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littleredmonkey · 06/03/2012 13:13

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

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york67 · 25/05/2012 19:38

Hi again ladies. Had a midwife appointment today. All well which is fab. Feeling the heat a bit though.
Anyone else feeling hot and bothered?
exexe I am the opposite of that. Just can't face coke in pregnancy.

Hpbp · 25/05/2012 20:39

York, yes, i do feel the heat too, volunteered to go to the Tate Modern today with under 5 yo from DS1 nursery 3 weeks ago, had to cancel yesterday, was feeling too tired and uncomfortable in this heat... Went for a pedcure instead :)

Glad your scan went well. Thisis good news.

Exexe, anything sweet will do, don't get addicted for the love of feeling LO moving around ! You made me smile ! This is so sweet.... Older mums are/can be nutter than young ones, I think ! Only because we desire this LO more than anything else...

Enjoy theweek end, hope there will more breeze ! Not complaining though...

york67 · 25/05/2012 20:41

I am definately nuttier this time around. Stakes are so much higher.

10000fireflies · 25/05/2012 22:13

Evening Ladies
Wow, whatname you?re lucky to be able to pick up such amazing bargains. As I?ve only got 3 weeks to go, I?m trying to avoid buying any more maternity wear, but if there is a DC2, I might be contacting you and see if you can get me some bargains. I got most of mine in the Next sale at Christmas. Lots was summer wear which I layered over the winter. Thanks for posting the link to the induction thread. Interesting reading. Need to study it more carefully along with lots of other things to do pre-baby.
LRM Congrats on the scan. Can you believe that you?re already this far along? Is exciting, isn?t it? How was your second scan?
And congrats to Fjord. I?m sure you?ll be a lovely Mummy to your little girl, and will manage to avoid all the bad behaviour you?ve had to endure from the DSD. See, midget thinks the same. I have similar worries about my DC ? I really hope it does not pick up some of DH?s appallingly bad habits and behaviour?. I am thinking positively that I will be a positive influence.

Belated birthday greetings to Knotty. Hope you enjoyed your celebrations.

Exexe hope you got everything sorted. Glad to hear Bday party was such a success. I am dreading doing them. Try www3.hants.gov.uk/lepe and head for the white house, look out to sea from carpark and go right a lot. Is quieter as you keep going. Not quite as frantic as Brighton, but likely to be fairly, but then where isn?t when the weather?s like this?
Seaside how are you doing now? I have certainly had periods of feeling a touch depressed, and also looked into ante-natal depression. It never got so bad that I wanted to seek formal help, but I was verging on it. DH had been unemployed for 7 months until earlier this year and felt like house was falling down around our ears, so I guess it was understandable. Have felt vaguely like that again this week too. Hope holiday and some TLC helps, but promise you will keep telling us about it if things don?t improve. I haven?t really been tearful/emotional, just effed off from time to time.
Wow Hpbp not long to go at work. They are bastards for making you work until 18th June. I hope you won?t bust a gut for them. I had to leave the day I received my CA, and had a hard time looking sad and serious when inside I was leaping for joy that I had a way out. I doubt whether I would have achieved this pregnancy/kept it had I still worked for those **s. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go back to work BTW. There is a fine balance between keeping your career when you have kids and being a SAHM. Madness lies both ways from what I have seen!!
Midget pleased to hear you didn?t have syphilis in the end!!! Grin Hope holiday was good?

Who?s stressing about PE? Worth keeping an eye out for it, but I believe it?s really very rare.

Fjord lovely that you can feel DD like that! And how wonderful to wake up to your DP and baby bonding like that.

Re movements, you can try holding something very cold to your belly, like an ice pack? that may well get them moving. I had limited movements though, but just had a quick check with Doppler from time to time. Only towards the end of my preg have I been told it is because placenta at front of stomach so cushions feelings.

York - am feeling it, just a little bit (total understatement), but it won?t last long, and I?m taking evasive action in meantime: ice packs/lots of lollies/feet in bucket of cold water?. Glad all ok at MW appt.

I have busy weekend ahead. Then next week need to try and get on with straightening out flat post-carpet fitting. So I will be a little quiet for a while. Have a great weekend everyone! xx

exexe · 26/05/2012 11:23

Thanks for the link 1000FF I don't think we'll make it today. Sad
In laws are coming over this afternoon.

Does this weather make anyone else feel frumpy and haggard?
I feel so rubbish in my baggy shapeless clothes looking rather large.
I swear next summer will be different.

Midgetm · 27/05/2012 08:49

Exexe hell yes. I compensate by getting leg out (I don't have cankles yet only a matter if time, last time even my feet looked like pigs trotters and by wearing really fitting things so at least it is obvious that I am pregnant. Still forcing myself into a bikini in the garden but it looks a tad obscene!

FF 3 weeks. Blimey oh Riley I'm excited for you. Another graduate to our old birds thread.

York I am totally fruit loop this time. Not sure I will relax at all until I am at at least at 'viability' and maybe not until this baby in in my arms.

Well I've been out 2 nights in a trot and I'm done for. 20 week scan a week in Wednesday and feel like I am holding my breath till then. I am not sure I will be much better after that. 25 weeks perhaps? or perhaps I will keep moving the goal posts Waiting to hear back from the hospital to see if my liver is still playing up and if I need a scan or not. Someone (sorry on phone so can't scroll) asked what PE is. Pre eclampsia. I had it with DD so more likely to get it so being monitored really closely as soon as I yet to 20 weeks. The extra scans and check ups are really reassuring and I am coming round to the the thought of an ELCS if need be. Almost liking the idea of being too posh to push now.

Glorious day and I have to fill in job apps. For my own job. Sweet unbridled joy. Could be number 2 in the thread signing a compromise agreement when heavily pregnant. I feel strangely relaxed about it. Those hormones can be a blessing sometimes!

Hope you all enjoy the sunshine. Catch you later x

exexe · 27/05/2012 17:24

Midgetm Glad you're relaxed about your work situation. I've had to do that apply for my own job stuff and its a pain.

I have blisters on my feet from wearing sandals that were fine last year. I think my feet have slightly swelled up. I've just spent over £100 on 3 pairs of shoes from Clarks. I need comfortable shoes! I bought a pair of work shoes as I don't think I should wear my boots anymore and I'm worried that the shoes I had from last year will be tight. I bought some sandals and some casual shoes to go with jeans.

I also ordered some linen trousers from New Look. I've been completely unprepared for this weather!

Hpbp · 28/05/2012 08:33

Good morning all,
Hope you managed to make the most of this wonderful weather. FF, are you feeling OK ? I had to go to bed all wet in order to fall asleep but last night was not too bad. DS1 fell from his bed during the night but it seemed that the wooden floor was comfy enough as he kept on sleeping !
exexe, my feet have swollen too, I can only bear flip flops.... :) very chic to go to work with !
Midget, employers count a little bit on pg hormones, don't they ? The only reason that made me not go to tribunal was that my priority is the baby, I fought hard to get 4 months on top of the statutory pay out. Do what you can, sweet, and look after yourself and little bean.
Off to work, dreading the London commute already.

Whatnamethistime · 28/05/2012 22:33

Well ladies, I am shattered, my FEET are ITCHING like crazy, they are driving me mad and I have a work dilemna, other than that .......

Whatnamethistime · 28/05/2012 22:37

oh and if I want a nuchal fold scan i have to pay

10000fireflies · 28/05/2012 23:21

Whatname if your feet are itching that badly best speak to someone about it soon. What a load of bllx that you have to pay for Nuchal. What tests do they offer?

Hpbp I am ok thanks. Have lots of lovely ways to keep cool - went to outdoor pool this eve. Take ice pack wrapped in pillowcase to bed. Hear filling hot water bottle with cold water and freezing also v effective!! Wow, wish I could be comfy sleep on bare boards.

OMG, my eyes are getting so heavy, keeping this short. Am suffering severe nesting which is knackering!! Off to bed.

Hugs to all.

FF
xx

Whatnamethistime · 28/05/2012 23:35

Ive poured a few jugs of ice cold water on them, its not a sign of anything is it? I am very stressed.

They offer the 12 and 20 week scans, and the usual blood tests.

Midgetm · 29/05/2012 06:47

What's - is it your hands and feet or just feet?

10000fireflies · 29/05/2012 08:10

whatname how are you doing? Don't be stressed.... but are you still itching? As midget says, is it both hands and feet or just feet? Yes, it can indicate that there might be an issue. If you're still getting it and it's quite bad you should speak to someone - MW/GP maybe NHS direct?

I get horrendously itchy feet after a bath, but it passes.

How is everyone. I had a lovely night cuddling my ice pack. Smile But woke up to a really bad nosebleed. Ugh. Has gone now and am just mulling over the idea of going to retail park to get last few hospital bag and baby bits and pieces.

Hugs to all. FF

knottyhair · 29/05/2012 08:28

Hi everyone! Haven't got much time so just wanted to say hope those you suffering are feeling better today. Had a lovely birthday last week - lovely cakes and tea with my friends and DP bought me a Kindle which I'm very chuffed with. The nausea seems to be improving, only bad in the evenings really. First MW appt on Thursday. At least the weather's supposed to cool down now... Hope everyone is OK xx

Whatnamethistime · 29/05/2012 08:55

Argh just lost my typed post.

Knotty birthday sounds lovely, I too am beginning to feel rough at night.

1000 when is baby due, hope there are no more nose bleeds.

Everyone, there is a lady on pram shed selling a beautiful pram
this thread courier prob no more than £25.

this is just for pictures I dont this this is the lady

WNTT · 29/05/2012 09:22

I am waiting for a trial as one of the DCs has been the victim of the most terrible crime.

Hence I am off work with long term stress.

I dont know how I am going to tell work I am PG, they are going to think I am terrible :(.

Hope the name change makes sense.

Hpbp · 29/05/2012 09:31

Whatname,
I don't understand why you should pay for Nuchal Translucency... it should be offered together with the blood tests as an option if you wish to know your DS risk level. By option I mean yes or no you want to know, not yes or no you have to pay... Am I mistaking ?
re Itchiness, it would be good to see a GP or MW, can be dry skin or liver... it is better to get it checked as Midget and FF said

FF I can't imagine myself cuddling an ice pack :) but I will keep the concept in mind. I have a spare room that I use as a study when I work from home (like today, hum hum) because it is a bit cooler than the rest of the flat - in winter my OH calls it 'the Fridge'- so I might leave the conjugal bed to go to the Fridge

going to a BF session at 10.30 to get my head back together, I seem to have forgotten a lot !!!

will catch up later

Whatnamethistime · 29/05/2012 09:40

HPBP its not something carried out in our NHS Trust apparently, I dont just have to pay, I have to find a private hospital to do it.

Hpbp · 29/05/2012 09:51

Hum, how strange, I thought it was standard procedure within NHS... does NHS procedures vary so much form one part of the country to another ? Learning everyday...

Do you know if you wish to know about DS ?

Can you easily find a private hospital which carries that ? AFAIK, it should be done between 11weeks and 13+6. So if you wish to find out, don't wait too much.

Sorry this adds on top of the trial.

Take it easy.

Whatnamethistime · 29/05/2012 09:59

yes I need to know, with other DCs I didnt care, but I am aware that I have already got two small children, older DS and obviously an already stressful family situation.

I have found one hospital, but their website says, they advise a dating scan first, because if your dates are out, then they charge you for the scan and then you need to go back for the nuchal scan.

Dont worry I am planning to get my revenge by having a home birth on Christmas Day.

Hpbp · 29/05/2012 12:19

I can see you still have your sense of humour so all is good :)
Have lots to sort out at home today, papers and clothing... pfff Wink glad I do not have a garden otherwise I would be out all day !

Whatnamethistime · 29/05/2012 12:29

Yes my house is a total tip because we are out in garden til late evening everyday.

If my mother wasn't disgusted and didn't tidy when she came round I don't think you would see the floor at all at the moment!

I have a lot of support from some lovely people - they keep me as sane as can be expected and as I am discovering, in the words of the song " L I F E G O E S O N" and actually, when you have children relying on you, you really cN get through anything.

Whatnamethistime · 29/05/2012 12:30

I mean it about home birth - I am glad this thread prewarned me Bou sone policies of induction.

10000fireflies · 29/05/2012 13:06

Whatname try this place: www.fetalmedicine.com/fmc/

I have heard rave reviews about them. Apparently well worth travelling a long way for tests there. At least give them a call and talk through combined test (ie bloods and nuchal fold scan). I believe you get results same day.

My place is a tip too. Haven't 'unpacked' since carpet fitters came 10 day ago. Am not doing that nor cleaning while the weather is like this.

WNTT sounds stressful. You'll be ok though. Sure of that.

My due date: 16th June. Everyone v lovely and helpful out and about today. Goodness I am tired though. Going for a snooze in garden, so long as neighbours kids not having (yet another ruddy) meltdown.

How's everyone else? LRM?

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