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what's the stupidest preggo related thing anyone has ever said to you?

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ithoughtofitfirst · 06/04/2014 21:01

When i was pregnant with ds about 3 years ago my brother's boyfriend asked me 'is it true that the cord can get wrapped around the neck and strangle the baby?'

I nearly threw up at the thought of it.

I haven't seen a 'tactless shit people come out with' thread in a while.

Please share!!

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TheBuggerlugs · 08/04/2014 18:26

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Clarabumps · 08/04/2014 19:02

I also detest the word preggo. It is the same league as "preggie" which makes me want to stab something. An ex work colleague of mine used it every time she mentioned her pregnancy. I had to delete my facebook profile for this very reason.

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CloverHeart · 08/04/2014 19:27

Being told by BIL/SIL that our choice to have another baby is selfish because of the age of PIL's. In the same conversation where we rang and told them we had good news. Hmm

They have been really horrid to us for over a year now, but this is the straw that breaks the camels back for me I'm affraid

SizzlesSit · 08/04/2014 20:34

Young, male, childless colleague who said that 'positive thinking' would avoid an MC Hmm

Bank helpdesk man who, before I'd even had a chance to say hello, put his hands up and said 'I'm not the father'. I just looked Hmm and said 'yeah I know, that'd be my DH'

merielandmatt · 08/04/2014 21:50

thisyearwillbeawesome point really was why was it any business of the uninvited folk from bounty and the baby picture companies, and what did they think I had done with him?!

confuddledDOTcom · 08/04/2014 21:52

thisyearwillbeawesome - because staff should know who their NICU mums are and treat them with some respect! How can they expect to treat a baby that isn't even booked into their ward? Not only is it stupid, it's insensitive. In my hospital we tend to get put in a private room so that we don't have to deal with things like that.

edwardcullensotherwoman - he's like that. He was bit of a stalker before I got with OH. He was one of my downstairs neighbours in a tower block and I used to only go in the lift at the same time as him with a friend who lived higher than both of us, we'd talk about getting a drink or whatever to make it clear I was going to her's and when he got out I'd press my button, if we didn't do that he wouldn't press his. He'd still turn up 10 minutes later. Then when I started seeing OH he would try it on in front of him. I ended up threatening to kill him at party in our block in front of the two highest directors and our local beat sergeant. He still tries it on now, nine years later, given the chance. He never actually as far as I could tell wanted to get into a relationship with me, just wanted me available for him I think. Sadly it would mean walking away from the voluntary work I have done for the last ten years to get rid of him and I'm not really ready for that.

confuddledDOTcom · 08/04/2014 21:54

Unless they're randoms who should mind their own business as they don't know people's circumstances!

merielandmatt · 08/04/2014 22:02
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pebble82 · 08/04/2014 23:34

"Was it planned" is a common one for me too. I'm not married to DP but we've been together 4 years and it was very much planned (not that it matters, it's wanted and that's all that does matter). Interestingly though my married colleague who is also pregnant doesn't get this question ever!

I've had some shocking comments but I think my favourite is from a man in the office who is always saying the wrong thing was "well at least you know all your bits work". Awkward!

BumpNGrind · 09/04/2014 00:16

I had a 'was it planned' from the new guy in the office, thankfully I was stood next to a lovely and trusted colleague who is a mother of 3 (who I know is a mumsnetter) who just blurted out 'of course it bloody was' without me even having to open my mouth.

I got the impression she'd heard that question before, many many times Grin

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SophiePickle · 09/04/2014 00:39

"If you want to get pregnant please leave the company first" - my area manager. Surprisingly a woman.

"Oooooh your bump is huge" exactly what I want to hear when the only clothes that fit me are pyjamas and a threadbare maxi dress.

"Eeeeeh! It's getting bigger!" - yes.... That's the idea...

"You're looking great and if I must say, your boobs have got bigger!" - there's no need to comment on that mate....

I'm 30 weeks and people are annoying me a lot now! The most annoying is when people ask the same question each time you see them. Do you have any weird cravings? Do you know what you're having? Have you chosen names yet? All of those answers are the same from when I saw you yesterday. Concentrate when you ask a question. Bargh!

hoppingmad · 09/04/2014 01:34

Not pregnancy related but was in tesco recently and chatting to the checkout girl. She asked if I had children and I replied that yes I have 4. She said "wow, and do they all have the same dad?" Shock

weebigmamma · 09/04/2014 03:39

I think if someone is announcing a pregnancy then the ONLY response is 'congratulations!' Unless they're in floods of tears when they tell you you have to assume they're happy about it. If you say 'congratulations!' and they THEN burst into tears you can always just say sorry. I've been with my husband for 14 years and this is my 2nd pregnancy and SO MANY people have asked if it was planned, even though I made a big announcement on Facebook and it was perfectly obvious we were pleased about it.

Mumto3dc · 09/04/2014 07:34

Worst culprit for me is my mum. I had a hugely traumatic mmc before I had dc1. We found out at the 12w scan, despite having seen heartbeat at an early scan at 8w. It was a huge hideous shock.

Every time she saw me my mum went on and on about how in her day they'd never have known they were pg and stupid women now taking all these pregnancy tests then getting upset about having miscarriagesHmm.

My dad saw fit to ask with dc3 if it was planned.

bloominbumpy · 09/04/2014 08:11

Haha I have had to agree with so many of these now that I'm pg but I have to admit shamefully that I am guilty of asking a few of these myself!!

when someone tells you they're pg you (well I do anyway) that you feel you have to ask as many questions as possible just to show them that your really pleased and interested in their pg haha

obviously not such ludicrous questions as was it planned? is it etc

maybe now I'm pg and think gosh how silly I won't do it anymore :)

beela · 09/04/2014 08:30

I just keep getting the 'do you know what you are having?' Question, and then when I say no, whoever it is always nods approvingly and goes on about how it's better that way, ruins the surprise, blah blah.

Why do they ask, is it a trick question? What would they say if we had found out?

But to be fair, they are probably just trying to show an interest, and there are limited things you can ask once you've got past 'when are you due and how are out feeling?'

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Chacha23 · 09/04/2014 08:43

Mumto3dc, that's incredibly insensitive of your mom - what does it matter if in her day women didn't know?? the point is, you knew!

Plus, at 12 weeks you can definitely feel if you're pregnant. In fact I suspected a mmc because I'd been having really bad nausea for weeks, and it suddenly stopped around 10 weeks. 12-week scan confirmed I was right.

Most hurtful question was a colleague/friend of my sister's, who told me that my sister had already 3 children and I should really get on it, shouldn't I (a few weeks after my mcc). Of course she didn't know, but that's why if you don't know, you don't open your mouth!

RebeccaCloud9 · 09/04/2014 08:59

CurlsLDN think I recognise this unless it's a coincidence! xx

ZingSweetCoconut · 09/04/2014 09:13

"I'm glad baby didn't make it, I was worried how you'd cope with 5"

from best friend, upon telling her I'd just had a MC (5 years ago)Sad

she is no longer best friend.
And I'm coping just fine with 6 & expecting #7 atmSmile

dilys4trevor · 09/04/2014 09:52

Nothing that bad really these days but I'm pregnant with my third child and I have had a couple of 'Congratulations! I think you're mad.' from mums of two. Really? Any need for that? I find it a bit annoying. Clearly, I don't think it is mad.

Oh, and when having an ectopic pregnancy explored aged 23, the doctor, who was doing an internal scan to work out for sure where the embryo was before sending me down to theatre, asked my then boyfriend 'is she like this in bed?' when I was squirming and crying. I swear to God, that is what he said. I was 23 and the pregnancy was an accident and I just wanted to get out of there and on with my life, so I said nothing and wasn't massively affected by it (apart from to think 'you odious cunt'). But I still cannot believe it to this day. Hospital has since closed down. I hope that doctor is no longer practicing.

ZingSweetCoconut · 09/04/2014 10:01

dylis

I've started replying to "Are you mad?!" with All the best people are

it shuts them up!Smile

(Alice said that to the Mad Hatter btw)

pebble82 · 09/04/2014 11:38

Today's gem is "I see the nasty hormonal spots have got you". Why thank you! As if I wasn't feeling self conscious enough.

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