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what's the stupidest preggo related thing anyone has ever said to you?

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ithoughtofitfirst · 06/04/2014 21:01

When i was pregnant with ds about 3 years ago my brother's boyfriend asked me 'is it true that the cord can get wrapped around the neck and strangle the baby?'

I nearly threw up at the thought of it.

I haven't seen a 'tactless shit people come out with' thread in a while.

Please share!!

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AliOh · 07/04/2014 11:33

All the usual; was it planned? how long have you got left? will you be getting married now then? do you know what your having? (well i do hope its a baby!)

MIL very helpfully told me that DP nearly killed her in childbirth because he was so big - yes thank you for that Confused

The best one came from DPs friend that I had never met:
'Are you (DPs) girlfriend?' to which I answered yes and he proceeded to ask me if it was DPs baby! Hmm

chattychattyboomba · 07/04/2014 11:34

Armadale Sad I am so so sorry that you had to hear such a disgusting and idiotic comment. That is just shocking. Congrats on your pregnancy.

Weliveinabeautifulworld · 07/04/2014 11:40

My SIL told me with my first that labour feels like you are dying Shock It was so not!!! Although I haven't died so maybe it did :S

Frizzbonce · 07/04/2014 11:50

There's a gap of ten years between my children, so the question I always got when pregnant with my daughter was:

'Same father then?'

I usually said, 'Yeah I think so.'

squizita · 07/04/2014 11:58

Found out I was having a boy and one of the managers at work, creepily said your walking around with a penis inside you! WTF!

O M G Shock

Creepiest thing ever. Fact.

CurlsLDN · 07/04/2014 12:44

I got pregnant on honeymoon, definitely not before as we used birth control up to that point, then it all happened v quickly! Cue elderly grandparents and friends finding out the due date and working backwards, and SO MANY comments of 'oh, so you were pregnant at the wedding? You should have waited. Should you have drunk those cocktails? Did it ruin your honeymoon? etc etc.'

Not too offensive compared to some on here, but so so awkward either accepting their judgypants, or trying to explain when the beginning of my last menstrual period was and how the dates are worked out. Urgh.

Captainmcgraw · 07/04/2014 12:50

Told boss at 7 weeks (mainly as I was being sick a lot). I said it's early days so we haven't told anyone yet so can you please keep it to yourself. His response was 'well I'll try, but these things often have a way of slipping out'. I kind of admired his honesty but really... you just can't say that can you?!

ilovesmarties · 07/04/2014 12:51

"Glad this one made it" after birth of my son which followed on from stillbirth :-(

curiousgeorgie · 07/04/2014 12:58

I was about 27 weeks with a definite baby bump, had told all our family & friends and after our 20 week scan had put a picture on Facebook, so not a secret.

I was at work and a colleague said 'oh god.. Are you pregnant?!'

I said yes, gesturing to my very obvious bump.

He said 'oh no! What are you going to do??!'

Confused

Well, I'm 28, married, own a house and was trying for a baby so I thought maybe we'd keep it??

Idiot.

weebigmamma · 07/04/2014 13:36

I had a friend respond to my news with 'Just glad it's not me.' A simple 'congratulations' would have done....

CuttingOutTheCrap · 07/04/2014 13:38

I'm Shock and Sad at some of the awful comments some of you have had to endure.

I've had the 'was it planned?' several times already - DH and I have been married 7 years and have been ttc for nearly 3 so, yes!

What are you having/ what do you want? - Um, a healthy baby would be lovely

You're definitely having a girl - really? I don't even have a bump you can see yet and am only 12 weeks - what on earth is that prediction based on?

How often are you being sick? - Er, why on earth are you interested? (This was someone I don't really know, who interrupted a conversation I was having with a friend to ask this)

Dazedconfused · 07/04/2014 13:45

I was chatting to a male friend last year and mentioned ttc and he said

'you're not going to have a baby just so you can go part time at work are you?'.....um what?!?

Brodicea · 07/04/2014 13:47

Nothing near as bad as some of these, but just one persistent colleague:

Colleague: 'it's a boy'

Me: 'no it's a girl, had several scans now as she's large and have seen her bits - definitely a girl'

Colleague: 'Well you're carrying out front, are you sure?'

I HAVE SEEN HER UNDERCARRIAGE!

And, well meaning friend who knew we'd been trying for a long time: 'so did you just relax then the month it happened', Me 'Not particularly!' She's so sure you just 'relax' and it happens by magic.

IMissSleep · 07/04/2014 13:50

Pregnant (due next week actually!) with second DS -
"Oh you'll have to try just one more time for a girl"
Why?! Are boys not good enough now days. F@$k off!

"Why are you having a section?! Suppose it's easier isn't it"

Oh yes. Having someone slice you open and not be able to walk/drive/get up easily for weeks after is bloody easy.

"Oh you're going to breast feed, what about having a drink?!"

Express.

Some people just are tackless aren't they.

Iwillorderthefood · 07/04/2014 14:24

I am shocked with the comments some of you have had to hear. Mine are quite run of the mill. What are you having? Oh no not another girl, was it planned? Aren't you neat, aren't you huge etc. etc

Iwillorderthefood · 07/04/2014 14:25

Oh and, are you going to have another one now so that they can go around in pairs?

MrsCosmopilite · 07/04/2014 14:27

Again, nowhere near as awful as some of the things people have had to put up with but I do remember a friend of mine saying, when I announced I was pregnant, "Oh, I hate kids".

Ploppy16 · 07/04/2014 14:47

Aren't you a bit old for that now? I was 35.
What will you do if it's ginger like DH? (all 3 times!) wtf??
Another girl? Well at least you have 1 boy.
Older women have more problems in pregnancy you know..
It's not a girl, you're not carrying it right! This was despite the hospital doing extra tests including a gender test.
Utter tits some people...

JellyBabiesSaveLives · 07/04/2014 14:51

"Is there any chance you might be pregnant?"

from the person prepping me for the MRI scan I was having to check if my placenta was attached properly or not ...

Although she did realise and laugh at herself just after she'd said it (she was running through her list of standard questions).

Emberlina76 · 07/04/2014 14:53

When I announced to my best friend and get H that we were having a boy when I was preg with my DS 9 years ago, after 2 MC's, they looked at me with pity and her dickhead H said 'oh well never mind, boys are ok too' - thanks for that.

Currently 33wks with DD - EVERYONE - mainly random a who I don't know How long have you got?' - '6 weeks until my ELCS' - ' oh you won't go that long, you're HUGE!' - erm no I'm not actually, midwife just measured me and I'm bang on dates and measurements and baby is exactly the right size and also - what the F had it got to do with you? F off! I'm 5 foot 2 and lost a stone in the first 3 months and having a baby in 6 weeks time which is WHY I look huge - fuckwit.

Also, 'why are you having a section?' - I mean seriously? Wtf does it have to do with you? I answer this with 'I have a medical condition.....I used to be a man'

MIL - who is flying in from abroad for the event - ' I hope we can still do things when we come over, I know you're pregnant but, you are still drinking alcohol arent you?' - erm no.

She also made a massive deal of telling me on Skype how ABSOLUTELY HUGE' I was at 32 weeks - followed by 'why are you that big? You have months to go yet?!' - fuck off.

MarthasHarbour · 07/04/2014 14:55

'Is this your first catch since the last one then?'

Erm if you mean am i so fertile that i became pregnant at the first attempt at unprotected sex since the stillbirth of our much wanted DS2 then no - we have been trying for two years actually and it has been bloody heartbreaking - you bitch Angry

And on a lighter note:

'Any preference - boy or girl???'

Errr, no just a happy gurgling little baby thanks - we wont be seeking no refunds but thanks for asking FIL. Hmm

slithytove · 07/04/2014 14:57

I didn't get anything too terrible, but it was pretty upsetting to have DC2 referred to as our first even though the person commenting knew DC1 had died in labour.

When DC2 was born, the same people referred to him as our eldest, first, said we only had one child etc. I did and do find it very hurtful.

I very pointedly say now I am expecting number 3.

NoraBarlow · 07/04/2014 14:58

People mean well but most aren't that interested in someone else's pregnancy. Its often hard to think of what to say but seems rude to ignore it especially when the pregnant person never talks about anything else.

Emberlina76 · 07/04/2014 15:00

Oh and this one I forgot about. When being prepped for surgery to remove DC 1 following finding out that he / she was dead at the 12 week scan, anaesthetist rocks up and throws back the curtain and says (loudly) - 'so you're here for the abortion then?' - 'Erm no, I found out yest that the baby had died and I'm here to have it taken out' - 'well, same thing'.

Erm - so not!

MetalLaLa · 07/04/2014 15:01

From a former colleague when I was about 7 months pregnant, asked if we knew what we were having and told her it was a girl: 'oh I definitely thought a girl as you've gone and put all your weight on in your face!' Thanks for that...