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PG after MC - Keeping the worries at bay with Posifrickingtivity!!

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Chocolateteabag · 20/07/2013 23:30

New thread ladies!

Happy birthday for tomorrow Bod sounds like you have a lovely day lined up!
DH is looking after DS tomorrow so I can go for a trip into York and a mooch round the shops. First stop will be a child free latte in Betty's!

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MotorcycleMama · 06/08/2013 17:15

Hi, can I introduce myself? I am currently 8+1 following IVF. This is my second pregnancy, the first in 2008 ended in mmc detected at 11 wk scan, baby measuring 10+3 and no heartbeat. I had had a scan at 7 weeks which had all been good and normal. This time around, I had a scan at 7+2, which was all good. My next scan is 21st August when I will be 10+2.
I am having real difficulty coping with anxiety, and am only reassured for a couple of days following any positive result. In the beginning, I obsessively did HPTs, but they were no good after a while as the line will only get so dark. So I turned to regular beta hcg tests, which helped for a bit, but are only useful up about 6 weeks, so I had to stop. Now all I can rely on is scans. It is all being made more difficult with having very few pregnancy symptoms. I get so anxious and obsessed that I stop being able to function properly at work and socially. Then the only thing that helps is objective proof that all is still well, which then lasts for a couple of days. I could go on and on, but will bore you all to tears, so will stop there.

So sorry to hear about your scan JBrd - my heart goes out to you.

Great news re scans, blackholes booty and saggy.

Hope all went well with you pixie.

In terms of men birds my guess is that they find it really hard to deal with knowing that their partner is in pain, or may come to some harm that they have no control over. They often do not have the ability to articulate that very well, so just go into their shell, which appears neglectful and selfish. My DH has stopped being able to talk to me about the pregnancy, as he imagined I would be over the moon (and of course he could delight in causing my happiness), when the reality is I am anxious and tearful as I constantly fear miscarriage.

MotorcycleMama · 06/08/2013 17:19

Sorry, just read back, great news re your scan pixie!

Pixielady83 · 06/08/2013 17:28

Welcome motorcycle really glad your first scan went well. I can honestly say that being on this thread in the company of such positive and lovely ladies has really helped me (esp this morning when I was in total scan doom). There is a lot of experience here and there is always someone ready to offer a calming word Smile

The mantra I have learnt here is 'today I am pregnant' which is a great thing to keep chanting in your head. I imagine the stakes are much higher following IVF, I haven't experienced that myself so can only imagine how that impacts on your situation.

The best coping strategy I have found (aside from this thread) is to keep as busy as possible. whereas last pregnancy I hibernated, this one I have had plans for every free day. Notably, the worst wobbles I have had have been on the odd day I'm at home all day. So if you feel able, I would try and get out every day, even if it is just for coffee with a friend. I've found the weeks go faster that way anyway.

Really hope you have a good outcome at the next scan and that you are able to get your anxieties under control. Remember, today you are pregnant Smile

maybemyrtle · 06/08/2013 17:32

Booty, Blackholes, Saggy and Pixie - congratulations on all of your fabulous scans Flowers

maybemyrtle · 06/08/2013 17:33

...and motorcyclemama - congrats to you too! Flowers

MotorcycleMama · 06/08/2013 17:35

Thanks pixie it is really useful to get tips on getting through this. I will try the mantra!

Anybody else have any good tips on dealing with doubt and anxiety?

Pixielady83 · 06/08/2013 17:37

Thanks myrtle hope your week is going alright xx

Lieslvontrapp · 06/08/2013 18:01

Congrats Booty, Saggy & Pixie on the great scan news! Pixie I agree with the other ladies that 4 days is nothing to worry about.

Omri good luck for Thursday and rainbow fingers crossed for us both on Friday.

Motorcycle congrats on the bfp and sorry about what you went through last time. I think keeping busy is the best advice to get through the early weeks. I know it's still hard and hopefully the next 2 weeks go quickly for you.

shellsocks · 06/08/2013 18:09

Congrats booty, saggy and pixie! Great scan news todaySmile

Welcome motorcycle and congrats on your BFP Smile Are you a Neil Young fan with that name?! No tips to get you thru really but I just tried to accept that I was going to be a wreck for a while and didn't give myself a hard time abt it, you'll have bad days but they will be followed by good ones where the posifrickintivity comes thru, hope you have an uneventful pregnancy x

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 06/08/2013 18:53

ooh congrats on all the great scans today!! brilliant news girlies :) hope you are having a nice relaxing night now!

and welcome motorcycle, congrats on your BFP :) as others have said, hope you have the most boring pregnancy ever!

nothing very exciting with me, had my 25 week appointment today - mine is at the GP surgery. they don't have a practice midwife so it's the GP that does it. All he did was take my blood pressure, felt my tummy, tested my wee and listened to the heartbeat. is that all they're meant to do? i was getting worried that he was going to weigh me (taking me back to slimming world weigh in dread!!) but he didn't do it! (phew).

he is also very dishy Blush

thank goodness i didn't have my new best friends on...big full knickers, yup the big granny ones. they're great, come all the way up to your belly button mmmm!

IBelieveInPink · 06/08/2013 19:04

Janie - mine was the same apart from still no listening to heartbeat. Apparently they just don't do it where I am. Bah.

Midwife (was quite amused) but was not much help re tongue piercing. Said to phone gp. Gp - after much laughing, said it shouldn't be an issue as long as I didnt breathe it in?! No idea if I even did swallow it, It just feels like I can't do anything without finding something to worry over!! Can't wait til baby is here safe, and I can stop panicking for all of 2 seconds

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 06/08/2013 19:26

oh pink that's so funny! maybe when you're nesting and having a clear out you'll find it hidden somewhere - maybe you were sleep walking afterall! and hopefully you'd have noticed if you inhaled it?!

oh another thing i wanted to ask...now i'm at 24+3 (still can't believe it) all my kicks are still below my bellybutton so it seems my baby hasn't 'moved up'. the GP asked where i was feeling kicks and i said below bellybutton and he didn't say anything, just continued poking about.... do you think this is normal..or do i just have a 'low lyer'?

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 06/08/2013 19:37

oh and lucky did you tell work when you're finishing? i forgot to ask for my MAT B1 form at the docs so have to get it tomorrow. can't decide if i want 3 or 4 weeks before edd. hmmmm

IBelieveInPink · 06/08/2013 19:48

Janie - do you know where your placenta is? Maybe its just around that you can feel baby? Mine has been like that until recently (25+2)

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 06/08/2013 19:51

thanks pink - at my 20 week scan they said it was posterior - so at my back rather than front.

IBelieveInPink · 06/08/2013 20:05

Ah okay maybe not then. Still, in the last week or so I have noticed a big increase in what I thought were already quite strong movements, but they still on the increase. Maybe we are just at 'that stage'. Believe me, the longer baby stays away from your ribs the better, she has found mine now and likes to play with them!

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 06/08/2013 20:09

yes just in the last couple of nights i can actually see my tummy moving! it's so funny! DH thinks it's a bit freaky but in a nice freaky way ha! i could watch it for hours!!

MotorcycleMama · 06/08/2013 21:40

Thank you all for the warm welcome, and the top tips. I think I will feel at home here!

shellsocks yes, I am indeed a Neil Young fan. I am CinnamonGirl on Fertility Friends. Are you a fan too?

Bodicea · 06/08/2013 21:44

hi congrats on all the fab scan news to booty, saggy and pixie. What a fab day. 4 days out not an issue - the earlier they are the less accurate - up to 12 weeks which is most accurate- then gets less and less accurate again after that.

I had a scan today too. Baby is measuring rather large as suspected - close to 97th percentile - which is quite big at 26 weeks- esp considering i was a size 10 pre-pregnancy and only 5'3. Eek - Anyways consultant has suggested I have a GTT test in a couple of weeks and another growth scan a few weeks after that. Given up on all hope of small baby. DH is trying to hide all chocolate in house from me!
On the plus side he did do a little 3d pic and baby has v cute, defined cupids bow lip, same as me and DH.

Janie all my kicks have been below so far i think. Hadn't really though about it to be honest. Go for 4 weeks before EDD deff. Can't decide whether to use my hols to go part time for a few weeks or just go off completely a bit later. A full working week is starting to feel very long! however stretching pains feeling not as bad this week.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 07/08/2013 00:36

I have lower back ache tonight. That's my post scan positivity out of the window!

Bootyluscious · 07/08/2013 06:06

Thank you all - I'm still Team Yellow although I have a feeling it's a boy, not sure why Grin

Welcome MotorcycleMama - even at 20 weeks I'm still anxious sigh - I put a pic on Facebook last night & got lots of lovely messages but am still wondering if I've jinxed anything!

Great news re other scans!

Pink my hubby did something similar once with his mouth guard (he sometimes grinds his teeth) - woke up in the morning to find it lying on the floor in the far corner of the room! He thinks he must have got pissed off with it in the night & thrown it in his sleep Grin

Bootyluscious · 07/08/2013 06:09

Your 3D scan sounds very cute Bod - so far in our scan pics baby looks like he/she has a big pointy nose & chin! Hoping it's the light.....Blush

ChristineDaae · 07/08/2013 06:46

Congrats to all with the good scan news and welcome Motorcycle.
I have my consultant appt this morning. Apparently they will do heartbeat Etc. absolutely panicking over it, keep thinking but what if there isn't one? Also pretty scared they will tell me something is wrong with the baby, but I'm sure that's just anxiety carrying over from my pregnancy with DD. we had an awful time and were at scans/consultants every 2 weeks.

GardenWorm · 07/08/2013 07:30

Hello Motor - wave Smile Congratulations on your BFP X

Bod your babies Cupids Bow Lip is soooo cute! Made me smile x

Christine fingers crossed for your appt today, what problems did you have with DD? Hopefully you've had your fill of eventful PG's and this one will be booooooring!

Saggy how's the backache?

I have midwife's appt (25wks) which could have meant a nice lie in but DD decided 6am....although she is now snoring next to me in bed (after spending 15 mins talking to baby)

pumpkinsweetie · 07/08/2013 07:47

Hope your appointment goes well today christine xx

Bod must have been wonderful to see you baby in 3D, i had a sneak preview in 3D at 17 weeks, but only a min or so as baby still skelatol at that stage, really wanting a 24wk 3D scan now-wish i had the pennies!

Pixie Good scan news Smile

Welcome to all you newbies and congratulationsThanks

I'm nearly 19 weeks and still haven't had my anomonaly scan appointment yetConfused! However i have to see a consultant next week for a standard check up as my bmi is over what it should be, i suppose thats when i find out if i need a GTT or not and whether they'll allow me to birth at the hospitals attached MLU because at present i have been told will probably be hospital part.

Still waiting to feel movements/flutters but i'm sure i felt a little flutter yesterdaySmile

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