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Anxious over phone message from specialist midwife

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joosiewoosie · 31/01/2012 17:35

Sorry to sound like a stress bunny or anxious annie, but can I run a few things past you all.
I got home at 4.30 to a message of the answerphone from a specialist midwife at my local hospital. She asked me to call her back tomorrow between 9 and 4 as she wants to discuss one of my blood tests.
I had my 16 week quadruple blood test last Thursday (as they couldn't do nuchal scan at 12 weeks scan due to a big fibroid in the way), and it is only the following Tuesday now. I'm really concerned that there is something not right with Bubbs due to the speed of the midwife's response and I'm already panicking and really tearful, what-iffing all over the place. I don't know if I'm going to be able to sleep tonight, not being able to get hold of the specialist midwife to find what's up. I'm trying really hard not to jump to the negative, but I was told that we'd hear in a couple of weeks if all was well, so I am really worried all is not well.
What could it be? Please help me to think a bit more rationally over this. The not knowing what she is going to say when we call her is going to send me loopy tonight otherwise.
Thanks MNers. x

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joosiewoosie · 04/02/2012 15:50

I daren't remove the plaster yet to see if I have a rainbow bruise like you...will let you neigh.....oops, I mean, know xWink

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SoozyWoozy · 04/02/2012 15:52

LOL!

I couldn't leave the plaster on much longer! It actually feels better since taking it off, just touching the wrong spot... and I'm a bit of a picker! Must admit I was a bit paranoid just in case there was a hole all the way from the outside to baby not that I'm irrational at all

passthebiccies · 04/02/2012 15:57

Somehow managed to miss all your updates when I looked yesterday, so my post didn't really quite hang together! So glad that the procedure went ok, and thanks for all the information about how it's actually done - I'm feeling a bit better prepared for Monday (yikes!!!). Glad to hear you sounding upbeat and hope that your pampering continues! Very best of luck for your results xx you too soozy x

SoozyWoozy · 04/02/2012 16:04

Thanks biccies

The procedure itself honestly was fine - don't forget loose clothing and I was glad I had a big bottle of water with me for afterwards. joosie's description of the amnio is exactly the same as how mine felt. Lovely to see baby on the scan :) Good luck for Monday, will be thinking of you! Make sure you have plenty of rest time planned, I'm most surprised at how tired I still feel (or maybe I'm just lazy!) x x

passthebiccies · 04/02/2012 16:17

Ah, thanks soozy - I'm not surprised you're shattered, this pregnancy thing's pretty exhausting at the best of times without the added stress and teeny weeny horse kicks! I have put Mary Poppins on for my 3 year old in the hope that she becomes so engrossed she doesn't notice when Mummy snoozes off (oh Lord, don't grass me up to Supernanny will you?!), but this has proved entirely unsuccessful! Luckily Nursery days and a couple of added Granny days will give me a good rest this week as I try to not go totally bonkers relax! x

LovesBeingWearingSkinnyJeans · 04/02/2012 16:24

You will feel tired, it's the stress and tension.

I didn't get a plaster, had this spray on plaster stuff v. Posh Grin

SoozyWoozy · 04/02/2012 16:27

It really is, and I have 3 DDs to feel guilty about :o my 4yo and I have been snuggled up in bed watching DVDs while the other 2 drive Daddy mad!!! I won't tell Supernanny on you if you don't tell her on me!

passthebiccies · 04/02/2012 16:37

My lips are sealed! Wink

SleepyFergus · 04/02/2012 17:00

Just wanted to add my "Good Lucks" to you both Joosie and Soozy. I had an amnio at the beg of Jan and thankfully got clear results very quickly afterwards. It's all a very topsy turvey feeling, and I remember that call from the specialist midwife - I burst into tears and DH had to call her back to make sense of it all as I was in bits. The waiting for the amnio was hard, harder than waiting for the results strangely. the actual amnio was ok, in a surreal sort of way.

Anyhoo, FC for speedy and good results. Hope you are resting up and spoiling yourselves this weekend. X

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joosiewoosie · 04/02/2012 17:57

Glad the tiredness after amnio is not just me being lazy! Although I did manage to pull enough brain cells together to beat MrJoosie at Scrabble this afternoon :-)
Good luck for Monday Biccies. We'll be thinking of you. X
Soozy and Biccies - I am sure Supernanny would entirely approve of a lovely mummy looking after herself at a tough time... Give yourselves a break and make the most of the relax! X

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joosiewoosie · 04/02/2012 17:58

And thanks for the good wishes Sleepy!

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SoozyWoozy · 04/02/2012 18:47

Yes, thank you for the good wishes Sleepy, and apologies joosie for hijacking your post!!!
I completely agree with you Sleepy that waiting for the amnio was worse than waiting for the results. Have to admit I still jumped to answer the phone today, totally impatient LOL
Loves - I got the spray too but still had to have the plaster as was bleeding a little from the needle site. Belt and braces approach :) The spray did nicely stick my top to my tummy!!!

passthebiccies · 05/02/2012 11:00

Bless you, joosie! Totally stressed today about this bloody snow!! Am I going to be able to get to the hospital tomorrow? Is the consultant for that matter?!?! Should I go to work (an hour from the hospital) in the morning as I had planned to?! Confused Go, snow, GO!!!
Hope the waiting isn't driving you and soozy bonkers.... x

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joosiewoosie · 05/02/2012 12:38

Biccies ...stuff work for tomorrow and Tuesday definitely. Your mind will be elsewhere in the morning anyway. Now is the time to put YOU first! How bad is the snow with you? The good news is they haven't forecast any more over the next couple of days, so the roads should be clearer after the morning rush anyway, all those cars sloshing any remaining snow up. The consultant will defo get there...medics are used to dealing with increased workloads when we get snow anyhow. And they know that people in all kinds of situations are relying on their skills. Stay at home, watch some inane tv then leave yourself loads of time to get to the hospital tomorrow, would be my advice. Sending lots of calming thoughts your way xx

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joosiewoosie · 05/02/2012 13:16

Soozy no need for apology for hijacking...we are both going through the same thing at the same time, so it makes sense to share! X
I'm having a minor wobble at the mo. We heard that a friend has just given birth to a healthy baby boy this morning. So pleased for them all at the moment, but in my own quiet time, I'm feeling really sad that we may not get the fairy tale ending we wanted. I'm not jealous, but hearing such wonderful news has kind of brought it home to me that we might not be so lucky. So hard to say this without offending anyone. I know that all children are special, and whatever 'kind' we are given, we are blessed to have one at all, but my head is all over the show at the moment.
Hope you are feeling stronger than me, Soozy!

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goingmadtrying · 05/02/2012 17:57

good luck all of you ladies waiting for your results i hope you get the call early tomorrow xx

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joosiewoosie · 05/02/2012 18:20

Thanks goingmadtrying. Our results are not due until Tues pm at the earliest, more probably, Weds, but I hope Soozy gets hers soon as I think her amnio was a day before mine. Thanks for the wishes xx

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SoozyWoozy · 05/02/2012 20:02

Thank you goingmadtrying

joosie I completely understand what you feel. There is someone I know who has recently had a baby - she was absolutely evil to me a couple of years ago and is generally speaking high maintenance and uses other people to further inflate her already oversized ego. (Does it come across that I don't like her??!!) Her baby was born while a couple of days after the dreaded 'you're high risk' phonecall and I admit to wondering how someone so horrible could have such an easy ride. I couldn't help wondering what I had done wrong to deserve all this. I don't think anyone who has experienced baby loss, infertility or has been in the position we're in would be offended at all by our feelings.

I still feel calm but impatient. I can only hope that the results come through tomorrow, but they did say it could be Tuesday at the latest. I'm finding it hard to commit to anything; several people have asked if we're free within the next couple of weeks for birthday parties etc and I just can't bring myself to say yes in case the results aren't good :(

Thank you for letting me share with you, it really has helped x

passthebiccies · 05/02/2012 20:20

And joosie, I completely understand how you're feeling - feeling exactly the same way myself. Surely it's just natural to want the easiest path for yourself and your baby.
The snow here seems to be on the way, thank goodness, but thanks for your reassurances. Thinking about it rationally, it IS about two inches of snow - hardly the North Pole - unlikely that the consultant will have to dig himself out of a drift on the way to the hospital, but feeling a tad bonkers today - any little change could throw me!
Hope your results come tomorrow, soozy and that it is good news for you. And hope the lab have a spurt of activity and get yours processed extra-speedily joosie and again that the results are those you hope for.
As soozy said, I've really found it a comfort to be in touch with others in a similar situation - thanks for the support xx

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joosiewoosie · 05/02/2012 20:35

It is so good sharing with each other....thank you both for your invaluable support too x
Soozy I know how you feel about putting things on hold/not wanting to commit. I work as an agency cover teacher, and although I have bookings, I don't know if I'm going to be able to keep them! It is hard not having regular supportive workmates to be able to confide in, so your support is really extra valued.
Thanks again and all things crossed for us all! xxx

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joosiewoosie · 06/02/2012 06:07

Thinking of you today Soozy x

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SoozyWoozy · 06/02/2012 09:29

Thank you again for the good wishes and support. Do you think glaring at the phone will make it ring?

joosie I work part time on a flexi basis, so like you I don't have supportive colleagues. I haven't told hardly anyone that I am pregnant so not many people know what's going on. Generally speaking I don't like 'tea and sympathy' so would hate the attention of too many people knowing what I'm going through.

Good luck biccies, let us know how you get on x x

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joosiewoosie · 06/02/2012 13:13

Hope you are resting up now Biccies! Thinking of you too x

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SoozyWoozy · 06/02/2012 13:21

Glaring at the phone has not made it ring. Yet.

SoozyWoozy · 06/02/2012 18:17

Good news :o

The MW called at abour 4:30 and gave us the wonderful news that baby does not have Downs, Edwards or Patau :o

I asked about the low PAPP-A and potential problems... more good news... they expect me to carry on with normal antenatal care and will deal with any issues if they arise but if I am concerned then I can call clinic and the consultant who did the amnio is happy to see me at any time :o

I hope my good fortune is shared with you joosie and biccies, thank you again for your invaluable support x x x