40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

Congratulations Ovenready - I am due in Jan next year too (my first). You are never too old to be a fantastic mother, in my opinion!

I hope everyone is well and enjoying this extended bank hol weekend. As for me, I am lying in bed, feeling bloated and tired, gazing out of the bedroom window like a Victorian invalid and wishing I had more energy. Just as well the weather's been mostly rubbish...

Ovenready, Eagleray, welcome. Rubbish is this age thing. It is just that sometimes we do not have the energy, that is the only drawback I can see with age.... Don't let any one say otherwise !
Exexe, thanks for the link, wish I could compare my height with Uma's one! But I am not jealous :)
York, any luck with the shopping ? It is nice to feel active baby, isn't it ?
VQ how are you feeling now ?

Nothing to report on my side. Hope everyone is enjoying the extended week end, despite the weather...

Hi ladies glad everyone is well and dandy. I have been super slack this last week and not been any where near my computor. I am dandy this week had shocking pain on my right side last week, think I over did it at the gym I fear. I have been sticking to swimming. Went back in the gym this morning and pulled my right thigh muscle ( bugger ). Went for a swim and did some bump floating and looked like a beach whale on exiting the pool. Also unsure of the state of my lady garden so will check and invest in some cream .
We have started the nursery process. Bloody hell mamas and papas is the biggest temptation ever. Crap they have such nice stuff. We have just choosen the colours and bought some furniture chest of drawers, changer and wardrobe. Off to mamas and papas in the morning after a swim. I will hold off to buy the linen till July. Hoping I can resist till then. The crib is 20% off so will buy that in the morning
I have gone in the last 2 weeks in the huge knickers and they are amazingly comfortable. I am worried they may stay in my drawers after the event. Judging by the biscuits it may not be a choice. Hahahahah
Hope everyone is having good weekend xx

LRM I was getting worried about you. Hurrah you are alive and well. Just a bit sore. We missed you. I am at maternity bloody triage checking if I have an infection due to huge cramps in the night. Buggering balls.

hpbp i got a couple of dresses from Mothercare of all places. (in the sale). Back in yoga pants now though is not so hot anymore. Yep baby moving is lovely even though it hurts at times.
Glad you are ok lrm
So you are poorly midgetm) Hope all is well.

York - Hopefully you can find something at one of these: SimplyBe, Next, Dorothy Perkins. This link seems quite helpful: www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/lookinggood/wardrobe/largersizematernity/

Welcome Ovenready. Hope your parents get over the shock of how incredibly old you are!! These people who think having kids over the age of 35 can pee off. There are many more factors to being a good parent than age. But that is what this thread is for ? to support those of us so old that we have zimmer frames put by at John Lewis at the same time as a Bugaboo!!

Eagle how are you? I agree on the energy thing. It is frustrating.

LRM good to hear from you. Now slow down just a little will you please? How many weeks are you now BTW?

Midget Hope you are ok. Let us know what they say.

Well, been an action packed bank holiday weekend. Thank god it?s nearly over!! My DM came up for a day or so on Friday and has only just left . Love her dearly, but OMG she can be a total pain in the arse. Basically she is, at nearly 80, not up to doing anywhere near as much as she used to be able to do, but has retained power- nagging ability so I have been forced into doing way more shifting and lugging than appropriate at 38 weeks preggers. Our bedroom, where LO will be sleeping, lounge, kitchen, diner, bathroom and kitchen all pretty much in good order. So really, where?s the big deal.
DH has been completely pre-occupied with organising Street Party (FFS ? 13 days before my due date!), pretty much single handed? fortunately was a relative success and at least it is now out the way. DH now finally grasping that his priorities lie with preparing for arrival of LO, rather than parties?..
Yesterday, collected pram/pushchair. Is lovely. V pleased.
DM has been threatening to stay another day or two, but took her out for early lunch and managed to convince her not to hang around. Phew! Now all I need to do is get DH back to work and I can get things sorted how I want them!!
So, just to put things into perspective, am due in 11 days?. I don?t need to be hassled at the moment!! Really need to rest and prepare for birth. Been researching the issue of induction in over 40s, and finding it hard to get any concrete evidence about it. Will post anything useful if I find it. Am surprised that there isn?t much substantial evidence on the whole issue ? pregnancy rates in over 40s has doubled in past 10-20 years, so it?s about time some research was done on it, as I don?t think it?s an issue which is going to go away.
Sorry, got a bit ranty there. DH now wanting us to go out, so posting this update in fairly raw form!! Be back later.
Hugs to all. FF

FF you deserve a medal for putting up with your mother at this stage in pregnancy. Your description sounds much like my own mother so I feel your pain. So close to graduating from our thread, I may come and pack a bag for you.

Well I have a mild infection which is bringing on the cramps. Last night I convinced myself it was preterm labour so all a big relief. Paranoia made me think they may send me away and say it was constipation.

Anyway baby fine and antibiotics started. Lazy day instead of the gym for me today. Thanks for your lovely well wishes.

Glad you are doing ok midget. Am relieved to that it was not preterm labour.

I have things thrown into a bag already. Just need to audit. Come and have a [cuppa] and chin-wag instead Midget

Enjoyed a mooch in town while DH at gym. Keep looking at all the lovely clothes and then remember have space hopper, or similar, shoved up my top! , so try not to fantasise about which glamorous occasion I'm going to waft around in them in. Reality hits home big style when I realise very few of the aforementioned items would be any good if I a) suddenly lose humungous amoungs of weight immediately after birth anyway as b) they look totally unsuitable for BF.

Considered getting Clary Sage, but couldn't make myself part with £10 for the pleasure, so making do with a crap mag with free pore enhancing serum and some Haribos!! Might do a bit of internet shopping instead.

FF xx

I'm coming round. Not just for a chat but for your haribos. Currently addicted to haribo sours which is not helped by the fact that they are 49p currently.....

Glad you're Ok Midget and I agree, fireflies deserves a mahoosive medal for dealing with that situation so diplomatically! Will be standing on heads to get to those Haribo sours, in fact any sour sweet. Ate a whole bag of Skittles sours yesterday . Good job I've just ordered "Pregnancy Workout Lean & Toned " DVD...

Hello ovenready, does it totally piss you off that despite the fact you are a grown woman, everyone and their dog feels free to have an opinion on your life choices?? It does me.

Having been parent in my 20s I dont have energy but I am infinitely more patient.

LRM, glad you are ok, have you seen this stuff? here.

Wish I had more money, Im thinking of not having a cot for this one, coslept with other 2 and barely used cot, could have nursing chair instead.

midget, glad you are ok.

1000 take it EASY, glad DH is now prioritisng you, your mum sounds hard work! And bugger being induced just because its policy, if you are happy with it fine, if you arent, thats your choice, my theory is more intervention, more likely there will be more.

Clary Sage def cheaper on web.

Im craving chinese but we are on cutting back spree, Im also craving coke and cheese on toast with cherry tomatoes.

and the kidsline bedding is to die for, I love it so much :) if I dont have a cot I cant have any :(

Hey ladies
Thought of the week:
I have been slapping everyone who touches my bump on the ass this last week, I have had a few shocked looks but if you touch me I will touch you. Friends I dont mind and some seem to like the ass slap they think its a nice touch and fair does . Customers in the store, no chance I back off once I see the hand move.

Midget- Thanks for caring honey and glad you are ok. How you feeling today ?

FF - wow you have been busy, how excited are you now as its not long? Taking you advise and taking a chill pill from the gym, went swimming with other half today and so stiff. Do enjoy sitting in bed reading and eating my own body weight in biscuits. I am 23 weeks this Thursday chuck. The time has gone so quickly only 12 weeks till I leave work cant believe it.

whatname - Thanks for the link, bloody internet and all its temptations you look at one site and think ohhhh thats nice you go somewhere else and think ohhhh again. Gone are the days with only the high street and catolgues you know the ones I mean where you can pay £2 a week if you like. Crap how old am I. Good old freemans eh !!!

Hpbp - Hey honey I wish for a holiday, somewhere chilled and with someone
bringing me drinks and biscuits. !!! also cheese cake I have decided with fruit on top so dont feel so guilty.

Been off work for the last 4 days. So dont want to go back to work in the morning. It is getting harder every weekend I am off as I get near to my Mat leave. I must admit I am crapping myself about the birth and normally I am very unemotional about most things but this has got me in flap. Tried to describe my worrys to my partner and he is very good about it . I said imagine in 16 weeks or so I will ask you to push a bowling ball out your muff while a load of strangers stare at you with medical crap all over and you know its going to hurt like hell. I keep calm most of the time but worry thoughts keep creeping into my little brain. Sorry to be a worry wart just nice to share and I know you ladies will try and help me. Ps Off to get a biscuit after my mini rant

LRM nice touch with the slapping .

Re birth, you will be so sick of weeing by the time it comes, you wont care anymore .

OMG - weeing is mental , my water bill will have doubled by the time he comes honestly. Never mind the rain forest I have destroyed with loo roll.

Hi any recent 40+ ladies on here. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I have a gorgeous son whose 4 in August. Really hoping this works out as I miscarried last Oct. So very excited but nervous at the same time. Anyone, else concerned about there age? I don't feel 40 but just the bloody stats that get me worried. Regards

Hey Damash - congrats to start with . Yes all of us are 40+ so you are in very good company. I am 43 and expecting my first, all my scans have come out fine and dandy. All bloody tests fab and no issues. So positive vibes for you xx

Hello, Im about 10 weeks, I have 3 DCs already, I am worried about telling people!!!

I also have a DSD.

I have "night sickness" and am sick on the dot at 10 every night, which then means I cant sleep.

Sigh!

Congrats btw.

Hello everyone :)

I know I haven't posted for ages as I've been bumped off all the 'Threads I'm On'. Hope everyone's doing well - I'm doing my best to catch up. Not a lot of news just been busy with RL stuff and only getting online late at night when I'm too tired.

Midget - hope you're feeling much better soon. You're really going through it! But super-glad to hear the LO's still thriving! :)

Welcome Damash12 - yes, we're slightly more at risk in some ways statistically and yes, I did worry more in the first 12 week window. I guess I feel blessed as it's my first at 41 and it's all I've ever wanted all my life. My mum was 40 when she had me and several grandmothers & great grandmothers were 'late mothers' (36-44). Also in London older mothers are twoapenny so I never felt odd particularly.

Belated welcome also Ovenready - I'm sorry to hear you had such insensitive comments about your age. Amazingly, I haven't had a single comment or expression of surprise from anyone, despite my age. The only odd comment was from my mother the other day (who has only just 'accepted' it now I'm 21 weeks - she has been priming herself for my 'inevitable' miscarriage) who said - "the doctor's said you were a miracle but wow! this is the most miraculous thing ever!" (I think I need a stern word to her that in this day and age, conceiving post 38 isn't considered 'miraculous'...you'd think I was the oldest expectant mother on record or something!).

LRM - lol at your bum-slapping; good on ya! :) I guess I've been really lucky as here in Norway, bump-touching is considered rude and invading other's personal space (unless invited to). The only one who did was my father in law. And my bump is mahoosive!! (I'm already having to roll off the sofa and out of bed...).

FF - 11 days! How exicting! Agree that you're a saint dealing with your mother at this point. I wouldn't be able to but luckily for me, mine is unlikely ever to visit Norway, so I'm safe. She has indicated that she 'expects' us to bring the baby at Xmas, even though it may only be 8 weeks old. Don't know how to tell her yet I may not feel like air/pan-European travel at that stage without dramas. Mothers eh?

Feeling the baby a lot more - some days I get flutters, then the odd kick. Feels like she's going to fall out/off downwards when I stand up quickly sometimes and I definitely feel something rocking back and forth inside me when I walk. Most weird! (in a nice way :)). Have discovered that she responds to certain types of music (lots of kicks and movement) and also to other baby's/toddler's high pitched voices; laughter and shrieks. Whenever I'm around friends with other kids she starts a veritable breakdance inside me. I'm convinced she's going to be a very social baby :). Hope to check in more often and get properly caught up with you all...

Welcome Damash 40 is the new 30. Well thats what I am telling myself anyway.

Ovenready hardly anyone has dared mention my age but when they do I realise it is a bit of an Achilles heel for me and it rubs we totally up the wrong way. I may be old but I am in pretty rude health and I think that will stand me in good stead. it will, it will, rock back and forward and rub head

Wecome back Fjord don't be away so long - I get all silly and worry. Glad your little lady is still into kung foo.

Totally bricking it for my scan. leaving in 5 minutes. Can hardly breathe.

Midget, can't wait to hear your good news after the scan. Don't worry, it will be fine. Fingers crossed
Damash, welcome and congrats on the pg.
FF, Mums can be very difficult to cope with sometimes.... Good on you to have dealt with yours so diplomatically. I am a bit scared too to spend 3 months with mine. But I need her help for the baby's sake so I will bite my tongue :)
10 days to go, waouh, so close now. I am a bit further but have thought about preparing my hospital bag just in case. My OH will be in NYC for a week next week, starting to get worried...
LMR, bump touching is annoying indeed, go on, just slap any hand that comes too close ! I don't want to think about birth either. Second time around and still feel scared but hey do we have a choice ?! We will find a way to go through it and forget soon enough...
Fjord, seems that girls are very active, my little one wakes me up sometimes at night when she makes me feel sick by adopting a front position, I can really feel her back and my bump is completely sideway. Breathing and haptonomy do work marvellously but then I am wide awake !
Whatname, this kids bedroom link is awesome, so tempting. I will try to keep my head cold and not buy anything not essential, hard to resist though... My friends have started asking, so I might create a list, like the wedding one but I am not too keen tbh. Will just go for a new pushchair, comfy and light.

32 weeks, can't believe it will be in 8 weeks or so.....

Well good news bad news from me and living proof that Dr Google is bad news.

Baby perfect. Didn't find out sex but as the bean was uncooperative it may have been hard to do anyway (fate I think).

Not so perfect is the diagnosis of a Amniotic Band. This is a catch it all definition for something that could be really serious and cause losses and deformities, and preterm labour or something not to worry about.

Anyway promised not to Google it I had the iPhone on search as soon as I sat down in the car and now full of dread. Rang the consultant as totally out of my mind that this perfect baby could be affected by this bastard band. Rather worryingly they gave me an appointment to see my consultant this afternoon so back into the hospital in a bit. Hoping it is nothing to worry about and trying to remain calm in between the tears. The sonographer seemed to be relaxed about it so hoping it is not too serious but can't help but fear the worst. Emotions went from high to low PDQ. Stop the roller coaster - I want to get off....

Keep everything crossed for me. I am officially out of my mind.

Waves to everyone.

Midget keeping everything crossed for you. FF xx

Midget, do not lose your mind. I had not so good news as well when I had my 20 week scan, remember ? But eventually, the doctors were just ultra cautious and the results were all good. Thinking of you.