Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

OMG THE RELIEF!!

So I turned up at the Ultrasound Dept with my lovely mum in tow (hubby works nights, and sadly the appt was too early for him to be able to make it without falling asleep), quite literally shaking in my boots! This manically increased when the lady asked for my antenatal notes (DAMMIT I FORGOT THEM, HOW COULD I BE SO STUPID??!!) and for one terrifying moment, I thought she was going to say in thast case they couldn't scan me. However, after a quick telling off and a promise from myself I would bring them next time, she sent us up to the scan room.
After what felt like the longest 5 minuite wait of my entire life, I was called in, and I swear my heart was about to stop! But........there it was......my beautiful little chick (will explain the nickname in a mo) They werent able to do any of the tests/measurements etc, as it turns out I'm only 8 wks 1 day instead of the 12+ the GP and ourselves originally thought. I'd kind of already guessed I was only about 8 wks tho, due to the minimal symptoms. Anyway, there was a little heart beating away furiously, so thats all that matters, and all I could think was "thats my son's little brother or sister". AMAZING.

Within a flash, it was all over, and I left with my next scan date already booked (30th April, I should be 12 wks 4 days by then) Thankfully, its also at a time that hubby can make so he hasn't really missed anything as it will still only be the 12 wk scan.
Havent told our 4 yr old yet, he's been asking for a baby for the last year, so would hate to tell him and still have something go wrong. Was desperate to show him the pics, but sure it will be worth the wait. Have only told close family, and a select few friends, and providing my mum doesnt keep "accidentally) telling people, that will be it for another 4 weeks!
So thanks for everyones support, sorry if I've been a nightmare this last week, its amazing how much you relax and accept it once you have seen your precious bundle in the flesh.
Best of luck to everyone with scans coming up, blessings xxxxx

Glad for you cwest!

And on the flip side, squidkid - that's one hell of an insight. Mulling.

Permission to have a MASSIVE grumble? Look away now if you're averse to swearing.

So school's out for 2 weeks, but bloody Easter's right in the bloody middle, along with my mum's birthday, so cue massive family gathering, at which, conveniently, we can Spill The Beans About the Bean, so it's not all bad, but the downside of Easter being where it is (ie slap bang in the middle of the 2 weeks), is that DH and I cannot just fuck off somewhere for 2 weeks together, away from the world, and do some climbing and walking and mountain-y stuff, which is what we would have dearly loved to do.

So, cue plan B, in which we fit in 2 shorter trips way during DH's 2 sets of off-days (he works shifts) and attend the Easter family gossip-and-bitch-fest gathering in the middle. So his first set of off-days is Monday to Thursday this week. And the weather, which has been lovely for the last 2 weeks while I have been stuck in the hottest classroom in the world, has now crapped out. And will remain crapped out until Wednesday. We have to be back on Thursday afternoon for a scan. Fuck and bollocks and shite.

I'm so miserable about it that I can't be bothered to do anything at all now. Had grand plans to go into town today and Get Stuff That I Need, and also have list as long as my arm of schoolwork to be done (planning, test analysis, report writing) and I could usefully use these days to do that and free up the later part of the holiday, but all I want to do is sulk, strop and feel sorry for myself.

Sorry, rant over :( And I know, I know, I'm being self indulgent and should snap out of it and count my blessings that I have 2 weeks off work, whatever the weather.

Miserable grumpy cow, 36, 11+6, DC#1

Yomping are you this grumpy in RL? I'm reading your post and it doesn't have voice tone or inflection and I'm wondering if it's dark humour or just grumbling

Hello all :) - checking in to read and say 'Hi :)' as I'm trying to feel jolly that I'm 12 weeks today! ta da! I suppose for me though getting to 14 will feel more 'safe' but '12 weeks' is such a traditional milestone in pregnancy.

Squid - glad the hike was great and you're feeling good! Having mucho 2nd trimester . Also hope Beeblebear enjoys her trip!

Congrats to Smorgs & CWest & anyone else if I have missed them on nice scan experiences. Long may the relief continue! :)

YompingJo - poor you with your ruined plans! Sounds like you really need a break! Hope you find something else to do around your other plans that will be fun & relaxing for you both.

Nenehooo - I have this phenomenon too. Ever since I've had big fibroids, I often get this bloating and slow digestion which gives me 'high' bloating (over my stomach/diaphragm) and this seems to 'compress' my diaphragm/lower lungs and make me feel breathless. I have asthma too and often when this happens, I take my inhaler but nothing changes (ie. I'm guessing 'not asthma'). I notice also that I never have this symptom when I don't have 'high bloating'. My GP said 'you get a lot of that in later pregnancy' but I guess if something is causing you to bloat 'high' then that may explain it now.

Gucci - I think if you can afford it and both want to, a 3D/4D scan would be amazing! Personally I would if I get the chance & have the spare dosh (or I may have to in Norway since I've been informed that due to slow healthcare bureaucracy - that it seems can't make exceptions - I may be 'too late' to get in the program for a 20 week scan on the national health system. Still I'm thinking... £50 private AND 3/4D... :))

Sorry to see the sun's gone in here in UK for the weekend when many of us might have hoped to be out enjoying it. Me? I'm too busy with boring packing and moving logistics to have fun but hope as many of you as possible are currently enjoying a great weekend! :)

Incredibly impressed, squid at your adventures and also rather jealous as a 1 hour brisk walk nowadays tends to leave me needing to go back to bed. But I am hopeful that you are in 2nd trimester bliss and therefore this will come to all of us!

Delighted cwest that the scan went well - that's a relief - and yay that your hubby will get to go to the next one. Congrats to smorgs too.

Fjordmor Glad to hear you sounding perky again! Packing is dull but if you can find good music it can work out ok.

This week's been a struggle, stamina-wise, but only two more days of work then our holiday, then a week then the SCAN!!!!! Am finding myself really worried about all that could be wrong and trying instead to think about the fact that MOST babies are fine. Sigh. We also need to find somewhere to live when our flat sale goes through, but I'm feeling so tired and introspective I have entirely delegated that to DF.

DF just got offered a place on a part time university course which starts in September (two year course). He really wants to do it and it'd be ace for his career, but we're not sure whether it'd be absolutely nuts to try to have a small bean AND him studying for this masters. I guess when the bean is small it's mostly my job anyway, right, since he can't breastfeed for me?

36, 9+4, #1

Thanks londonlivvy! I did start feeling much better yesterday after my 'symptom peak' and now all I have to contend with is increasing hayfever/asthma and getting some meds I'm allowed to take daily (hitting Boots in a min).

Super glad to hear you've got a holiday coming up! Hopefully you'll be able to relax and bury those worries. I'm sure you'll find somewhere to live, and a lot before me & my DP too! . We won't be in a position to look until I'm approaching 3rd trimester and will probably have to move when I'm about 8 months gone! But it's just the way it has to be and we've agreed that if all goes wrong, we'll take a short term let so we've somewhere safe and clean to bring the baby home at first. It will be an annoying extra expense for a few months (we're buying) but baby's welfare comes first. It's a stress but sounds like you will find somewhere before you're too far gone - so pleased for you that you got your place sold at this stage :).

lisbethsopposite

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I'm not sure how I was supposed to take this... Are you this confrontational in RL? I was aiming for humour but I AM cross about the fact the the weather has turned at the precise time DH and I are free to go somewhere and do outdoors stuff, we were pretty convinced that SOMEWHERE in the country would be dry enough to climb, and it HAS made me feel unmotivated to do anything else.

I have used my time constructively today to sell some stuff online and clean the house but I really wanted a trip away to look forward to :(

Squid I think what you said about the scan is really interesting. I spoke to my Nan last night and she was marvelling at the ability to even have a scan. The first she knew for sure that something was living in side of her was when it suddenly started kicking!

My scan's on the 12th, which seems so far away. But am grateful I will have the ability to have the connection early on.

It's funny how thing's just happen all at once. My DH and were working very hard with demanding but well paid jobs (our mortgage reflects this income). Now I'm pregnant with our first and going to be leaving work and my DH is being made redundant with two months left and no redundancy pay.

Because of this, and no alternative job on the horizon, my DH has been forced to set up his own company. Something he always talked about doing but was always fearful of the risk and not being able to pay the mortgage. He's been working so hard and meeting up with old contacts. He's got some confirmed projects already, however it's going to be a few hairy months where he is doing the work but not able to bill for it. And who knows whether he will be able to get enough projects to keep us going!

We both feel excited and scared at the same time. Have a feeling it's all going to be OK. But as long as we have each other and some form of shelter and food I know we'll be fine!

I'm so excited - have got my scan appt through this morning It's all set for Monday 16th April at 4:30pm - looking forward to finally knowing for sure and being able to tell people! On the downside I'm expecting the next 2 weeks to d-r-a-g

Had a really crappy work day on Thursday - managed to open my mouth before my brain engaged and announce to three girls in the office on their own that I would be glad to be out of the place by October. Then had to fess up and explain what I meant d'oh

Still, they're really close friends and I swore them to secrecy.

It really made my day when two of them came back from a break 20 mins later and one of them said "i'm so shocked to hear your news, but to tell you a secret....so am I" Spent the entire day chuckling to myself - she's 2 weeks behind me! Feel sorry for the rest of the team (as we are already working on minimum staff and we are both full timers - have a management consultancy in at the moment who don't like replacing anyone if they can help it!) but so looking forward to leaving work in the shit!!

I feel horrible for feeling that happy about giving them problems!!

Well now it's Easter holidays and I am soo glad. The past week has been rather stressful with the hottest classroom in the world (bet mine is hotter than yours Yomping ) and 3 cases of chicken pox in the school (including my lovely ta that I work very closely with). It's a good job I had chicken pox as a child. Then dd1 has been having problems at school so I had to try and sort that out with her head of house. And dd2 (age 2) has had an ear infection/chest infection so has been on antibiotics all week and not been sleeping well.
I've now told all the staff in my department at work, and told the head as well. The head spoke to me yesterday and seems to think I will not be given any classes for next year, I will provide support where necessary before and after my maternity leave, which will probably only be a few weeks at either end of the school year.

My sister (actually my sister in law, but I call her my sister because we are very close) is pregnant. Around 5-6 weeks behind me.

I am so happy.

That's great news squid - must admit I'm looking forward to having a bump buddy and someone off on maternity leave the same time as me

I know, I'm so lucky! She lives in a different city but only 30 mins drive away. And my best friend in this city is pregnant too - 22 weeks. I have had so many friends who were really very lonely in their maternity leave, desperately trying to make friends with random women with babies who they basically had nothing in common with... so this has made me very very happy.

Thanks fjordmor, that makes sense... I'll keep an eye on it and see if it's worse when I feel bloated - it seems to be all the time though. Spoke to a friend when said she got it in first tri, and she's a body combat instructor so may just be a symptom?!
I'm feeling terrible with nausea again today. Really thought I'd turned a corner as well :-( Was very nearly sick just now when I was cleaning my teeth - teeth cleaning is always the worst, have to hang over the toilet bowl salivating and gagging - and I know it's stupid but it's just really getting me down. Starting to feel like I'll have achieved something if I actually vomit instead of the neverending nausea... Which is ridiculous and I'm very lucky not to have actual sickness and hope I haven't offended anyone who HAS been being sick... It's just shit at the moment and I've had enough.
Rant over... Apologies.

Thank god it's Saturday!!!!! I REALLY fucked up at work today due to my lack of brain cells!!!! I accidentally double booked myself this morning (never ever done it before) with one of my super regular ladies.Thankfully she found it funny as it's totally not like me to be unproffesional & I sorted her out as soon as I could.So as I felt sooooo bad & couldn't find any decent flowers on way to her by way of an apology for being crap,I told her the reason behind my forgetfullness & she was super pleased for me (which took the edge off the guilt) & said if ever I couldn't make it to her for whatever reason that she would come to me,which took a weight off my shoulders if I'm honest.Being self employed is fab but it is a little worrying when faced with the prospect that some people may not choose to wait a little longer til your back on your feet.So am hoping that all my ladies will adopt that attitude so hopefully wont lose much business.

Anyway,what does everyone have planned for the rest of the weekend? I was hoping it wouldn't be quite so chilly so I could do a bit more in the garden but hey ho it will have to wait :)

nenhooo I'm so with you on the teeth cleaning thing. Every morning without fail, I clean my teeth and it sets me off wretching or actually being sick - not fun!

Hope that you start feeling better soon. I'm feeling your fustration...the nausia just seems never-ending!!! It's worse than actually being sick (I'm that too).

Morning

Poor nenehooo, I hope you're feeling a bit better today, or soon. I never threw up once but I had that endless queasy nausea for quite a while. I am feeling sick again yesterday and today - hadn't had any all week - obviously the fresh air/exercise was good for it. Well I'm not doing any exercise today one of my heels is still a bit sore from the hike and I want to let it heal. I might go swimming.

Guccigirl glad your lady was understanding... what is it you do? I am quite envious of self-employed/working from home/mums looking after kids at the moment (grass is always greener) - getting to the hospital just seems like such a mission, let alone having the concentration and stamina to perform there.

I slept till 6 this morning which is a personal record. Is anyone else incapable of sleeping in the mornings? It's particularly hard when socialising - not that I stay up late, but I try to stay up till 11 if seeing people, and sometimes I stay up till 2-3ish at parties or whatever - but then I just wake up at 5 anyway. I've been like this for years - originally I think it was mood-related but my mental health has been good for at least 6 months now - I keep telling myself this and night shifts are good training for babies disturbing sleep! Boyfriend sleeps like he's dead, think it will be harder for him.

I need a plan for today too, let's hear what everyone else is doing...

right, cup of tea.

32, 14+5, first kid

Just realised I never explained the "chick" nickname we have given bean......

We showed my father in law the scan pics and he immediatly siad "thats not a baby, its a chick" my hubby said "where?". So the 2 of them are leaning over the pics whilst my father in law points out a beak, a wing , an eye etc. I still couldnt see it so I asked them to show me......get this, they thought the black background behind "chick" was the baby, NOT the tiny blob that is actually it!!!! MEN!!! So chick he/she shall now be until we hopefully know if its a boy or girl, (although hubby did ask this morning how is his lil egg today lol) Quite relevant seeing as its Easter I suppose haha!!!

I am so very sorry for being such a grumpy cow yesterday. I should learn to follow the "if you don't have anything good to say, don't post" rule. And lisbethsopposite, I'm normally very positive (irritatingly so, DH would say) and don't normally snap like that either. Can I give you and make you a to apologise?

I'm not good with restrictions (a bit of a big control freak), and had a couple of very low weeks a while back as it hit me how many things would be changing a great deal due to being pregnant. I thought I had managed to get my head around it but I guess yesterday was an echo of that desperation - feels like these 2 weeks of Easter holiday are the last opportunity to get out and do what me and DH do, as I might well be too big/too exhausted over summer, and probably won't want to be wearing a harness. So the weather felt like yet another restriction and I crumbled :(. And since not many people know yet, so there are not many people I can moan to in RL, I brought my moaning here. Bad form, Yomping. . I know there are lots on here who could choose to have a proper moan about issues far more pressing than "the weather is a bit pants", and they are still cheerful. I need to learn some grace. And patience. And tolerance. And a sense of humour. If anyone has spare supplies of any of these, send them my way!

So, a plan for today, for me: I'm going to have breakfast (poached (non-runny) eggs on toast) whilst watching the Pearl Jam "Twenty" DVD, and waiting in for someone from Freecycle to collect some stuff. Then I'm off into town but I'm going to park a way out and walk in so I get some good proper oxygen in me. Back home later to do some school work - Literacy marking for today, I think, and maybe some science planning. Then DH and I are going to the gym and tonight we might go and see Pirates.

Have a good day, all, and nenehoo, know what you mean about teeth brushing, it has always made me feel a bit nauseous and it's worse now I'm pg. Hope you feel better soon.

36, 12 weeks today, DC1

Morning all, long time no post. Hope you are all well and survive the first teeth cleaning gag of the day (I always get that too). Totally knackered this morning as out late last night. Supposed I be training for the moonwalk and doing 12 miles but not sure the first trimester is a time
For such heroics so putting off any big walks for a week or so. Thinking of still doing it though. I will be around 18 weeks by then and think it will he fine. What do you walkers think. Sensible or bonkers? It's marathon distance but done at night.

morning squid. Since pregnant I can't get back to sleep when I wake up, driving me crazy but definitely pregnancy related for me. Normally sleep like a baby. Going to get up and go to the gym in a moment, if I can be arsed. Then off to Selfridges to look at sofas and lampshades with DH and DD.

Went to a friends for dinner who guessed as soon as I said I wasn't drinking. My reputation goes before me! She cried, had to make her stop or she would have got me started and that could go on for hours at the moment! Had booking appointment, RMC scan Wednesday then normal NT scan the week after. Can't believe I am nearly at the end of the first slog an I may get an actually baby.
Did consider not having the NT as I would not do anything with the results if high risk for downs but want the chance for as much info and contact with the bean so we will have it.

love and strokes to all the bean/chick ovens x

Yay to all who are enjoying time off.

And for those going to the cinema, may I suggest NOT going to see the Hunger Games. Lordy. I blubbed (no, sobbed) most of the way through and spent all night awake worrying and rehashing how to protect my (unborn) children and imagining all sorts of horrific scenarios. Not constructive. DF is hugely apologetic about having suggested the film - he thought since it was a 12A rating it'd be ok for a wimp like me, but we both massively underestimated the power of the subject matter to upset a pregnant lady.

Enjoy your Sundays ladies.

Thanks squid and sedgers and yompingjo glad it's not just me hating the toothbrush! And I'm also having trouble sleeping sometimes... Waking up for an hour or so randomly in the early hours. Slept for 10 and a half hours last night tho, woohoo!!! Still feel sick but possibly cos I haven't eaten for 14 hours!
So am off to make breakfast for dh as he's being a superstar, then shopping for me, then making spanish pork stew if I don't feel sick, then dvd in bed with dh... And all on a beautiful spring day happy sunday all!!!
Ps yompingjo, grump away - that's what we're here for x

Hello all, glad to read everyone doing better. I did join in about 3 weeks ago but i was feeling so stressed and frightened and reading everyone else's stress was making me even worse! Too many tears! So i disappeared again. I had my scan on Monday, still a bit speechless at the wonder of it. My dates were correct, due 13th October. Little bouncy ball with flailing legs!!! Hilarious! Makes it all very real. Significantly getting over nausea and general pathetic behaviour! Even went out for dinner last night, ate all up and no tears in bed due to feeling so sick! Second you all on the teeth brushing........ Can knock wind out of me for 10 minutes, that.

So the sun is shining, windows open, time to start getting a life back! We too are moving in a few months and i need to start downsizing my over stuffed self indulgent house as i have filled it with crap for years! Hopefully 3 people in new house, need to wise up!

Oh and for anyone wishing they were self employed, DON'T! The prospect of several months off, paying someone else to do MY job, thus hardly paying me and scrimping by is not a nice one! And despite the horrible shocking yuckiness of first trimester I hav not had so much as one hour off, so I am exhausted. Throw in the panic of actually leaving your business to the hands of others while you get on with a new family life, do not underestimate the panic!!!
Of course, I understand the difficulties of employment in precarious times and the fact that some employers will take advantage, very worrying.

Best wishes to you all. Keep healthy and happy, and if you are feeling neither yet, fingers crossed they arrive soon. I thought they would never come!! Xxxxx

Hello all - it seems like everyone is out about. Nap time for DS is 12-2, so my day has 2 halves with the middle at home.

Yomping Thanks for cuppa. I didn't mean to sound bitchy. I got into trouble 1 time on a committee with e-mails. The written word has no humour or ??? I can't find the word. Anyway it might not sound like we mean to say it. Also, it captures our feeling only as we write, our humour can be totally different 5 mins later. But we're not at work here, and we are trying to share and get support, so sorry if I brought negative vibes.

Londonlivvy I did a masters in my 30s that greatly benefited my career. I often thank God that i did it then because I would not have the energy (or focus) to do it now. Baby will not walk for a year and will sleep a lot. You can bring a small baby to a party or restaurant and they just sleep. I had DS on the boob at a Christmas party when he was 4 months. I had a scarf over him and no-one noticed. Much harder a year later. Anyway I would strongly suggest going with the masters ASAP. Babies will fit in with your life. As they get bigger, more mobile and sleep less, and perhaps #2 arrives, then it will be much harder to fit in more than a day's work.

Squidkid My best friend had a molar pregnancy that was detected at her first scan - no foetus but placenta and uterus like pregnancy (for other readers). She had told close friends and family before she knew. It added to her trauma that she couldn't just deal with this with her DH but had to explain to others. I would not consider not having a scan and letting nature be the boss. Nature has a dark sense of humour.
Often in my day to day work I meet older women, often widowed, that have no children. I sense a sadness and I think would Clomid have helped you?
As my conception was science assisted, I am gazillion times grateful to everything science can do to help us.