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Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/Warriors Part 4

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Buzzybee123 · 24/10/2013 23:33

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

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keepitgoing · 23/12/2013 15:05

I just started reading the first worriers' thread. aww. we all basically have a diary of our pregnancies on the internet Smile Smile

ceara · 23/12/2013 15:38

oh crisps, I'm sorry Nancy is still so poorly. I'm thinking of you all.

ceara · 23/12/2013 15:45

In fairness my bump is still measuring about a month behind, despite harbouring a Giganta-baby according to the growth scans, so there might be some justification for the "concerned" / "OMG you can't be going on mat leave already" type comments :-)

OnionRing · 23/12/2013 18:12

crisps in my experience doctors don't lie, you're all in my thoughts though.

Shazzamattazzerly · 23/12/2013 20:09

Oh crisps I'm praying for Nancy and sending you all loads of love and hugs.

Ceara people are obsessed with the size of bumps. One minute they say your small and then so they will comment on how big you are. You can't win!

putthecrispsDOWN · 23/12/2013 21:05

Thanks for all the well wishes folks, means,a,lot. Dildals thanks esp for being my guru/motivatir. Noks...squeeze nokitita oyt please, it would cheer me up muchly!

keepitgoing · 23/12/2013 21:22

well you can't say no to that, noks! get a shift on Wink

Nokkie73 · 23/12/2013 21:58

Rubs hand down coat and says 'oooohhhh Betty, I've got a sore womble'

I think the nipper is listening to it's Aunty crispy and is preparing to do something. I have just been out for fish and chips AND a glass of red wine, just because that's the way I roll. I figure it may be the last time I am able to stuff my face eating two handed. But, something is definitely afoot in de Noks Womble.....

Nokkie73 · 23/12/2013 21:59

I've also told the nipper that Aunty keep has told it to get a move on Grin

Buzzybee123 · 23/12/2013 22:03

noks A xmas day baby, which seasonal name will you choose Grin

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Nokkie73 · 23/12/2013 22:41

Claus for a boy and Bauble for a girl Grin

Buzzybee123 · 23/12/2013 22:47

I like your choices Grin its getting very exciting, hope you can get to the hospital in this really crap weather

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Nokkie73 · 23/12/2013 23:05

It's really awful here - the wind is something else. The hospital is only 12 mins in the car so we should be ok. I've had a Malcolm and still have a sore womble so watch this space.....(knowing my luck I'll still be in this position in two weeks time)

chocolocodowninacapulco · 24/12/2013 06:53

Ooooh, good luck noks Xmas Smile

OnionRing · 24/12/2013 07:48

ANY NEWS?!?

I get to say that every other day at the moment. Claus is a great name but must be said in a creepy Germanic fashion.

We had our annual fight about the number of presents the in laws send for the children. I am a apparently a middle class bastard and can't understand that this is What The Working Classes Do. I don't like that people we almost never see send more presents than I, their bloody mother, buy for the children. I have requested they only send one present per child but am resoundingly ignored. The MiL must has sent ten gifts per child. I'd much rather she actually visited them and gave me an hour off.

keepitgoing · 24/12/2013 08:20

good luck nokky!

onion I even think the middle class way of one present per child ends up quite excessive...

MotorcycleMama · 24/12/2013 09:57

crisps - wishing Nancy a speedy recovery. How awful for you going through this now. Try to keep strong.

keep I don't see the consultant for ages - 35 weeks, so 7 weeks yet. I am hoping to have a reasonable conversation about options etc, but my experience so far has been that I come away from any appt feeling frustrated.

nokkie Exciting times! I hope you are feeling ok and have all the support around you that you need

buzzy yes, I am acutely aware of how difficult it is being around pregnant friends/small babies after a miscarriage, but I am selfishly hoping that I won't lose my friend. I will be as sensitive as I can be. She knows I have been through the same, so hopefully that helps. Not too long til the 7th.

The GP I saw yesterday was brilliant - a trainee - asked lots of questions, and was very thorough. She prescribed me omeprazole which so far has been 100% successful thankfully. She said she thought the chance of my getting listeriosis was very slim, but wants a stool sample just for reassurance. Medical staff often seem oblivious to the therapeutic force of reassurance, so I was very pleased. I don't feel very worried myself as a result, and the stool sample will have to wait until after Christmas as I am away.

fairy I wasn't at a high-end restaurant, but Stephen Hawking was at the next table to us, so certainly a place for VIPs!

onion I anxiously anticipate serious spoiling from both sets of grandparents when minimotor arrives. It will be spoiling of a very middle-class variety, but spoiling nonetheless. minimotor will be the first (and possibly last) grandchild for both sides, so I reckon I just have to try to see it as a positive. I guess it is far preferable to indifference.

How are you doing choco? Seems a couple more egg buddies have had BFPs so hopefully can join us on here soon. Great news!

All ok mackie?

Hi to shazza ceara mrshy dildals

Shazzamattazzerly · 24/12/2013 10:58

Noks! It all starts with funny feelings in the womble. I can't wait for you to squeeze out the nipper. It is beyond exciting Grin. Love your Xmassy names.

Motor glad you are reassured. It does make such a difference to see a professional who understands. If minimotor is the only grandchild then I'm afraid you have no chance of him/her not being spoiled by the grandparental units! Until 6 months ago my DN1 was the long awaited no1 grandchild. Now I have shazlett and my bro has DN2 but the first one is the apple of their eye. And she loves them soooo much. It is very cute.

Onion I hear you sister! I have requested no presents for shazlett but it has fallen on deaf ears. It's ridiculous. Only a month ago we received more presents than there is room for (gratefully received mind you) and despite me requesting no clothes MIL bought outfits that she didn't even get to wear cause they were so small. We certainly don't need more a month later. We only have a little Flat. also i think that the excessiveness of it all is over the top and makes me uncomfortable. But already MIL told DP that she hasn't bought MUCH. Its impossible. Thankfully I can be abit more forceful with my parents (although they still don't listen). Maybe I'm being mean. Hmm

Hello Chocco. How are you feeling?

I hope that our egg buddies join us. It's always good to have new babies on the way.

Happy Christmas Eve everyone.

X

Shazzamattazzerly · 24/12/2013 10:59

Crisps how was your night? Xx

Buzzybee123 · 24/12/2013 11:46

niknoks how are you doing :)

crisps I hope things are improving for little Nancy

motor I wasn't implying you wouldn't be sensitive to your friend but I feel it really is her choice how your friendship develops from here on in, I was totally astounded/disgusted about the comments made to me after all my miscarriages, when I questioned some people about them, they genuinely thought they were being supportive Confused Hmm I'm glad the GP was helpful, Omeprazole has been a great help

As for gifts, I doubt PIL's will have got minibee anything, if they have it will be second hand, you can always give the unwanted gifts to a childrens charity then they won't be wasted

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Dildals · 24/12/2013 13:58

motor I have come to realise so much that being a good dr is not necessarily about the medical side of things, but as much about showing you care, and that is what this GP did. Treasure these GPs!!

onion Oh, please enlighten this part of The Great British Christmas for me, because I never got this! DH's brothers kids get SO MANY presents! It's ridiculous, in our household we would have said that that was spoiling. Also, they don't appreciate this many presents, it's the law of diminishing returns, they rip off the paper of the umptheenth present only to ask where the next one is! I would quite like to have Bella get one Big Gift, like a bike or something else big she wants (which in this household will involve some sort of sports equipment I am afraid, the poor kid, her grandpa will have her do intervals on the track or testing her hand eye coordination as soon as she can walk/hold a ball. He even tests his daughters-in-law for sporting ability. He threw a ball at me and I caught it. I passed. SIL got it against her head. She didn't pass the test. They had to elope.) and one small gift, something fun. But with the cousins getting so many presents I don't want Bella to feel left out, so I will be resigned to showering B in lots of gifts?! Tell me onion does this mean SIL is working class?? I would think lots of gifts would be middle class, because the middle classes at least would have the money for it! Or would that be seen to be common, buying lots of gifts? British society stumps me sometimes...

Dildals · 24/12/2013 14:03

The first time I spent xmas in UK I totally under-bought presents. Very embarrassing!

Although we said that no presents were necessary for B I had anticipated that people like to buy for a baby, so I asked for a few things we 'needed', like a cot mobile (although I am sure she would survive and develop OK without one!) and some new body suits. And I saw these incredibly cute dungarees on next online, with ruffles on the bum. So I suggested these. I love how expatal dresses up mini al. Too funny. I am v envious of the leopard print snowsuit :-).

Nokkie73 · 24/12/2013 14:51

NO NEWS HERE. My efnik womble is still quite achey and my hips feel like they have softened (does that make any sense to those of you who have already had your bambinos ?) It's an odd feeling, but it feels more bendy and stretchy than usual. I have had terrible preggo insomnia the last couple of nights because I can't get comfy, but am trying to remain in good spirits by stuffing my chubby face full of mince pies at every available opportunity. Physically I am struggling a bit now, but part of me is quite sad about the fact that I'm going to have to share the nipper with everyone else when s/he is born. That probably makes me sound a bit crazy and possessive but I like the closeness of it being just me and the baby. That said, I could jot go on for much longer because I look like a Terry's Chocolate Orange on legs.

onions I loved the cock of Christ story with DD1, by the way. Bloody hilarious. Nat Geo are broadcasting a programme about Christ's foreskin (I shit you not) over the next week or so. If you really want to ignite the topic again with her, get that on the tv and see what she makes of it ! Christmas is such an emotive time and the present issue can really make people fall out. I do think that you're absolutely right about family members spending time with the kids throughout the year - don't shower them with loads of unnecessary gifts because it means jack shite if you don't have time for them the other eleven months of the year. I don't think that view makes you a middle class bastard though Confused

dildals in my experience, on the whole the working classes generally spend more (and get more presents) than the middle classes. I remember my nan and grandad, god love them, buying me absolutely sackfuls of stuff for Christmas. I think it was because they literally got feck all when they were little because they were so damn poor (my grandad and his brothers and sisters were one meal from the poor house on several occasions). As they were both working and earning a bit of money, all they wanted to do was spend it on their families at Christmas. That was a direct reaction to their childhood (which was in their very recent memory) and in context with my relationship with them, as I saw them twice a week and stayed with them at weekends. A display of lots of presents could seem vulgar to the middle classes.....

As I don't see myself as any damn class at all, I think that I would like the nipper to know the value of anything they have, and will probably make buying, wrapping and giving a present to a charity part of the Christmas ritual. That probably makes me sound really 'worthy' but I think it's important to think of others who don't have anything.....anyway, I'll get off the soap box now Blush

crisps still thinking about our Nancy and sending you all lots of love. I hope you've managed to make the flat nice for DD1 and P (I don't know if she's DD2 or DD3!). Listen to dildals - she may name her mattresses and her number 2's, but she knows what she's talking about, the crazy lady that she is.

motor I am glad that you got some reassurance from your GP. Sometimes, them taking the time is all that it takes.....I wish they understood that a bit more. Every time I go to my doctors, I am greeted by a huge sign which says 'APPOINTMENTS WITH GP's LAST TEN MINUTES' which really makes you feel cared for and valued Hmm. I generally ignore it and yak on for as long as I need to. I am sorry to hear about your friend too. X

shazza how is sister-in-jaws ? Is it safe to go back in the water Grin ? I hope that you are taking being away in your stride now you have been there a few more days. Hat said, I get you can't wait to get back home and settle into a routine with shazlett which won't be interrupted.

buzzbuzz I had some really insensitive comments after my MC too. The best one was 'I thought you would have got over it by now' followed closely by my sociopath of a boss at the time who 'couldn't understand why I hadn't gone back to work within three weeks of it happening'. Erm, because I waited for it to pass naturally for a week and a half (which I didn't want to happen at work) and then then when it didn't, booked in for an ERPC, which took a few days to organise and was then signed off for a week afterwards to recover from it YOU STUPID INSENSITIVE BITCH. She really covered herself in glory when she placed a newspaper article on my desk entitled 'Why multiple miscarriages won't prevent you from getting pregnant' when I wasn't in the office.....it was there for a day or so, so anyone walking by would have seen it.....and I sat right by a printer which was always in use by everyone in my team. Angry. For many, many reasons she deserved a slap but I really wanted to knock her teeth out for that one.

Hi to everyone else. Are we all ready for Father Christmas ? I am having a coffee whilst DP 'tidies the house' (this involves him huffing and puffing with a hoover). My womble feels like it's going to explode.....Grin

Nokkie73 · 24/12/2013 15:02

Oh and while I am here with a bit of time on my hands, I would like to say a big thank you for your friendship and support over the past twelve months. This time last year I had started to prepare myself for ivf and not long after joined mumsnet. I feel really privileged to have found you lot . Your humour and knowledge have been invaluable at times. Thanks for taking the time to answer my dumbass questions (or listen to my whitterings-on). It means such a lot. Let's not forget that we have all come such a long way in twelve months are they crying in the cheap seats yet ?

Here's to a cracking 2014 for us all. We may be covered in vomit and do brilliant impressions of crazy-eyed, sleep deprived jibbering lunatics. We may have Yoni's that look like they have been got at by Crazy Meg, but we don't care. Somehow, we all got there in the end. Xx

Buzzybee123 · 24/12/2013 15:33

Nik noks sounds like your body is getting ready to do its thing, when is your edd the 28th?? I'm loving the mince pies Grin What are you actually doing tomorrow besides giving birth to the new Jesus

My boss actually called me at the hospital when I had just had my ERPC to find out what was going on and when I'd be back at work Angry I had already emailed my supervisor, my supervisors supervisor and bitch boss Confused clearly none of them could read, MIL took the biscuit with one of her emails, what shocked me was that she had suffered 3 miscarriages herself Hmm

I'm watching Barry chase the cat around, he wants to put a xmas hat on her Hmm I feel its going to end in a blood bath :) his

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