Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/Warriors Part 4

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Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

ceara oh that place ! It's infuriating. Make sure you do properly start your maternity leave by 2014 or you will never bloody well be rid of it !

fairy I do wake-up not knowing what each day will bring, which is kind of exciting but really quite unnerving. I am just trying bit to think about it too much or I will drive myself a bit madder

D'oh! I meant to say crisps can always piss on Xmas!

Christmas and New Year are only days and can be pissed all over by whoever, enforced jollity is ghastly. Ordinary life with all it's horribleness, goes on regardless and people shouldn't have to suppress that. I spent Christmas two years ago in and out of hospital before eventually losing the baby on the 2nd Jan. It was awful to feel like everyone else was having a lovely time and I was going through that. Of course, not everyone was having a lovely time, it just felt like it as I was feeling so wretched. Anyway, 2012 started with utter despair, 2013 with me being finally healthily pregnant and 2014 will start with me being done with all that and completely happy with my girls. I'll be in bed by 8.30 anyway.

Sounds like a lovely day out Dildals. Bella really does see the sights. Ringlet either chats to strangers or cries in horror when people smile at her. I'm jealous of your grooming, I look very old and weary. My NY resolution is to wear better clothes and get my hair cut regularly. I have a long bob and it's too easy to just let it grow, cut my fringe myself and it goes shapeless and dull.

ceara make sure you finish! I got so caught up in work I finished at 9pm on the Friday and had the baby on the Monday. It does feel like tempting fate to do all that preparation but you can't not do it. You can hide it all away once it's done and forget about it. As people have often said on here, if something did go wrong, whether you've washed clothes is hardly going to make it worse. It is just superstition too.

Cooking for the freezer is a really good thing to do. Especially one handed food (and slices of cake!)

shazz how are you today?

noks I hope there's rumblings soon. In fact, you could still have one of those new year babies and be on the local news tomorrow. Ah ha ha. Our local paper (the hilarious Lancashire Telegraph) did all the Christmas babies and I noted with some amusement they were all clearly Muslim.

Morning all

Dr said my scar is ok. Well she said there is no external infection but there could be an internal one. (Ok how do I find that out?? She didn't answer that one!). But she has given me antibiotics in case it gets worse before I get to my own GP. I'm not convinced. In the last couple of days it has got red and looks swollen to me. It is also much more tender to touch the surrounding area. But I guess I will wait and see before I knock back another course of antibiotics. Blimey before I got preggers I never went to the drs and hardly ever took anything other than homeopathic remedies. Now I'm taking every drug offered to me.

Noks have people started calling or texting you to ask if the nipper is here yet? The waiting is strange and I was wondering how I will know when it starts, but you know!

Ceara step away from the paperwork and pack your bag! This baby is coming . I packed 0-3 month clothes and they were huge so DP had to bring the 1 month clothes from home that luckily someone from work bought for me. She is still in those babygros at 5 weeks. The 0-3 months are still abit big and she has grown out of the newborn stuff that MIL bought despite me asking her not to waste money. The clothes were worn once. . I also got nappies that were too big. I just read 'new baby' on the packet and in my naivety didn't realise that there were sizes and I got size 2. So DP had to go out and buy size 1. 3 weeks to go. Could happen at any time then...

Like onion, keep and fairy I'd like to get more in trim by the summer. I'd be happy to fit into the preggers jeans that I got when I was 10 weeks let alone my pre preggers jeans! At the moment I'm wearing the new look 2pairs for £15 black mat leggings and a number of new tunic BFing tops that I got so that I didn't look like a sack of potatoes in the Christmas festivity photos.

I also love Noks' resolution to keep smiling. I want to enjoy mat leave and use this time to decide where to go next. We have spent this week toying with the idea of buying the house next to my parents (I know I know but hear me out) spending a year doing the cosmetic work that it needs to tart it up and then flogging it at a profit. This would get us out of the London property trap that we are currently in and get us on our way. So it might not be as crazy as it sounds. However I would have to live next to my Olds for a whole year. Hhhmmmm.

Dildals I'm impressed with your trip to the beautician. I was jealous that MrsH said on FB that she was wearing make up. I got one of my brushes out the other day and it had gone mouldy! And sounds like you had a lovely day out. I've got much braver on this trip getting out and about and BFing in public. We are going to Cheltenham today. I love getting shazlett out in cafes. She causes quite a stir with all her hair and everyone tells us how pretty she is (glows with pride).

How is everyone else?

Crisps how is our lovely Nancy? Thinking of you all. And hoping for good news.

I hope everyone is ok. Chocco, macksie and foody are you still out there?i hope you are still with us. Let us know when your scans are and how you are feeling.

Much love and happiness to all of you today and for the year ahead. Happy new year! I hope you all have a fabulous evening.

shazza you have listed all the possible signs of infection, and if I were you I would take the antibiotics to prevent it getting any worse and making you ill. The GP does not have the benefit of being able to see how it looks now in comparison to last week or so, nor does she know how it feels. It may be that it is just aggravated, but personally I would play safe and take the tablets.

Sounds like an interesting plan you have there, and so long as you have a reasonable relationship with your parents, then living next to them at this stage could be very helpful. Exciting times!

Crisps, I am so heart sorry that Nancy is so poorly. Thinking of you all.
Please feel free to piss away :-)

Shazza, can you go back to dept where you had the baby? That was what I was told to do if any prob with me or baby. You need an internal scan.

Hello everyone. Sorry for huge radio silence. X

hi shaz sounds like an infection so it would be prudent to take the antibiotics to make sure it doesn't get worse. You can't afford to get really ill!

I was also impressed with mrsH make up and hair straightening regime! I must add that the beautician is one you can take your baby too. They are all CRB checked and entertain baby while you get treated!

It's fun with a small baby isn't it? You get so much attention. I reckon Bella has made half of Sainsbury's and John Lewis broody!

shazza do it! The antibs and the house. The cottage next to us is up for sale and I've tried to persuade my parents to buy it. Unfortunately it looks idyllic but is ancient and damp and needs a £40k refit, oh and our lane is also very steep so hardly suitable for the elderly. But I would love them living next door, we get on very well and it would allow me to keep an eye on them as they age.

We are having NY early so I'm drinking cava in the kitchen while pretending to cook and DH and DD1 are dancing to ska in the living room.

Hello all!

Sorry for silence - I'm always lurking!

The babies all sound so gorgeous, wish I could hold them!

Shazza sorry to hear about your scar, sounds painful, but hopefully if you can brave the antibiotics then they will sort it.

onion 8.30 bedtime sounds lush.

noks hope you're still doing ok and not too uncomfortable.

motor glad you're feeling better now you're home

ceara yeah for mat leave starting soon

waves to everyone else.

AFM, all ok, I guess I'm just a little scared to get too involved in this thread as I can't help thinking what could happen! I will be 7 weeks tomorrow and that's based on 2 weeks back from EC. Scan is not until the 17th!! Booking appointment and flu jab on the 10th. Been feeling hideous all day nausea and got some tablets from gp last week, but have been reluctant to take them so far. I also got some homeopathic tabs, ipecacuanha, I think.

Off for a wild NYE tonight ... At my parent's! Mum asked me at xmas if I'd gone tee total!! It's going to be fun hiding the drinking and forcing down the Chinese nibbles she's doing and we've also got to somehow sneak off to do the Gestone jab while we're there. Wish me luck

I read some of the original worriers thread back the other day after keep mentioned it and it's fascinating to read about all your symptoms and thoughts. Any words of wisdom anyone for how I get to the scan without worrying about mmc or blighted ovum etc?!

Ooo ceara not long to go now! V exciting! Are you and buzz due at about the same time? I was dead beat mom and only washed second hand baby grows not the new ones. I'd recommend cake for the freezer (quelle surprise!) as we've eaten all the batch cooked treats and just have boring dinners left in there now! I took babygros in a range of sizes in the hospital bag. Everyone told me I had stupid amounts of luggage but as we were in for so long, we ended up using most of what I packed (apart from the hair straighteners...)

Dildals, where is this beauticians? Sounds amazing! I have a hair appt booked for feb, but can't see me having a spare couple of hours to attend.

shazz I agree with everyone else re the antibs. You really don't wanna get ill and need your scar to heal up. We had soooo many packs of iv antibis during labour for the gbs - I must be immune to everything! Property plan sounds interesting, although please don't leave the hood yet! Come back soon!

onion cava mmm. I'm going to have a small glass of champers tonight in front of jools holland. Rock n roll. But I'll have my baby and DH with me, which is all I've ever wanted.

noks ANY NEWS?!!!!

motor fingers crossed all is well with the sample. I'm so pleased I no longer have to try to piss into tiny pots for antenatal appts.

crisps thinking of you and Nancy.

choc the scan waits are agony. Tbh I think I just worried before every single one! The thing that helped a little was thinking that worrying wouldn't affect the outcome, so working myself up was pointless. Also I tried to remember the stats re the likelihood of everything being ok, although I understand this must be less comforting when you've been at the wrong end of them before.

Waves and luffs to everyone else. Am looking forward to the 2014 baybees arriving!

We're still battling on with the BF and have managed to cut out the day time formula. We took ginster to be registered today, so she's now official! I had to get a boob out in the waiting room to calm her - 1st public BFing. But she was then good and didn't scream the place down.

Did/does anyone else's baby scream a lot in the hour or so before they poo? Ginster cluster poos at night, but obviously has a lot of gas and cries a lot beforehand. DH has been dispatched to find some infacol...

Anyway Happy NYE everyone! What a year eh :) My resolutions will be getting my lardy arse down the allotment and digging away some of the baby fat!

Am i the only one who drinks like normal and breast feeds?!

I don't get wasted of course but defo have a few drinks!

Just wanted to say to all those pregnant ones, loads of people go on about how hard it all is, bla bla, not sleeping etc but not many people tell you how much fun it is, how lovely and amazing. There, i just told you.

dildals fear not, I also don't abstain. I often have a glass of wine after Pangolina has gone down for the night or two if it is Friday. 2-3 days a week I don't. I don't worry because she doesn't wake to feed until after midnight and by then I've metabolised it all (it isnt stored in your breasrs)But even if I do end up feeding her within a couple of hours when I've had a drink, such as when i had sunday lunch at a friend's, don't think it causes any harm. The Bumpology book has a chapter on it and the amount of alcohol that ends up in breast milk is tiny and you'd have to be a major lush for it to have an effect on baby, even temporarily.

So that is my Happy NY message to the new mums, go on have a glass! For those still preggers, have half!

I'll be asleep before midnight I'm quite sure.

Although choco I didn't have any alcohol during the first trimester. I totally understand your fear but try to remember that it is far more likely everything will be fine than not. That's what I kept telling myself and it did help.

Once ginster is less tiny and not feeding constantly, I fully intend to get back on the wine! I've been having a glass but that's it. Plus I suspect I'd fall unconscious after any more than 1!

Ditto wat dildals said. It is totally awesome and this has been the best year. Meeting and getting to know DD really has been the best thing that had happened to me and DH. One glance at her beautiful little face and everything is worthwhile. I'm so excited for those of you yet to meet your babies. I get all teary just thinking about how much I love mine stupid hormones.

No Dildals. Am drinking champers right now. Cheers!

And ditto!

God no, I drank my usual amounts. Although they are much diminished as I just can't take it.

I heartily second what dildals said about babies being the best fun and what gin said about just how much love you have for them. My ringlet is infuriating but she's utterly adorable, and she's growing up so fast. She'll be talking to me soon!

choco I worried constantly and dreaded scans so I have no advice other than it is more likely to be ok than not ok. Oh and distract yourself. Bejeweled is good - someone mentioned that earlier, I hate it's pointlessness but it is so addictive.

Hello al I hope you're all well.

I hope you all have contented evenings, however you're spending them and minimal disturbances in the night. I'm snuggled up with Ringlet and plan to be asleep before too long. I can't remember the last time I even stayed up until the bells, probably 2007!

Babies definitely are lovely, despite the flailing arms and stubborn sleep-resistance. This afternoon I lay down with Pangolina and she gurgled and cooed at me for a while, then we looked at the trees outside as the sun went down. I wrapped her in a blanket when she started to rub her eyes and tucked her in the crook of my arm and then we both snozzed off. In these moments I feel as though we make each other perfectly happy.

Arghh. I knew these words were going to come back to bite me... It's 11, we have 8 dinner guests and B refuses to settle. I have fed her, rocked her, jigged, shushed and fed her again. The child will not sleep. Last night she slept from 8 till 3.30 and then till 8. And tonight just big quivering lip action, little rigid body and promptly waking up when I desperately feed her to sleep. I had my dessert in the bedroom, I had to finish off my main while others were clearing the plates. My wine glass is standing on the table untouched (to be fair I did manage to get 3 glasses of champagne in, fizzy wine, whatever and a white Russian) Worst of all is that I am feeling they're all thinking 'oh if only she applied Gina Ford ...'. I might just stay up here and sleep.

dildals I hope B got off to sleep in time for NY! As for the guests, if they have children they'll only be sympathetic, if they don't they have no idea!

Must have been something in the air. We saw in NY with M clamped to my boob! Oh the glamour.

Hear hear. I was up with an ear achey and congested ringlet until 5.00am. It took Calpol and ibuprofen and me rubbing her ears and milk and singing and walking around and rocking and more milk and more rubbing and more Calpol. I am totally exhausted. At my parents now though where at least I don't have to cook or clean.

Poor little Ringlet. Sounds miserable.

dildals I also missed our nye dinner to rock and shush. then was in bed at 9.30.

poor ringlet

choco its so good to see you and so pleased all is going well. please don't feel you shouldn't post if you're feeling nervous, that's exactly why we started this thread. I know most are far along or with our babies now, so do tell the other egg buddies to join us for a new wave. as for how not to mental, well if you read our first thread you'll know we basically have no clue. you just gotta get through the days.

I also wanted to say how despite the fatigue I am having the best and loveliest time with our little gorgeous girl