what's the stupidest preggo related thing anyone has ever said to you?

[ithoughtofitfirst]

When i was pregnant with ds about 3 years ago my brother's boyfriend asked me 'is it true that the cord can get wrapped around the neck and strangle the baby?'

I nearly threw up at the thought of it.

I haven't seen a 'tactless shit people come out with' thread in a while.

Please share!!

In my case, I announced my news with the broadest grin ever. No doubt at all how delighted I was. The person who asked 'Was it planned' asked because he is nosey and to rain on my parade. I can say that with certainty, having worked with him for years.

pebble, I just kept asking 'why?'. Why did he want to know, what difference did it make, why did he think he should know. He couldn't answer.

Good plan. I'll try that next time. So surprised at the amount of times and the range of people who've asked. I too announced my news with a massive grin and still got asked the question so I don't think it's related to not knowing if people are happy/sad about the news.

This morning a neighbour said they'd heard I was with child followed by a muttered "as if living in sin wasn't bad enough". I'm taking no notice.

Does anyone have a good witty answer to "was it planned"?

I plan sex ed at a school so sometimes I reply with "we were doing it standing up/on a sunday/I stood on my head I thought that would protect me!" which was funny till someone took it seriously!!
My DH once said "well you see now, any woman who goes within 3 foot of me gets pregnant, so great is my potency, so she didn't stand a chance. Her 3 ft poking stick was in for repairs." Again, someone once edged away as if it was true!! Haha!

"was it planned?"

I always answer "yes, by God"

mainly because I mean that, but it does shut people up also.

Ooh, I love that answer Zing

Second child and a stranger asks me if this one was planned?
But this one hurt the most: a friend who was trying for a baby for a while but could not conceive after telling her I felt my baby kick for the first time said oh you know it could happen...I said what? She says oh nothing nothing. Bitch!

beebee although having spent time with women who struggle, being told about kicks and bump rubbing can be every bit as upsetting as her comment was to you.
Its the other side of the same coin. I'd see comments that would call pregnant women bitches for dragging them to mother care or moaning about pains.

Having been someone who REALLY struggled to concieve and am now pregnant I am sooo wary about what I say in front of people I know are trying/struggling as it used to break my heart when people wouldnt think twice about parading how lucky they are(having fallen pregnant the first month of trying) in front of me. I used to take it as a personal insult(which clearly it wasnt) but felt as though I was the only one who would NEVER fall pregnant. Whilst comments like that hurt when you are pregnant there is a different side to the story and reason the comments are being made.

Yeah nc I wasn't condoning but like you say it can be emotional on both sides.

Its like with me the worst thing someone can do is act like at 12 weeks all risks vanish, to me it feels like sweeping my health issues aside as if I imagine them.
But to most women mentioning risks is upsetting, the opposite.
Its such a minefield.