PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

Welcome fluff & congrats
I have done an insane thing & i have already purchased my pushchair, fecking crazy of me but oh well.
I have the babystyle oyster, and now i have it i'm regretting it and i have stuck it in the loft -don't know what possessed me i'm 12.4 weeks so i don't know why i had this rush to buy babystuff so soon and the sudden realisation has hit me that anything could go wrong thurs (NT)-jeez i need a fish slap!

I picked my due date to start maternity leave last time and will do the same again. If they come early so be it, if they come late I won't have wasted weeks before they arrive twiddling my thumbs. DD was 8 days late so it worked for me, I wanted to make sure the time I had off was spent with the baby rather than bored/killing time. Not sure the commuters on my train (or my colleagues) liked it though, but their panick ridden faces used to make me chuckle! If I feel rubbish earlier than due date i'll just go sick, that's what it's there for!

Hi. Thought I would pop over as in need of some hand holding. Have had 2 previous mc's so this a very wanted pregnancy and I'm so happy I have gotten this far (19 weeks now) however I haven't been well the last few days, with serious stomach ache and diarhea and I've noticed that the baby has hardly moved in the last two days. So I'm now starting to panic that something is wrong with her following me being sick. I am going to the doctors this afternoon so hopefully they will say she is ok but just need some positive advice i think before I totally freak out!! X

oh RJM17 sorry to hear you're worried. From the sounds of it, it's either a stomach bug or food poisoning (?) and neither should affect the baby. 19 weeks it's still too early to feel the baby consistently, it's probably a coincidence. I hope the doctor puts your mind at rest!

pumpkin wow! Respect! In all probability everything will be fine on Thursday, probably deep down you know all is OK and that's what prompted you to buy the pushchair!

garden it sounds like a good plan!

Hi RJM17 I had a very bad stomach at the beginning of June and I was on here worrying about it, everything I googled said a stomach bug wouldn't affect the baby but I had the same as you in that I couldn't feel the baby for ages (maybe 2 days) then I started getting wriggles again. I think the stomach cramps and gurgling hides the baby movements. I was about 18 weeks then but had been feeling the baby for a while before the bug.

Maternity leave - I went at 37 weeks with DD and had her at 41 weeks, I can't remember feeling bored in those 4 weeks! I was having really broken sleep by 37 weeks so work was just exhausting, I was full time then though and I only do 3 days a week now. I think I'll probably go around the 37/38 week mark again.

Well today has been the toughest day but made it through with only a couple of wobbles. I think I am still in shock and just waiting to wake up from what feels like a very bad dream. Hoping they call nice and early tomorrow so I just know either way.
It had meant I'm very behind on my organising and packing as just can't concentrate.
Hope everyone is well and welcome to the newbies.
I went off at 30 weeks with dd - was early but right for me and i didn't get bored at all!

Hi Fluff and Purple - don't think it's worth doing another HPT even a CB one as it won't now tell you any more. It's tough waiting for a scan, I caved and had a private one at 9 weeks but they are £££

RMJ hoping you've already been reassured by the doctor - I had awful bouts of food poisining when pg with DS. But they really are good little parasites, taking all our good stuff and leaving the rubbish

Stitch - hope it's an early call too, and a good one. Hang in there!

I went off at 38 weeks with DS, he then came a week early. Planning on going at 36 weeks (mid Nov) this time. But may bring it forward depending on what work decide about coming back on 3 days a week. I think it's better to plan to leave later, then have the flex to leave earlier if you need to.

I've booked a private scan for Saturday. Felt sick every time I think of it since!

I finished about a month before both due dates with my two but one came early at 37 weeks and the other stuck around until 5 days overdue. In all honesty I was never bored during my time off it gave me time to sort out the house and get everything ready.

Just a quickie before bed to say I second bump in that you should defo go see man of steel if you are worrying abt the baby kicking...it was so loud the baby kicked all the way thru! Good tonic for my brain during scan week

Hope you get the call early stitch x

Thinking of you today Stitch and praying it's good news.

Wishing you all the best today stitch, fx it's good news for you & your bubba-thinking of you today x

Good luck stitch, got everything crossed for you today xxxx

Hey Stitch hope there was some sleep last night and that you get an early call (can you call them?), thinking of you and sending a big bear hug of strength X

Thinking of you today stitch, really hoping it's good news xxxx

Good luck stitch I'll be thinking of you today xx

Stitch thinking of you and keeping everything crossed for good news for you. Hang in there xxx

Pink your pram is gorgeous! I love the colour your bag is beautiful too

Just catching up, DP and I get married this Saturday so have been trying to focus on doing wedding things for the past couple of days. Thank you all so much for your support, it's made me feel a lot better although I'm terrified this morning. Doesn't help that I haven't slept since 1 am and have been being sick on a very regular basis (I have hyperemesis). Time seems to be dragging, appointment isn't until 11:45am, I'm so terrified that there won't be anything on the scan.

Stitch and stars- thinking of you today and hoping for the happiest of outcomes for both.

I went to see superman last week! Baby had a wriggle then too, DH said it was probably all the hormones from fancying Henry cavil so much!! (HOT). I will now tell him that conclusive evidence says it was the noises :) and not me dribbling over hot Henry

Pink thank you.

That made me laugh so much! I'm dying to see it, was it good? as if it needs to be with Henry hotness

Oh stars I've got everything crossed for you too. No doubt the time will drag this morning, maybe do a seating plan for your wedding or something wedding related to pass the time (or watch lots of Henry cavil clips on YouTube) xxx

It was really good, it was a different twist on the superman story. I think it didn't help that i went on my scan day, so had had about 3 hours sleep the night before and was exhausted! But Henry got me through it.

Oh good luck stars too xxx

I hear he's the favourite to play Christian grey in the 50 shades movies (yes I did read all three books and yes I will go to see the movies ha! There I admitted it!)

Janie thank you so much. I'm wrapping up my bridesmaids' presents at the moment, love the idea about YouTube though races off to YouTube How's your breakdancer doing?

Pink it does look brilliant, think I'll have to go and see it, I haven't been to the cinema for ages. Good old Henry for helping with the exhaustion

Shell I meant to ask how your The Voice and Johnny Depp marathon went?

Blackholes thank you so much.

Getting a bit freaked out as I've just phoned the EPAU and they said it will be an internal scan. I've got PTSD from years ago and haven't ever been able to cope with a smear test before, sorry, that makes me sound like such a wet blanket. Still, in a way I'm glad as hopefully they'll be able to see more clearly, won't they? I've never had an internal before. Anyway, I'm gritting my teeth and putting up with it.

Morning all - sorry, I've been busy for a few days (and sitting in an open plan office where I daren't log on to MN) so just catching up.

Welcome to all the newbies, though sorry its not smooth sailing for some of you. As many others have said, we're all mad here, and I find it reassuring to know that I'm not the only one who is slightly insane.

stars and stitch - good luck today, thinking of you both.

jess - hope you're not too bored. Try to think of it more as a rest than an incarceration, (easier said than done, I know)

Fluff - hope you get an early scan soon. My HCP friend got one because of not knowing her dates (she was bf at the time). But as others have said, no point doing any more POAS now.

I've also had two MMCs purple - they're shit in every possible way and don't half make for a worry about your pregnancy. But hopefully this one will work. Remember that two mmcs is just almost certainly just a coincidence (albeit a crap one) so statistically this one is almost as likely to work out as any other pregnancy.

I'm another one who is pigging out for Britain. Got weighed on Friday at the scan/bloods and I've put on a stone. A whole frigging stone. And my DH had the balls to look at the weight and say "oh, well that makes me feel better". I nearly smacked him and still haven't forgiven him. My only excuse is that my boobs probably weigh 5lbs extra each now - another 4 cup increase in a month. I look like Jordan now (though actually, I hate it ).

I'm in two minds about Mat Leave. As EDD is just after Christmas, it might be nice to have some time off, but then the run up to Christmas can be fun. (It can also be hell, as soooooo many people decide their deals need to be signed by the end of the year, for absolutely no good reason).

Still struggling emotionally with this pregnancy. We've started telling a select few, and if anyone gets too excited it makes me cry. It seems wrong to say "congratulations" when I've done nothing. I have no control over getting (or staying) pregnant, so why congratulate me? Oh how I all those lucky ladies in the world who sail through ttc and pg without ever discovering the world of torment and stress that is infertility and/or mc misery.