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PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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IBelieveInPink · 22/06/2013 07:32

Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

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IBelieveInPink · 25/06/2013 09:31

Janie - omfg. He would be perfect as Christian Grey. Please tell me this is true.

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Pentagon · 25/06/2013 09:32

stitch and stars all the best for today - I hope you both have good news!

And stars you're getting married on Saturday?! How exciting!

pumpkinsweetie · 25/06/2013 09:46

Goodluck stars for your scan today and congrats on your upcoming wedding, how exciting Smile

StarsInTheNightSky · 25/06/2013 10:17

Santa really sorry to hear you're struggling hope you're ok, another lady on here (sorry, can't remember who) once said that having an mc or mmc really robs the innocent joy out of being pregnant again, and I think she was right about that. The more time goes on, I'm sure you'll start feeling a bit better.

Thanks all, I really do appreciate the hand holding. I'm now about to leave for the EPAU.

Yep - after nearly two years of planning, our wedding is this Saturday Grin I can't wait! Grin Grin Grin

PurplePest · 25/06/2013 10:22

Morning!

I'm loving this thread! Am trying to stay away though as have so much work to do but would much rather be reading this!

pink my DP was so chuffed when I thrust the BPF in his hands!

pentagon yes MC's and MMC's are awful...I keep thinking 'third time lucky'...trying to relax this time as I was so worried during my last pregnancy as I was still emotionally recovering from the first MMC.

RJM17 hope all goes OK today at the docs...

fluff I know what you mean re scans. The thought of my next one fills me with worry and fear as I don't associate them with good things anymore. Just bad news and tears...are you a little bit excited yet?

stitch and stars thinking of you both...

I went off two weeks before my DD was due and had a lovely two weeks off...I was in labour on her due date and she popped out the following day so that was great! If all goes well with this pregnancy I'll probably do the same...

PurplePest · 25/06/2013 10:28

santa hello!

Your words hit home for me, they really did. Everything you said I feel too! And stars your comment re robbing the innocent joy out of being pregnant is spot on. I remember being pregnant with my DD (now 5) and loving every minute. Although there were all the normal worries associated with it being my first pregnancy etc I still relaxed a lot and didn't think of all the things that could go wrong. Now, it's so different. Sometimes, I have a fleeting moment where I am overjoyed and excited and then I remember my two baby boys and how much pain I felt - and still feel - over losing them...

Lots and lots of positive, happy, sunny thoughts today!

jmf294 · 25/06/2013 10:30

Thinking of you both today Stitch and Stars!!
Will catch up later when I am in a computer and not at work!

Morien · 25/06/2013 11:28

Hello ladies, can I join you? Got my BFP about 10 days ago, and an internal scan on Friday puts me at about 6.3 today. Had a MMC at almost 12 weeks last summer, the baby having died at about 9 weeks. I hadn't really realised how much of a shadow that would throw over a subsequent pregnancy Sad I've had a read back over the thread, and it's comforting to see you all saying what I'm thinking - and also to see that it is possible to get beyond the first trimester!

My BFP was a surprise; although we'd been ttc since my MC, I was recently told I was unlikely to conceive naturally because of my age (40), and we'd been referred for fertility treatment, which we were due to start next cycle. This is DC1 for me, although I have 3 wonderful DSCs.

PurplePest · 25/06/2013 12:00

Hello Morien and congratulations! Your stats sounds similar to mine...

LuckySocks13 · 25/06/2013 12:13

Thinking of you today Stitch and stars.
Welcome to the new comers. Nice to have some new recruits its just a shame that we join this thread after such sad circumstances. The support I have found here is wonderful.

I'm having a bit of a worry day. Still not felt baby move at 18.3 weeks, got bashed in the stomach yesterday and having stomach pains almost like its bruised. Think going to have a Dopple later but an worrying in case can't find heart beat and something wrong.
Janie I so read all 3 books and will totally agree on Hot Henry Blush Wink

stitchinline · 25/06/2013 15:35

Thanks for the lovely thoughts, sadly results have confirmed what we expected. The baby ( a little boy) has down syndrome. Not quite sure where to go from here but I know we'll find the right path for us.

andadietcoke · 25/06/2013 15:43

Oh stitch I'm sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for. Whatever you decide, and wherever this takes you, take comfort from it being the right decision for you, and for him - only you can know what is right for you and for your future. If you do need external advice then the antenatal choices boards are full of good advice, but you do what's right for you and what your gut tells you to do first and foremost.

Lots of love xxx

GardenWorm · 25/06/2013 15:54

Oh Stitch it's such a difficult position to be in. My niece has downs and is amazing. My sister didn't have the tests so was never in the place you are in now. You can only do what you feel is right for you and your family xxxx

pumpkinsweetie · 25/06/2013 15:56

Sorry to hear the day has bought you unexpected news stitch, thinking of you and i wish you well with whatever outcome you decide xx

shellsocks · 25/06/2013 16:00

stitch I'm so sorry that the news wasn't what you were hoping for. Whatever you decide will be the best for your family and I'm wishing you the strength to get thru this together x

Pentagon · 25/06/2013 16:05

stitch I'm really sorry it wasn't the news you (or any of us) were hoping for...It is a difficult decision to make but I'm sure you will make the right one for you and your family. My nephew has downs; my sister-in-law did have the tests, her result wasn't low-risk but quite close, she wasn't told the exact figure though, didn't inquire either and only found out about the trisomy at birth. As a result, it was a big shock to her - at least you know and can make a decision/be prepared either way. Big hugs xx

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 25/06/2013 16:16

Aw stitch I'm sorry your worries were confirmed. As everyone has said, whatever choice you make is the right one for you and your family. We are all here for you if you need us. Thanks

fluffandnonsense · 25/06/2013 16:20

Stitch this news must come as a huge shock to you all. Whatever choice you make everyone will be here to support you xxx

fluffandnonsense · 25/06/2013 16:21

Good luck stars. Try and relax of you can, I had an internal at the last scan and it wasn't too bad. Xx

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IBelieveInPink · 25/06/2013 16:37

Thinking of you stitch. I hope you have lots of support and help around you to help you through. Xx

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BumpKitty · 25/06/2013 16:44

Oh stitch I'm so sorry you are in this position. As I'm sure you know, there are huge variations in the general health and the development of people who have Down's. Can the doctors tell you anymore about the severity of your baby's condition? I think I'd want as much information as they could give me to make the choice. You have all our support in whatever decision you make xx

hello purple, fluff and stars

StarsInTheNightSky · 25/06/2013 17:13

Stitch I'm so sorry to hear that is wasn't good news, thinking of you and sending hugs and 100% support whatever you decide xx

Morien, welcome and congratulations.

fluff, thank you, it wasn't that bad, and the doctor was really nice which helped a lot.

Well the scan showed that I'm actually 5-6 weeks instead of 8 (which I suspected as I was charting and taking temps etc so thought I ovulated much later, but midwife and GP dismissed). There was a gestational sac (no yolk yet) which the doctor said was looking "perfect". She said that it has implanted in an ideal location, it was very secure and showing no signs of coming away and there are no abnormalites at all. Apparently it's a very "smooth and good sized sac".
That's good isn't it? Confused She did say that it was exactly what she expected to see in a healthy pregnancy of 5-6 weeks and said that as far as she was concerned everything was looking "very positive and textbook" but that she would do another scan in exactly two weeks to reassure me as she said she was confident that she could show me a baby and a heartbeat then.
She said that she felt confident that everything would be fine and the bleeding was just a teeny burst blood vessel from either coughing too much (I've had a chest infection for the past couple of weeks) or TMI from the bad constipation as apparently any kind of strain can burst blood vessels Blush. So I am cautiously relieved. The doctor just seemed to be so certain that everything would be fine and it made me suspicious how she could be so sure. Thanks again everyone for your support, it really helped.

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IBelieveInPink · 25/06/2013 17:28

Aw stars that's fab news! All sounds good to me! Now you can enjoy the wedding this weekend and really celebrate. I know, long way to go yet, but remember 'today you are pregnant' and everything looks good :)

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StarsInTheNightSky · 25/06/2013 17:33

Pink thank you so much Smile it is really nice to be able to relax a bit, and that's a great way of thinking about it, think I might put it on post-its all around the house Grin

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 25/06/2013 17:41

Aw stars that's brilliant news! The doctor sounds great! I wish they were all so lovely!! So glad you'll be able to relax on your wedding day (as much as you can as the bride!!) Yippeee!!