PG after MC: sticking with posifrickintivity - today we are pregnant

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Very true saggy your fast approaching the finish line too :) I've cooked up a tikka and a madras to add to the lobby for freezing - DH now has no excuses for not feeding us all. Think I'll do a Bolognese tomorrow and that should hopefully be enough for the first week - don't know what I'll do after lol

JBRD I'm pretty sure dark brown blood is a good sign - just your body eliminating the old blood, I'd be much more worried if it was bright red (that's your warning signs) I hope that brings you some comfort. Try to stay positive easier said than done, I always assumed the worst I hope your bring we looks agree in RL. Get some read until you know that there's something to worry about.

Crossing everything for you

Thinking of you Jbrd - I have had bleeding, spotting and horrid brown stuff this pregnancy so will definitely be crossing fingers for you.

As for me, I have my 6.6week scan tomorrow at my clinic. I am terrified. I am so anxious - I want to ask if anyone else has felt like this but on this thread I'm guessing you all have? I have felt sick with nerves (not pregnancy) all day, and just can't relax. A glass of wine would help, but for obvious reasons I can't do that.

I know everything could be okay, but equally it might not be, and actually I'm not too sure how I will cope if it's not. I know you just keep going on, but the thought of doing it is horrific.

I have basically no symptoms -today boobs have been a little tender but I am on progesterone which would do that anyway. SIGH. I just wish I could calm down - god knows how I'm going to get through the night.

I have thought through every scenario - does anyone else do this? I know exactly what I am going to say to my parents if it is good or bad news, exactly how I'll try and explain things to my boss if I have to be off.

Urggggh. I need to get over myself!

Jbird As I said over on the other thread ... everything crossed for you. Hope it's just cervical irritation from the pessaries.

Hopeful Yep I felt like that before my 6 week. Had some spotting. Also not loads of symptoms, but scan was fine. FX the same for you! :)

hopeful I had a bleed at 8 weeks and it was my wedding day ;( I was devastated but my scan showed a healthy heartbeat. We has decided to go private as my MW wasn't at all understanding, the sonographer was also a MW and whikst performing the scan she noticed I was shaking and I blurted out everything, she was amazing! She got really teary eyed any told me she had the sand experience and that she used to squeeze her breasts etc to symptom spot! I jumped in and exclaimed that I did that too!!

I don't think it ever passes, I was a wreck at my 20 week scan too (I think at that point your kind has gone into overdrive and it's another milestone that you have to overcome) now I'm panicking about stillbirth! It's perfectly normal, your not alone and your allowed to worry - gone are the days of 'ignorance is bliss' just know that we are all here for you xxx

hopeful I totally do that with scenarios. After we told DD about the baby I got really freaked out about how we would then tell her if anything went wrong (and this was after 20wks when it was all going well). Now, like fod I'm trying to devise ways of coping in my head if it all goes wrong at the last hurdle. To be honest I haven't got an answer to that, and I feel quite crazy and negative to even consider that it could all still go wrong but it is playing on my mind. I hope everything is ok at your scan and you get some reassurance xx

Sorry haven't been on since Friday as I've had a baby! Baby girl was born Friday afternoon after my waters breaking on Thursday night. We're still in hospital. Will catch whilst she's sleeping in my arms. Hope everyone's doing well!

Yeah another thread baby. Many many congratulations liesel. I hope it all went well and that your under carriage is still in one piece. We are coming near the end of this 1000 post stretch and what a lovely way to do it.

leislvontrapp congratulations on your baby girl. :-) another thread baby to lift everyone else's spirits :-) xx

Wow great news liesl, congratulations! Looking forward to hearing all the details when you can find the time!

Will be thinking of you tomorrow hamster and JBrd, such a scary time for you both, sending posifrickingtivity your way

A friend just sent this link to me, it has some good advice for first time mummies-to-be like me www.scarymommy.com/things-you-should-know-about-having-a-baby/

WOO HOO OOOH! another thread baby! do we get to know her details Liesl?

I want my baby NOW!

Congratulations hope ur both well!

Yay Liesel!!!! What fabulous news :) can't wait to hear the details x

Saggy agreed! Although I obvs don't want him to arrive 31weeks - but I'd really like the next 9 to zoom by! Ooh I bet this is the start of a flood of new thread babies!

leis that's wonderful news!!! Very pleased for you and full of envy!!! I agree with saggy I want my baby now toooooooo!!!

pixie I looked upon it as a step closer to having more tests done and getting ever closer to done kind of resolution - the only thing that kept me sane to be honest - we also promised ourselves a mini break, at lease that way we surrounded ourselves with positive things xxx

hopeful good luck for today. I get your terror. I have friends who bounce into their scans and bounce back out again, and never become aware of how different the experience can be for some. The removal of all scan joy totally pisses me off. Hopefully you will see a lovely sticky bean and that should reduce the anxiety for an hour or two. Let us know how you get on.

Congratulations liesel

Good luck for today hopeful

jbrd hope your spotting has settled and you can arrange a scan. Thinking of you.

Good luck today hopeful and jbird wishing you lots of luck, sticky beans and plenty of posifrickintivity!!

Am 11+1 now.

Can ladies who've been through this confirm there are lots of ups and downs? I've been through the mill emotionally since I found out I'm pregnant again. So excited one minute, terrified the next, them doom and gloom.

Last few days I've had a decrease in symptoms, ironically less sick after I went to gp as was worried about HG (10 lbs lighter than when I found out I was pregnant, no appetitive, nausea and sickness etc), so a lot less sick, boobs don't hurt anymore, really bad back ache and slight cramps.

Realistically I know the reduction of sickness and less sore boobs is because placenta has taken over etc. but the back ache worries me as my previous miscarriage started as back ache.

Urgh, I was so excited last few days and now I'm back to square one with nerves.

Roll on 26th, scan day at 12+3. Will know one way or another then. I just wish I could relax and enjoy it. But aside from the miscarriage I'm high risk anyway as had major complications with my son, so have weekly midwifes from 20 weeks, lots of consultants, growth scans, am on aspirin and can't have a natural birth. All the joy has been sucked from it and I just want to sleep till baby is here xx

Hey Congrats to you Liesl, wonderful to hear of the birth of your baby girl. Hope you are both well x

Jbrd I have everything crossed and hope things are better for you today. X

congratulations liesel, how exciting.

very best of luck to the scan and worry ladies. The last thing you should do is worry about worrying too much. your reactions to your own experiences are normal.

many congratulations liesl! I was just thinking about you last night and hoping something would happen before your induction. Hope all went well and you're both doing ok. Hooray for another thread baby!

Thinking of jbrd and hamster today.

mrsgiraffe yes, even before mc with my first pregnancy I found it a mixture of up and down, I've never been one for a continuous trajectory of joy. Hormones are as likely to bring you down as push you up. Also, in my healthy pregnancies 11wks was where symptoms reduced (maybe this is where placenta takes over?) so please try not to worry too much.

Congrats liesel
I want my baby too please. Not that I want it to come at 6 weeks of course but I would like to fall asleep and wake up with a baby please. 30 something weeks feels an eternity.
Good luck hamster. I hope all is good for you. My scan is tomorrow pm so am shitting it.

How you doing jbrd?

liesl That is brilliant news, congratulations! Hope you are all doing well and get to go home soon!

MrsG It's a total rollercoaster, and not a good one... Even if you know what can happen, you can't help investing so many hopes and emotions into every pregnancy. Sadly, we will never be able to enjoy being pg like someone who has not experienced what we have, there is always going to be fear and worry. Really hoping that the positives will eventually start outweighing the negatives. It is exhausting.

Thank you all for you kind words of support - feeling a bit better today. The brown discharge has decreased since yesterday, and I think it's getting lighter in colour as well (I'm doing a colour analysis every time I go to the loo - what have I become?!).
I have now started using the 'back' door for the progesterone, who cares about dignity...(although didn't really know what to say to DS this morning, when he asked 'What are you doing?', as I was trying to get the d* thing in).
Hoping that this might help, too. Planning to call the EPU to arrange an early scan for next week, when I'll be 8+ weeks.

Leisl WOOHOO massive congrats!! :)

Hopeful and Jbird keeping fx crossed for you.

MrsG the ups and downs are mad. I'm also terrified of back pain (had it with losses and Mr Rai thinks it's a symptom of my APS) but as I also have an old back injury and it's very damp and cold ...

Yay Liesl!!! Fantastic news, many many congratulations. Hope you are both doing ok. SO you are currently cuddling your snuggly newborn

Right, pixie, total, saggy... the race is on. Who's next!?!