Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

milk im feel your pain -- im feeling dreadful :( thought it was meant to get better after 12 weeks....how am i supposed to get all my work done when i just want to go to bed. its mounting up and i just cant seem to focus. nothing but headaches and sickness. i am so over being pregnant.

Hi all

Are there any London commuters amongst you? I'm due early October and had my 12 week scan / NT last week - all was fine which was a relief!

GD

ChrissieJA, at least it will be worth it when we have our babies

GingerDoodle, so happy your scan went well :)

For anyone in need of a giggle (and quite pertinent at the moment)

Looking at my class' science pre-assessments... always a source of amusement. Here is the best answer:

Q: Give an example of a food chain. A: Eat...poo.

Thank you midgetm, squid and jodidi for lovely comments about motherhood - I am determined not to repeat mistakes made in the past - although I am under no illusions that I will be a perfect mum, at least knowing the value of unconditional love has got to be a good starting point.

Also, being a teacher, I see (and have to correct on a daily basis, grr) the consequences of all sorts of parenting styles - and it's abundantly clear how problematic it is when children are brought up with no routine and inconsistent boundaries, and are allowed to be disrespectful. I don't think I've got a victorian attitude or anything but my children are going to be brought up to respect their elders, have good manners and understand consequences - qualities that are sadly lacking in a lot of the children I teach. I think this is fairly easily achieved through a good mix of spending quality, fun time with them, modelling good behaviour, and not being afraid to let them know when they've done wrong. Does that sound draconian? DH thinks I'm going to be bad cop and he's going to be good cop, lol.

:) :) :)

Oh boy. I feel like a cross between a miracle & a fraud. It shouldn't be. I have so many risk factors...so much that is supposed to go wrong in women like me (old and fat with defective women's bits). Have been on the edge of tears all day. Scan was amazing; a good 20+ minutes of looking at little 'Hong Kong Phooey' kicking, karate chopping, air punching, picking his nose (I'm saying 'his' as after this boisterous display I'm finding it VERY hard to believe it's a girl so we're saying 'he' until we know better), face-palming himself, air-cycling, spinning around multiples times, appearing to be trying to touch the uterus walls...general workout stuff... the poor sonographer admitted 'he' was moving so much that she was having trouble getting measurements. He was really dancing & kick-boxing like a good 'un (we'll all laugh if it's a girl ).However, all normal for a 13+1 :) (week further on than I thought - but hell! Where is that 2nd trimester? Someone please tell my dropping hair that it's arrived!) New due date October 7th.

The really good news was, after being given an age-related risk of 1/60 for Downs, I was told my bloods & nuchal measurements were great and I have a low risk - no more than for a 20 year old . I was so relieved I grabbed my chest & burst into tears. I think the poor sonographer was a bit taken aback. I have a lovely little pic of Mr Phooey face-palming and am lost in a sea of seeing all his bones through his skin, his heart beating and even his little brain...Just wish DP had been there to see it...but he's done it all before and is not that blown away by it all...so I get to come here and gush if you don't mind. So much to do today but am rewarding self with black coffee & & trying not to scare myself with thoughts of a hyperactive child . Ladies waiting for their 12 weekers...it's SO worth it and so different from an earlier scan if you've had one.

The only really frustrating thing is now I want to tell the world but still can't make a major announcement until I'm about 15 weeks & we've told the older sisters. It's SOoooooooooo hard!! . Right - I'm too verbose...lots of you have had scans & I'm acting like an individual miracle has happened so I'll shut up :). Happy Monday all :) (and those of you that are worrying - I was anticipating all sorts of worrying findings and I got the polar opposite of what I was expecting. Try to relax and trust until you get there :)). Right, off to read & catch up with you all...

Congrats FjordMor

Yay Fjordmor!! congrats on your super scan :) reading your post has made me feel a little better regarding mine on Thursday,though do still have the worry that there may be nowt there!!

Have just had my first hot drink in 6 weeks I did chicken out & go for a hot chocolate rather than a cup of tea as the last one I had I had such bad morning sickness I up chucked ALL day long & have been frightened of having one incase it set me off again!

oh fjordmor youve cheered me right up and reminded me why im doing this!! congrats xxx

Evening all,

turnwest and squid thanks for reassuring me over poohgate. Made me feel better knowing others have had the same. Because of my history I can be one a tad irrational. Your quick posts soothed my brow.

Squid know how you feel about the new job. I had the same freak out. But you know what? You are still the same squid and capable of all the things you were before and you will be fine. If anything I have enjoyed the challenge and being so busy has kept me away from driving myself mad with irrational worries (ok so poohgate slipped through the net).

Fjord yay yay and thrice yay. So happy for you old bird. Can't wait till a week on Wednesday for mine. Such lovely news, hope your mum manages to be a bit happy for you.

Best go and shake a leg, posting from
Phone so sorry for all I've missed x

Hi ladies got my scan tomorrow... Am so nervous and excited. Cannot believe my day is finally here longest 12 weeks of my life I already feel like we have all come so far! gucci I too have that fear they will tell me there is nothing there!

Got a letter on sat regarding my blood test telling me I am Rhesus negative. At first read seemed really scary but having read up online seems fine - just need injections. Wish they letter had been less dramatic!

ginger I am a fellow London commuter! Phoned up TFL for my 'baby on board' badge today. Hope I don't get pregnant lady rage as peole on the tube ignore me!!!

So happy for all of you with your positive scan stories! Hopefully will have one of my own tomoz please keep everything crossed for me! :-)

yompingjo - don't worry too much about how you'll be. Across my extended family/kith we've got some pretty godawful parents, and in my experience, some of their kids DO turn into awful parents too - but it's pretty bloody clear which are which, and one of the key differentiators is whether or not they don't want to be like their parents. I think you're in the clear.

Can I ask about how you guys feel in yourselves? I definitely feel pregnant (I think?) kind of like I've eaten too much, a real 'full' feeling. Or that could be bloating. In all honesty, I'm not sure. Do you all feel like there's something in you, or is it just me? (at 14+4, I'm not showing at all yet.)

Oh and fjordmor - high five!

zoe I feel fat! Lol... I'm ok in my skinny jeans that are super stretchy but at the weekend I tried to wear normal denim jeans - every pair I could hardly do up and if I did squeeze them shut I had this rather attractive flob of fat over the waistline - not a cute pregnancy bump, a podgy flob!

Bloody hell - logged out during a long boring post.

Anyway, Fjordmor A miracle is a miracle is a new baby. Worth tears.

Just finished reading 'the Help' I would recommend even though I'm knackered after a late night read, and there are some sad parts where there are a few crappy mums around.
Has anyone read anything recently that they would recommend?

I feel like a right fat bastard!!! I was verging on what you could call 'cuddly' before but there is definatley something other than flab now lol know what you mean though,I feel full most of the time then hunger hits me almost instantly & must eat asap through fear of up chucking (tmi I know)

Have just had a text off a lady I'm doing tomorrow saying her ceiling collapsed today so rebooked for Wed,so now have tomorrow off yay!!!!!

You might find this funny:
Background - my niece is 15, going on 50. My brother and her mother are divorced (acrimony at the time, has eased with time).
She was helping him with his greyhounds yesterday and she asked why he didn't breed off a particular dog. He explained that you only breed off the best, to have the best chance of good offspring, that dog wasn't good enough. Shouldn't you take a chance she asked. Look at my 2 fools of parents and I'm OK.

I'm not sure if fool was the word she used but it was in that region. I love the story. I love that she loves them equally, and can make fun of them.

gucci am exactly the same have to eat instantly or fell soooooo sick!

lisbeth I recently read a really good book called 'before I got to sleep' by S J Watson. It's about a lady who was in a terrible accident and every night when she sleeps she wipes out her memory. She starts seeing a doctor who gets her to start keeping a journal and reminds her to write in it every day and she starts piecing things together and starts suspecting things aren't quite right with her husband.... Really good and intriguing! Alternatively for a light feelgood read, Marian Keyes or Sophie Kinsella are great fun girly reads!

Hey peeps, just checking in and saying howdy. Sorry can't reply to all 8 million messages but fjord I am so delighted your scan went well! Sympathy to all non-poopers - I retched this morning twice from trying to shovel down porridge with prunes. Major sympathy to all the peeps with nausea / sickness - you guys are heroes, seriously. I don't know how the fuck you are doing it. You should get medals and I really mean that! x

I am well into maternity clothes and only 13+3 . Think it's because I had flab over belly to start so the growing bean is pushing it out. I can still wear my old jeans but they are too big on waist and have to be belted in and then belt digs in. Got some super cheap maternity jeans and trousers in Peacocks just before they closed down and they're ace.

Enjoy holidays all who are off and commiserations to all who had hols which are over - squid my mouth is hanging open at the 60 mile thing! lol PS: Anyone getting back pain? I've had definite twinges the last couple of days.

ps: oooh and phantom farters (ie looks around innocently and wrinkles nose as if disgusted) - I scared the cat off my knee the other night :o

fjordmor - great scan news and lets hope the good news continues for everyone who gets their 12 weeks scan this week.

I've had a busy weekend at a Church 'away-weekend' supervising 18 7-10 years olds, knackered by the end of it all. My podge is def. growing - no cute bump, just looking roly-poly and unable to zip up my trousers. I finally had enough energy to make it to the gym (not looking good in my gym gear) and then ate a huge lunch cause I was really hungry. I've also been suffering from the pee at 3am and then insomnia thing and I still get quite a few headaches - hopefully this should start easing off soon.....

DH is telling his parents 'the news' tomorrow - he's dreading it because my MIL can be quite negative about this sort of thing but at least once they know we can be a bit more open about it with friends.

That's the little update from me ......

39 yrs, 13+6 #1

Getting a bit caught up now. Thanks for all your congrats & high fives and to all those who said my post made them feel a bit better - I do hope it did - although I think it's completely normal to not believe anything's in there until you've seen it with your own eyes.

Yomping - I do really know where you're coming from. As you may or may not have read on here before, I am the proud owner of a 'crap mother' and have struggled with feelings of inadequacy and lack of self belief my whole life too. I have spent my entire adult life thinking about what I needed or didn't need from my mother and really hope that I'm going to be able to build on that & be a totally different kind of parent. I'm totally with you on believing kids need routine, consistency, boundaries and to respect their elders/those in 'authority' and I hope I'm able to bring mine up in that way, whilst making them feel valued, unconditionally loved, praised and never 'criticised'. DP doesn't like 'rules' for kids but his are pretty badly behaved & disrespectful and he can't 'see' it so we have much talking to do to establish an agreed 'modus operandi' with this one (on top of bringing it up bilingual - eek!) but (rambling as usual) totally relate to that scared feeling about parenthood based on one's own experience x

Midgetm - I've missed the party I know but was going to chime in (about poo) that I was pretty on and off constipated until about 10 weeks, then, at 10 weeks suddenly went almost worryingly the other way for a few days. Has now evened out to niceness now I'm eating gallons of fruit & veg. It is weird after it's been one way for so long but if you felt ok should be fine :). Oh and Mum was a bit pleased for me...did offer to pay for our secondhand Stokke Xplory but when I asked her to choose whether she wanted to be 'Granny', 'Grandma' or 'Mormor' - she just shrugged & kept saying "I don't care" (this is the woman who has apparently dreamed of grandmotherhood ever since she had me... ).

lisbeth - great story :) I recently finished Jed Rubenfeld's 'The Interpretation of Murder' which I thought was great but it's a few years old now so I always figure most avid readers will have already read it. I've given up on 'Hunger Games' as I was finding it too disturbing (and a kids' book and all - doh!). I'm ploughing through George R R Martin since I'm completely hooked on 'Game of Thrones' .

VCarroll - so excited for you tomorrow! Good luck, try not to be nervous and enjoy it :)

Oh and squidkid - even though I know you're an early nighter & probably won't see this...

Step away from the birth stories - and to anyone else who might be thinking of it and from 'One Born Every Minute'. I heard a radio programme today driving back from the hospital in which several midwives seemed to be discussing the trend towards incredibly long, drawn out, complicated labours these days (compared to years ago). One reason this midwife cited was that due to women being very scared of labour (due to programmes like OBEM) they arrive at hospital having close contractions, quite well dilated but then the anxiety at being there prevents oxytocin from being made, slows labour and creates this whole 'long labour' thing. She would have everyone not watch or read sensationalist things about giving birth but focus on breathing, relaxation exercises and feeling capable rather than fearful of labour. She felt that reducing fear and anxiety would result in a lot of labours moving quite quickly & not drawing to a standstill as soon as patients got into hospital. She also had some interesting things to say about epidural but I've taken up enough of this page already. It was on radio 2 on the Jeremy Vine show if any fancies it on 'listen again'. Occie health on the other hand - meh! Don't envy you that one. I think you're marvellous doing what you do preggers...approaching superwoman even but you're doing amazing. Worried about all the night shifts but they're never nice and you're pretty fit & in 2nd trimester. Hope it works out better than you're expecting x

Hey fjord just saw your post. My sis is pregnant too with her second and has bought some hypnobirth stuff. She isn't watching OBEM as part of it is avoiding any negative experiences of birth. I think the jury is out on the effectiveness of hypno stuff during labour BUT her blood pressure was really high and after a couple of weeks listening dropped way way down - so maybe good for that if nothing else! :) Oh and a question - how much fruit and veg is enough???? I know they say 5 a day but it isn't having much impact tbh...

Hello ladies,
I've been lurking on this thread for ages, being massively reassured that there are other people also feeling constantly seasick/totally exhausted and not quite believing there's anything in there. Thank you for all seeming so lovely and making this slightly less scary!
Didn't post before as was feeling a bit supersticious, but after 12 week scan today, am definintely expecting in October (10th to be precise) :) so can I join the clan??
Sleep well all, hope no insomnia/midnight wees/crazy dreams.