to be angry, jealous etc. If we didn't have an outlet for those feelings we'd all go mad so thank goodness for Mumsnet!

Today I've been battling the all day morning sickness. The worst I've ever experienced. Not able to eat much but making sure I take my vitamins. Can't even take water now and am getting liquids in the form of fro zed juice lollies. Going to the loo is terrible thanks to the piles flaring up. My bod is doing so many weird and horrid things but I keep hoping and praying that it's all because my babies (both of them) are growing. But having also had a MMC I have that terrible fear of going for the next scan and not seeing hearts beating away.

Cuppachuplz great news! Good luck. I think rest as much as possible because then it will just heal quicker.

TeaRex your poor friend. You would never have imagined that it would happen to her as well.

Cuppa that is fantastic news. Rest up and take care of yourself.

Tea I'm so sorry to hear about your poor friend. Nothing you said or thought caused this so please don't feel guilty.

Amum you poor thing, that sounds really miserable. Fingers crossed that this means things are progressing well. I guess twins double the symptoms in terms of sickness etc. Have you got any medication to manage it? Really hope you start to feel better soon.

Cuppa, Klou; amazing news from both of you!
Tea, sorry for your friends loss. X