PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

Garden - brilliant idea! DH used to be a county swimmer and loves swimming - just hadnt occurred to us that he could take her! He thinks it is a great idea and just got quite excited about it!

Janie - yes, took a lot of research! And about 5 different shops to decide. But we are fairly certain it does everything we want :) we found John Lewis the best for advice, if only just to use them for that then go somewhere else with a better idea of what to look for.

welcome jess, so close to the end - hurray! I bet you can't wait to meet your baby! I know it's a drag being stuck at hospital but I hope you feel safer being there.

pink you've got a pram - yay! So exciting!

DIY I hope you're enjoying your holiday and the weather gets better soon!

jmf how was Bristol? You must be knackered but it's a great place so it must have been worth it

Off to bed now...I've had a lovely day with DH and DD and don't want to go to work tomorrow

Hi Jess - being "stuck" in hospital sounds like it would be a lovely holiday from where I am sitting but I imagine you are feelling a bit imprisoned. It won't be long though and really best place to be as I have heard that PP bleds can be pretty scary. FX you don't have one and just have another boring 2 week stay. Enjoy the reading magazines in relative peace

I have spent this weekend painting DS's soon to be new bedroom while DH and he had a "mans weekend) - watching rugby and doing minor DIY ("look Mummy I drilling" - the drill bit bashing holes into the wall )
So am now more knackered than at the start of the weekend and now full week of lovely work.
Whining over..

So what do we have this week? Any scans other than Stars on Tuesday?

Awe Pink in that case he will love it (I am useless in water - don't even like getting my face wet, but love taking DD, I reckon she can already swim better than me. The shame!!!). The class after dd's last week was just 8 Daddy's with their babies - they looked so cute/cheesy American film (but still so cute)..

My dp loves taking our DD swimming too! When DS was very little he often used to take her swimming to give me some time. Now we have two waterbabies and love taking them both!

He also enjoys taking her for "coffee and cake"!!

Glad I'm considered a bingeing lightweight, too! Phew!

Welldone pink on your big purchase! Exciting!

Ooh snack a jacks, mmm i fancy some now may have to get some later, i especially like the caramel & sweet chilli ones and i also like the large cheese ones.
Im still on my dairlea triangles need to buy more too

Hi just catching up after busy weekend.
Congrats on all he good scan news.

Baby is kicking and thumping me like crazy at the moment! Loving it but a bit surprised it is this "violent" already! Dh even managed to feel it last night.
My scan not till next Tuesday - feels like ages off. I will be closer to 21 weeks but hopefully will get nice clear pics coz of size.

What is everyone doing about going maternity leave? My friend said I would have to decide soon when handing in Mat b1 form. didn't realise as wanted to wait an see how pregnancy went. Thinking of going at 37 weeks (mat leave starting at 38 weeks with a weeks hol before) but friend thinks I am pushing it!

Bod - I am thinking of leaving it til 39 weeks and still taking a weeks hol, so starting 'mat leave' week 40!!
It very much depends on your employer in terms of deciding when you are planning to leave. Legally it should be week 25 you tell them, but some are happy to be flexible, some not so!!

If you need any help, I work in HR, so can assist with that sort of thing. Finally I feel helpful, after all the scan advice you have given, I can help too!! :)

Thanks pink - actually my situation is pretty complicated. I have two contracts for one trust. I have three weeks hol left in one job and only one left in the other. Do you think i could give two different dates for start of mat leave for each contract or would that be too complicated ?

bod, I'm thinking of starting my maternity leave on week 40 and take the remainder of my holiday (14 working days) just before which means I'll leave work when I'm 37 weeks. I haven't confirmed with HR yet, I think I'll tell them once I get my MatB1 form (I can change the dates towards the end if I see I can't handle it, right pink?) WIth DD, I left work at the end of 34 weeks and got really lonely and depressed. It was just before Christmas and I thought "oh I'll just read lots of book and watch films/Christmas TV - it'll be great" Well, I was so anxious and restless, I nested like there's no tomorrow and ended up being knackered. I only enjoyed the last couple of weeks when my parents came over for the birth (I was 10 days late and once I had company I managed to relax and enjoy it) Of course it's not the same for everyone, a lot of people leave early and have a lovely time. Most women I know leave work a month before they're due but it depends on the nature of the job of course

choc sorry you had such a tiring weekend, very cute to have your DS and DH doing DIY together

So bod has a scan next and also shell I guess? (based on EDDs)

Wow. That is complicated! Yes, you should be able to start them at different times. Does that mean you will qualify for 2 lots of maternity pay? This is very clever I should have 2 jobs!!

Pentagon- yes, you can change your dates. And it is easier to bring them forward than push them back, so Im going to say later and bring them forward if I need to.

Well done pink had a google and that pram looks brill, what colour you chosen? And what bag?!

Welcome jess and congrats Very worrying but you are in the best place and you'll forget these weeks once the baby is here, hope all goes well x

garden I'm thinking of the city mini so it's a double, not tandem...it's fab

Yep, scan on Fri...mild panic as the kicks are much less strong/frequent than with DS and my bumps smaller

Loving all the kicks everyone's getting bump I'm off to see man of steel tonight so maybe ill get loads then

Good luck for tomorrow stitch and stars, be thinking if you x

Oh and re maternity leave I think you have to also leave a bit of room in your mind to take account of how you might feel. I was advised to finish at 31 weeks last time due to PGP, but kept going till 35 (it was my busy period at work and they let me work from home every other day) and I really needed to finish by then!

I've planned to finish at 36 this time (using 3 weeks hols) but I've got DS now so looking forward to the time on my own with him before no2 arrives

If anyone is on a computer would they copy the stats over here please....I can't do it till Wed when I'm back in work

Lol I wish pink. I work full time equivalent. I assume I will get the same as if I just worked full time in one job. its a blimmin nightmare to sort esp my holiday - i lose all of my hol time off one job cos of bank hols! Maybe I will qualify for two lots of statutory mat pay after 6 months that would be fab!! Doubt it though;-) I think I will have the advantage of being able to have different times of mat leave. Thinking of having 9 months off one job and a year off other to ease myself into coming back.

Pentagon you have a point about putting it off for longer and then going off early if cant cope. I want to work as long as poss but not sure what I will be like as my job can be quite physically tiring.

Hi everyone! I was on the last thread but lost track of everything. I had a missed miscarriage in April at 14 weeks when baby had died at 6.

Had my BFP few weeks ago straight after the MC and now according to my dates I'm either 8 or 9 weeks but can't be sure because it was straight off the back of the MC. I went out and bought a ClearBlue conception indicator earlier and it gave a 3+ result but I didnt realise it doesn't go any higher than that so wont give me an accurate result (doh!)

Is it worth getting another one do you think? I'm waiting patiently for an early scan from the doctors but my doc is being an ass and decided to write off for an appt instead of just booking one over the phone for me.

Shell - got the pram in 'cole' (bluey silver colour). Is so lovely.
Also got the mamami Shivali. It was half price, I wouldn't normally have gone for designer! But it's amazing. :)

Fluff congratulations on your pregnancy xxx
mean pregnancy test? Don't think it's worth getting another now as it won't tell you anything different. I would wait for the scan xx

Pink what's one of those - shivali? Sounds exciting!

www.mamami.co.uk/shivali-shimmer
Ooh pretty!!

Ooh where did you get on sale? Been looking at changing bags but all been either hideous and too obviously a changing bag or ridiculously expensive!

Hello!

Can I join you all? I don't get on here a huge amount but may well get addicted...

I am pregnant again after two MMC's. I got a BFP on Father's Day so my DP got a super extra pressie! So excited but so worried too. I have a DD aged 5.

Not sure of my due date (mid February) as periods have always been irregular and not sure my body had recovered fully from the MMC in February 2013.

Bod - John Lewis :) I love John Lewis. Im not sure if they have any silvers left, but they had more in black. Ordered online.

Purple - hello, and congratulations! What a nice fathers day present :)

welcome fluff and purple (one of my favourite colours) and congratulations!! fluff no point doing another test, I hope you get a scan soon to see how far along you are. purple I've also had 2 MMCs but not in a row - MMC, successful pregnancy, MMC, this pregnancy 21 weeks now - awful, aren't they? I sincerely hope all goes well this time, I know how scary the first trimester is after experiencing MMCs. I hope you get an early scan to see you through these first few weeks

shell don't worry, there's also days that I feel the baby a lot less than usual and I'm 2 weeks ahead of you! And the size of the bump doesn't matter but I understand why you're freaking out...scan doom! I hope this week flies by!

wow pink that's lovely! I struggled to find a changing bag that I liked last time but got this in the end which I love (and the matching cover for the baby's red book always attracts a lot of attention and comments)

www.binxie.com/safety-hygiene/changing-bags/samsonite-boutique-shoulder-bag/?gclid=CIHO2sr1_LcCFSGWtAodnF4Abg

Unfortunately it looks knackered now so I need to invest in a new one - I'll have a look at the John Lewis website, thanks for the recommendation!