40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

Thanks ladies and HP I do remember so well. Lots of worry at the time but a positive outcome. My DH seems to think the sonographer said it would have caused problems by now - I didn't hear that bit! Anyway waiting to see the consultant now so should be out of my agony soon. Thanks again, I have slightly regained perspective and feel calmer. Will focus on the positive until I know any more.

Everything crossed for you midgetm.

Midget, you were here when I had my meltdown, we are here now too for you, it is normal to be worried, stupid hormones, hey ? I am sure your DH heard well. Most of the times, only one doubt does not mean anything, there s got to be more than one symptom. Breathe, please and be positive.

och midget, sure all will be well for you - keeping all fingers and toes crossed xxx

I left work at 11am today with incredible stomach pains - was quite worried. Got home, went to bed, slept for 2 hours, and now feel fine - oops, that might have just been erm, digestive rather than baby-related (embarrassed). STill, was nice to get a nap on a work day! Will work extra hard tomorrow to make up for it, honest... thank goodness for such a lovely line manager.

anyway, all best wishes to everyone, and hope all ok for Midget xx

Well I am back and I am off the ledge and less mental. My consultant does not think it is significant but they will keep a close eye on it. It is likely to have already caused deformities by now - which it hasn't as far as they can tell. I really trust her care - she was marvelous with DD, so if she says don't worry it is good enough for me. So I can go back to celebrating a perfectly healthy looking 20 week scan, whilst forgetting about the stupid bloody band. Quite tempted to pay for a 3D scan which can tell for sure if it is a band or a fold so I can put the worry to bed for once and for all but will see if I can relax about it before I shell out unnecessarily. I realise how very lucky I am to have such a great consultant that has reassured me so quickly. Even having to sleep on this for one night is enough to drive you demented. HP I salute you as you had this dragging on for weeks. Thanks for all your lovely messages. x

Midget, I am so glad to hear such good news, you must be relieved. What really got me going was that I am convinced that worries are not good for the little bean. Sleep on it and if you can put your mind at rest with a 3D scan, go for it. And if I may, the 3D scan can be unsettling as baby has not got yet the fat and can look like an old wrinkled person!!!
Cheeky little one, no showing its gender... Ah these babies, they do drive us crazy even before they are in our arms.... And still, e already love them so much....
KMR, you made me smile. I experienced the same situation, but all my fault, I had half a pack of dried prunes... Hum hum!

It is so windy outside that I might fly to nursery to pick up DS1... Stupid me, I forgot I have an extra 15 kg with this pg ! :)

LittleRedM... love the bum slapping idea! My first preg quite a few people felt obliged to touch my bump, and I was often too taken aback that they had (I really don't get how they feel it is ok - it's NOT!!).

I'm gonna go with the bum slapping - might see how many I can get and keep a bum-slapping tally!!!

In fact (getting carried away now) I might even do 'special announcements' if someone becomes "the 10th person to touch my bump" and they win a special prize (like a full-on double boob squeeze!!! - cos it's always women that touch you)...

Morning all! Lovely to hear all the bump/movement news, and Midget, glad you're feeling a bit more reassured. Also love the bum slapping idea! Still waiting for my scan date but I suppose as I only saw the MW on Thursday, with all the bank holidays, it'll probably take a while to come through in the post. Nausea is still lingering, and I'm still eating different/more food than usual. Waiting for my pregnancy Lean & Toned DVD to arrive and planning on giving it a go when DS goes back to school on Tuesday, if the nausea is manageable for half an hour!

Mid get glad things are looking ok. What a worry!
Lol at bum slapping. I think id be livid if someone just touched my bump. Im not a touchy freely person so would hate it. Good job only dh has ever done it (Obviously close family and friends allowed)

I have my scan tomorrow! Im a bit nervous about it. Obviously I want everything to be ok but I have to admit I really want a girl this time and im partly convinced it is but only because this pregnancy is different to the others (I know that has no bearing on anything really)
Oh well will find out tomorrow.

Hello, I've been lurking over at the conception bit for a while and crossing my fingers that I'd be able to join you lot over here.

On Monday I poas because I had one left and I wanted to clear out the bathroom cupboard before we move (!) it was +

but I'm 41 soon and have my hands full with a gorgeous 16 month old already! Is anyone else in a similar situation?

Exexe, good luck for tomorrow! Welcome Titty - love the name . Congratulations! I'm 44 and have an 8 year old DS so not really the same situation but I'm sure there will be someone along soon....

Exexe, don't worry for tomorrow, you will get to see the baby ! Hope you will find out the gender.
Titty, welcome and congratulations. I am slightly older, 41 and almost 6 months and my son is 3.5 yo, 32 weeks in this second pg.
Knotty, hope nausea will leave you alone soon.

Baby is so active today. Lying on the sofa just to watch her move around.... Crappy weather.

Hpbp, that sounds lovely. I'm only 11+3 so I laid on the sofa to watch Sebastian Bergman instead.

hi Hpbp, thanks for the congrats! i feel like poop though, flu-ish and soo tired. I remember lying on the sofa, watching my bump (not so long ago - he's now climbing all over me, i don't expect there'll be much lounging going on this time round!

Exexe

Operation ass slap - today 1 slap only partner as day off. Think he likes it !!! hahahah
Back at work in the morning and have the whole day to be slapping. I know you will join me in the count ovenready!!! Will let you know total by the evening. Has anyone lost track of this week, Friday already not complaining but very confusing. Wait till the baby is born my mate said the other day you wont know one day from the next never mind the time . She did buy me some tea and cake in Costas so I let her off

Midget - glad you're ok and feeling a bit better how ya doing today chuck ? Did you get a restful night.

Hpbp- I keept feeling little one move and yes bloody weather is crap but on the plus side under the blanket on the sofa nice hot brew watching the tv so not all bad.

exexe - Thinking of ya for your scan and hoping for team pink for ya xx

Titty - welcome to the gang xx Congratulations

KMR - hope you feel better, dont worry about the time off best to rest when you can. Cant wait till Sept for my Mat leave. Feet up hoping for a few weeks to chill out before little dylan in born.

Question ladies as I cant decide name spelling wise . Dylan or Dillion. Or is there any other way ?

LRM loving operation arse-slap!! Good policy!! I haven't had too many unwanted gropings of bump, but would employ your tactic otherwise. I suspect many blokes, and ladies for that matter, wouldn't like to have their beer-guts fondled either!! Love Oven's award idea too. LRM think I prefer Dillon spelling...

Welcome Titty loving the moniker!! Is making me think I should change mind. If you open all the pages of this thread and scroll back a bit you'll find a status list I was doing which will give you some idea who is in similar position. Bear in mind though that we have lost a few lovely ladies along the way. In the end though, we are all fabulous forties together. I am 42 and 38+5 with DC1.

Midget and KRM glad to hear you're both ok.

I had a lovely 3 hour coffee catch-up with a preggo friend today. Then totally overdid it shopping, but what the feck. I am only the master/mistress of my own destiny for a matter of days now!! Really must apply myself to finalising hosp bag and leaving it by the door.

Scan tomorrow. They will be looking at liquor (no, not booze, darling, amnio fluid, whoever thought that before!! ) and if low will be pressurising me into induction. So I'm going to drink as much as I can manage between now and tomorrow lunch time to fool the bastards!!

I have started on the Evening Primrose Oil. Got Clary Sage today so going to have a soak in oily bath with that tonight. Maybe whilst supping Rasp Leaf Tea. Bet that tastes disgusting!! I'd be up for a bit of jiggy too to help things along, but I obv look like beached whale to DH.

Waves to all. FF

FF - Not long now eh !! getting excited yet !! Let us know how the scan goes ? Enjoy your evening you sound like you are going to be very busy !!!!

Hello oldies! I've been away for lovely hols, and its taken me an hour to catch up on all your news :) Big welcome to new ladies - congratulations!
I met my consultant today - she was really great, and happy to answer my (very) big list of questions without making me feel like an idiot. Turns out I've got stupidly high bp already though, so here come the drugs ... I'm already doing yoga, acupuncture and meditation, so there's nothing else for it. Anyone else got this?
I'm really rather taken with my doppler - big thanks to those that helped me choose it - but I'm restricting myself to one listen a week in case the baby doesn't like the noise (my nct email said the baby can hear and feel things this week - how lovely! Must switch to radio 3 to get some culture going)
18 week bump is pretty big, and I caught myself waddling rather than walking today - oh, the indignity
Blimy it's windy outside xxx

Its bloody windy inside too bytheseaside. Glad to see you back . Did you have a nice holiday? where did you go so I can be jealous. I have been waddling for weeks now. I need to buy a new pair of trousers for work as I noticed that I have been pulling them over my bump and I look like a pirate .

lrm haha good to see the return of the windy jokes :) My issues in that respect seem to have calmed down in 2nd tri thank goodness so I am safe in public again.
Just went to Devon, but was great - lots of laziness and greediness

Another late appearance by Fjord (but trying desperately to make it on)...

Midget !!!?! phew! Another drama that's luckily probably not a drama. I do feel for you - seems like one thing after another! Glad to hear this band is unlikely to be a further problem if it hasn't been thus far. I'm sure your consultant would square the risks with you honestly! Hope you're managing to relax more now. 3D scans are tempting though, aren't they? :)

exexe - good luck with the scan tomorrow if you get this before you go! Don't forget to report back after!

Ovenready lol at the 'double boob-squeeze'! But hey, it wouldn't be innappropriate under the circumstances!

Welcome and congratulations to TittyWhistles! I'm also 41 but this is my first.

Sounds like you had a lovely holiday bytheseaside! :) Nice to see you again.

LRM - I'd go with Dylan but then my family are Welsh and that's the traditional Welsh spelling. Is that the favoured name for Junior red monkey? :)

Not much news this side of the fjord except I've 3 missed calls from the midwife's office today and I'm not due to see her again for at least 3 weeks so my mind has been boggling a bit. Bump is mahoosive and, as boobs are too, have decided that most 'maternity' wear hangs funny on me. All these empire lines....the 'line' runs across the middle of my nipple and the top bit of the 'bump accommodation' flaps redundantly underneath . Firmly in the 'gonna stick to regular loose fit stuff' camp from now on. Looks more 'normal' and, despite my size, at least my bump is now unambiguously a 'bump' rather than just looking like giant 'pie storage'.

good luck for your scan EX be thinking of you and your liquor.

Fjord call the midwife young lady . Probably nothing major but just put your mind at rest.

Titty welcome to the old people's club. Sounds like you will have a lovely age gap, mine will be 5 years and I would much rather 2. So much better for activities and things. I think always 2 is a handful though gulp.

Better go, got to do tests at work today for my job application and mind all mushy from amniotic band thoughts. I am going to try and call the retail medicine centre today and just make enquiries. DH thinks I am crackers but I think it would be money well spent for proper peace of mind. I spent the day with lots of disabled children yesterday which gave me great perspective. I will love this baby no matter what but I also don't want to spend the next 19 weeks worries about what could be a perfectly healthy pregnancy.

Turning into a
Mammoth post and should be at work. Here's for a good (and not too windy LRM) day x