Anxious over phone message from specialist midwife

[joosiewoosie]

Sorry to sound like a stress bunny or anxious annie, but can I run a few things past you all.
I got home at 4.30 to a message of the answerphone from a specialist midwife at my local hospital. She asked me to call her back tomorrow between 9 and 4 as she wants to discuss one of my blood tests.
I had my 16 week quadruple blood test last Thursday (as they couldn't do nuchal scan at 12 weeks scan due to a big fibroid in the way), and it is only the following Tuesday now. I'm really concerned that there is something not right with Bubbs due to the speed of the midwife's response and I'm already panicking and really tearful, what-iffing all over the place. I don't know if I'm going to be able to sleep tonight, not being able to get hold of the specialist midwife to find what's up. I'm trying really hard not to jump to the negative, but I was told that we'd hear in a couple of weeks if all was well, so I am really worried all is not well.
What could it be? Please help me to think a bit more rationally over this. The not knowing what she is going to say when we call her is going to send me loopy tonight otherwise.
Thanks MNers. x

Had the scan today and all seems good...hurrah! There's a weight off my mind!

I saw the lovely radiographer assistant who was there for our amnio and told her about my positivity with apprehension, and she said 'You will worry about everything to do with your child/children from now until you die!', so I guess Tiggy we are just getting in some practice!! All the best for your 16w appointment - Let us know how you go!

joosiewoosie that's fab news :) You must be relieved all over again!

This is my third pregnancy, but I have worried far more over this than I did my first two. I can't believe it'snot even been a week yet since we booked the amnio - a whole more week of waiting still to go. It feels like we have been waiting a month already.

I am having an odd few days. I can't look at baby websites at all, and whilst it's great to feel baby kick, it's followed by huge guilt/fear at what the future may bring if the results aren't positive. I have had stomach cramps over the past few days, and we panicked and feared the worst, but all was fine. And then I think of what we still might have to face when we get the results.

I'm trying not to get to attached to baby, and am not doing it very well.

BUT I am still feeling very positive about this, I really want the wait to end.

vanimal what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You are trying to protect yourself as a natural instinct towards the unknown. I couldn't look at anything baby at all during my wait. Our friends had their son a few days before we got our result and although great for them, it was really hard for us (me especially). They understood the delay in visiting when we did see them eventually. Most people would be the same as you and I.

The feelings you have are horrible and real, and sadly part of the whole saga. It's easy for folk to say 'stay busy, don't worry, it'll all be fine' which is most likely true. However, feelings are feelings and you'll have them regardless.

Just try to remember that thoughts are just thoughts, and feelings are just feelings. Watch them, see how they build and wane, like trains pulling in and out of a station. Look after each other, and do things which help you to smile (comedy dvds are good), and sleep. All the emotions are v tiring indeed. Plus when you sleep, you don't need to think about it!
With any luck, you will not need to think about anything difficut anyway. Stay positive and grin and bear it.

Thinking of you and sending comforting vibes. Let us know your most successful methods for keeping busy and distracted! Hugs x

Lovely news Tiggy!

Congrats tiggy!

I've somehow managed to miss the new posts :(

Glad your scan went well joosie My 20w scan is on monday. My DH can't come because of work commitments, but my BF is coming along. I have the same apprehension as you - I think because I hadn't even considered my screening would come back high risk, I am protecting myself and dn't want to be bravado / assume all is well.

Team blue tiggy :) We have chosen not to find out what we're having, but lovely news for you :) Are you going to chose his name or wait to see what he looks like?

vanimal I was just the same, I didn't even think about being pregnant, let alone about the baby and falling in love! Stay positive, and of course use us for support. Apprarently hugs are frowned upon on MN but who cares, I'm going to give you a massive (((((HUG)))

Soozywoozy I also thought you said my DH can't make it but my boyfriend is coming along! A very understanding husband you have there ;)

tiggy you sound really happy, I am so pleased for you.

My amnio isn't until Tuesday 6 March, we should get the results on Thursday, so I am still playing the waiting game. It's horrible, last week went by so slowly but this one has gone whizzing by, even if I am still thinking about it all the time. As it gets closer I am starting to worry even more about the procedure, but the sooner it's all over with the better.

I have been giving the house a good scrub, I know I won't be able to do anything next week, and it'll drive me mad to sit in a messy house and not be able to sort it out. Planning on taking the Tuesday and the Wednesday off work, and then will start working again from Thursday when we get the results.

On the plus side my horrendous morning sickness has eased a lot over this week. I don't have an appetite for anything but I am only throwing up once every morning and then am generally fine for the rest of the day. I am going to be positively glowing by the time I get my good news results on Thursday :)

Haha! Goodness me I don't have the energy for a boyfriend LOL... definitely BEST friend coming :)

vanimal the procedure really isn't too bad, I promise. Uncomfortable and a little sore, but not scary. I had awful sickness too (which made sense with the high hCG), it finally was totally gone by 17 / 18 weeks.

The BF thing is still making me chuckle...

Hiya, had my amnio this morning - it was over very quickly, and the team were lovely. Felt a bit woozy afterwards, but fine after getting home and having some lunch.

The radiographer did a really detailed scan, measured leg and arm bones, lots and lots of brain measurements, etc. Said all looks normal, so not to worry too much, which was good.

Bit of a tummy ache now (very mild though), and tired, so I'm going to snooze now. Feels like a big relief to have the procedure over and done with, and it was lovely to see an active, healthy little baby in there. Hopefully Thursday we'll get results, keeping everything crossed till then.

Rest up for a couple of days vanimal. I think the waiting and thinking takes it out of you emotionally as well as physically. Excellent news about the good scan during the amnio. We had the same and found it reassuring and hopeful in a weird way. We'll all have everything crossed for your results on Thursday! x

soozy how did your scan go on Monday?

Haven't been on MN for AGES - life has been a bit manic of late - fortunately stress only due to work and not to babe - just wanted to say hi to my old pals joosie and soozy, and that I hope all is progressing very well for you - I'm 23 weeks tomorrow (YIKES!!!) so I think you must be at a very similar point. I am pretty enormous, have a lot of "When are you due? JULY?!?!?! Oh well.... it's a very NEAT bump..." as eyes pop out of head!
vanimal - I do hope you received the news you wanted to hear following your amnio x

Hi Biccies Lovely to hear all is good with you. I'm 25 weeks now, and feeling like a roly poly! Bubbs started moving about at 22 weeks and can now be seen moving externally if its really going for it...so lovely! Apparantly, I'm quite big for dates, so will have another scan soon to measure. It's all good though really.
Like you Biccies, I hope we all keep in touch. Take care! X

Hello biccies, it's nice to hear from you :)

I did get the result I wanted after a loong wait, I am so glad that period of the pregnancy is over. I am now 19 weeks, and baby is kicking away. Morning sickness is pretty much gone, I am feeling better now than I have in ages (still can't stay awake past 9pm though).

I have my 20 week scan next week, it's come around quite quickly. I am hoping the second half of the pregnancy speeds by and am looking forward to mat leave already.

Good to hear you are well, I am getting comments on the big bump too, as I am very visible now and not quite 5 months.

Let us know how you are getting on, it is nice to keep in touch!

Hello again girls - good Lord I'm hopeless at this! So glad to hear that all is going well with you both, joosie and vanimal and hope that soozy is in fine fettle too! I am 29 weeks now and have been really well - now rather enormous and the fatigue I'd forgotten about has returned with a vengeance, but I really can't complain! I'm struggling to stay up longer than my 3 year old at the moment! I finish for maternity leave at the beginning of June and I CANNOT WAIT!!!! Just getting the nursery sorted and some little babygros washed - are babies REALLY that tiny?! - as I was caught on the hop 3 years ago when my babe came 6 weeks early!
I really hope that your pregnancies are going splendidly smoothly and that you are feeling very well.
xx
PS Shunning the biccies now - it's ice cream ALL the way! x

How is everyone?

joosie and soozy I am in same situation as you. I had my 20 week scan on Friday last week and had horrible surprise that baby has a marker for downs. My 12 week scan and bloods etc was fine and gave me a 1:230 risk which was low for my age (38). So I had to edit a very tense weekend before seeing the consultant at Chelsea & Westminster on Monday who confirmed the marker. I had my amnio on Wednesday and am still resting up after having a few twinges.
I was hoping there was a vague chance I would hear by close of play today but I guess it is unlikely now so I will probably find out at work on Monday. Then I have the longer wait for the full tests.
I don't know about you but I at least felt calmer about it once we had decided to have the amnio. Haven't got further in thinking than that as I don't even want to go there yet.
Here's hoping your little ones are fine.

Wait not edit!!!

Hi joosiewoosie, how was your rest of the pregnancy. I am going through similar situation.