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Anxious over phone message from specialist midwife

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joosiewoosie · 31/01/2012 17:35

Sorry to sound like a stress bunny or anxious annie, but can I run a few things past you all.
I got home at 4.30 to a message of the answerphone from a specialist midwife at my local hospital. She asked me to call her back tomorrow between 9 and 4 as she wants to discuss one of my blood tests.
I had my 16 week quadruple blood test last Thursday (as they couldn't do nuchal scan at 12 weeks scan due to a big fibroid in the way), and it is only the following Tuesday now. I'm really concerned that there is something not right with Bubbs due to the speed of the midwife's response and I'm already panicking and really tearful, what-iffing all over the place. I don't know if I'm going to be able to sleep tonight, not being able to get hold of the specialist midwife to find what's up. I'm trying really hard not to jump to the negative, but I was told that we'd hear in a couple of weeks if all was well, so I am really worried all is not well.
What could it be? Please help me to think a bit more rationally over this. The not knowing what she is going to say when we call her is going to send me loopy tonight otherwise.
Thanks MNers. x

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CumberdickBendybatch · 03/02/2012 09:24

Good luck joosie xx

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joosiewoosie · 03/02/2012 10:57

We are home now after the amnio and I'm resting up.
The team were really lovely. The assistant sonographer who I met the other day looked after me and sensed my anxiety, so offered a hug before the procedure (which I gratefully received and then proceeded to sob and tell her how scared I was!)
We had a good look at Bubbs on the screen while the sonographer sussed out the best place to take the amnio from, avoiding the fibroid, anterior placenta and Bubbs. We saw Bubbs' heartbeat again, and all the body parts and limbs, which was nice.
They sterilised my tummy with this spray stuff that I had to shut my eyes while they did it. The insertion of the needle was not too painful, and there was a slight popping sensation inside as it went through the sac wall, but it was uncomfortable, not painful. There was a bit of a drawing/sucking sensation while they withdrew the fluid, but again, just strange, rather than painful. They even made us both a cup of tea while I rested up for 15 minutes in the waiting room! I had to sign the bottle that the sample was in, and then the assistant sonographer whizzed it away to dispatch to be sent to Guys. Hubby was lovely, and holding my hand and talking to me all the way through. I got teary at the end, but I think that was relief that that bit was over!
I've got a bit of a tummy ache but nothing major at the moment. I'm typing this from bed, resting up, and I'm planning on being spoilt all day! I'm having McDonalds for lunch (the small things make such a difference :-)) and we might have a giggle later playing with Hubby's new remote control helicopter he got for his birthday earlier this week.
The consultant who did the amnio because of all the challenging factors (large fibroid, anterior placenta, retroverted uterus) looked at all the scan info too, and said there were no obvious indications of a baby with Downs on the scan at the moment, so that was heartening to hear. Just fingers crossed now as we wait 3 working days (5 days in total) for our preliminary results, due Tues pm/Weds next week.
Will keep you all posted. Thanks for being there!
Joosie x

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LovesBeingWearingSkinnyJeans · 03/02/2012 11:04

Have some how missed this thread all week.

I was in tge same position as you and ds is now 4 months and everything is fine.

I will keep my fingers crossed. Make sure you get plenty of rest and just look after each other this weekend.

goingmadtrying · 03/02/2012 11:16

thats really promising to hear :) Make sure you rest up and take care of yourself. Enjoy your mcdonalds.

Fingers crossed you get a good result and dont have to wait to long :)

Sending you big hugs xxxx

morethemerrier · 03/02/2012 11:30

Joosie, just wanted to wish you all the best, and thank you for finding the strength to write about your amnio experience which I am sure will reassure others in the way you have so touchingly explained the process.

Take care of yourself, and each other we will all be thinking of you and wishing the best for your results.

x

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 03/02/2012 12:49

I was in this position too - 1:10 risk of Down's due to low PAPP-A. I had the amnio on a Monday and the specialist MW called on the Tuesday to tell me it was clear and LO definitely didn't have Down's. I got the full results back 2 weeks later and it was all fine, thank God. I'm now 32 weeks and Bean seems v healthy.

cairnterrier · 03/02/2012 12:53

joosie I have nothing helpful whatsoever to say other than to say that I'm thinking of you, hoping you're enjoying your McDonalds and playing with the helicopter.

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joosiewoosie · 03/02/2012 13:12

You lot are all so lovely...it's like having our own little cheerleading team! Thank you...it means so much!
I enjoyed my McDs...Yum Yum, and have just had a good giggle at hubby flying (and me crashing) the helicopter!
Great to hear your stories TurtleDoves and SkinnyJeans...just hoping ours turns out just as well. Will keep all posted. Am sure to go loopy with 2 days of resting up! X

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SaucyMoo · 03/02/2012 13:19

Just writing to say good luck, i really feel for you. I'm 18 weeks, couldn't imagine what you've been through..on tender hooks for you xx

SoozyWoozy · 03/02/2012 13:26

I wonder if our results will be on the same day?! I am soooo jumpy today - even though I know my results won't be today, I pounced on the phone as soon as it rang just in case :)

Glad you are resting up, my hubby has been a gem looking after our DCs and I've been properly resting & drinking loads of water since the amnio. Thank goodness for Friends DVD boxsets!

Fingers crossed for both of us x

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joosiewoosie · 03/02/2012 13:40

I think I missed when your amnio was Soozy - sorry. Glad to hear your hubby has been looking after you and the children too. It sounds like we both have real superstar hubbies! Do keep us posted and I'll keep everything crossed for us both too! Hugs! X

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joosiewoosie · 03/02/2012 13:41

Thanks Saucy x

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passthebiccies · 03/02/2012 19:33

Hope it went ok and that you're not too sore. Thought about you today and sent very positive wishes in your direction x

herethereandeverywhere · 03/02/2012 21:24

Joosie I really hope all's well. I have two friends who have been given the "high risk of Downs" news, one was told the scan results were "off the scale" and the adjusted results were 1 in 2. Needless to say both babies have been born perfectly healthy and without Downs - the information from the consultant about no visible indicators is positive too.

Good luck and continue to relax and be spoilt until you get the results.

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joosiewoosie · 04/02/2012 07:37

So grateful for you all thinking of us. X
I'm feeling ok but a bit tender today, and have had just about enough of my bed!
Will get up but take it easy today and try not to think of any sad prospects. Might visit friends today, as it looks like I'll effectively be snowed in tomorrow.
Cheers for all your positivity everyone! X

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goingmadtrying · 04/02/2012 07:44

good to hear your feeling ok this morning, make sure you don't over exert yourself please don't risk anything for the sake of getting out, you've come so far :) hopefully you won't have to wait too long for the results and they are what you want. i don't want to sound negative and its great to hear the positive stories but make sure you and dh talk about the what ifs so its not a huge shock if things don't go your way, that way you will feel a bit prepared, i hope you don't have to use them but just to make it a bit easier. Have a fantastic day enjoy the hampering :)

goingmadtrying · 04/02/2012 07:49

that should say pampering, i hope i haven't upset you that was not my intention, im hopeful for you everything will be ok xxx

brandysoakedbitch · 04/02/2012 07:59

Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you both. Have been through this myself recently and all was well. Best of luck and take it very easy, I found the procedure knocked me for six.

LovesBeingWearingSkinnyJeans · 04/02/2012 08:06

Just make sure you do rest it's important. I had mine on a Thursday so sent dh to work on Friday and stayed at my mums with dd. Dh got literally 5 mins before we got the call. I about jumped out of my skin when the phone rang so undid all the rest!

Hope you have lots to keep you bust, I finished almost an entire book, didn't sleep very well so if your not Rotherham make sure to have naps when you feel like it.

Emsgale · 04/02/2012 08:31

Good luck I hope you get the results your hoping for!
I feel slightly nervous on the arrival of our baby im 31 weeks we didnt have downs screening nieavly and at 20 week scan bubs,wasnt growing well femer length was short etc referred to specialist fmu hospital for a few scans they coukdnt see anything obviously wrong with bubs and due to.my age 24 im low risk specialist felt it was a healthy but small baby so we opted out of amnio and ba y has had slow but steady growth since with some bleeds and issues with placents but all is good at the mo and we are just hoping for a healthy baby!!!
Thinking of you x

SoozyWoozy · 04/02/2012 10:51

I know what you mean about being fed up! Even the children have been drafted in on the 'mummy you must rest!' pressure LOL!

I'm on the south coast, don't think we'll be getting any snow here. Children will be disappointed if we don't!

InmaculadaConcepcion · 04/02/2012 10:58

FX for you joosie and you too SoozyWoozy

I had to wait over the weekend for results too, the extra couple of days doesn't make it any easier, hey?!

Look after yourselves Smile

SoozyWoozy · 04/02/2012 14:06

Strangely, waiting for the amnio was somehow worse than waiting for the reaults! I was so worried that I was making the wrong decision having the amnio and risking a miscarriage, how I would cope with the worry of having pain / bleeding afterwards that I was going around in circles with fear. At least we will know one way or the other in a few days. Phew.

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joosiewoosie · 04/02/2012 14:46

Saw some friends this morning for a few hours, but now I'm blooming shattered again so have taken to my bed! Dunno if its psychosomatic or what, but I feeled zonked out.
Hubby seems to be dealing with this really well - (much better than me!) He's just popped out to get some chocolate and Ben and Jerrys...its comfort food time! Meanwhile, I think I'm going to try and have a nap...see if that perks me up.
Thanks again all. X Stay strong Soozy x

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SoozyWoozy · 04/02/2012 15:26

I'm knackered too. And I've got a lovely blue / purple / yellow / green bruise on my tummy... I look like I've been kicked by a horse. A teeny weeny miniature on :o