40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

Just a quickie but wanted to say FF blimey, not long now and where on earth is LRM?

Nope, not long at all!! Am aiming to strike the perfect balance btwn LO arriving too early but not so late am induced. I have rasp leaf tea and EPO at the ready!! Have a lot of sorting to do of flat, but DH being nothing short of a total arse and is getting caught up with all sorts of things which just don't matter. I mean, organising a street party 13 days before I'm due, spending time writing shitty emails to neighbours (who are being a pain, but it's not a priority), offering to help people at short notice with non-urgent things - this all takes him away from the cleaning and tidying we need to do and also creates more mess for me to deal with.

Amongst the more normal tasks, today I took an estate car load of crap to the dump. I retrieved a dirty dustbin from the box with the child car seat box (with seat in) and hauled it out into the garden.... It's just not right is it?

My (unusual) outburst of tears and shouting has been put down to hormones.

So I've been forced into eating most of his large Galaxy bar and made him talk to my Mum about his priorities. I am hoping this is enough of a punishment.

They just aren't driven by the same timescales as us are they? I wanted to actually kill mine today and it drives me crazy when they blame the hormones...

1000 I think Harley Street is probably out of my price range, Im really cross, I thought it was a standard test.

Have you got any Clary Sage Oil?? Its excellent during labour and whats EPO??

Yes DHs have strange priorities during pregnancy!

what have u told us yet what they are offering?

No, will try to get. Evening primrose oil. Alledgedly softens cervix therefore lessens need for induction.

Night all! Sweet dreams! Ff xx

I think I did, anyway, usual bloods and 20 week anomoly scan.

I have never worried before, but this time is different for lots of reasons.

what where do you live? My friend in Sussex had to come to kings to get a NT. not that pricey but do think she had to pay.

Sorry to be cagey - can't say where we are from - I'll pm you x

Whatname, you can call viveka.co.uk. They do NT scan. I used them to monitor my cycle and it worked straight away, they were not too pricey. Good luck
Hello to every one else. And yes, where is LRM !?

Hello everyone :) Im not new, i did post about 5.5 weeks ago when i was first pg but i had some trouble in the last few weeks and didn't want to tempt fate by posting again. Had a scan today and i am 10 weeks one day and all looks well at last - baby dancing around the screen and it seems i am still due on Christmas day.

How are you all? I have been checking in here and there and trying to keep up (but not very well). I have diabetes type 2 but its gone a little crazy of late and im having trouble keeping my blood glucose levels steady despite taking large doses of insulin - bit worried about how its going to pan out later in my pregnancy but i suppose one day at a time.

Just wanted to say as well that i was not offered a free nuchal fold scan either (i am at the Swindon Great Western hospital) last time which was 3.5 years ago but they are now offering it as apparently all their sonographers are fully trained now in nuchal scanning. Im not going to have anything done i don't think - im too much of a worrier and had a few problems when i was 23 and pg with DD2 who came back high risk and i had an amnio - the wait was too long and i was a wreck. I figure if there is anything catasrophically wrong i hope its seen and if its something like downs that is not a deal breaker for me so it won't matter anyway.

Private medicine in those circumstances seem to be the way to go but you need quite deep pockets (i paid for our scan today as my nhs one isn't until 13 weeks and two days) but it will be the last time as DH got made redunant last week which is rubbish timing so fingers crossed that situation will resolve soon enough as i reckon we probably only have enough money to keep going for about three months.

Is anyone else stupidly hot? Its only May and i am! I feel like i have no room to moan as i am not quite three months yet - with DD1 i was really hot but she was born in the middle of August. I am also very tired - much more so than last time but i think its stress as well and insomnia doesnt help, this being pg over 40 marlarky is hard work!

BTW i don't know if i said before but this is a Dec 25th baby (will most likely be 2 weeks early though due to being diabetic) and is DC 5 (eldest is 20 next month). Looking forward to getting to know you all over the next few months :)

hurray, another large family :), hello rosie :)

Sorry about the diabetes, I think mine is due around 30th December but they are always early!!!

Will know more post scan I guess.

Hello again Rosie. Good to hear everything looks ok with the baby so far.

The combined test (nuchal fold and bloods) at Foetal Medicine is £180.00. Don't know how that compares with other private scans?

Bad news re your DH's redundancy. I hope he finds a new job quickly.

Been pretty warm here in London this past week, but just had a thunder storm and a little rain so it's cooling down now, will surely be heading your way. Great, crappy weather again, just in time for the long bank holiday weekend!!

I can't compare my pregnancy to another as this is my first and only so far, but I have been stupidly tired at times. Currently appear to be nesting. Had a desperate urge to clean front door/porch. Why? I have never bothered before in over five years of being here!! Followed swiftly by cleaning the banisters and skirting boards on the stairs. Madness. I mopped the floor yesterday and am already fighting the urge to do it again!! I am taking regular breaks for ice lollies though!!

Off to update the household to do list. Dh shocked to be presented by 45 point list last night. I have crossed loads off today... but added even more on. He'd better get cracking!!

Hugs to all! FF xx

Ouch to £180 - ouch ouch ouch!!!!

I pissed off and massively fed up tbh - this has been a VERY BAD DAY.

I've taken myself to bed - best place for me I think.

Arf @ 45 point list - i told DH that any time spent at home whilst not job hunting can be spent doing all the 'little' things that add up and you just can't get on top of at weekends so i suppose there is a bright side but i will be honest and say im shitting myself a bit about what will happen if he doesn't find work quickly.

Am jealous of your weather Fireflies! Its humid here and there are no storms forecast for us at all just dullsville over the next few days - typical bank holiday weather and to boot we are not going to do anything at all as too worried to spend anything. I feel bad enough about the private scan today but had already paid a deposit.

Whatname - thats expensive i know is your local hospital the only place you can be seen? When i was pg with DD3 i lived in Newbury and had the choice between Basingstoke and Reading hospitals - im not sure if either did nuchal then but just wondering if a slightly further away hospital option is available to you as the care seems to differ from trust to trust. Its £180 at my local private clinc too (although i notice she sends off the bloods to be analysed at the FMC too) so it seems to be standard - am sorry this option is not open to you in your local hospital its a pain in the arse :(

Im so sorry re DHs redundancy, I really hope something comes up soon.

Ill have to ring local hospital.

DH says cost is irrelevant!

Sorry,only so my mind can be set at rest.

Rosie, glad the pg is going well so far. Sorry about redundancy, in my case it is me who got made redundant... trying not to think about it.

Whatname, are you feeling better ? hope your head will not blow up after yesterday's bad day

FF, only 2 weeks to go, I did not realize you were so close, hope this cooler weather will make you feel more comfortable, are you still a busy bee ? has your DH changed a bit his priorities ?

On my side, my GP has signed me off until 18th June, which is anyway my last day at work, I feel OK but just very tired and not motivated at all to train my Eastern European replacement, so I am quite relieved. I don't know if I should show up at work on the last day, some colleagues have organized a lunch for me, that is very sweet, I have emptied my drawers anyway and I do not feel any loyalty anymore for my employers who have not shown any respect nor for my 5 year work nor myself as a person ! feel a bit sad.

My DH has been away these last 2 days, DS1 was an angel, I was so worried ... for nothing: he listened, went to bed without any fuss, slept all night... ! unbelievable ! there is a tea party this afternoon at his nursery for the Jubilee, he will be preparing sandwiches with his friends (3 to 4 yo), how safe for the baby will that be to eat !!! :)

So I am now a SAHM, started sorting papers, next week, will start packing...

Thanks I stayed in bed and even had my tea there.

I think I am risking my job tbh, I have been on sick all year, and although work are understanding, they are a business at the end of the day, not a charity. I am really worried about telling them I am pregnant as the chances are I will go straight from sick to mat leave for a year and it feels like taking the piss, even to me.

Plus I dont want to tell anyone until the 20 week scan is over.

HPBP, glad the doctor has signed you off, I dont think I would want to go in for a leaving do, perhaps you could arrange something with the few ladies you do want to see??

Are you moving?? (Packing).

Im trying to clean house, its not easy with 2 small ones - imagine when there are THREE. :)

Sorry I've not posted much. I am so tired and I've got so much to do.
We've got builders in from next Wed to build an extension so we can have a proper kitchen diner and a downstairs cloakroom and utility room where the current kitchen is.
I'm so excited but there's a lot of stuff to do, phone calls to make, things to organise etc

Hope everyone is doing ok. Sorry I haven't got time to catch up on posts at the moment.

Whatname, you don't need to say anything until you feel ready, I think the law allows until you reach 24 weeks to advise your employer. You will not have the mat certificate until you are 21 weeks anyway. Well at least it is the case here in London.
If they are unhappy, well, there is nothing you can do, the fact is you are pregnant and you will have this baby. I found out recently that I tend to worry about things I have no control over, and it is useless because there is nothing I can do to change things... so try not to stress too much, sweetie

I am not moving, I plan to go to France for 3 months minimum to have baby and mum to help, DH not excited and I can understand but he just changed jobs - and I am jobless - so it will allow him to concentrate during the week on his job. I need to pack for me, DS1 and baby to come. Control freak I am ! Planning and organization are second natures, :(

good luck with cleaning !

Exexe, how exciting ! good luck with the building work. remember to post some pics when it is finished !

I remember - do you think your mum would want me and my 2 small DCs? :).

You are right - enough to stress about without stressing the small stuff.!

Exexe - I remember building work while pregnant! Good luck x

Thanks ladies.
We've got a surveyor coming tomorrow morning so the bank can approve the extra borrowing. I'm desperately trying to clean and tidy the whole house.

I only did it last week for ds1s birthday but it just becomes a total tip so quick.
I wish I was one of those people that can stay on top of things. I guess being pregnant doesn't help.

hi ladies, not been on for a bit, but was formally 'booked in' on Monday, which up here is basically taking a detailed medical history and about 5 pints of blood (felt like).
I lied about the depression thing, as cannae be fashed with them asking me CONSTANTLY. but if I do feel low, i shall say so. I also told my Mum, and she said it was lovely news, so that cheered me up. Starting to feel a bit more positive about it all, and wondering about how we can afford a new car which will actually fit three kids in safety! Plus one of my bestest ever friends is also pregnant, and due about the same time as me, which is fab.

just now to wait for the dating scan (done at between 12-14 weeks) which I think is also the nuchal thingy at the same time, then get another scan at 20 weeks. It seems that being just shy of 40 means I won't get any of the extra stuff - !
only down was that midwife said baby no3 often takes longer - boo. i live near the hospital, but DH isn't able to drive, so it means a taxi (fond memories of having to explain why I wouldn't be able to drive MYSELF to hospital - then 20mins away - for birth of DS1).

hope you are all doing well, and enjoying the break in the weather!