PG after MC: sticking with posifrickintivity - today we are pregnant

[ChristineDaae]

Over this way ladies....!

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Thank you all. It seems to have calmed down again, no more blood since the bit this morning, and cm is only slightly off-colour now. I'm literally walking on egg shells, I have been at this stage so many times now.

Any chance that this might have anything to do with the progesterone that I'm shoving up my nether bits twice a day, maybe?! I do try to get them as high as possible, could this lead to irritation?

I'm supposed to go to a baby shower on Sunday, not sure I can face this now. It's a really good friend, but the idea of spending a couple of hours with a bunch of slightly hysteric women celebrating the bump is less than appealing. I might politely decline... Just hoping that they can manage without the cake that I promised (they should have loads of food, judging from what people were saying they are bringing).
Right now, I just want to crawl into a hole and stay safe for the next 5 weeks or so

Good to hear the bleeding has settled Jbird.

Just threw up my lunch a-gain. This is what I the angels give me for moaning about lack of symptoms.

Yeah JBd so glad it has not gotten and worse. I am guessing that shoving anything up yer chuff twice a day will lead to irritation.

Give yourself total permission to do exactly as you please. Wrap yourself in as many layers of cotton wool as you like. Give yourself total absolution for missing family and social events, bunk off work when you need to. Put yourself totally, utterly and unapologetically at the centre of your world. I am not a selfish person by nature but I have found that doing this has really reduced my stress level. Previously I got really stressed by making even simple decisions, now I do exactly what I want when I want. For example I should be at my sister's birthday in Dublin this weekend, but did not feel comfortable flying or leaving my OH, so I changed my mind. I felt no indecision or guilt about it. Felt pretty liberating to be honest.

Good luck alb thinking of you.

jbrd that sounds encouraging that bleeding has stopped. Could it be cervical irritation from pessaries maybe? really hope so.

Just sent DD to DMs for weekend so DH and I can do some pre baby house sorting etc. I should relish this time but instead I felt completely bereft watching her walk up the road! pretty soon I am going to be continuously accompanied by one or both children so I don't know why I feel so wobbly about her going away for 2 nights. Usually I love some peace!

All went well in 12 week scan, was wiggling around happily on the screen, can't believe how much it's grown since the scan at 9+4! I'm told I have to relax now n be less paranoid... Gona give it a try!

Alb1 A happy wiggler! That is wonderful new congratulations!

Jbrd - they can definitely cause irritation. I know I've mentioned this before, but that's why the er, back door, can be a better option. It's what I do and less messy too!

I feel better today after suddenly feeling a bit sicky, weird as that sounds. Yesterday I was symptomless.

I have my early scan on Mon as I've probably mentioned a million times, so terrified and looking forward to it.

Heard an RL friend is pregnant and she was so lovely about it - she is upset for me and desperate for it to work out this time so we can both be pg. Crossing my fingers I can sort that out for her!

Jbrd I wish I had any info to give you about the progesterone, I don't, but like Aoife I would imagine it's entirely plausible. Sex can make the cervix a bit irritated can't it? So why not something else going up there? Aoife is wise, be kind to yourself as she suggests. I do not blame you for wanting to hibernate.

I have just come from the Drs and he was very insistent on drumming it into me how normal it is to have bleeding and that it doesn't necessarily mean anything. He did get that it's hard to think that when it happens.

I have felt so sicky today that I couldn't muster any energy for fretting about appointment so been, told them am preggo, kick started referall, all without getting too upset. Waiting room was a bit eek but then Dr was lovely.

AND he told me top secret other hospital bit further away has ALL DAY WALK IN EPAU!! Who knew? I didn't. One I went to before open till 11am so if not 'timely' bleed you go to A&E -where you are clearly not an emergency- to get your bloods done then come back next day. Not that am putting the service down as they were wonderful at A&E when I ended up having to rush back in in the early hours doubled over in pain... Am rambling.

I hope you are all feeling the valentines love. My DP bought me big bar of cadburys. Bit peeved he's forgotten have gone off chocoloate greedy arse no doubt planning to trough it himself all along but it's the thought that counts

Hopeful I hope your weekend wait is not too long hon

Oo you're right there spooky!

Your friend sounds very supportive that's so lovely to hear.

What time is your scan?

Scan is 10:15 on monday.

Have just found something to worry me though and wondered if any of you had advice.

My son woke up today with a horrible temperature and viral symptoms and I'm concerned this is turning into flu. Looked up fevers in pregnancy to reassure myself but it all says fevers are really bad in the first trimester.

I have been comforting and cuddling and kissing him all day - how on earth will I avoid catching it?

Alb so pleased your scan went well

Pixie hope you can enjoy your time together and get everything sorted. Not long now!

JBrd glad it's calmed down. Like others have said look after yourself

Hamster there always seems to be something to worry about. I don't know enough about it but don't worry to much yet you might not catch anything. I hope your wait for the scan on Monday doesn't feel to far away

I feel a bit strange at the moment. I had my last consultant appointment last week and am having a cs a week on tue. My last midwife appointment yesterday she said everything was fine (blood pressure up a little) and didn't want to see me again before cs. Then today, last valentines day we were in hospital all day having an erpc after the mmc. Also I feel like I've been pregnant for ages, I started 2013 preggers and started this year preggers but now I can't believe that in less than 2 weeks we should be meeting our baby. Now feel totally not ready!

MORNING LADIES. My my , over 12 hours since the last post, cats got your tongues?

Ooohhhh totalshock that sounds surreal. I suppose it must be like an athlete on the starting blocks at the olympics. Years of training and preparation, a whole team around you, a few false starts, but when it comes down to it, no one else can run the race but you. Certainly sounds like you are in the home stretch. Well I think I have laboured that metaphor to the max.

Question ladies, have docs appt next week (will be 7 weeks), and I am pretty sure if I asked for a reassurance scan I would get it. I have had one natural mc at about 7 weeks, and one termination on medical grounds after 12 week scan. Given my history I am not sure I would find an earlier scan all that reassuring, but equally I would be devastated to get to 12 weeks only to be told there is no heartbeat. What would you do?

alb fantastic news! I found my 12week scan easier to trust than my first 10 week scan (where baby seemed v small still and dates were out which freaked me out). I hope the posifrickingtivity stays with you!

hamster hope this weekend goes quickly for you, have you got plans. it's horrible having scan doom hanging over you but hopefully everything will be ok. Your friend sounds lovely, I hope you can both have babies together I cried telling one of my friends this time. She had been trying for a year since her mc and I felt terrible that we had fallen so soon after ours. I just wanted it to be her as well.

london that sounds good about the walk in unit, a bit of reassurance for you to know it is there if you need it.

total so close! it must feel strange to have been effectively signed off and have a date though! I know what you mean about the continuous pregnancy thing, I think I must have had similar dates to you, pg very soon after new year last year, have had 2 pregnant birthdays in a row and approaching mmc point last time. I really hope I have a healthy baby before I reach my erpc date in March. It did occur to me that if I go overdue and anything terrible happens it will be almost exactly the same dates which is horribly negative to think but I still have some paranoia going on which I'm trying to quell. I envy you your very close delivery date! Keep us posted won't you

hopeful just re read and seen your son is ill- hope he feels better soon. I think its only raging fevers that are problematic so just keep an eye on your temp and take paracetamol if it starts to go up, that should bring it down ok. You won't necessarily catch it, fingers crossed xx

Aoife maybe an 8 week scan? Its considered more definitive than before, and will give a clear answer re HB.

aoife that's a hard decision. We chose not to have an early scan because our loss was at 8/9 weeks so I felt a scan before that point wouldn't reassure me IYKWIM. However we did ask for earliest possible dating scan which was 10 weeks and took us past that mental hurdle. I think partly I was trying to pretend it wasn't even happening to protect myself from another mc so that probably led to having a later scan too.

Aoife MN was down for hours last night!
Pixie and Total thread babies real soon?!
Hamster im sure you'll be fine! I had flu in the early days with DS I was a fever ridden wreck. {{hug}}
I started expressing colostrum for the freezer last night. Apparently Ryvita may well need some controlled volume feeds when she is born if her blood sugar is a bit wobbly for a day or two doe to my Poxy gd.
I was at it for an HOUR. I got TWO mls!!!! Less than a medecine spoon! Let's hope she doesn't need a lot!

Jesus H Christ saggy. I see pregnancy doesn't get any more glamorous as it progresses. I have a memory etched into my eyeballs of my eldest sister. I went to visit her in dublin, her daughter would have been about 8 months. I was over for her first big night out since the birth. She was still breast feeding at this point. Anyways we went out and had a thoroughly messy night, many many pints of the black stuff consumed. Got back about 2 am. I went to the bathroom only to be confronted by my drunken sister, one hand on the bathroom mirror the other hand milking herself into the bathroom sink, in an attempt to get rid of her guinness sodden milk. Some things should never be witnesed.

YAY Alb - there is nothing quite like seeing that bubba on the screen at a 12-week scan :) So happy for you!

Aoife I had scans at 7+2 and 9 weeks due to bleeds and was convinced it was all over both times so was very stressed going in. I have to say that it was something of a relief to have the reassurance that everything was ok, it didn't stop me worrying and I was a nervous wreck by the time my 12 week scan came around BUT those scans definitely got me through. I'd say 8 weeks is good to aim for. Here are some stats I found reassuring from the miscarriage association:
Research has shown that if you see a heartbeat at 6 weeks of pregnancy, the chances of the pregnancy continuing are 78%. A heartbeat at 8 weeks increases the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks that goes up to 99.4%

It does get easier after the 12week and then the 20week scan. Despite a misery wobble towards the end of the 2nd trimester because my SPD has gotten so bad I've been feeling more positive and excited about this baby than I thought I would ever be able to manage when I was back in the first trimester. Although I spent an hysterical 10minutes this morning absolutely convinced I've cooked the baby because I've spent the last 12weeks with a boiling hot water jammed up against my lower back to cope with the back pain... Needless to say I'm being ridiculous, we have a right wriggler who manages to have a little dance or shadow box with my internal organs every two hours to remind me he is doing just fine in there. I think I'm having a panic attack in response to DH doing the last coat of paint in the nursery today and then building up all the furniture tomorrow...

Cheers all for scan advice. I am now tending towards asking for one I week 8, but will be very mindful that it could all still go tits up at the 12 week scan. I had 4 or five scans last time round before getting shitty results confirmed. It did make the decision to terminate harder as we had seen so much of the little bean, but I suppose hiding from reality is not exactly healthy either.

hamster how are you and your nipper this am? Hope the raging temp has subsided.

kjh I know what you mean about the panic. I had never heard about the hot bath thing. I am practically living in one at the mo. Stupidly googled it for hard evidence of potential harm, and freaked that I had cooked its brain. Having an alcohol free beer in a tepid bath is just not as fun.

Cheers all for scan advice. I am now tending towards asking for one I week 8, but will be very mindful that it could all still go tits up at the 12 week scan. I had 4 or five scans last time round before getting shitty results confirmed. It did make the decision to terminate harder as we had seen so much of the little bean, but I suppose hiding from reality is not exactly healthy either.

hamster how are you and your nipper this am? Hope the raging temp has subsided.

kjh I know what you mean about the panic. I had never heard about the hot bath thing. I am practically living in one at the mo. Stupidly googled it for hard evidence of potential harm, and freaked that I had cooked its brain. Having an alcohol free beer in a tepid bath is just not as fun.

Total 2 weeks!
I can't wait to hear about all these new bubbas!

Pixie It really is reassuring. I like knowing what's what if need be.

Hopeful I don't really know about fevers but I would imagine it's a common thing for plenty of mums to be in contact with such things so surely the stats are on your side? Remember, google does not bring up search results about the good news and all the times things go fine and nothing happens! Just think only one more 10.15am (Sunday) and then the next time it gets to 10.15am it will be your scan time.

Saggy goodness, it's a new world to me this, good luck with your expressing! Aoife that is quite an image you've given me!

I don't know what to tell you re scans aoife as I have never had one whilst pregnancy was still viable. My natural MMC was at 10 weeks (and the 'missed' based on hormone levels). So I don't think I would take much comfort from an early scan. But that's just my experience. Like Squiz says maybe hb would be a comfort? I think if hb would be enough to put your mind (and heart) at ease it could be worth doing. Sorry that's probably not very helpful.

saggy don't think this baby is shifting anytime soon no BH recently and its moved back up to rest comfily on my rib cage

I currently feel like I will never go into labour which is very silly as only 38 weeks so not even at due date yet! Probably need a slap. The consultant talking of 2nd week of March for final eviction has got me down a bit, feels like a long way off.

Good job on the expressing by the way! sure you will be encouraging more with all the tweaking and as an added bonus apparently it can trigger labour (20 minutes on each side apparently!)

oh meant to say, for first time ladies coming up to delivery, read this blog post on another thread yesterday and thought it was so sensible, worth a read about what to expect from newborn days:

www.peggyomara.com/2014/01/07/postpartum4th-trimester/

on phone so can't link properly sorry. Loved the bit about partners building a little nest for mother and baby and keeping visitors MIL out!