40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

Thinking of you, ladies. My lunch is ready, right next to me, tv is on, i plan to watch baby move around and the French Open all afternoon from the couch ! Only will get up to get to the loo.

Hi everyone. Welcome Titty.

Just a quick one for now as I have to pick up kids from gps.

I had my scan and everything seems to be fine except they couldn't see all 4 heart chambers from the way the baby was positioned as the spine was in the way. Baby wouldn't move at all from its comfy curled up sleeping position so I have to have another scan so they can tick that off. She said that the heart is beating fine and it seems fine.
She said baby is a girl! Dh said 'are you sure?' She laughed and said 95% sure now, 100% when its born.
We re thrilled :)

Hope everyone else is doing ok whether dealining with stuff at work or having nice sofa time :)

Hourah Exexe ! Very glad everything is fine with LO. And you get another scan soon. You might have a better view on the gender next time, but 95% is not far from deffo.
Midget, good luck for the work tests.
Xxxx

Congrats on a good scan Exexe :) Another 'probably' girl! I didn't get a percentage though - your's sounds good...will have to wait until the next scan as with language barrier and manner, I couldn't tell you how sure my gynae really was.

Midget - hope the tests go well and you come to a decision about the 3D.

Hpbp - lunch - what a great idea! (especially since DP woke me at the crack of dawn today after only 4 hours sleep to drive him to work!) I need some feet up time - my left foot is so puffed up from sitting at the desk I can hardly feel it!!

lovely news exexe !

fjord sounds like you could do with a nice lunchtime nap. I'm just about to have a quick sofa shut-eye as I was up late, then got up to work way too early, and now can't keep my eyes open ... feel a bit spacy from new bp tablets too I think

midgetm - I think peace of mind is work a lot in this situation - I'd go for the scan too. Stress isn't what any of us need....

hpbp your day sounds lovely - I've grown to really love my sofa lately. Too many crumbs under the cushions these days, though

Hello ladies, I am sorry to say that I need to leave this thread. Earlier this week, at 11+3, a scan confirmed our baby's heartbeat had stopped about 1-2 weeks before. We are devastated, as we'd been led to believe that a strong heartbeat at 8+5 meant that things were extremely unlikely to go wrong. So we were unprepared. Have had an ERPC & we're just taking comfort in eachother & DS (3). Not sure if we can face trying again - this was my 3rd pregnancy & 2 have been miscarriages - the other a premature delivery at 29 weeks. Maybe nature is just trying to tell me something

Good luck to all of you - here's to long & boring pregnancies xxxx

Lotsofcheese, I am very sorry to hear your news. Have some rest. Let the wound heal. But don't give up hope. Lots of hugs to you.

Lotsofcheese I am so sorry to hear your sad news. You must be absolutely devastated. You have had some terrible things to deal with, especially losing a LO at 29 weeks. No one would want to go through what you have. I hope you have lots of support in RL and take the time to heal physically and mentally before you decide what is the right course of action for you to follow next. FF xx

So sorry to hear that lotsofcheese What a shock for you both! I can't imagine how you must be feeling. Take care of yourself & give yourself some time & space xx

Cheese So sorry. I know the pain of recurrent loss and words can't really do it justice but let yourself have some time before you make any decisions. I have been that statisitc of 'only 1% can go wrong' too and it is heartbreaking. Having to also deal with such a late loss I want to come and cuddle you and wrap you in baby making cotton wool and fairy dust. As my midwife put it 'some people get more than their fair share of shit'.

Ex Great news about team pink. Not long now lady.

Thanks for all your well wishes and advice. The fetal medicine (not retail as in my earlier autocorrected post) were really good. A Dr called me back and basically said a 3D scan is not the answer (they could have just taken my money) and that the only thing to do is wait. They think it should be fine but there is no quick fix to finding out so I just need to be patient. I will love this baby no matter what so I just need to chill and hope for the best. The experience of our poor cheese and many others on this board gives me perspective. I am pregnant. I need to focus on the positive and take each day at a time. If the Dr's say don't worry then I shall try and be a good midget and not worry. Easier said than done but I need to just get on with it. My next scan is 4 weeks so I need to count down the days and hope the baby has been able to push the band out of the way. Of course every little twinge now I will think it pre term labour so I apologise is I am a bit of a crazy lady.

Right best bugger off. I was in M&S today. Thought of you LRM as there was a pregnant lady and I wanted to touch her bump to see if she grabbed my arse...

lotsofcheese I'm so sorry, that's a terrible thing to be going through, just awful

midgetm thanks for the timely helpful positive perspective. I'm just so lucky to be where I am, never thought I would be here

Thanks ladies, for all your kind words & support. It's been a truly shiteous time & still so surreal

My only consolation is that I get pregnant very easily so at least I have choices, even if I choose not to take them

I'm not sure if/how I'd cope psychologically with being pregnant again.

Also need to wait on pathology & further urine tests to ensure that it isn't related to my previous miscarriage last year - which was a molar pregnancy.

So have to wait at least a month, which gives me time to gather my thoughts

Thanks again for kind thoughts xx

Oh Lots I have to admit, I'd forgotton about the molar pregnancy you'd had. You really have had a shitty deal. Thinking of you. xx

Lovely, glamorous, 40-something ladies - we are nearly out of space on this thread, so I have set up Fantastic 40 Mums To Be Part II See you over there!! FF xx

Lots, I'm so sorry. Lots of love to you & your family xxx

Lotsofcheese so sorry to hear your news. Stay strong and hopefully we'll see you again soon. Look after yourself. xx.

Hello there!
Can I join you too? Just turned 40 and ttc no.3.