Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

stateof no need to be you'll be here soon enough. I think part of me has blocked out the waiting (because I'm scared still), so I'm sometimes shocked that I'm quite far along already. I reckon I won't truly believe it's happening until about eight months DH and I only allow ourselves the tiniest little glimpses of soppiness over the pregnancy, preferring to get on with things in case being too happy jinxes things. Silly, really, but to be expected after last time.

Ahhhhhhh @ puppies I think I've had my fair share of dog keeping and poo clearing, and in particular both a dog and kids (I still shudder at the long nights when ds1 was a baby, him screaming and the dog whining and pacing the landing), so to my eldest son's regret, I keep saying no to another dog! Maybe when we're old and retired and needing the exercise For now, I think we'll go back to keeping chickens again once we move house.

wellies I hope it passes quickly here too, I expect ill feel the same and it will only sink it at 8mnths 4weeks!

Pup is gorgeous, he's a labrador retriver cross. Black, 9wks old, called Milo. I want to steal him!

Here here! Super news wellies. My sentiments exactly state, at least you're a week ahead of me. X

state photos please so we can coo at your mum's new baby puppy.
Just did a FR test again. 2 beautiful strong identical lines. I think today I will not worry. Maybe.

Great news bonzo ill attempt to upload a pic, only have one on my phone x

Afternoon ladies how's things?
Really exhausted today only had bout 3 hrs sleep felt really unsettled and jumpy last night. Think it may have something to do with that last time I started bleeding at this stage 11weeks and 3 days guess its on my mind I know that hearing the heart beat on Friday should be a reassurance but I can't help it, I could shake myself for being so daft. :(
hope everyone else is ok xxx

Afternoon swansea, hope your managing to relax, I'm still swinging between excitment and fear.
Dreading my scan tbh...

I'm back over my mums making a fuss of milo, can't get a photo on for some reason but ill keep trying :)

Totally understandable Swansea just try to focus on each day that all is well improves the chances that all will be well.

When's your scan state? I know what you mean, mine won't be for weeks but I'm already feeling anxious about feeling anxious! How crazy is that? I'm sure I will be a total wreck on the actual day.

I dont have a date yet, which of course is stressing me out, my midwife is visiting me friday and usually a scan date arrives a few days later. Its going to be a long few weeks i feel!

How are you feeling today WL

ive had alot of dizziness.

Hello just thought I'd pop in and tell you my surprise after my mc is asleep upstairs, didn't have a period inbetween and got a massive shock when I had my dating scan as was further on than me and I thought

hi ladies, just dropping in to catch up on everyone's sundays.

state how nice to have a midwife visit you. No sitting in a waiting room with too much / not enough heating, other peoples bodily noises and smells, and their children.

Today I emailed my self-referral to the hospital. Tomorrow I'm booking a private scan to see a heart beat (fingers crossed). DH wanted to come with me, which he won't be able to do if i go to EPU as we'd have to sit and wait and he cannot afford the time off work.

And today's pregnancy symptoms bingo... nausea (tick), tiredness (tick), stuffy nose (tick), dizziness (tick), very sensitive to smells (tick), positive preg test (tick), lots and lots of cm (tick). HOUSE!

thanks hate its reasuring to hear success stories.

Full house here too bonzo

My booking in apts have always been at home, which is nice as i can have dd curled up in front of a dvd instead of clambering all over me asking questions!

Good luck with the private scan id love to have one but baby no.3 means we have to keep the car we were planning on downgrading (not that im too gutted i luffs it) and the insurance on its not pretty at our new address. Im hoping to beg mw for a scan at 10wks then its only 3wks to wait!

FINALLY have a picture of the puppy on my profile, hes adorable!

Seriously cute puppy! Ahhhhh!

And I see you are the MNetter with the people living in a car opposite. That thread was very funny! Are they gone yet?

Good job ladies! I'm mainly with the boobs at the mo, not sure if I have beginnings of other symptoms at times, or they're just in my head. Am knackered but I think that's as much due to general late nights and early mornings as pg symptoms right now.

Had busy weekend which is good to help time to obssess at a minimum.

So nice to have mw visit you at home, I generally see someone I know at apts which is all quite squirmy. Saw 2 peeps at hospital whilst having 1st mc confirmed :-(

Loving the success stories and all the little positive steps, keep em coming!

I'm also peeing lots which I'm taking as a good sign!

I am indeed wellies they are still there most days, seems its become there second home now not primary.

I cannot stop peeing either WL I take it as a good sign too, felt sick this morning too, but my god am I tired despite 8hrs!!!

Feeling really happpy today about it, fingers crossed I have reason to be x

Ha ha @ the second home in the car park! Very glam!

Lots of peeing is good news, ladies :)

How's everyone feeling today?

I'm stupidly tearful, and get crampy when stressed. Need to relax more!!

Hi ladies how's things ?

my boobs are so sore its unbelievable also really tired come 2 every day I feel like I am dead on my feet. still haven't told work don't know what they are gonna say :s
hope everyone is ok xx

Sorry to hear that state, am sending u a and a . Hope that helps a little. I guess the tearfulness is a good sign because it means crazy hormones. I'm not sure if I felt a bit quesy today or if it was in my head, or because I had such a rubbish sleep last night - a sure sign of worrying. :-( everytime I wonder if it really good be ok I think surely not argh!

i have the same swansea dd leant on me earlier and it was really painful, and i fell asleep at my mums for nearly 2hrs despite the chaos of 4 under 7s and a new puppy bounding about!

im feeling slightly better, the cramps could be down to 2 seperate c section scars aswell, the feeling like im about to cry is still there, its ridiculous.

Im thinking in the exact same way WL dd and ds asked to share a room, theyre very close, we figured why not, so now our small bedroom is empty and i cant help but think about making it into a nursery then back tracking and thinking "do NOT do this to yourself" never ever has my nickname been more apt!

How is everyone today?
finally have my scan date 10th at 1.45 can't come quick enough :)

10th may?

im not to bad today, still cant get past the idea of the scan ending the same way, i really need my scan before the end of may as my due date was June 10th so the last thing i want is to be in hospital around that date.

Good news about the scan, swansea :)

I totally understand the fear, stateof. No amount of common sense is going to help, just getting there and having the sonographer show you your baby. Stay strong.

Just found out that the mum in school with the same due date as my mmc baby has just had a little boy. What a strange mixture of feelings! Obviously, happy for her and her family, but got a wave of sadness that our little one didn't make it. Tomorrow would have been my due date. Sigh.

To make it worse, I think baby has turned around so I can't feel the little movements so much...making me worry even though I know the midwives would tell me not to, I'm only 18 weeks after all!