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what's the stupidest preggo related thing anyone has ever said to you?

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ithoughtofitfirst · 06/04/2014 21:01

When i was pregnant with ds about 3 years ago my brother's boyfriend asked me 'is it true that the cord can get wrapped around the neck and strangle the baby?'

I nearly threw up at the thought of it.

I haven't seen a 'tactless shit people come out with' thread in a while.

Please share!!

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AlpacaYourThings · 09/04/2014 11:54

Zing and dilys those are both outrageous comments! I cannot believe it.

Angry
PurplePunkPrincess · 09/04/2014 12:01

A few years ago, a man (who had 4 kids of his own) asked me how it was possible that I had kids when I admitted I had never had an orgasm.

ZingSweetCoconut · 09/04/2014 12:23

Alpaca
thanks. I couldn't believe it either.

dylis

I didn't even react to the second part of your post - that's quite outrageous. evil, even.Thanks

PurplePunkPrincess · 09/04/2014 12:24

After not seeing my mum for a few months after moving house, and I was now nearly 6 months pregnant, she turned up and told me to put the kettle on.

Then said, 'wow, you've put on a lot of weight' I frowned and said 'thanks'

She then said, 'no, I mean, you're meant to put on weight when you're pregnant, it just really shows on you'

marshmallowpies · 09/04/2014 12:29

My gran, recently, 'if you're going to have another one you'd better get on with it' (or words to that effect) - I was 7 weeks pregnant at the time, just went 'hmm yes well we are thinking about it', and miscarried 2 weeks later. But she's my gran, and well, I know she meant well.

RebeccaCloud9 · 09/04/2014 12:32

My partner's dad said the other day, 'ooh I think you're starting to show' whilst moving my scarf out the way to look (I wasn't, at just 10 weeks). I think things like this are REALLY going to annoy me!

ZingSweetCoconut · 09/04/2014 12:40

I think I do have to add the funniest comment though.

when I was pg with DS5 my belly was quite big at 7 months.
While I was having a shower, DS2 came in the bathroom for a wee.
he looked at me with curious eyes for a while then said "Mummy, your tummy is almost as big as your bottom!"
I replied "You think so?Grin
You could have told me this at the weekend, it's Mother's Day on Sunday!"
Grin Grin Grin

AlpacaYourThings · 09/04/2014 12:44

A few years ago, a man (who had 4 kids of his own) asked me how it was possible that I had kids when I admitted I had never had an orgasm.

Oh bless, how does he think babies are made?! Confused

PurplePunkPrincess · 09/04/2014 12:53

Alpaca, I can't begin to imagine what he thinks goes on to make a baby! He mentioned something about 'ya know, 'stuff' to... I donno' after seeing the obvious puzzled expression on my face! ShockConfused

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 09/04/2014 12:53

I hate getting asked if it was planned! my old boss said to me "pregnant? I didn't even know you was trying!" Hmm Confused Shock funnily enough I don't usually discuss my ttc plans when and if I have them with my employers or indeed most other people.

"How does it come out of that tiny hole? I mean a babies head is a lot bigger...." asked by someone who was in her 20s! wtf. I ended up telling her about how my vagina will dilate. And then of course having to reassure her that yes it does return to its previous size you fucking stupid idiot

"heh heh heh heh. you'll have a right bucket fanny now" said to me by my sisters husband after I gave birth to DD who weighed 9lbs 2oz. knob head.

FobblyWoof · 09/04/2014 12:59

I've also had the "was it planned?" And "are you happy?" So rude!

Also after the CS birth of DS when asked how I was recovering and I'd replied that my recovery was going really well, better than with my DD's natural birth "Ooh I might look into a section next time, can you ask for them?"

Just because my section recovery was better than a fairly traumatic shoulder dystocia birth with PPH does not mean that it would be easier than your lovely home birth with gas and air and a tiny graze ffs!

squizita · 09/04/2014 13:28

I got a repeat "are you happy" yesterday under weird circumstances.

Obvious coo-ing 'just told workmates' type situation. After most have gone a very clever but socially awkward one (who is a mother herself) sidles forwards and whispers "...but you are happy... aren't you? It's just you...don't look as happy as you should"
I had to explain my medical history and, unrelated, that I find hugging colleagues really awkward.
It was just a bit weird, like she thought I'd break down and say 'nooo secretly I don't want it!!

ohthegoats · 09/04/2014 13:36

All mine are about weight gain competitions.

Sil is anorexic, and ended up with ivf because she hasn't had periods for 11 years.

My mum is a tiny lady of 7 stone, and my dad is a tiny man of 10 stone.

Both these ladies hardly gained a stone, and had 5lb babies (I was one of them, my brother was another).

I'm bigger boned than any of them, and are prone to chubby. My boyfriend is 6ft 2. I have been informed by my mum that she and sil did things 'the right way' and I should try to do the same. Yeah, like I get the choice. I'm sorry I've not had life threatening eating disorders most of my life. Grrr.

ZingSweetCoconut · 09/04/2014 13:37

squizita

could you at least pretend to look happy ffs!

Wink Grin

squizita · 09/04/2014 13:54

Zing I was just super awkward in a way most I know are used to! :) Put it this way, DH calls me "Sheldon" based on my reaction to effusive huggers and woo ... I work in schools with a sideline in creative arts ... there is always a (well meaning) bosom lurking round the corner, just waiting to heave upon me! Grin
I was more comfortable by someone slapping me on the back and saying "I wondered why your boobs had got SO massive! Even bigger than usual, girl!" and guffawing.

ZingSweetCoconut · 09/04/2014 14:14

Sheldon is a superstar. you are ok!Wink Grin

momster · 09/04/2014 16:13

When DH told one of his work colleagues that he was we were expecting our first child he said "oh I didn't know you were leaving it to soak!". Eewww

SlimJiminy · 09/04/2014 17:13

Re: your "was it planned?" argument thisyearwillbeawesome - I still don't agree that it's an appropriate question to ask. For a number of reasons, including:

  1. Many couples are happy about unplanned pregnancies. Unplanned doesn't always = unwanted. You'd be better of asking "do you want your baby?" but of course, most of us would think that's an inappropriate thing to ask a work colleague.
  1. I have never come across anyone announcing their pregnancy who hasn't been outwardly positive. Maybe I just didn't get told about the unplanned/unwanted pregnancies and have therefore never been in that situation. But is it really that hard to ascertain whether someone is happy about a pregnancy or not?!

The work colleague mentioned upthread was ecstatic about her pregnancy and I just don't believe that anyone asking her "was it planned?" could use the excuse that they weren't sure how she felt. She was beaming the whole bloody time. What they meant was "but you aren't married - you can't possibly have planned a baby."

Incidentally, I do realise that not everyone - especially those who've suffered losses - is outwardly beaming when they announce a pregnancy. But I still think that "was it planned?" is inappropriate and that it should be assumed that those announcing their pregnancies are happy - although perhaps anxious - rather than devastated, until we know otherwise.

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ithoughtofitfirst · 09/04/2014 17:28

Agree slimjimmy

Such a pointless nerdy thing to say 'mmm yes i think you'll find it's a perfectly intelligent question to ask'

Lacks total social intelligence. Just because you're a boffin doesn't mean you aren't a stupid twat in social situations. IN FACT it is always highly intelligent people who ask me if it was planned. It is a truly stupid thing to ask because it's fucking rude.

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RebeccaCloud9 · 09/04/2014 18:00

Just looked back at thisyearwillbeawesome's post. Ours wasn't planned but is absolutely a wonderful surprise. I wouldn't want to announce to people that it wasn't planned as they, like you, may assume that I'm not happy about it. They are two separate things and asking puts people in an awkward position!

SJC2014 · 09/04/2014 18:34

I'm only 8 weeks and I've already had horror stories of ripped lady bits and a story about a girl who recently had to give birth to a still born.. Bearing in mind the person who said it knows I a high risk pregnancy (double womb) cheers then love! Thanks for the pep talk you twat!

BeetlebumShesAGun · 09/04/2014 20:15

Both of our parents meeting to discuss the news I was pregnant. My mum said to DP's mum:
"Well what do you think about the wonderful news?" Clearly a rhetorical question...
DP's mum: "well it's nice but I just wish they had done it the right way round"

Hmm thanks.

confuddledDOTcom · 09/04/2014 20:30

I think some people could do with diplomacy lessons from my 7 year old. We say things sometimes because we know what reaction we'll get, so when I'm pregnant I will say "Look how fat Mummy is getting!" and she says ever so gently "No Mummy, you're not fat, that's just the baby growing and getting bigger" I also love "Look DD! I've got no feet! Where've they gone???" "You have got feet Mummy but the baby is in the way of you seeing them"

She's also worked out that babies have two ways of getting out, the usual one I don't think she knows quite where yet but the other one is my zip. She used to want to see my scar and I'd object and she'd tell me how much she loved it because it's the zip where she came out. She's a little concerned at my suggestion of asking the doctor to remove it in case another baby is in there Hmm No!

ZingSweetCoconut · 09/04/2014 23:31

asking "was it planned" is code for "are you keeping it"

all who ever asked me that can fuck the fuck off.

pebble82 · 10/04/2014 11:56

Does anyone have a good witty answer to "was it planned"? It's really pissing me off now but I think I'll look like an over sensitive nutter if I reply with "get fucked"!