PG after MC: Posifrickentivity, Batshit Crazy and a Rash of New Babies...

[SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten]

Here we go ladies...

Fod that doesn't sound good at all. Have you approached your manager to chase up the assessment?
Janie - how did your work go today?
I had GBS with my DD, they have told me they won't even test this time as she wasn't affected... But surely that was at least possibly down to the 4 hourly IV antibiotics?

very possibly! my ptoblem is that my last labour was 3.5 hours!

on a positive note, I have finally felt some movement! My placenta is in the front and its taken ages!

Fod you need to speak to your union rep.

Uuugggghhhh. 12 wk scan still not thru, we're having a nuchal but I didn't realise you had to pay for it, funny they never mention that! DH adamant he doesn't want a downs baby and would want a termination, I wouldn't want a termination or even an aminio after my history ( I don't think we're in the position to be that picky) at this stage we've agreed to disagree but god help us if the results come up bad..... More bloody worry

Glad you're feeling Critter move! saggy

I have my 12 week appointment tomorrow. Nervous, of course, but looking forward to it. Genetic counseling next week - I thought that was because of the loss of our daughter last year, but apparently it's the Old Bird testing...I'm only 35!

Hi girls, yeah I spoke to both my rep and manager but the manager said she's chased it up - nothing's been done, and I have to do a self assessment ;( I've emailed my rep and just waiting on a reply

Counting down the weeks til I leave in all honesty

hey girls, sorry it's a totally flying visit and i haven't had a chance t read through everything - although yay for movements saggy :)

bastard cockgoblin was only in for 5 minutes this morning grrrr then he fecked off and didn't come back and i was so so so so busy that i didn't even get a minute to draft my email. he's in tomorrow though and i want to send it when i know he's there and will receive it and can;t escape without replying. grr. thank you again for the good vibes and advice.

i'm sure i saw a couple of people are having scans tomorrow? sorry on phone - but good luck good luck!!! xxx

good luck penguin and emki for today, will be thinking of you both.

saggy yay for movement

janie hope cockgoblin sorts things quick smart, it shouldn't be causing you all this worry at this stage grrr.

polka that sounds like a hard situation, I hope the nuchal is ok.

fod sorry to hear things are still rubbish at work.

I had to take a couple of days off reading anything pg related as had a massive crisis of confidence in my ability to give birth, bf, even care for a newborn which DH helpfully interpreted as me saying we shouldn't have a baby and got v morose and upset which upset me more... talked it through but still feel peeved at his ability to trump any emotion I'm feeling and make it about him! I am struggling to get excited about baby as the first few weeks were so hard last time but I don't think that's totally abnormal? I just needed him to hold me and tell me it would be ok.

Hey pixie I can relate to that. Maybe we're married to the same DH?!? He's either hideously practical or woefully Eyeore like (particularly when I worry about money - his automatic reaction is to say things like "right, we'll just have to cancel the holiday, I won't take you out for your birthday and we'll just have to eat beans on toast") and never does what I need him to do whihc is to hug me and say it will all be alright. So, {{{{{{pixie}}}}}} "IT WILL BE OK".

It really will. Looking after a newborn is hard, physically, but really not that difficult and you will be astonished at your mother's instinct. And even if you don't know what to do, as long as your baby is fed, clean and safe, the rest can be fixed later. Don't worry about the birth either. It hurts a lot but again, your body knows exactly what to do, and if for any reason it doesn't then the doctors and midwives will do it for you and all that matters is a healthy baby at the end. Breastfeeding can be tricky or can be a doddle, but if you can't manage it, it doesn't matter as we are fortunate to have safe, nutritious formula available readily available as a backup. Remember all the above and don't listen to people who swear that you're evil if you consider an epidural or even look at a formula bottle, because they're loons and betraying the sisterhood. {lecture over}

Polka are you in the UK? Because I'm sure that the nuchal test is now offered on the NHS so a bit surprised that you'll have to pay for it. But whatever the result, you and your DH will come to the right decision for both of you. Its probably quite different making a decision after the event than trying to work out what you might do if x happens, so try not to worry that you seem to have different views at the moment. Can you phone your local midwives and ask when you can expect a scan date to come through - how many weeks are you now?? Better to phone and be told to wait than not phone and find you've slipped through the net.

Good luck today emki and penguin - I know how nervous you'll be but we're all thinking of you today.

(Sorry, I hope my post didn't offend anyone. I know all the evidence about breastfeeding being best and that a lot of women aspire to have a natural birth, and I fully support (and want!) both for myself. However, I also firmly believe that new mothers should never be made to feel guilty for the existence of modern medicine and technology and should be respected for any choices they make, as long as the baby and mum are healthy at the end of it. Being a mum is a thankless task and we should stick together!)

anglo very good luck today - keep us posted.

pixie I hope you're feeling more positive now, OH's do have an immense ability to make everything about themselves, mine keeps on about how tired he feels! Really?!

WhatSanta yes I'm in the UK and it was offered and booked with the midwife thru' the NHS but she left me some leaflets which say that it costs £180, just really surprised as I've never heard anyone say that they get charged for the nuchal before.

Thank you ladies for the positive vibes. My scan is tomorrow morning - i'm terrified!

Thinking of you penguin

Polka, I'm NHS and have never heard of needing to pay money for the nuchal, and I've just had my second NT scan. Is it worth phoning them up to clarify, because that doesn't sound right.

Santa, I'm certainly not offended - I know what you mean!

I sort of have a bump. I don't think it's entirely made of Hula Hoops either. I didn't really start to stick out until around five months last time. I think it's a combination of (a) twins and (b) my stomach muscles going 'sod it, can't be bothered to try and hold it all in this time'.

Maybe that's just the cost of the test to the NHS - very odd for the NHS to charge. fingers crossed that you don't have to pay it! Definitely worth chasing for a date if you haven't had a date through by the time you're 10 weeks. I know some trusts only book the scans a week in advance but at least you then know that you haven't been forgotten!

Thanks ladies, it definately says on the leaflet that they bill us after the nuchal £180 - I will clarify though. I only had my booking in appointment last week as I didnt' want to jinx things and I'm meant to be having the scan with the consultant so they can measure my cervix to see if I need a stitch at the same time but I will chase that up too as I also need to sort time off work which is getting trickier!

Good luck tomorrow emki.

Oooo, meant to ask where I can find the stats for normal/average nuchal scan test results for my age (37)????

can I just ask .... I keep thinking the result is not going to be good because I can't imagine it being good ..... did any of you feel not positive and still have a positive scan? Or did you just know the scan would go well .... sorry if i'm driving you all crazy!!

Emki I couldn't imagine good news at the scan. I was pacing round the waiting room and felt ill I was so nervous. I just couldn't imagine after what happened last time that this time might just be ok. But it was all fine
Penguin do you have a scan today?
Pig - I'm huge this time round. Everyone is convinced I'm having twins and ones hiding, I had only just started showing around now with DD. midwife days she thinks it's a mixture of water and muscles know what to do this time so they don't even try to hold it in. How are you feeling a out having 2? It must be scary and amazing at the same time.

Oh and Polka, like someone said earlier, IF on the off chance you are faced with the news that you are high risk, discussing it after the matter is really different than discussing 'what ifs' If you need to, you will come to the right decision.
Tins now are you getting on? Do you have a scan this week?

emki I went to 8 week scan feeling nothing but dread and initially laid there with my hands over my face until she said 'there's a heartbeat'. Be kind to yourself. Only natural to think the worst after MC but staying as positive as you possibly can is the best way to be, otherwise the negativity and worry is all consuming. I have a 12 week scan tomorrow and all is well until proven otherwise! Doesn't mean I'm not worried, that's only natural, just trying to keep it in check. Good luck xx

emki I felt totally 100% pregnant and positive at my mmc scan. Obviously instinct v wrong there! at every scan since I have been v pessimistic and it has been ok. So don't go on these feelings too much I think they are a natural reaction to having had bad experiences in the past. Hug!

santa thank you SO much that is exactly what I needed to hear. I think I need to give myself permission to accept that if bf doesn't work again it won't be my fault and that if I end up with an intervention heavy birth it really really doesn't matter. Your message has really picked me up I can't thank you enough also reassuring to hear my DH isn't the only one who thinks it's all about him he is pretty wonderful usually.

Thank you so much - you really have made me feel better. Huge hugs to you all. tomkat I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

Amen santa it is good to have an ideal of how you want birth/breast feeding etc. to go but MWs and HVs forget that the baby has a say too and sometimes makes things difficult for you....one size doesn't fit all and it frustrates me that the NHS/NCT try to force one ideal way on everyone I will be much more confident with my choices this time round, especially with BF

Good luck everyone with scans, I know just how you are feeling x

Hi ladies. I'm still here lurking but I just cant keep up with you all! Hope you don't mind me sticking around and posting now and again?! I've been quite unwell over the last week and ended up back at the hospital Friday with high blood pressure and protein in urine. Am 35.3 days now and I'm now being monitored more closely. Have the consultant tomorrow so will see what the blood pressure is doing. Feeling really shakey though and got a right thirst I can't quench. Anyone else having this around the same stage as me.

Good luck penguin and emki for today. Hope you got your lucky socks.

Well said Santa on your above post. I did breast feed DS and hope to BF DD but I did find it really hard and not much support. Happy Mummy = Happy Bubba. Every family has the right to do what is best for them without being judged!