Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/Warriors Part 4

[Buzzybee123]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

Girls just wanted to say hello. Really want to read thread and post but am never alone for long enough. Hope you are all ok and happy new year. I haven't read back but will do later. X

Hi shazza - how's your scar?

Happy New Year Yomi Worriers - you have dropped off my threads.

Any news from Noks???

Crisps hope Nancy is on the mend

Onions your feed pattern sounds like what we do with the twins. We formula feed so they go between 3 - 4 hours between feeds and have about 100mls per feed. Saying that they still aren't back up to their birth weight when last weighed. They do seem to be growing longer as their feet are at the end of some of their Tiny Baby size babygros.

Shazza hope you are doing ok. My c-section went well but I continue to have seepage from the scar and have antibiotics in case of infection but it all seems to be healing ok. Hope you are coming along well too.

Sorry I haven't been around for a few weeks but I have been really struggling post birth. I hadn't anticipated how difficult I would find things once the twins were here. I have had loads of issues with my vision meaning I couldn't see well enough to read. My vision is still really blurred but I am not sure if this is more related to the blood pressure meds rather than the original problem of increased fluid. The Drs have said it could take 6 weeks to calm down but of course I have been extremely anxious over this, bloody hormones don't help. The Dr has prescribed me some meds for the anxiety so hopefully these will see me over the next few weeks.
On a lighter note the twins are awesome and coming along really well. They are feeding great and settle at night - so far so good. I am surprised by how little they are actually awake, I am sure this will change so I should make the most of it while it lasts. DH has another week off but am already petrified how I will cope on my own, just another thing to stress over!!!

I AM STILL DIFFED.

I have, however, had a significant victory. I have won the girls name argument . We had two, my out and out favourite for ever and ever and EVER being Nancy, and DP finally conceded without the threat if violence, rather disappointingly. So, crispy tell your Nancy that she has a wriggly namesake in my tumtum so she needs to get better. We have the same name so our little ones (if I have a pink one) should have the same name too. It's the law.

sweetie glad the twinnies are ok but sorry to hear you have been in the wars. I really hope it settles down for you. Sight problems are so miserable. Xx

onion are you still at your olds being fed ?

vos welcome to this lovely thread.

Hello to everyone else. T'is quiet, no ? wtf is buzz ?

mrsh take all the help you can get. Seriously, paid or unpaid, take it ?

Question mark was supposed to be an exclamation mark. Dozy old me.

First of all....waaaah, noks, HOW awesome, we will have little namesakes if you push out a pink. Ace. Would love to know whether your boy name would have been one of ours....we liked Arlo and I was petitioning or Cash (you can probably spot the country music theme here...).

Havent been able to uodate for ages due to lack of internet and the
Latest goings on, but now hv great internet access so will be able to drop in and catch up more often. Don't want to clog up a preggo and baby thread with all my misery so will try to be succinct, so here goes...

Not sure whether in my last update I explained that Nancy developed pneumonia on top of the bronchiolitis? Wel, it turned out to be resistant to most antibioics, so she never really got any treatment for it. She also had no food for a while as the antibiotics took up all of her fluid allowance, and managed to pick up another infection via her catheter. N New Years' Eve she started to go rapidly downhill, and by lunchtime the ventilator was going at full pelt with her not really managing to get sufficient oxygen to it because of the state of her lungs. By this point we (all four of us) had been living in a room on the icu ward in Sheffield for two weeks. The consultant decided to try to refer her for ECMO, which is basically a double heart and lung bypass. Leicester accepted her, thank god, and drove up to put her on he bypass machine. A third of babies (and especially small ones like her) can't even get on to the machine so nye was spent with the boy (pet name for dh) sat outside smoking (first time in two years, don't judge) and praying. She got on to the machine thank god, and was then transferred to Leicester, where we are now all living in a different tiny room, off a different icu ward! The bypass won't treat any of her conditions at all, but will buy her some time in the hope that by resting he heart and lungs she will have a better chance of fighting. Babies like her on ecmo have a 60% survival rate, I can't decide whether that s high or not but I wish it was higher. We have been told if successful she will be on it for three to eight weeks so we are in it for the long haul now. There is no way f really tracking what s going on either because the ecmo masks how well or how bad her lungs really are, which s fustrating, but I am so thankful to hv her with us. We just havevto wait and see... Apparently the earliest signs of anything positive wouldnt happen for he first ten das r so, so we are just sitting out the storm at the mo. we live out of vending machnes and mini supermarkets at the mo which is bizarre but we are all together which keeps me content.
Oh, and to makelife that little bit more interesting, Pearl now has the same virus and was admitted to hospital because of recessivecbreathing two days ago, but thankfully this only involved an overnight stay and then she was discharged. Someone is seriously taking the piss with my life at the moment!!!!! So I think i've covered most of it. I sound like I'm making this up, don't I? Nancy looks a much better colour and more like herself (if you ignore the tubes) lately which is nice, even if it is just because of the machine. We are trying to staybpositive despite the negative docs and nurses here who talk about her low chances and turnbg her off so are trying to just plough on through and assume that she will fight her battles and just do her thing now that she is on ecmo.

Hope everyone is well. Sorry for no oersonals and not being uo to date, hello to the noobs and everyone else! Dildals thanks so much for your ms, but fb and my phobe have falen out and won't let me reply, could you pm me your mobile number and I'll text you instead?
Also sorry about the typos, my fingers are fat and my ipad is being a bellend again...onwards and upwRds!!!!

Hugs Crisps. What a shitty roller coaster of events. So glad to get an update and hear that Nancy is fighting.

Oh my goodness crisps. Can I just say that we are all praying daily for you and your family, and for Nancy's recovery. I sounds like she is having the best care, and it is lovely to read that she looks a better colour, which must be a relief. Please never, ever worry about posting on the thread - we just want to support and be there, and I much prefer hearing from you than not. X

crisps I have to say that I am glad your news is not worse but still, how wretched to have such a sick baby. I guess the best way to look at 60% chances is that it means it is more likely than not Nancy will make it through. I hope you have some support there in Leicester? Do you or DH have any family or friends who can visit you? At least as you say you are all together and Pearl has recovered. We are all thinking of you.

sweetie wow, newborn twins plus blurred vision! That's a heavy load. It's great they are feeding and settling well, thank heaven for small miracles!

noks Omigod you are STILL pregnant? :-) I think mothers must always have the last say when it comes to baby names, after all the faff of getting them out.

Jesus crisps you're a marvel to even be able to post. I hope to god Nancy improves with this new contraption. No judging DH, my DH smokes whenever he's with a load of smokers never mind being under the stress you all are. We are all rooting for you here though. I'm so glad they can accommodate you all together as being away from DD1 would be ghastly. That's so shit that Pearl was admitted too but good she got better so fast. I wish I could do something to help. Could I send anything for dd1 in the post perhaps? Colouring books or anything like that to occupy her? Or anything for you? PM me if so.

noks Nancy is such a good strong name. I hope you have a Nokletta so we have two Nancys on the thread. Hope something happens soon...

I'm at home now and glad to have DH back as lovely as my parents are, I can't kick them awake in the middle of the night and make them walk Ringlet about.

sweetie! Hello! I hope you are feeling better soon. I can't imagine how much work the twinnies are. It will get better though but another plus of formula feeding is being able to take meds yourself so I hope they help. Did I tell you how much I love their names?

Al me and Ringlet snuggle up all night which is lovely but I've a marriage to salvage and she's got a lovely cot and room of her own...

shazz I'm missing news of Shazzlet. Hope you're back home soon and scar is ok.

Hello to everyone else.

FLINGS HERSELF AT CRISPS AND MAN HANDLES HER TO THE GROUND, SHOWERING HER WITH MAIZE. DOESN'T LET GO STALKER

I know that Nancy isn't out of the woods yet, but at least she is on the machine and getting all the help she needs. Like fairy said, 60% means it's more likely that she will get through this than not so cling onto that tightly and don't let go. We want you to post here as much as you need, ok ? I'll dig you in the ribs and make you squeal if you don't...... Like good Ma Onions from the turnip fields said, is there anything we can send you ? Sounds like you all need a bloody good feed to me

I have pm'd you our boys names.....

With maize?

Maize based snacks are the snack of choice around here expat !

crisps as everyone else has said, please please come here and vent, as you find useful. I've been thinking of little Nancy so much and wishing her a speedy recovery. It sounds like she's receiving the very best care. If there's anything I can do, please let me know. Hope Leicester isn't to far away from home for you x

noks so Nokita will be here at some point this week??? Tres exciting, although I now have an image of a mini Malcolm tucker popping out, munching maize snacks

onion hope you are all enjoying being back home! Does ringlett settle better at home?

shazz looking forward to seeing you at some point this week! Did you say you have a friend who's a cranial osteopath? I've heard sessions are meant to be good for ventouse babies, but I don't know if DH would let me take her to one! Hope your scar is ok. My stiches have started to dissolve and I keep finding chunks of them in my pants, nice...

sweetie DH and I were saying just this morning that we have no idea how anyone copes with twins! I saw on t'other place that you'd been out for a meal with them - I can't imagine doing that yet. We can barely get ourselves organised to get out the house and then ginster just tends to scream! She has such a loud cry for a newborn... I think you are doing amazingly well and hope the vision problems clear up soon.

Welcome vos do tell us your story.

I 'm sure I've missed loads - one hand phone typing/baby holding!

DH goes back to work tomoz and my mum arrives.. It's so sweet that DH doesn't want to leave ginster. It's been lovely seeing how in love with her he is and I will be a little bit heartbroken for him tomorrow. By the time he comes home, I'll prob just be envious that he's escaped . I hope he manages ok with the lack of sleep and that I can manage without as much help from him in the night..

Sooo who's up next after Noks?! I think ceara and buzz must be soon?? Then motor? Bring on the babies!

Where / how is buzzy?

noks did you mean you'd pm'd me the boys names? If not then DO IT. I've not received them either way. Old mama onions needs to know stick her oar in. Anyway, you've sneezed the baby out since that message and she's already called Nancy and you're down at Aldi getting the shopping in so it's all academic anyway...

gin you'll be fine tomorrow. Soon you'll have you're own little routine and it will all feel more under control. Babies definitely stop screaming for no real reason quite soon so that phase passes very quickly. Ringlet now only really cries when she is hungry, tired or has a pooey nappy. Bit like me really, minus the nappy.

Lovely afternoon here drinking cava with neighbours whilst the kids ran riot upstairs. Then frozen pizza for tea as we were a bit pissed. In bed now. School tomorrow, thank fuck,

Hmmmm, Aldi seems a LONG way off to me right now. mama onions with the headscarf I will PM you with my boys names now.....I am nothing if not compliant !

gin glad to hear that Mr Gin is loved-up with minigin. So he should be - she so totally GAWJUS.

Hi all, wondering If I can join you all on this thread. I am 17 weeks post ICSI and am still in panic mode! Your wise words are much needed

Please do join us llw2. Congratulations! 17 weeks is great. Are you panicking about anything in particular?

Good luck for tomorrow nokkie - let us know how you're getting on.

Hey, not sure really but i think with all of the constant mantras I told myself through ICSI that it might not happen and not to get my hopes up in still in denial. It was also such a process that each step was just a step that the thought of the end result is now a bit scary, just me? Anyway I've been reading through the thread and you all sound like lovely bunch thanks for welcoming me x

Ladies it's 6am and I find myself finally able to read and catch up. It's been a tough few days chez shaz, domestic financial difficulties but at least we are all ok and most importantly my darling little girl is still beautiful and healthy.

Crisps you are amazing. I'm so happy to hear from you and that Nancy is fighting on even if things are still so difficult. We are all praying for you all. You said it, this is a preggers and BABY thread. We want to be able to support you as best we can. I'd love to be able to send you some of the many portions of home made fish pie that my mum dispatched me off with. Loads of love to you and your family.

Sweetie oh my. I'm so sorry to hear that you have also been having health problems. How worrying. I'm glad that you are getting some help from the dr. Hope that things improve for you. Glad the twins are doing well. When you are going it alone so to speak, don't put too much expectation on yourself. Take it a step at a time and just look after the babies. The rest of your to-do list can wait.

Noks love the name choice. As you know I also won that battle in the end. I'm guessing Thor is your top boy's choice . Good luck for today.

Onion I hope you are settled back at home. Like you it was great being at my Olds but nice to be home. Shazlett is so adorable. I've put a pic from yesterday on my profile especially for you as you haven't seen her on FB. She is holding eye contact now and smiling. My heart is bursting with love for her. She makes everything worthwhile.

Gin looking forward to meeting Ginster this week. My lochia has finally stopped but it has come and gone for weeks. Just when I thought it had finished I'd have another heavy flow. It comes more with BFing so maybe as you have stepped up feeding that has affected it? Well done with that by the way. Great that you persevered and it had paid off. Good luck tomorrow. It's is hard when DPs go back to work. I've only had 2 days on my own so far. I sat in the nursing chair and did nothing but look after shazlett and watch iplayer. I even made a packed lunch the day before.

Motor i hope your results were ok and you are feeling well.

MrsH please let us know how you get on with the nurse. Looking forward to finally meeting MissyHY this week.

Vos and Llw2 congratulations and welcome. We are always happy to have new people. I hope you are both ok and not fretting too much. We were all there and understand how it is. We are all worriers and warriors.

Buzzy and ceara how are you both? Gearing up for the big day? Ceara I hope you have finally put the paperwork down and packed your bag.

Expat super pics of miniAl on FB. Love that she can now release herself from the bouncy chair.

Dildals hope Bella is ok. Weight and growth is such an emotional issue. Do you have to increase feeds? Sorry if you have said this already, I can't read back now that I'm writing the post.

Fairy how is pangolina getting on?

Madness you are quiet. I hope you are ok.

Keep how was your night? We didn't get to bed til gone midnight. Then slept til 5 though thank goodness for the miracle swaddle blanket.

Hello to all lurkers. I know I've forgotten someone and I'm sorry if I have

Well shazlett has finally dropped off again. I haven't swaddled her this time so don't know how long she will stay asleep for. I only swaddle her for the first night sleep which usually buys me a 4 or 5 hours. She would never sleep that long unswaddled. I'm not sure if its a good idea or not. I think I'll ask at the milkspot this week.

Looks like we will need a new thread again soon. Much love to all.

Can't wait for news from Nokkie!

My mum suggested sewing a tube of material together and putting it over the clasp. She was horrified when I said I'd go out and buy the stuff so suspect I'll get a sewing basket for my birthday.

Crisps, I hope Nancy is hanging on in there. Can I send you anything from Belgium? Posh chocs/biiccies?

Onion, have put an up to date pic of mini Al on my profile. She has developed in leaps and bounds over Christmas.

Congratulations llw2. The early weeks are tough. Try to keep busy and your mind off it, like we all did, ahem.