Anxious over phone message from specialist midwife

[joosiewoosie]

Sorry to sound like a stress bunny or anxious annie, but can I run a few things past you all.
I got home at 4.30 to a message of the answerphone from a specialist midwife at my local hospital. She asked me to call her back tomorrow between 9 and 4 as she wants to discuss one of my blood tests.
I had my 16 week quadruple blood test last Thursday (as they couldn't do nuchal scan at 12 weeks scan due to a big fibroid in the way), and it is only the following Tuesday now. I'm really concerned that there is something not right with Bubbs due to the speed of the midwife's response and I'm already panicking and really tearful, what-iffing all over the place. I don't know if I'm going to be able to sleep tonight, not being able to get hold of the specialist midwife to find what's up. I'm trying really hard not to jump to the negative, but I was told that we'd hear in a couple of weeks if all was well, so I am really worried all is not well.
What could it be? Please help me to think a bit more rationally over this. The not knowing what she is going to say when we call her is going to send me loopy tonight otherwise.
Thanks MNers. x

No movements detected for me as I have an anterior placenta, but did pop by the midwife yesterday and heard Bubbs' heartbeat again :-)
We bought a Moses Basket yesterday...its going to happen, and we're now beginning to get excited. What a difference a week makes!
Hugs xx

I was very,very lucky in that I was called on we'd and asked to come in the next day, had my amnio on thur, paid for tge FISH testing and had my results late fri. I don't know what I would have done if I'd had to wait weeks for the testing and then two more weeks for the results. I was too late for the nt so my results were purely blood based.

I know two things, firstly I wasn't prepared for the possible results when I had the blood tests. Secondly this experience contributed to my feelings, or rather lack of feelings about tge baby. It wasn't the only reason I felt so depressed but I know it added to it. It almost made me not able to connect emotionally, I don't know if that makes any sense.

Anyway ladies I wish you fabulous pregnancys as well as quick and painless but more importantly, safe deliveries of the best ever home made bundle.

Just wanted to say I am so happy and relieved for all of you.You really have been through it and I wish you all easy pregnancies from now on. My scan and bloods are on Tuesday and I'm just keeping fx now.

Thanks nearly
Good luck for your tests. Nearly all come back fine, so I'm hoping yours is all good too!

Thank you skinnyjeans and nearly for your kind wishes.

I completely understand what you mean, skinny about the emotional strain making it hard to connect with the growing babe - I felt as though I put my pregnancy on hold mentally, until I had my results back. This made me feel terribly guilty - poor baby! - which only added to my stress. Ooooh, it's a tough situation. I hope that all is well with you now.

And nearly - enjoy your scan - how exciting! - and I sincerely hope that your risks are ridiculously low and that you can put any worry out of your mind for the rest of your healthy, straightforward pregnancy! Good luck

soozy - my babe has been wriggling away these last few days too - much earlier than I remember with my first pregnancy - makes me smile and do a tiny squeal each time (could get wearing for those around me ). How on earth do you manage with 3 little ones AND growing a new one?! I am worn out with just one bonkers toddler! You MUST be a supermum - I take my hat off to you!

Ooooh, joosie - a Moses basket! How gorgeous - so exciting getting all the baby paraphenalia... I'm trying to convince the accounts department that, IN FACT, many of the (good as new) things we bought last time, ACTUALLY need replacing with some urgency! Hope you start feeling some wriggles soon - it's all terribly exciting .

Hope you're all keeping well and that you've had great weekends (soozy and joosie - better than last weekend?! Mine certainly has been )

We had a lovely, normal weekend, thanks biccies
That Moses Basket we bought was a steal...only 15 squid from Asda living! Too cheap to pass up! (I'm sure the accounts department would approve!)

That'll be the only thing we buy for a bit though. I need to cull my wardrobe so we can get rid of the adult wardrobes in Bubbs' room, ready to decorate and fit out with Bubbs style furniture. De-wardrobing is the project for this week!

Not expecting to feel Bubbs for at least another month, so we might treat ourselves to a doppler until that point. MrJoosie can bond then too. Will let you know!
Take care all xxx

I totally agree about the dificulty bonding... I almost went into denial about being pregnant. I couldn't think about it, I couldn't dare to let myself fall in love with my baby and I do wonder if I would've been able to feel baby moving if all of this wasn't going on. I've not had any flutters like before, just very clear movements which came within a few hours of knowing all was ok. Amazing how the body protects itself, both mentally and physically.

We also had a normal weekend - DDs 1 and 2 constantly bickering, DD3 being used between the two of them and then DD3 coming down with a sickness bug. All in a days work

biccies no way am I supermum!!! The work that comes with the girls is progressive, so not really noticable. I think I was more knackered with my first pregnancy, I can remember thinking that walking to the shop was tiring LOL! I now walk about 4 miles a day without thinking about it (although the SPD is bound to kick in soon so I won't be able to), it's just what you're used to :)

nearly good luck with the tests, I bet you're excited about seeing baby on your scan!

joosie I have an angelsounds monitor which I bought second hand, it has been an absolute life saver recently :) It is a bit of a knack finding the heartbeat to start with, but I'm lucky as I've had loads of practice in my old job :)

What is everyone's due dates?

What is?? I mean what are everyone's due dates? My old English teacher would have me in detention for that one!!! :o

Glad to hear normality reigns supreme!

Did you get your monitor from ebay, or a friend?

My Bubbs is due 9th July

And Soozy, no detention for you, seeing as you rectified your own mistake! ;-p

My EDD is 20th July :)

I found my monitor on a Facebook local selling page, only paid £10 for it with a whole thingy of gel. I had a listen in with DH last night :o

Thank you for not giving me a detention... I certainly have had my fair share of those

Can I ask you all that had to go for further tests what your nuchal fold measurements were? I had my scan today and am stressing now as mine measured 2.9mm which appears to be high. Sorry to hijack your thread but thought you may be able to advise? Thanks x

Sorry I don't know was too late for mine, turned out to be nearly a month further along!

Bump

They didn't get a clear view so couldn't measure mine. I waited til 16 week bloods for any testing.

nearly my NT measurement was something like 1.3mm which was fine, as far as I understand the measurement changes depending on how many weeks you are. Anything up to 2mm is normal at 11 weeks, 2.8mm at 13 weeks - 2.9mm would be considered the upper end of normal, but 9/10 babies with an NT measurement up to 3.5mm will be normal. The combined test replaced the NT or bloods alone as it is not reliable on its own. Hope that's a little bit reassuring, let us know how you get on with results etc

tiggy Good luck with the CVS. The amnio was uncomfortable but not painful, hopefully you won't be too sore. I definitely worried more about the amnio than I did waiting for the result, I guess it was one thing off my list of worries. We all said that the waiting was the worst part, and I'm sure joosie and biccies will be alongside me holding your hand. You too nearly.

Good luck both of you!

Absolutely tiggy - It's v easy for people to say 'think positive', but it is natural to 'what if' too. I know that I had plenty of wobbly and crying moments throughout my uncertain time, so I know how you feel.

I tried to sleep it off as much as possible, and most of the time, when I woke up after a nap I felt I could cope a little better. I know life is full of uncertainties, but these waits, with odds and such, feel like one of the cruellest ones.

Eat lots of comfort food, talk, watch crap tv and sleep as much as you can would be my advice...while all the time hanging onto the fact that everything will most probably work out just fine. Sending handholding and comforting vibes to you x

Oh tiggy - here's another hand to hold! Very best of luck to you tomorrow - it is a very stressful time, but I know I certainly felt a sense of relief when the procedure was over. Waiting for the results wasn't the best either, I cannot lie, but a plentiful supply of chocolate and endless crap tv certainly helped to distract me! As the other girls have said, nearly all results come back as fine, but I know that it is very hard to keep that in mind when it is you going through it. Take it very easy for the next few days and make sure you are totally indulged! I will be thinking of you and keeping my fingers crossed for you.

nearly, my NT measurement was 2.1mm at 12weeks+3 - but as soozy said, please don't panic about yours. For one thing, this IS still inside the "normal" range, and secondly the formula they use is so puzzlingly convoluted that any element can be skewed by your age/blood results - and, I think, height and weight? If there are any concerns following your blood tests then I am sure you will hear by the end of the week. Fingers crossed you don't. Keep us posted. Good luck .

soozy - 'fraid my hat is still off! Anyone with more than two is defo a supermum in my opinion! After today - barely coping with ONE three-year-old - I think I shall be nominating you for some sort of award!
I too am due on the 20th July! With the little monster, I had a fun time with pre-eclampsia and had to be induced 6 weeks early. Very much hoping that this will NOT be the case this time! joosie - good work on the Moses basket bargain spotting! Never mind getting that approved by Accounts - I can sneak that in between the baking potatoes and Petit Filous! Did you get a monitor joosie? Think I am going to invest too... Hope you're both fine xxx

Hope you are resting up and being pampered tiggy - I can recommend Ben and Jerry's Choc Chip Cookie Dough for medicinal purposes at this time!

I have not bought a monitor yet biccies, although I like the look of the angelsounds one from amazon - only about 22 quid. Have you bought one yet? I'm still swinging as to whether to or not, as I don't want to get all anxious if I can't find Bubbs' heartbeat, and we've only got 2 weeks until my next scan. Let us know what you get and what you think of it. The Angelsounds one has some good reviews (and apparently, you can record from it too).

Let us know how you are doing nearly

Hugs to all x

Hope you're doing ok tiggy - I know what an anxious time it is, and hope that the chocolate is doing the trick of distracting you! Hope you are taking it VERY easy.

joosie - like you, still undecided on the monitor... could it just be ANOTHER opportunity for panic for me?!?! Having a nice weekend and seem to be getting rounder by the day! Are you showing much yet? I'm certainly bigger than I was at this point with my first babe. Goodness - I'll be enormous! Hope you're having a great weekend x

Just try and keep busy, reading, eating whatever. Thinking of you.

Thinking of you tiggy. Try and stay occupied and busy in a non-physical way. Wishing time flies for you x