40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

Rubbish baby no3 taking longer - I'd heard that- I started a mammoth threa about it - general consensus was no it doesn't - and my experience backs that up.

I'm not getting extra and I'm over 40 - I have to pay privately for nuchal.

Glad things are running smoothly - cars - have you looked at multipla?? They are fab.

Exexe, good luck with the building work. Feels like we've had building work going on here for nearly 10 years (DP doing it all when he can) - we're nearly at the end and that's partly why DP was very down when we found out I was pregnant - he feels like the pressure is back on again to get it all done - seems to have chilled out a bit now though - the man has just turned up to pebble dash the outside after it looking like something off Prisoner Cell Block H for the last few years .
KMR281, I was booked in today as well - also had loads of blood taken! Nuchal scan should be in a couple of weeks, I'm officially recorded as 10+3. It's lovely that your friend is pregnant as well. I have my 23 year old niece as a pregnancy buddy which is a bit weird but she's due today and has promised to pass on baby stuff to me, which feels even weirder ! Hope everyone else is feeling OK - I had another bacon sandwich in town today, plus a Flake bar, and just had an orange juice lolly and am trying to ignore the scones calling my name from the kitchen....

littleredmonkey where the bloody hell are you? Are you ok? I am worried.

19+1 and bleeding Not vast amounts, but bright red with little clots. I called Triage and they say not to worry unless soaking a pad, and to rest, so no work for me today. Have not felt much movement at all in this pregnancy due to anterior placenta. I think I have felt it move this morning, but praying for big kicks to reassure me. Slight cramping too. Trying to be philosophical about it all, but easier said than done.

Thinking of you Valium, hope you feel some big kicks soon xxx

VQ sending you good vIrtual vibes. Can you not go in and at least get a Doppler check? I had bleeding at 16 and all turned out fine but I know it sure as hell worries the living daylights out of you. Rest up and take it easy. X

I keep thinking about you Midget and how all is well with your little one after a bleed. Triage felt I was best to rest rather than go all the way to hospital. If bleeding or cramping worsens I will go in. If I have lost my baby I would rather know. Trying to stay positive, but it is not easy for us old birds as I for one feel this is my last chance.

DH upset me a bit this morning, saying we already have a wonderful family, and if we stay as a 'four' we have not really lost anything. I understand what he means, but it was still like a stab in the heart. At nearly 20 weeks it is hard not to 'count your chickens', and this is our child, always will be, so that is a very real loss.

Anyhoo, must stay positive!

Will keep you posted...

VQ sorry to read this - will keep everything crossed for you!! I have pregnancy bleeding all way through all 3 pregnancies.

It looks much worse in toilet bowl if that's where you noticed it - midwife says because it mixes with water and looks worse.

Let us know how you are xxxxxx

Valiumqueen, I keep my fingers crossed that the bleeding will stop soon and you will feel big kicks. Rest is compulsory and try not to worry too much. I know, easier said than done.
Don't be mad at DH. He was trying to cheer you up. He wasjust clumpsy in choosing his words. Men do not carry baby and it is difficult for them to understand how we feel. You have felt this baby and it is part of you, will always be, no doubt.
Stay positive. midget and whatname have experienced the same issue and it turned out fine. Remember that. We are all with you in our thoughts.

LRM, where are you ? Everyone is getting worried with this long silence. Are you somewhere exotic with no internet access ?

ValiumQueen thoughts with you and hopefully you'll get the reassuring kicks you need. Drink some ice cold coke!
I know its worrying but lots of women have bleeding and are fine so stay positive.

Knotty nothing wrong with a little bit of pressure to get things done ;)

LRM hope all is well....

VQ sorry to be bossy but can you call your midwife? I think at the least you should know if your cervix is open and if there is a heartbeat. Also check nothing going on with placenta. Ok I am no expert but I had to say it. Surely you will be demented over the weekend ad it is such a long one.

Your DH has indeed used the wrong words, but I guess was trying to reassure you. Men are wombats sometimes.

My bleed was only red for a tiny bit, mainly brown. It took weeks to go. Has it eased off at all? Really wish I could hold your hand properly rather than virtually!

Hi...I am new here...
After having a baby 18 years ago ( with her own home now) and a son 13 years old we are going to have a baby in January 2013...we are very happy . What is really difficult for me is friends and relatives much younger than me ( I am 40)struggling to become pregnant themselves and looking at me happy for me and at the same time sad for themselves ...oh Idon't even know how to phrase it....what do I do?

Bleeding has eased off now thankfully, so glad I am resting. The first thing I did was check my cervix and all seems normal. My cervix has always been a tight little bugger, which is a good thing. it took dynamite to open it the first time, so just bypassed it the second time. Feeling the odd little wriggle, so feeling a little happier. I promise to go to the hospital is symptoms worsen.

Congratulations and welcome notso this thread is fab. Hopefully your friends who are ttc will be looking at you and finding it encouraging and hope inspiring. Just enjoy your pregnancy. Even though others have sadness, you can be happy - it is allowed!

Thanks ValiumQueen... very kind of you...
The idea of entitlement to happiness is something to keep in mind.
I was stressed with the kids reactions ( they didn't know we were trying, stressed with my mother's reaction etc....when I had dd I could not care at all what others thought....mind you I didn't care how I should tell dh...I just blurted it out and he had to sit down for 5 minutes....lol

VQ, very happy that bleeding has eased off a bit and that cervix is closed, that must be reassuring for you. As Exexe said, ice cold coke or anything sweet can make baby move around. My placenta is anterior too so the kicks are less noticeable but this little girl is so active, I don't know when she sleeps tbh.
Notso, welcome and congratulations. Enjoy this pg.

notsoold welcome to the thread. You are amongst good company.

VQ glad you are feeling more reassured and the bleeding is slowing. Sorry to be so bossy.

Well I went and had a bra fitting. 32 FF. FFS. The cups are big enough to cradle babies heads in. Managed to drag myself to Pilates and now weirdly tired. Is it because i am old? Once again hospital think I may have an infection of some kind. Getting cramps. Wish they'd bugger off. Really looking forward to the long weekend. I may even pop up a bit of bunting. Hope you are all planning a jubilastic time. And I may start PM stalking LRM.

Morning all. VQ, how are you today? Welcome notsoold!

Need to share that I became a great-auntie at 4am - my gorgeous & brave 23 year old niece gave birth to a little girl! Bless her, she did so well, after a horrible pregnancy. Sorry, just had to tell people! Not allowed to in RL yet until they've put the news on FB!

Midget you are not being bossy, just caring and I appreciate that. You are quite right in your advice. I guess I just do not want anyone to officially tell me the pregnancy is over. I felt the same when I bled at 8 weeks. If I lost this one we would not try again. Sorry to hear you are not feeling great.

Posting on my swanky new I pad bought for me by my lovely DH. Late Christmas present apparently. No bleeding or cramping overnight thankfully.

Congratulations knotty. Great aunt gosh!

Notsoold - hahaha I'm glad you posted that - I'm bloody terrified of peoples reactions - to the point where I'm thinking of not telling anyone until they actually notice the bump and then pretending to be shocked myself.

This is not helped by comments along the lines of "you better not have any more bloody babies" and from older dc "I can't wait until they (dd and ds2) aren't babies anymore.

I've started laughing at myself - I've had my own home for 20 years, I've been a ft working single parent, I'm married to a man I adore and we have beautiful children - and I feel like a scared pregnant teenager.!!!

VQ glad the bleeding has stopped. Hopefully everything is fine - keep us informed.

Did anyone pm LRM?.

How is everyone else?

Oh yes and congratulations Knotty.

VQ happy for you...hope the weekend will ve a time to rest and to be happy.
Knottyhair congrats...babies everywhere!
Whatname excellent idea...people would never for another 6 months?

Forgot to say ladies that I am brazilian and certain things I can not help but follow my culture... and telling people is one of them!!
Midgettm I had to dash to MS and buy next size up bra because I was bursting out of mine..so 36E.... if keeps going like this I won't be able to see my feet very soon...
But dh isso very happy it is endearing...said I look younger than ever...blessed liar!

Notsold hi and welcome. You have a wonderful dhfor saying things like that.

VQ Glad everything is fine and at ipad.

Knotty congratulations on your great niece! How lovely.

Whatname I still haven't told loads of people. Its really weird isn't it? I've got some brill roomy regular tops from Wallis that disguise things really well. I'm almost 20 weeks and no one at work (except 2 work colleagues who are friends and manager) know and don't suspect. They probably think I'm just eating too much! When I wear maternity tops though its completely obvious.

What are your plans for the long weekend?
We're meant to be hosting a bbq on Monday but I think its going to be raining. What is this law that it has to rain on a bank holiday weekend?

Here's a link for us 40's mums to be :)

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2153595/Uma-Thurman-gives-glimpse-burgeoning-belly-family-day-out.html

Where are you whatnamethistime? Started looking for maternity clothes and its been a bit of a nightmare. Not helped by being a size 20.
Hope you are ok lrm?
24 weeks Monday. Baby is really active. It is quite painful at times. Wonder if thats partly because its my 3rd and I have had 2 csections.
Hope all you ladies are ok. Can't believe I am relieved its cooled down.

Hi ladies,
I am 42 (will be 43 in September). Had my first baby in 2010 when I was 41. This baby is due January 2013, by which point I will be 43.

My parents are freaked out ("you are too old"), and some women I've listened to (albeit briefly) have not been shy in expressing their views that having a baby past 35 is selfish....

Whatever. I just hope it all goes well, I love being a mum.