PG after MC: Posifrickentivity, Batshit Crazy and a Rash of New Babies...

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Here we go ladies...

I need you girls I slap some seance into me. I've convinced myself my baby ha died because I'm not putting on any more weight. I put on 1/2 a stone in the first 5 weeks and haven't put on anything since. Not even a little pound. It's stupid, I've been eating fruit and veg and meat, no carbs and very little sugar of course I'm not putting on weight, in reality in probably loosing it which cancels out the weight gain yet I've convinced myself it's all over.
My scan is the 1/11 and I don't know how I'm going to cope :(

Bod, we don't find out who won gbbo until 8pm?

pink that's great news, you've plenty of time to get ready for labour

cbeebies I gained weight non stop with DS and put on just over 4st this time I lost weight till abt 16w and was worried, but MW said its normal with subsequent pregnancies as you are so much more active when you have kids to look after already! I have now put on just over 2st so it does go on eventually Be kind to yourself, 1 Nov will come round soon enough x

cbeebies you are being irrational my lovely. I am a ketosis queen and you will def not gain any weight from no carbs and little sugar in fact you'll prob lose some like you say.

Did you get anywhere with your GP? Sorry if i missed a post. Please try and stay calm xxx

Hi there ladies.
Waiting for GBBO here too- but will have to wait for my husband to get home so it's recording and I will have to avoid fb and twitter so I don't see the result before I watch it.

Yes to NCT from me, I did the class with my second as we had moved into the area, made some lovely friends that 3 years on I still see and some are on mat leave again now so we will meet up when I go on leave.
Emki- good luck tomorrow, will have everything crossed for you and hoping it's all good news
Cbebbeis- hang in there, count down each day.
I hated the first trimester it's so scary.

Right I need a slap now- I'm 34 weeks now and I still don't think this baby will make it. I keep thinking how I will tell my children age 6 and 3 that the baby died, I haven't organised anything, bought anything, no bag packed, I don't like to talk about it at work, I haven't bonded with the baby at all. I'm so bloody scared I guess and I know it's just protecting myself but it's horrible.
I hope you will understand- I can't tell anyone else as they would think I'm crazy. My sister is having a c-sec next week as well, not sure if that will make me feel even worse.

cbeebies I'm 18wks tomorrow and at my 16wk check up I was weighed and told I hadn't put any weight on yet my stomach was massive!!! Do with that as you will but we heard the heartbeat etc xxxx hope that helped

cbeebies - apparently raymond blanc gave it away.

JMF - I am so sorry you are still feeling like this. I am sure you have lots of stuff anyway but maybe you get get a friend or your mum to take you on a little shopping trip and maybe pack a couple of bags for you and put it in your car? if you are not up to it.

I think we all have our anxieties. I become convinced i have brain damaged baby after going in a hot jaccuzzi at 14 weeks and getting a bit hot and bothered ( thinking at time it was only first trimester you couldnt - i know I am stupid). Been kicking myself ever since and I have convinced myself this baby could have some sort of special needs. I cant get it out of my head. Even if I have a heathy baby I will prob be on edge for next couple of years watching out for milestones.

Jmf. As much as I can relate to how you feel, you need to prepare something. Baby could conceivably be born at any time. Are you going to wrap it in a t towel and put in in a drawer?

tomkat and emki best of luck with your scans tomorrow. I don't think any if us could claim not to have overwhelming fear of what is going to happen at them, so at least you are among like minded batshit crazies!

Right, a few people here need fish slaps!!

cbeebies I haven't weighed myself since before I was a PG so I don't get depressed at how massive I become - I suggest you stop as well and then you'll have nothing to worry about. Weight will have nothing to do with it, try and be positive.

jmf I think anda got stuff delivered to her mum's and had everything ready there as she didn't want it in the house. Can't you do something similar? You do need to start preparing, a baby is going to appear

Great news baby has moved pink, I'm not sure you need a zone, your body just takes over!!

I'm struggling to bend down today, oh the joy of months of not being able to pick things up properly - I swear it makes you drop things more!!!

jmf how did you find the nct classes as a 2nd/3rd time mum was it ok? I've just checked dates for ours and it is only 3 sessions so quite possible for babysitting, and they're weekends which is easier. But not sure if people would find us odd for going as not new to area and have 3yo so have done it all quite recently... would like to meet more mums though (mum friends from last mat leave mostly full time again) and get bit more bf support than NHS offered last time...

Also I can entirely relate to ongoing doom, I had a total panic after telling DD about baby that I might then have to explain to her if baby died, and think some of my labour panics over the weekend were related to still birth fears. So you're not alone BUT it is irrational and you must not let it take over xx

evening ladies! aw love gbbo - won't spoil it for anyone though :) i was home alone watching it so managed to stuff myself with the treats bought in for two...oopsies!

bosscock wasn't in today grrr. trying to remain calm though.

jmf i would probably advise getting in some bits and bobs. i understand your anxiety, but look how far you've got! the chances of something going wrong now are minute. sending you a reassuring hug xx

i can't remember who asked about the cost for nuchal scans - i am nhs (n ireland)and they don't do the NT in any of the local nhs hospitals here. if we had wanted one then we would've had to go privately and it was about £200.

santa, i totally agree with your post from this morning.

we are human. we will crack sometimes, but we can only do our best. we had 2 nhs parent craft classes. the first one was about the labour and the second one was about bringing baby home. the midwife was really lovely and very down to earth, there were 9 couples in the class but none of us made friends so i do feel like i've missed out a bit, although i have made really good friends with 3 girls from my yoga class and i intend to go to the free breast feeding workshops in the local community centre once baby comes along.

pink - keep up the good work trying to get the scan. tell them your friend janie got one and maybe they'll sort you out? yay for the wee hippo turning :) i really need to get the aul finger out and start listening to my hypno cd, keep forgetting to bring my earphones to bed though.

lucky hope tomorrow finds you feeling better. i'm knackered but luckily feeling ok.

i'm heading out to see chic and nile rogers tomorrow night. can't bloody wait, hope i can stay awake though!! aaaaah freak out!!

hello to everyone i've missed, xx

jmf I understand. Even going in for the ELCS I was sure it was all going to go wrong and they wouldn't find heartbeats. I had very very little in the house. Some stuff was in the garage but absolutely everything was still boxed or had labels attached. The vast majority was at my mum's, as guff said. My dad was building cots the day after they were born...

However, being discharged at 10pm and coming home to a house where nothing was ready was an absolute nightmare. Saying that though, over the first week or so we had amazon deliveries every day. Amazon Family is free for three months with next day free amazon prime delivery and it was brilliant.

It will be fine, you know. In six weeks you'll have a little baby. And if you still don't believe me, buy everything from mamas and papas and keep the receipts - they have a 365 day refund policy. And build an amazon shopping basket so it's all ready to go when they've safely arrived and will be delivered the next day. All you really need are nappies, clothes and somewhere for them to sleep with bedding.

My 12 week appt went well - strong heartbeat. First trimester screening including ultrasound next week. Midwife said that I can have a "fetal tones check in" as often as I like. Very grateful for her kindness and for the good news.

Congrats anglo!

My scan was also good news, hooray! A little 2cm bean with a heartbeat, measuring exactly what it should at 8+3. I've been through such a range of emotions, from elation to relief to total amazement that there is actually something in there and it wasn't all in my batshit crazy imagination after all. The feeling I'm left with now is cold realisation - fecking hell, this might actually end up in a baby, I don't know what to do with one of those!

My mum made me laugh though. I told her the news by sending her a text of the scan photo. She thought it was a picture of a piece of burnt toast Then she cried

emki and tomkat good luck with your scans tomorrow. I was petrified an hour before, but then the two pints of water I had drunk started kicking in and all I could think of was trying not to pee my pants. A great distraction technique!

congratulations anglo and penguin - wonderful news! emki and tomcat all the best for tomorrow (sorry I thought it was today)

cbeebies I think weight gain - or lack thereof - is irrelevant but can identify with the sense of gloom (that both bod and jmf seem to share)...bod I have very similar fears...I haven't been in a jacuzzi but I'm scared I may have had toxoplasmosis, or lay on my back for too long and deprived baby of oxygen or I don't know what...I'm just so worried about the baby's health and safe delivery, I'm not even thinking about labour. I know we are all being irrational but cannot help it...

ibip great news on the baby turning!! Hurray! You'll get into the zone in due course, don't worry

pentagon and Bod reading your irrational fears really resonated with me. I'm terrified I have toxoplasmosis. I even woke up at 3am one morning a couple weeks ago and did some serious research into exactly how you get it. I realised the chances of me picking it up from our kitten really are ridiculously small and so common sense kicked back in for a few days before I started worrying about all the medium rare steaks and possibly unwashed vegetables I've eaten... I think it's inevitable to worry given what most Of us have Ben through. The hardest bit is trying to cling on to sanity and common sense when you fixate on something to panic about! I find staying away from the internet helps. And I keep looking at the pics of scan and remembering that everything was ok at 12wks and is ok until someone tells me otherwise!

On a weight note - I piled on 2kg at the 11 week mark and have now lost it and weigh less than I did before I feel pg! But none of my clothes fit due to my stomach which appears to look ginormous (in a fat sense - I look the furthest thing away from pregnant right now!). Was worrying about that too earlier - was nice to read about other people's weight experiences!

YEY Anglo and Penguin

Good luck for those with scans today xxx

Good girl Pink hippo, now sit and stay for mummy please (although pink don't panic about your zones if she has a temporary reshuffle)

I'm kind of not believing this baby will appear too. However I am also thinking I've grown a tough cookie this time to have made it so far and be unaffected by my driving into a field I really need to get a bit more organised as well as we have diddly squat ready and the house is a mess. Only one more day at work though (Friday) and then I MUST NEST!

Good luck with your scans today Anglo and tomkat.

Thank you all for your understanding of my fears, it's just hard to believe there will be a good outcome.
I will get sorted and organised but I don't think the reality will still hit me . If all goes well I can imagine a total overwhelming reaction in the operating theatre when I finally get to see him.

Did the right girl win GBBO ? She wasn't consistently the best by any means and I thought all their wedding cakes were a bit lacking in style- says me whose baking is limited to chocolate crispie cakes!!

Hi jmf - I'm with you in having nothing prepared yet for fear of jinxing things. But also because it's my second (and WILL be you third) I have a little bit of "it'll be ok -I can sort it when he's out" attitude.
Do you have someone who will be able to help you get stuff out and washed once you are back from hospital? As really then all you need are the 2-3 vest/babygro outfIts, car seat and blanket. Everything else can be bought on the way there or back (nappies, wipes etc etc) if you really want.

Good luck for the scans today

Great news on scans yesterday and very good luck to those going today.

Bit indifferent to winner of GBBO feel like the decision was made on last bake rather than whole series!

Thank you for telling me I'm being irrational.
To whoever asked about the go, the line has been constantly engaged and when I do get through, am not deemed enough if an emergency and have obstart the whole process again the next day they also only have 1 midwife per surgery here so have made the decision to move dr surgeries. Hopefully get down to new one today to register.

As a cake decorator I LOVED the winners cake (I don't want to give it away!) wedding cakes take me 3+ day to make and think she best used her time and skills to get the bed result. I would have done something similar. I also think she has the skill thy can't be taught and the ones she lacks are the ones that can be taught over time. Right decision in my eyes!

I can hear paper ripping down stairs. Both girls are happpy and quiet. Do I continue ignoring and jump in the shower or go and investigate? [nervous]

Paper ripping is safer than total silence, so I'd have a shower and pretend you know nothing :-D

I think the right girl won GBBO on the day, but as you say, over the whole series I think I'd have put her second. But then i think they have to judge it on the last day, not the whole series. What I want do know is, do you think PH and R shagged (at the after party)? I reckon they did....

Lots of gentle fish slaps all round - but also lots of sympathy for everyones IRRATIONAL fears. I went through a phase of waking in the middle of the night and having panic attacks about all sorts of things (usually lack of movement for a nanosecond). I am trying to work really hard on NOT letting myself think about these things at night, when your conscious/rational brain isn't engaged. I tell myself its OK to have these fears (you have to acknowlege the fears) but that now is not the time and place to think about them, and that I will think about them properly when I'm in the right place to have rational thought processes. I also remind myself that it is really out of my hands - what will be will be, and there is nothing I can do or not do to change the outcome.

I am being sensible but not overly cautious, because if something goes wrong, it will be down to really shitty luck, not anything i did. (So even something like soft cheese - how unlucky would you have to be to have the one bit of cheese that gives you listeria. Its not exactly a 1 in 100 risk is it??! I think the last case of listeria in this country was found in lettuce....)

Hurray for good scans yesterday and happy pregnancy announcements. I think having been through a difficult process getting a healthy pregnancy makes you realise just how wonderful it is for others who've struggled.