PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

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Welcome ladies, new and old. May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

I have to go to London for an Amnio. Anytime after 15.2. am 13.6 today.

Thanks pentagon
Don't want to detract from supporting the others having a much tougher time, but it was a real relief to see a heartbeat today at 8 wks - more than we got last time, so feels like a milestone.
But I know we're not out of the woods yet...

Sorry, Poppy congratulations. There is nothing better than that moment of relief when you see the heartbeat for the first time.

No Kat. Have to wait at least a week. 15.2 is weeks, sadly, not time!

Kat when are you having the scan?

Poppy that's lovely news, glad it went well.

A week today til my 16 week midwife app so should get to hear the heartbeat. Another 6 days after that until gender scan (purely for reassurance that everything is going well, don't care really about finding out the sex)

Forester - there are no words I'm so so sorry you are having to go through that again!
Saggy - 1/5 is still low, and without wanting to sound preachy AT ALL having a child with downs is really not the worst thing in the world. As babies they are no different to every other baby. I hope your amino comes around quick and gives you the results you want. I was really hoping your results would come back low :( Take your time with the 'what if' conversations if you aren't up to it right now, you have time.
Poppy - congrats on the good scan!

Forrester so sorry to read your news. Thinking of you. x
Sorry you have another tough wait Saggy.

So sad to read your post Forrester you must be devestated. Please don't lose hope, it was third time lucky for me (and a few others on here). I hope you are surrounded by people you love who can help you through this xxx

Saggy, it's shit that you have to wait another week. So stressful. We have a downs baby in my immediate family so know a little bit about it, but as others have said its still an 80% chance they will be fine. I have a friend who got 1 in 4 and theirs was fine. Have you been given a and date yet?

Poppy Congratulations to you, lovely news x

Poppy lovely to read your happy news. Congrats X

Sorry to hear you are in for a tough wait saggy xx

Poppy - don't feel bad, happy news should always be celebrated. Congratulations :)

Forrester - so sorry. Heartbreaking I know. As garden said, it was 3rd time lucky for me too. I truely hope next time is your lucky time.

Saggy - fuck. I know you will be able to think of nothing else, but just hold on to the fact that that is based on percentages. You will know for sure (soon) either way. Your age will be skewing what may be otherwise normal (if low) results, and the borderline nuchal measurement will add to that. But just because a few borderline things add up to 1 in 5 - doesn't mean there is anything wrong. Try and remember that for the next week (and I hope this rambling post made sense - not sure if it did!)

Forester so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you can take some time off now. Be kind to yourself. Hope you have love and support in real life.

Saggy 80% chance all will be well and healthy. They are good odds.

Forester so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you can take some time off now. Be kind to yourself. Hope you have love and support in real life.

Saggy 80% chance all will be well and healthy. They are good odds.

I am sorry to hear such awful news today. My heart goes out to forester

and saggy it must be awful for you. If it makes you feel any better I have seen and assisted lots of amnios and they are over in a matter of minutes.

I know that this is nothing compared to what the others are going through. But I had some terrible news today and am absolutely heartbroken. The week before we went on holiday my gorgeous cat boris started getting poorly. He has had a bad year this year having had a cold and gingivitis but this was the worst we had seen him as he had lost his appetite (a very rare thing - he has been known to eat entire pizzas). Dh took him to the vet who thought he had some kind of kidney/ gut infection and gave him antibiotics. The day we were going on holiday we took him back to the vets as he hadnt improved much they suggested we let him stay for a few days. He was getting better and was set to go home today. My mum was picking him up. But this morning he took a turn for the worse so they did some more tests and it turns out he has feline aids - end stage. We have had to make the terrible decision to have him put down. It is such a shock and I feel so guilty for not being there but dh is adamant he doesn't want me to go back and see him and get myself more upset. Plus we are a 5 hour drive away and I don't want him to suffer anymore.
Sorry its so long just need to get it off my chest. He is my beautiful boy and the best cat I have ever had. I know there are a few cat lovers on here so just to see how handsome he is If you put his full name into google images "boris z Kufra carycy" and Siberian he comes up in the first few images. The one with the blue background and a trophy and the one were he is up a tree.
Can't believe he won't be waiting there for me when he gets back.

Not a trophy a ribbon. He is my big fluffy ginger Garfield and he was such a help to me through both my miscarriages. Can't believe he won't get to meet this little one.

I'm so sorry for your loss forrester, and for your news that's worrying you saggy .

After spending most of yesterday in bed and then sleeping 9 hours last night I was expecting to feel better today, but I've had awful diarrhea this afternoon - when should I worry/get checked out? I feel a bit shivery but no temp/other symptoms other than feeling tired and blurgh.

And so sorry to hear about your cat bodicea, what a sad day :(

What a beautiful boy bodicea

What an absolutely shocking day on this thread. Lots of love to everyone...if one hurts I really feel like we all hurt too. Haven't thought of anything else all afternoon x

Thanks for the messages of support - it really helps. And I'm glad Poppy got some good news today because I'm obviously not the only one having a tough day.

We were told by the doctor that the MMC actually happened at 7 weeks - which actually made us feel a bit better. I feel frustrated that we weren't automatically offered a scan at 8 weeks as I could have got this news four weeks ago. And I never felt I could demand one as I'd had no indications that there was any problems. And I didn't want to go for a private scan as it had been at a private scan that I was told I'd had a MMC first time around. But hopefully I'll get pregnant again and then I will be demanding an 8 week scan.

I have got RL support - DH is being very good and friends and family will do what they can. But only one of my friends has had a MC (which is a good thing) so not many people know what I'm going through.

I've got my op on Friday and will take a few days off work. I'm hoping that I'll cope emotionally - I'm conscious that because of what happened last time round I've been holding myself back getting excited about this pregnancy - but obviously part of me had been imagining having a little baby in six months time.

DH has just brought DD back who immediately asked what was wrong with me - she then got distracted by some cake so I haven't had to answer. But we're planning on saying that we hoped that I had a baby in my tummy but that we've found out that we don't and that's why mummy and daddy are sad.

Oh and I'm definitely going to be having a couple of this evening.

forester I don't blame you with the wine. So glad you have lots of support. It's so hard re scans. GP made it clear to me that I wouldn't be offered an early scan. Had one at 8 weeks last time after bleeding and all was well until the next day. Had said that I wouldn't push for one but I'm only 6 weeks and its driving me insane.

Glad you haven't got to wait too long for the op. Did you have that last time? Xx

Big hugs forester, really feel for you. When I miscarried the hardest thing was trying to hide my upset from ds. We hasn't told him about the pregnancy but he snuck into my room when I was led on the bed having a cry, and after telling me my eyes were wet he led down next to me and said "I'm your baby." Children are very perceptive!

Forester Id be downing a whole crate if it was me! I may still!
Bod Sorry about your cat. My dog has been a pillar of comfort in the last few days. I don't know what Id do without him. {{{hugs}}} for you. x

Forester I'm so glad you've got support. I have two close friends who have mc'd, one only 6wks before me, and I found their support and understanding a tremendous help to me, they just knew what to say and what not to say and could really share my pain. I'm glad you feel you have that support. I think it is a good idea to tell your DD as well, they can handle so much with their pragmatism and be a great comfort little ones. As others have said, hopefully 3rd time lucky for you and hopefully very soon. One of DH's cousins just announced her first successful pregnancy recently, this is after 3 mcs including at least one late one, and that gave me such hope, it really illustrates that for most people it does happen, the journey is just much harder and longer for some. helped me afterwards, it numbed things a little which I needed. Hugs xxx

Saggy gosh what a week for you. I'm so sorry you have a longer wait, but try and cling to the odds. I will be thinking about you and we will all be holding your hand in the wait.

Bod I'm so sorry about your lovely cat, that's so sad

poppy I'm really pleased you got a good scan result

Sending everyone here big hugs tonight what a rough day on the thread